When it comes to the various energies that will serve you well as far as making the law of attraction work in your ‘favor,’ authenticity is a major player and one that can easily be overlooked.
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Podcast #88: Law of Attraction: You Can’t Get What You Want if You Can’t Be Who You Are
Hi Kelli! Thanks for this great podcast.
I think a big part of being who you are is actually liking yourself. I struggled with that for a really long time, and I’m getting better! 🙂 I’m still not all the way there… though I am progressing. But if you don’t like yourself, then you’re not going to want to show yourself to the world. I was always called “weird” growing up, so I felt really disjointed and separate from “the mainstream”, which hurt a lot, and I struggled constantly to fit in. It was exhausting. It wasn’t until college, when I finally (grudgingly) accepted my “weirdness” and quit fighting against it that I found a group of people that I got along with and helped me see my “weirdness” is what makes me special. 🙂 I think once you start to like and accept yourself, it makes it easier to like and accept other people too.
Thanks for your comment MJ and glad you enjoyed it. I agree with you 100 percent–it can be hard to be authentic if you feel like there is something wrong with you are in some way. The word ‘exhausting’ really stood out to me because that is exactly what it is, isn’t it? It takes a lot out of us to constantly be vigilant against letting the ‘true’ us shine through and keep up the facade in various ways, whether it is lying, spending time with people we actually don’t like, not expressing our true opinion,etc…And like you experienced, once you started being more you, your people found you. They always will.
I loved this podcast. Ive spent my entire life hating myself because I was never like “all the other kids in my age group.” Its always hard to be the real you when everyone has already placed certain labels on you and see you as “a certain kind of person”. Friends and family members unfortunately seem to be the biggest offenders in these situations, but its amazing how many new great people start to come into your life when you decide to be yourself. Its also funny how many people end up loving the very person we are trying so hard to hide. I think the world is a way more accepting place than we think. Thanks for the inspiring podcast :).
Hi Jaden
Thanks for your comment and glad you enjoyed the podcast. Your experience is a perfect example of how when we let ourselves be ourselves, you will manifest relationships with people who ‘get’ us.
Hi Kelli,
This was a great post and really helped me understand why some things haven’t been happening for me. I notice that in certain situations or around certain people I find myself questioning “am I really being myself around this person or am I being more reserved?” What do you suggest I do if I think I know what my authentic self is, but in certain situations or places I can’t get myself to be “authentic?” Thanks again for the insight on this podcast!
Hi B
Thanks for your comment and so glad you found it helpful. The main thing you have to do in a situation like this is explore more deeply why you don’t think you can be yourself, whether in general or in specific situations or around specific people. At the root is the obvious fear of people not liking us but there can be nuances to that in each individual person, and once you get a better sense of what is happening for you personally, you can begin to work through that energy.