One of the misconceptions about the law of attraction is that you always have to be thinking about what you want, and have to figure out every last detail, lest you might not get exactly what you want; and oh God, how awful would that be? And as such, feeling like you don’t know what you want can be quite anxiety-inducing.
How can things get better if I am not sure what ‘better’ looks like? How can I get stuff that will make me happy if I am not quite sure what would produce this much desired state? How can I focus when I am not sure what to focus on?
This whole process can make us quite anxious actually, and that can really slow things down, but I digress.
Anyway, here are some of my thoughts on the manifesting process when what want to manifest may not be readily apparent.
Not Knowing is Kind of Advantageous Actually
Remember what I just said not a few hundred words ago about the idea we have to think about what we want all the time and get very specific not actually being true? Yeah, exact mental pictures and thinking about what we want, isn’t what really brings our desires into our physical reality.
It is our predominant vibration which will be determined by the thoughts, beliefs and feelings that have the most energy behind them. Think of all the things you have manifested in your life, both wanted and unwanted, to which you never gave any previous thought.
Visualizing is a very powerful tool to activate frequencies we may not be able to powerfully embody –or embody at all– by focusing on the current circumstances of our life.
It helps us generate feelings, and it is the feelings that will determine what comes to us. We will attract things that feel like the feelings we have been working to activate more strongly.
Having something on which to focus our energy is beneficial in many ways, namely it makes us feel like we are ‘doing’ something to bring about our manifestations.
We are very oriented towards action, and engaging in all our various tools, makes us feel like we are taking these all-important actions. And this helps create an expectation we will get what we want, and anything that fosters that expectation is a worthy use of our time.
Got off on a bit of a tangent there, but back to my original point. Not knowing can be kind of advantageous because most of us have a tendency to get super-specific with what we want, and super-attached to a particular manifestation or a particular channel through which it could possibly come.
And all this specificity activates a shit load of resistance.
Our mind presents a very compelling case as to why this is the exact thing we want. And it doesn’t like the idea of being open to something else, or detaching, because it equates that to giving up on what you want, and that freaks it out big-time.
Not having a specific picture of what you want to manifest can prevent a lot of this resistance, and attachment, because you have not yet set your sights on anything in particular.
Don’t feel pressure to formulate some picture or some super-specific desire; don’t worry about coming up with a very specific visualization overflowing with detail.
No matter how much what I just said makes sense, you will still feel anxious about not having figured out exactly what you want. You will still be convinced that will hinder your attracting ability in some way. So it’s all good.
But don’t fret my pet. At some point, you will get a better idea of what you want, and you will start flowing some energy towards that. You will have something to visualize; you will have something on which to focus. You will have something about which to fantasize and daydream.
And then you’ll get to be all attached, constantly lamenting the absence of what you want, and making things much harder than they have to be, just like the rest of us 😉
In all seriousness though, the best thing you can do right now is….
Work on Just Feeling Good
I know, I know, I have given you this advice like a million times. But there is a reason us LOA teachers can be a bit repetitive, and it’s not because we have trouble coming up with new material. It is because the conditioning, that is completely contrary to these teachings, runs deep as hell.
And even the most knowledgeable LOA ‘students’ need these reminders. And there is a good chance that anyone drawn to this particular post, is someone who may be a bit new to the ‘LOA,’ and needs to understand the importance of this.
Again, we attract based on the energy we are putting out there, not our exact thoughts. So when we can get into an emotional state where we are feeling good about the future, happy, relaxed or whatever, we will attract situations that will feel just like that.
You will attract inspirations, ideas, encounters and opportunities that will help you gain more clarity on exactly what you want. The path will become clearer.
When you truly begin to understand our reality is created from the inside out, you can relax a bit about not having specific goals set, where you are regularly taking all sorts of actions to realize them.
Action is the last thing we should be doing, but it is often the step we jump to right at the start. And this is why we struggle so much with getting the things we want.
We are taking these actions from a really screwed up space energetically, and it just makes the path to what we want, so much more difficult.
