No matter what you are missing on the outside, you aren’t missing anything on the inside, no matter what your mind tries to tell you.
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Podcast #150: Law of Attraction: Your Circumstances May Be Lacking But You Never Are
Omg Kelli I love you!!! <3
Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it
Ever since I was in high school, I used to feel like there was something deeply wrong with me, and that was why I couldn’t get a boyfriend/had shitty friends/etc. It took several years of being on the personal development path to finally see how untrue that was! There was nothing wrong with me; it just came down to what I believed about myself. Now, of course, I wish I could go back in time and shake my 19-year-old self!
Hey Devinne
You are certainly not alone in that…I think this is somewhere the mind automatically goes, especially when we struggle with something a lot or for a prolonged period. But like you saw, it was just nothing more than beliefs that you just decided to change. It really is as simple as learning the new information that makes more sense to us and weighing the crap against it, seeing it really doesn’t hold water. The benefit of that deep pain, at least for people who decide they want to do something about it, is it brings us to this sort of journey where we can make really deep positive change we may not otherwise when the pain is more ‘tolerable’ and we don’t feel as ‘motivated’ to do anything about it.
Hi dear Kelli,
You are first blog and person i really prefer talking about LOA. I really do like the way you are writing and also your podcast are a fresh breath of air. I was a bit lost in all the LOA bullshit from different people and websites. But you are turning this on for me. I really do like the way you are expressing this whole concept, and also sharing more about our risistance, instead of covering it with ligh, so people will get more crazy about LOA because the lack of innerwork. I was always guilty about myself, but now i am in more ease and not so hard on myself anymore. So again thank you very much!
Regaqrds,
Ramon
Hi Ramon
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you are enjoying my content and find it resonant. The teaching is pretty simple at its core, but the theory and reality of the ‘process’ can be very different given our humanness and degree of mental and emotional clutter, and the depth of our limitations in thinking. Just being ‘positive’ isn’t often enough for people, especially if their life experience has not shown these beliefs to be very true at all. If we have resistance in the form of pain or whatever else, we have it, like any other problem we want to solve, we have to deal with the problem or it can’t get better! And definitely be kind to yourself in the process…we are too hard on ourselves, especially with a teaching like the law of attraction because we are in a huge rush to change our reality because of the pain it is causing us. But the feelings aren’t so bad once we really commit to dealing with them…resisting them is what really causes the problems. I hope you continue to find useful information here! Thanks again for your comment, it means a lot!
Thanks so much for your response. My youth was a satanic experience, because of psychopathic parents. They teached me that i must suffer, so they can feel better. I was totally programmed to feel pain and suffer for existing on earth. My life value was and is low. I always want to run away because i want to seek the recognition that you never got as a child. They even took me to a place where they are doing evil rituals. I am living their hell. And it was hard for me to work on that, because it was so painful to stand op for yourself and the pain that has been done and doing today. You know about sociopaths and narcisists, they wear a mask to the outside world so they blame you, and they believe it. So i always wanted to scream to everyone what really happens, but they turn me into the monster. So the 2 things i have learned now, never seek for recognition by everyone because it will not happen. And 2, be angry if you want because it was level hardcore you have lived. Now for the first time i am releasing my parents (i am 31 years old). And going to work on myself. My brain is fucked through all of the negative believes but it is working with baby steps. Now they feel i am going to set free, they will do anything to set me in a negative spotlight and everyone believes it. Now i have let them go, there is so much relieve, but there is a lot of work because of the damage have been done every freaking day and night. This was my first big step and i feel some anxiety, of the believes that i cannot do it on my own. My ego says that they must be punished for this, but that is again the recognition and you will not get that. Than you will hope the universal law will see their role but they are neutral so do not see this. This is the biggest step in my life and will find new journeys on this path. There is a lot of inner shit that can be released. It was some of your posts that gave me the push to do this. But again the anxiety pops up because they are now reflected to their own inner demons and to protect it they will use me again to feel save and in their comfortzone. So i must release them, and push through. Thanks Kelli for this, it came at the right time at the right place.
Regards,
Ramon
Hi Ramon
To do what you are doing when having suffered at the hands of your parents the way you did is very brave and you will be okay even if it all feels really scary now. It would be so easy to just stay as you are, understandably blaming such a terrible upbringing–that is what most people do. This really isn’t their fault, they just don’t know any better. That you are honest about how scared you feel and the depth of the pain alone begins transforming you internally. And know you are NOT alone in this…the Universe will deliver you all sorts of resources and assistance that will be just what you need when you need it, whether it is a blog like this, a person, a specific healing technique,etc… Just don’t feel pressure to find these things…trust they will come and you will recognize them when you see them. Much love to you!