Once we start working consciously with our energy, different stuff starts showing up. We start getting ‘evidence’ our beliefs are changing. The idea what we want is possible starts to gain traction. But some of these manifestations may seem like our intentions realized on the surface, but are still not quite a match.
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Podcast #96: Law of Attraction: Don’t Be Afraid to Walk Away from What Isn’t Right
Thanks for another awesome podcast, Kelli! I’ve been experiencing this a lot in relation to dating. I manifest dates, but not with anyone who I feel would make a good partner. So, I break things off and then feel guilty for not being more “open” to the different ways my manifestation might appear. Any advice on how to know when to walk away versus staying open and receptive to different possibilities?
Hi Kate
Thanks so much for your comment and so glad you enjoyed it. That is a great question and not one with a clear-cut answer. It all really depends on your inner world and what is going on there, how you are reacting to these people and why, and what your mind is viewing as your ‘ideal’ partner. For example, your mind might think it is really important to date someone who has a certain amount of money, a certain type of job, or the same political views as you, but none of these things represent what you are truly after in a partner and what you want out of a relationship. So it could be good to be open to people that might not fit these more ‘superficial’ criteria. On the other hand, if you have strong feelings about someone using drugs or alcohol because you grew up with a parent who had a serious substance abuse problem, you might know for sure you don’t want to be with someone who indulges in these things on a regular basis, even if they don’t necessarily seem to have a ‘problem.’ When you start looking within more and paying more attention to your feelings,etc…you will be able to more easily distinguish between these situations.
Hi, love the podcast but I wish I’d found this before today! I just fell into the trap of accepting something (a job) which I know if I’m honest is not a good fit for me but now I’ve signed the papers and I’m on that path. Unfortunately its a sideways move within my group of companies I cant just back out now. I’m feeling very uncertain and not sure about how I can now turn that around and put myself back on a more suitable path. Any advice would be appreciated!
Hi Lindsey
There are a couple of things I would say:
1. Examine the beliefs, fears, reasoning,etc…that led you to take a job that maybe you suspected might not the best fit for you. This is very valuable in showing you what needs to be shifted so you can manifest opportunities more in line with what you would want to do.
2. Examine the same factors above in regards to why you think you can’t do what you want to do, which is leave the job. Perhaps this isn’t a decision you can make tomorrow, but it surely is one that is available to you. Tackling the inner work first is where you want to start anyway rather than making a choice that you may not be aligned with, and causing extra panic, fear, stress,etc… So long as you know there is a different path, and you are working on letting it reveal itself, you will find it easier to do the job now even if you know you don’t really like it.
3.It is also important to take full ownership of the choice–it is all too easy for our mind to point to all the reasons that we had no choice in having to do something we didn’t want to do–money, social convention, family pressure, etc…This will also make it much easier to deal with a situation that isn’t exactly wanted.
Obviously I can only give general advice in these instances. If you felt you wanted more personalized insight and you are feeling really stuck, you might find a coaching session helpful.
Good luck!
I am a stay at home mom with 3 young kids. I live with my husband in a small town, next to his family. His 3 brothers and wives, and my mother in law. It’s a lovely place to live but I am having trouble with my husband’s family. They treat me like crap. Specifically his older brother and my two sister in laws.They are people with many personal issues and lots of negativity. They transmit their negativity constantly and are quite rude, trying to put me down. I do not tolerate it of course, but constant quarrels damage me and my self esteem. My husband is always trying to make excuses and all this situation has damaged my marriage and myself. I am sad and miserable. We cannot afford a new house so we can leave this situation. I have read the Secret long ago.I keep on praying for abundance so we can find the chance to leave, listening to positive affirmattions and meditate, but this whole situation and the fact that I am at home not being able to do much for myself isn’t helping things. We try to do creative stuff with the kids, or leave the kids to my mother in law and go for a walk. I’m going to start painting and take photographs, and decided to just stop talking to them completely and close my door. Just trying to be thankful. I write down my dreams and wishes. But my main wish is to just leave this place. I try to stay positive and regain my self steem, which is the main reason why we allow people to mistreat us. But I feel sad, well at least I try to work on it or prepare my self for srastc changes. Any help please?Thank you so much.
Hi Vasa
Family situations are challenging because the resistance is always in our face and we are constantly being triggered. The one benefit of this is an opportunity to make some big shifts more quickly but it can be much more uncomfortable. Manifesting different ‘versions’ of your family is possible as your energy changes and you might find them treating you differently as the issues that are being mirrored back in the form of how they interact with you are being transformed and are becoming less dominant. At the very least, your energetic shifts will make you more immune to any problematic behavior, as their behavior isn’t the actual issue but how the behavior makes you feel.
It’s good you are trying to do things that will make you feel better and that you are trying to interact with them less. I suspect there is a lot of emotion that is not being dealt with, perhaps in an effort to be more ‘positive.’ That’s good but don’t forget that you can let yourself feel your feelings that are there now, and work on changing the energy at the same time. Don’t deny or suppress, just let it be and that will allow for more genuine transformation. Don’t forget the answer is in the energetic shifts, not more money, not moving, not them changing. Of course all those things can manifest and they can be good, but they aren’t the ticket. It is important to remember that, especially when our mind is really fixated on the idea that outside circumstances changing are necessary for improvement.
Thank you so much for your wonderful advice. I gave them a piece of my mind alright. I decided that supression is not my thing, and let them know how I feel. You know what? It was liberating and if this is the end of our interaction so be it. I am not gonna lie to you, I do have a lot of anger to deal with, and I also have a lot of issues to clear up with the hubby who is next on my shitlist, but I let it be for now and wait for the Universe to give some space when timing is more appropriate. I had to reach at 36 in order to understand that the reason I have been mistreated now and the past, was because I allowed it. I didn’t feel I was good enough but never actually admitted it to myself. Everyone thought that I have self esteem but it was quite the opposite actually. I also linger to the negatives of my past, instead of the positives. Negatives are more, I am not gonna lie, but I am trying to break the circle, change the frequency. Homeopathy has helped me a lot. It is ME I want to deal with right now, not the others. Because up until now, others managed my reactions and how I value my self. Wrong. Plain wrong. Let that be a lesson to everyone that expect to love themselves only if they are loved by others. No wonder the Law Of Attraction mailfunctions in the end. Any suggestion in order to contanct my Higher Self and clear my mind, or an advice concerning my affirmattions? Do you think it’s better to interact with me first and then request for the things I wish? Is it ok if I write them down or talk to my self in the mirror? Somehow speaking my wishes aloud by looking at my self gives me the sensation that my affirmations take life in a way. Lots of Blessings and Love to all.
Hey Vasa
Such a great energy reading this. You are very self-aware and that you want to focus on working on yourself and changing your energy will bode very, very well for the outcomes you are seeking. I can only give very general advice when it comes to responding to blog comments, and the best way for that more personalized insight is talking with people one on one. If you ever wanted to book a session I would be happy to speak with you. Good luck!
I will be more than happy to meet you but I Iive in Greece! 😀 I am planning a journey to the USA next year and until then I will receive the best from your blog and keep in touch. More than happy to provide an advice if necessary. I most definitely would love to have a session with you in the future. You are a gem.
Hi Vasa
FYI: I do sessions online so people can book from anywhere in the world. So glad you are enjoying the content!