We are not very aligned with what we want. And the less we are aligned, the more action we need to take to squeeze out some sort of result, because those actions are not inspired. They are being driven by fear, doubt, a need to ‘make shit happen’ and a desire to manipulate and control.
This commitment to doing whatever we can to raise our energy is not ‘doing nothing.’ It is the most important action you can be taking, especially when you are not fully clear on what you want exactly.
It will feel uncomfortable sometimes, and your mind will fight it; it will tell you that you need to be figuring things out, and formulating a plan. Do your best to quiet it. You may not be able to fully quell the chatter, but at the very least, you will turn down the volume considerably.
When you allow yourself to do whatever you can to feel better, you will be in a space where your inner knowing can come through more strongly. The inspired actions will make themselves known.
And when you act from a space of inspiration, you are in the flow, and aligned with what you want (which is ultimately to feel a certain way). And in the wake of all this delicious alignment, you will get a better idea of what you want to do.
You Probably Have a Better Idea of What You Want than You Think
There is a good chance you do have some inkling of what you want, but it just hasn’t quite risen to the surface yet. You have probably spent so long focusing on what you don’t want and like, what you actually want, got buried really deeply.
After all, you probably never thought it was possible anyway, so why bother to really think much about it? You have lived a certain life for so long, you have probably written off a variety of possibilities immediately, again, never really considering these things as feasible.
But a variety of desires have undoubtedly been sparked all throughout your life (we are here to create) that were just immediately dismissed as ‘unrealistic.’
Letting ourselves want things can be scary, because the idea of getting excited about them, but then not having them happen, can be painful. This is why most people don’t let themselves dream; this is why they stay stuck in lives they don’t really want.
Better to stick with what they know than risk disappointment, ridicule, judgment and failure.
Um…no, this is not better. You can have whatever it is you want. Though getting to the root of what you truly want, can take some time. Remember what I said about attachment to specific desires (that are just one representation, and may not be a very accurate one.)
But just getting the idea we create our reality in theory, probably won’t be enough to actually jump start the process, of getting all that your little heart desires.
There is still some doubt this is how it really works and that is understandable. You are still not convinced you are a powerful creator.
You really can’t see how your life can change so dramatically. You have so many limiting beliefs that have been ‘proven’ to you time and time again, and they are just not going to go quietly into the night.
And all of this makes for some nice suppression of what you really want, and gives the impression your true desires are elusive.
Now, it may be true you don’t know exactly what you want in very specific terms, but it is highly unlikely you literally have no idea.
So, let yourself go to those deep places where what you want may be hidden. Don’t be afraid to go there.
Don’t judge your desires. Don’t worry if you have no idea how they would come to fruition…figuring out all the details, and orchestrating how it comes together, is not our job, thank God.
Again, don’t worry about specifics. It can be more general, like wanting a job with more freedom, or wanting to experience certain energies and feelings more, as opposed to ones that are dominant now.
It may help to write down a list of things you don’t want and like, and use that as a springboard to figuring out what you do.
You Don’t Need to Figure It All Out Right Now
When people begin working consciously with their energy, and applying the teachings of the law of attraction, there is often this pressure to try and figure out your whole entire life, for decades to come.
This creating- your- reality- thing is serious stuff, and you want to make sure you get it all right the first time around.
But you don’t have to worry about doing this. You really can’t do this anyway.
There is no way you can figure out your whole path right now. You have no idea the infinite ways the things you want can come to you. You have no idea what desires will be sparked in the future.
You have no way to know the myriad ways you may begin to change, which will automatically change the types of things you want to attract. Some of the things you want now may not be the same things you want a year down the line, or even a month. I bet that freaked out your brain a bit…don’t lie.
You can only ever see the next step. So just focus your attention on that. Don’t be afraid to follow your feelings. Don’t be afraid to pursue a path because you are not one million percent sure that is the path you will want to stay on forever.
Would you not try out a new type of exercise class because you are not sure you will want to do that exercise forever? No. You would try it out and see how you liked it. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t go back. It would give you a better idea of what types of exercise you do like.
