Harnessing the power of the law of attraction is all about managing your energy, not controlling every aspect of your outer experience. Try telling that to your mind though, which is very limited in seeing what is possible for you, that loves the idea of being able to have everything happen just to its liking.
If the energy of control is running strong for you, this is a good listen.
Podcast#43: Law of Attraction: A Control Freak’s Dream?
It was fun to hear Gambit test our theory on this one. Lil bugger. Perfect example too. Let go and watch. Act from a fun space. Stop acting when you feel control seeping in, to and thru your being. This gig takes practice; letting go, that is. But wow does the journey ease itself when you’re trusting, and handing over the reins to a Higher Power.
Ryan
Ryan,
Hi, my name is David. I’m a big fan of Kelli’s blog and have been pouring through all the posts and podcasts for days on end now…..in an attempt to finally get this LOA thing to work for me. I really enjoyed hearing your perspective on things and I did as well on previous podcasts you were a guest on.
I did have a question for you (and Kelli as well), regarding this “control issue” that I most definitely have, lol. My issue is always trying to “come up with a plan”. I don’t know how to change my life without taking action. I try and “do nothing”. I try to “give up harder”, so to speak…..but I sit there….and see nothing happening day after day and my mind is fighting me really hard on this. I’m resistant to the idea of “doing nothing”. I’m resistant to the “crap” in my life that I can’t stand any more. My control issues are definitely in over drive, in the form of persistent resistance. So here is a question for you (since you seem to have a good grasp on this): What is the difference between hating your circumstances, and “resisting” them? Is it possible to hate the shit around you without resisting it? And if so, how the fuck does one do that?
This “resistance” thing is most definitely my block. It’s the thing stopping me from having a great, fulfilling life. I’ve learned from Kelli that the manifestations we seek are not in and of themselves the answer to our problems, but in fact, the embracing and letting go of resistance to the “shit” in our lives is the answer. After a lot of reflection….I get it. I just don’t know how to let go of resistance to an entire existence that is out of alignment. Not just one area of my life…..but my WHOLE life is the opposite of anything I would find favorable.
Don’t get me wrong, I have my basic needs met, and I do remind myself to be grateful for that everyday. I never lose sight of gratitude. But I believe we are meant to do more than just “barely scrape by”, having to settle for a life where nothing even close to resembling what we want is present. I think you would agree there. So do you have any thoughts on what that difference is? And also, how the fuck to let go of resistance (to essentially your whole life)?
Thanks a lot for your time, energy and input if you can. You and Kelli have a shit load of wisdom, and I’m happy to receive it if I’m able 🙂
Hi David,
“I do remind myself to be grateful for that everyday. I never lose sight of gratitude.”
You answered it. Totally dude, totally. Gratitude. Gratitude. Gratitude. That’s it. Remind yourself. Wear a rubber band around you wrist. When you’re getting annoyed/frustrated, snap the band. Wake up to the moment.
Be angry at the shit, and a few moments later, look at it from a grateful energy. Not totally, in the beginning. But baby step it. Gratitude dissolves resistance. Because if you hate how things are, and then, feel at least a smidge thankful for these experience to clear out lower energies, you’ll hate things a bit less. That unhappy feeling is what you’re clearing, and bringing your attention to it for a moment or 2 lets you clear it. That is a blessing. Cause if you buried it, it would worsen. But now you’re sitting with it, and you’re starting to appreciate it a bit more. I can feel it.
Every nightmare is a call to let go. Letting go someone or some thing or a limited state of mind. If you can reframe all the tough stuff, and see it as a call to release, then you can feel appreciative something, then SUPER appreciative, of these tough spots.
Honest to God, the big shift for me was appreciating when the shit hit the fan because then I was led to let go of the shit and live a more fulfilling, enriched life.
Thanks for opening up David 🙂
Ryan
Ryan,
Wow. That was a really thoughtful response. You are a really smart dude. I read your response a few times in a row. At age 33, I’ve spent over half my life in pursuit of higher wisdom and putting forth the effort to apply that in my life. I just haven’t been very successful at doing so.
“That unhappy feeling is what you’re clearing, and bringing your attention to it for a moment or 2 lets you clear it.” -That’s a way of looking at it that I hadn’t before. I will work on doing this. At heart, I’m a very positive, hopeful, grateful dude. It’s just that after nearly 2 decades of attempting to release all this resistance, I feel like a failure. I took responsibility for my shit a long ass time ago. I’ve just never been able to release the resistance, so things have never gotten any better for me in any area of my life. It’s painful. But I know I don’t need to tell you that. The only way the lotus flower blossoms is to grow through the muck, so to speak.
Both you and Kelli remind me so much of this awesome couple I met on my journey on The Big Island of Hawaii back 8 years ago. (I attempted to move to Hawaii to start a new life, but ran out of money and became homeless, thus having to return to the states). This couple was laid back, positive, down to earth and had a really enlightened vibe about them. I miss them both. I miss Hawaii.
Well Ryan, I will say this: I am definitely grateful that I have the ability to read and listen to you and Kelli offering so much of your wisdom. Not a day goes by that I don’t read or listen to something. All I want is freedom Ryan. Money, is just a means to an end. I just want freedom. The freedom to live where I want to live. The freedom to do with my time only the things that feel good to me. The freedom to choose what I want without having to be held back by excuses such as “lack of money”, or “lack of connections”, etc. The freedom to say “no” to family when they demand things of me that don’t respect my boundaries. I’m not greedy and I’ve always been very generous. I believe I’m worthy of good stuff and worthy of freedom. My brain just hurts from trying to “come up with a plan” or trying to “figure out” my next best action step to achieving anything. I’m tired of trying to muster up the faith to move mountains, so to speak. So eliminating this persistent resistance and letting go of all the shit in my life is crucial.
I will work on what you suggested. Thanks again Ryan, I really appreciate it more than you know 🙂
-David