Wanted to share my response to this comment someone left on a post recently…think it is a common thing with which people grapple when working on their ‘vibe’ to affect change in their life…
Hi, I just came across this blog after engine search. I’ve been working on myself and my energy. What I’m envisioning and manifesting my husband thinks is all about money and it seems to stress him out. He’s in a funk and wants says he just wants to “live in a van down by the river”. I don’t want that. I know that he has scarcity mindset. I did too, but I’m working on it. My husband used to be a dreamer and that positive one and I’m not sure if the shift in me had him questioning himself? I feel like he’s dragging me down. That is not good energy. I know that just focusing on myself is what I need to do, but it’s hard when I always envisioned these dreams together now that we are empty nesters. Any advice?
Thanks so much for your comment and sharing your experience here. It can be tricky to just focus on our own energy and inner world when someone close to us–especially someone with whom we feel our life is very intertwined like a spouse–may have limitations in thinking, fears,etc…that bump up against what we are trying to do. Ultimately, the main reason it bothers us is usually because we also have that energy within and when they say or do certain things, it pushes those buttons.
Your husband’s desire for simplicity could be because he just genuinely wants to live that way, or as is the case for many people, money can be a painful subject, and we would rather just not deal with it so we say we don’t care because caring has seemed to cause us a lot of strain and suffering.
You are right that the best thing you can do is focus on yourself and it is good you have acknowledged that this is something that makes it difficult for you. Just ignoring our various forms of resistance really doesn’t get us far.
Ultimately, he really doesn’t need to be on board with anything you are trying to create as we really can’t create in other people’s realities, and someone else’s ‘vibe’ can only impact us if we let it, if we are also somehow a match to that energy and co-create in various ways. Of course it is most ideal when the other person is on board, when we don’t have these external forces pushing our buttons. But if that isn’t the reality we are contending with at the moment,we just have to take ownership of how we are responding to that other person’s energy, actions,etc…knowing they aren’t causing it. And while that can certainly be easier said than done, it is the most direct way to feel better in the moment, which is all we really want anyway.
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