No matter what, you are always going to be led to where you want to go, even if you have no idea where that is. You will always be moving towards what you want, even if you aren’t clear on what that looks like exactly, or how in the hell you will get it.
This little wisdom nugget underscores the importance of aligning yourself energetically, before taking action. Because when your actions feel inspired, you are much more likely to take them, and trust whatever results will serve you somehow, and aid you in your journey.
Because they most certainly will serve you and be of assistance…there is no way they can’t be, because they were taken from a space of being aligned with what you want.
Now, sometimes what results, may appear unwanted. But that is still a good thing, because the situation helped you gain clarity, or alerted you to resistance that must be cleared…won’t get too deeply into that here, but just wanted to throw that in. No matter what, it’s all good.
Knowing the importance of just focusing on the next step will help you relax some, and it is highly likely some helpful insights will flood in, that will give you a better idea of that next step. It will take some pressure off feeling like you have to map out your entire existence right now.
In Closing…
I know, I know. You want your life to immediately change in a dramatic fashion. You want to be showered in awesomeness immediately. But remember the law of attraction is not magic.
But with that being said, things can start changing quite quickly, when we start being more deliberate with our focus, and clearing out the gunk that is making us attract stuff we don’t like.
I know the uncertainty regarding what you want is probably making you super-uncomfortable, and making you think you can’t get anything good until you nail down the specifics, but that is not true at all.
What you truly want will reveal itself in time. But no matter what you want, you ultimately want a feeling, and you can start feeling those feelings anytime, no matter what is happening.
Don’t put off your happiness, thinking that it can’t come until certain things happen, or you have formulated some sort of plan. You can work on it now…might take a bit, and you may not feel that way all the time, but you can make some nice headway with a bit of effort, and a firm decision that this is how it’s gonna be.
Your Turn…
What did you think of this post? Did anything in particular resonate? Are you someone who isn’t sure what you want? Do you have any tips to offer to gain that clarity or navigate the uncertainty? Looking forward to your comments as always.
Hi Kelli,
This post came at just the right time. I’ve been feeling a lot better lately, taking daily actions towards my dreams, and reminding myself of some truths that bring peace and acceptance.
However, I’m a bit stuck right now with a decision that I haven’t made a concrete choice on for a while. It’s between two places I am deciding to relocate to. I know I have to just feel good and then I’ll know…but despite feeling better the past month I still haven’t felt clear. How can you get more clarity on your next step? I feel overwhelmed doing this all by myself, I wish the Universe could step in and guide me to one or the other.
Thank you Kelli
Hi M
I am so happy to hear things are going well for you. I know you were having a rough time but I knew with all your insight and self-reflection, you would find a way forward. You definitely don’t have to do it all by yourself. While we can’t force certain ‘signs’ to come our way via the good old U, setting strong intentions for clarity is something we can certainly do, and we just have to be on the lookout for anything that is being delivered to that end..sometimes it might be something big and obvious but sometimes it might be something more subtle and not so obvious until we sit a bit and think about how that manifestation might be interpreted for us personally. When you are feeling in a higher vibing state and not so worried or whatever about the decision, think of the different options and see what comes up for you. In that higher energetic state, the resistance will be clearer and you’ll get a better idea of what choice may be better, or what it is more specifically that is causing the trouble deciding. And remember that no matter what choice you make, this is only the next step and you have no idea what will transpire next as a result…no matter what, you are moving forward. You can’t really make a true mistake.
Hi Kelli,
I’ve been doing as you said and am getting a bit more clarity. Sometimes I have to remind myself not to get too angry at myself for not taking certain opportunities or the path of least resistance. I used to feel bad for not settling or accepting certain opportunities that came to me because they didn’t feel right…now I am seeing that it’s ok and good to pay attention to emotional guidance, I don’t have to settle.
Oh great one Kellie, this one can trip me up at times and this can’t get ingrained in us enough!!! So agree repetitive, repetitive, repetitive!!!!
Hi Holly
The reminders are important because our mind can be very good at overriding the knowing, and we can get sucked in easily into the lower energies, beliefs that don’t serve us,etc…Glad you enjoyed it!
The post lead in killed me for years; you saw it first hand at times. I thought about what I wanted, or forced those thoughts into mind. Since force negates and since I was too aware of my wants being outside of me I felt lack. Wise point: not knowing works fully in our favor. I have opened up, detached from wanting and craving a bit more each day and my creative energies have never flowed more freely. Fab as always.
We should do a podcast interview sometime.
Ryan
Hi Ryan
I really like what you said about the wants seeming outside of you…that feeling of being incomplete without them can really cause us problems because we are focused on lack.
Kelli..thanks for all the information on the LOA.. Love the articulation… Question.. What does one do when they have prepared and had a desire so long that when they think about it, it’s difficult to see compared to what they are feeling.. The feeling is greater than the view.. Not that in some way it hasn’t manifested just not on the level or the degree their feeling. Curious.
Hi Sandra
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you enjoyed the post. The wording was a bit unclear to me but I think what you are saying is that you are having really strong feelings in a positive direction but the scenarios in your mind may not be so ‘grand’ or there is not a lot of detail to them. The first thing I would say is not to worry if you haven’t thought of that ultimate scenario you want…that will reveal itself in time. The feeling is what creates, and based on the manifestations you have had, it shows you are certainly moving in the right direction. Now, you do want to examine if the lack of specifics may be stemming from a reluctance to think too deeply about what you want…this indicates there may be some deeper resistance, and your mind is trying to ‘protect’ you from feeling it. That your actual experience may not be feeling as ‘powerful’ as when you generate the feeling when doing your ‘work’ doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong, it just means that that is where your vibration is at in the moment. It is important to not be afraid to examine what blocks, fears and doubts you may have around what you want, the LOA itself,etc…I think once you do that, you’ll get some clarity.
Most of the law of attraction teachers that I have heard talk about manifesting things – the cars, houses, money, mate – and never take people beyond that. I guess they need to start where people are, or they haven’t gotten there either, I don’t know. The better ones quickly get people beyond the specific things and into the feelings. Bob Doyle (from The Secret) is who your post brought to my mind. In one of his exercises he has people start with something that they want then figure out why they want it, then figure out why they want that, and keep digging deeper until they get to a root feeling. It usually comes down to begin happy, feeling good, feeling safe, or something similar. Mike Dooley (also The Secret) says to always avoid figuring out how your desires need to manifest. He also says that less specific desire are better because stating how something needs to come about and exactly what it needs to look like limit the ways that the Universe can deliver what it is you want. If your desire is to be happy and feel good, then there are an infinite number of ways that it can appear.
Thanks for the reminder. I’ve been needing that.
Hey Ben
Thanks for your comment and your insight. It is true we can get fixated on certain types of manifestations, which really isn’t a problem in and of itself. But we can miss the bigger picture of what consciously working with our energy can do for us, which is not just to deliver specific manifestations but improve our life experience as a whole and help us just be happier overall. The feeling is really what we are after no matter what and like you said , there are infinite ways that this feeling can be activated. Glad you enjoyed the post
Heya Kelli,
I’ve just discovered your blog after ‘Google’ searching “How to use the law of attraction when you don’t know exactly what it is you want!”.
And all I have to say is WOW! You are FAN-FREKIN-TASTIC ? The way you write is so ‘real’, down to earth, honest and relatable. Just as if I were having a chat with an old friend, you were able to provide me with so much insight into my question in a way that I could totally understand ?.
So thanks heaps sunshine,I’ll
be reading much more of your writting from now on ?
Sincerely
Becky
(Sydney, Australia)
xoxo
Hi Becky
Thanks so much for your comment.I am glad you found the content resonated with you. That is really important when digesting this sort of information. Lots of different perspectives, styles,etc…and when we find what connects with us, we can take in the information much more easily.
I googled the same exact thing!! I felt so discouraged when people said things like “imagine your dream life down to the smallest detail” because I had tried to know what I wanted so hard and long and honestly thought I couldn’t be happy until I figured it out! I found this post at the perfect time in my life where I am searching for a job and starting a new life. I feel so encouraged and have a sense of clarity to know what I DO want and finally feel a sense of peace and excited anticipation for the future!
Hi Sierra
Thanks for your comment and I am glad the post was helpful for you! Just figure out the feelings you want, see what you can do to evoke them, see what you feel inspired to do, and before you know it, you will have a pretty good idea of where you want to go. Just always focus on the current step….can’t really see beyond that anyway.
Hi Kelli,
I really like it that your blog posts are so practical and easy to understand. I also read one of your books and enjoyed it!
What a relief that it is okay – or even beneficial! – to not know what I want … after all those LOA experts claiming that you have to “get crystal clear on what you want to manifest” or you won’t have any manifesting success at all!
I wonder what to do if you really don’t know what you want at all. Due to chronic illness and resulting life circumstances, I lead a very isolated life that seems more and more “empty” to me. I know that I’m missing something (very much so) but I don’t know what it is: Like-minded connections? New and different work possibilities? More fun and joyous activities in my life? Inner peace? … I’m not even sure what kind of feeling it is that I would like to have. :/ (Fulfilment? Joy? Happiness?)
Everything I’m doing right now seems to be based upon a feeling of lack and missing out and unhappiness … I know this is *not* the right way to go about this and I wonder what I could do to turn that around.
Do you have any advice for me? I’d love to hear it!
Thank you! 🙂
Hi Mia
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you enjoyed the post and the book. It sounds like you have some idea of what you are looking for, and it seems like you have touched one some ‘essences’ which lie at the root of every specific thing we want–like peace and fun. Given your circumstances right now and how you have been feeling, your first step might not be trying to figure all that out, but processing the negative emotion you may have felt as a result of your experiences. Like you said, you seem to be operating from that space of feeling lack,etc…which means you are trying to create from a space of ‘pushing against’ what is…we are all prone to doing that. If you give yourself permission to feel your feelings now and be honest about how you are feeling about your life and yourself, that will really open things up. We are often afraid to feel our negative emotions because we think that is ‘bad’ and we won’t manifest good things but when we do this with consciousness and awareness,examining it more deeply, knowing it’s the key to healing, that is completely different from just feeling badly because we think life sucks,etc…
Kelli, I need help!
I’ve been trying LOA for a year straight, and the only thing I’ve ever tried to manifest is losing 110 pounds. I’ve been going by the principle that no thought is impossible – so I somehow want to trick my subconscious into burning all the fat off my body in a crazily short time. Just this last month things have started to progress, first I lost about 10 pounds in 2 weeks and a week ago I was prescribed a better antidepressant (depression caused my weight gain). So I’m REALLY freaking out right now about how I can move forward and let this continue without sabotaging it. And I don’t know what – if any – ideals about speed are too extreme. If this were you what would you do? Thank you so much!!!
Hi Emmie
First, it is important to realize the LOA isn’t something you ‘use.’ It’s not a tool, it is a way of explaining how reality works. The ‘power’ we have to influence our reality comes from managing our vibration, not being able to have the Universe do our mind’s exact bidding and molding our outer reality exactly to its specifications. You can definitely lose the weight but you are going to want to do it from a different space energetically if you want to keep it off–trying to force it like this will either make it a lot harder or you’ll manage to lose it but it won’t stay off, even if you are ‘doing’ everything right. The strong reaction you are having to the issue with the medication is an important manifestation for you as it is bringing up a lot of ‘stuff’ you need to look at, namely the fears you have about not losing the weight.
hi Kelli
i have been feeling uncomfortable for not knowing what i really want and at the same time unaware of all those energies and feelings i was putting into, and your post seems to strike me at the right time.
Thank you for sharing all these contents so beautifully.
I have had a break up last year and i suffered a lot and now I get those recurring thoughts of her and I know its wrong for me in a way.
And the feelings are a sort of intense so I want to ask you that whether i should try to suppress those thoughts or not? or for those things which had brought suffering in past.
To negate those thoughts would mean ignoring what i strongly feel for and in enjoying the thought, i am willing for another suffering(but i am not).
I’d like to have your advice on this!
thank you
This was a great post, thank you. I am feeling a bit lost and overwhelmed right now and trying to implement the principle of law of attraction when I had no idea what I wanted meant I felt even more confused and rudderless. This was great to read its ok not to know but to focus on the feeling – that has resonated very strongly with me and timing is everything. Thanks again for a great post, it was what I needed to read. It wont be long before I am ‘rudderless’ no more. Trish xx
Hi Trish
Thanks so much for your comment and I am glad you found it helpful. Just think more about those feelings, what you can do now in your life to evoke them, and you’ll start manifesting things that mirror them back to you. Just focus on feeling good overall–that general sense of peace, happiness,etc…is all we really want anyway, and this general vibe management will likely impact very specific areas of your life positively that you may be wanting to change.
Hi Kelli,
Thank you so much for such a wonderful post…i was really tensed coz i was unable to figure it out completely what i really want in my job…i manifested my previous job but it turned out to be a disaster and eventually i was thrown out of it…but for my next job i am really confused what exactly i should think of.please suggest.shall i just have good feelings and will i be directed to what i really really want and will sustain.
I think i shoul feel good about my accomplishments and should feel that my boss is happy from me and even if i dont know anything..i will be getting support from my peers..i am scared coz this all happened with me in my previous job..please help..looking forward to your repl.how should i feel and get directed to what i want.
Hi Shikha
The best thing for you right now would be thinking about all the things you might not have liked about your other job and using that as a springboard for figuring out what you would like. For example, if your last boss seemed impatient with questions, not very helpful, you would put ‘a helpful, patient, friendly boss who will help me learn and answer my questions.’ It sounds like you are very in the energy of what you don’t want, and wanting to manifest a new job from a space of hoping it isn’t bad like the last one. Whatever has happened with your past jobs, see what you learned from the experience, how the contrast helps figure out the job you think you would like, and then do your best to just move on from it, and focus on what you want instead.
Thanks a ton Kelli…thats a bang on repl..probably this was the light oh hope i was looking for..thanks again.😊
I’m struggling hard. My present circumstance are unbearable. Im running out of ideas how how to feel my way better into what I desire on a daily basis. Inner peace in breathing exercises is all I can count on. I have been doing scripting, affirmations, gratitude journaling and letting go the how and expectation for almost 6months, nothing has changed. I don’t care to know the how, I just want to align into a better version. I’m eager to always try new things and jump at opportunities but they don’t succeed. The details I’ve played with being specific and vague but my energy is getting beyond tired and frustrated. They say its always darkest before the dawn. Does it ever get better? Does this process really work?
Hi there
Without speaking with you personally I can only go very general. Your biggest issue though is very obvious because it is something that happens to so many people working consciously with their energy to change their external circumstances…you are doing all these tools and techniques thinking in and of themselves they have some sort of power…they don’t. They can help us activate energy, shift our focus,etc…but the action itself can do nothing no matter how many times we do it or for how long. If you aren’t receiving any emotional benefit, they are not serving their purpose. Our action oriented minds carry over our action-tendencies into energy work not understanding this world works very differently. It sounds like you are contending with some very strong negative feelings and that energy is still dominating because you probably haven’t really dealt with it…you have just been engaging in personal development ‘work’ to try and change the circumstances your mind believes are responsible for your emotional upset. Trying to change our energy and trying to get something we don’t have are VERY different journeys. if you let yourself really feel these feelings, purge them a bit, you won’t be operating from ‘pain minimization’ mode as much anymore. The law of attraction is not something that ‘works’ or doesn’t ‘work’ If you’re willing to do this emotional ‘purge’ you will feel better because that is where the energy really starts to change. Good luck!
Thanks so much !
I loved this post! I’ve been in a quandary with the LOA and being specific about what I want. I’ve never really nailed things down in the past but trusted what I needed and would be happy with, would be there at the right time and it’s always come to pass. I moved once without a job lined up and no one could understand my faith.
I said I didn’t want to deal with suicidal people but I did want to get out of being tied down to a client schedule all day. LOA hooked me up with a groundbreaking new position where I was in charge and independent and not tied to a schedule. But I exclusively worked with suicidal people!! LOL!! It was a good fit for me at the time but see how the “don’t wants” work? Haha!
So this was super helpful because focusing on what I want to feel (independent, so highly and abundantly compensated that I am debt free, traveling, public speaking, teaching, vacationing, healthy, my ideal weight and fitness level, joyful, lucratively invested in multiple ventures that continue to build my wealth and abundance, the ability to be generous to needy causes, I only work when I want to.)
Focusing on what I want to feel or the outcome is something I can do! The HOW or what is vague as I could be happy and grateful in so many scenarios….
I feel pressure to say exactly how much money I want because why not ask for a billion? I want to stay open to the abundance level that is more than enough for me and my spiritual path. If I’m being reasonable, I’d like 250,000. Per year. But I don’t want to limit my income when 10 million would be a dream come true! So I’m focusing on abundance and wealth rather than a number amount.
Is that the wrong approach to the LOA?
I’m subscribing to you, you’ll be the first one for me! I’ve never sub. to anyone’s work before….
Hi there
So glad you found my content helpful…sounds like you were really good at shifting energy around something so important to you even if it’s not ideal, you’re getting closer. As for the money, you ultimately can’t control how much. Just think more about what you want to do with it and any resource necessary to make those things happen will show up, including the money. If it feels good to put a certain amount out there, go for it if it eases the mind. The only thing you really ‘control’ for lack of a better word is your energy. This is a good thing…we don’t want to be able to create by manipulating reality…the mind tends to control that and it would be a big mess! I feel so honored I am worthy of being in your inbox 😉 Have a great day!
hi kelli,
Just discovered your content while googling
on how to manifest when we dont know what we wan’t. I understood through your post that raising your energy and vibration will help to put you in different space. All these years I haven’t had much hobbies in life. I used to focus on my daily job which I dont feel engergized about and usual life but always felt that something is missing which is really frustrating. And whenever I try some self help stuff or any other activity in general I never really enjoy the process of it and end up feeling frustrated. And my whole day or life probably is going in the direction where I really dont feel happy about anything at all. How can I change this when I dont really enjoy the process of anything at all. I am 27 and major life events are expected this year like marriage, job change. But if I truly dont feel happy and satisfied from inside.
I hope this reaches you
Thank you for this post. I’ve been working with LOA for several years and have always had set goals I felt very good about working toward until recently. For about the last year, I have felt so lost. It’s almost like goal setting and achieving became an addiction and not having a specific prize to be working toward has left me feeling a little displaced in the world. However, I just took a webinar where one of my takeaways was listening for inspiration first and then simply following that inspiration (“being in the flow”) rather than being so focused on ‘goals’. Finding your post crystalized that concept even further for me and, frankly, has given me a sense of relief. It’s a major shift in my thinking to just sit still and wait for lightening to strike, but I know that if I am quiet enough, eventually it will, and I will know exactly where to go and what to do. Thank you, again, for helping me take the pressure off of myself.
Hi Tammy
Thanks so much for your comment and sharing your insight and experience. So glad you found the post helpful. I think that is great advice. I also like the idea of setting ‘energetic’ goals. How do we want to feel in life, how do we want to feel in our business and that can guide the way for realizing those energies in our life. You are right…in that silence and stillness, everything we need to know reveals itself.
Hi Kelly, greetings from Argentina! I just came across your 5-year old post, as I clearly know that I would like to get a remote job to work from home, but I do not know specifically what kind of job. I currently work at an Embassy, a diplomatic representation, which is quite challenging and interesting, and so I do not want to get a sales agent or customer care job. I have been searching on Linkedin to no avail, But I know that once I visualize my dream job, I will find it no doubt. (That’s how I was hired at the Embassy). The problem is that I do not know what I want, as I do not know which companies are hiring remote employees. As for Embassies, I know that there are many in Buenos Aires where I live, so it was not difficult, I knew such jobs already existed. I hope you understand what I am trying to explain.
This was a fantastic post. I can relate to the others that commented on this post, Kelly you really hit the nail on so many points – Its like you knew exactly how I was feeling! I think that the “unknown” is just a common fear for me and the pressure of feeling like you “have” to know is what worries me. As a father of 4 little ones and husband, the pressure can feel a little overwhelming at times. I think this pandemic situation threw that ultimate curveball in many of our lives in that the path felt completely ripped away. I’ve been worried about finding consistent work and was starting to get discouraged because I didn’t know what the next step was in my career. Instead, I’m just going to be a bit more general, focus on feeling and hope that I can narrow down the details moving forward.
Thanks again for this post! This would also be a great video on Youtube.
Hi Anthony
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you enjoyed the post. Everything you are feeling is very normal. There are very few people who have remained completely untouched by what has happened, and anyone with children is definitely feeling more of the stress for sure. Just remember there are infinite possibilities, opportunities and combinations of circumstances that exist to help you align with money and work–that ‘general’ vibe management puts you in a better place emotionally overall and cleans up the ‘filter’ through which you are viewing everything, and that sets the stage for improvement in all areas of our life. It isn’t as if our vibration is ‘compartmentalized’ into specific areas. It sounds like you have a good attitude and are willing to trust the process and that is 99 percent of it!
Hi Kelly,
thank you for this post! I really enjoyed many of your posts years ago and I just googled this specific topic and ended up here again! and I’m glad I did.
I am not sure if you’d notice a comment in a very old post but I’m feeling confused and hope you would share your wisdom and help me get some clarity on my situation! 🙂
I’ve been pursuing a goal in a specific career field for a few years now, mostly passively but only recently tried taking some serious actions towards it. However as I’m not the most patient person and there are already moments I feel like giving up because I’m not seeing immediate results for my actions. Also what I didn’t feel too good about in the process is that I always knew this was kind of a compromised goal, meaning if I truly believed I could manifest absolutely any job in the world this wasn’t going to be my first choice. maybe a second or a third, but it seemed like the most “realistic” option where I could be pretty content with my life if it would manifest.
A few days ago, after a moment of a mini mental breakdown(due to some minor bumps in pursuing the career) and a good cry, I got an inspiration for a different career path that’s related to the career field I’ve been pursuing. It’s seemingly even more unstable than the job I’m pursuing now but the nature of this new job fits my personality so much better, so basically it could be my dream job(I can’t say with 100% confidence though because I have very little information on this job). The night of this realization I was so excited and happy I squeaked, and really felt as if it was already mine.
The strange thing is, the next morning, the feeling of excitement was completely gone and honestly it’s because I knew on the subconscious level I didn’t believe myself to take any action. I have a pattern where the more excited I get about a new idea, the more resistance I feel into making that happen/ the less I believe in its manifestation.
but the last couple days I kept getting inspirations from different sources that made me reconsider my values/what I really want out of life, which is something I haven’t done in a while. Basically tiny little “signs” that made me feel like things might not have been working out for me so it could lead to better things. And I think, maybe I don’t want to pursue the old career path anymore, but I am not sure if it’s because I’m not seeing the result(no income from it) or because I genuinely want the new career path. I have a lot of free time so it is actually possible to pursue both as they are related enough, but I’m already distracted/confused enough as I am, I’m not sure if it’s wise to do so.
I’m seeking answers but I’m not exactly sure what questions to ask, that’s how confused I am! I guess I would just like to hear what you think about my thoughts/interpretations of the situation!
Thank you so much, your work/help is so much appreciated! <3
love from Korea xx
Hi Sage
The first thing you need to do– which will provide some immediate emotional relief, which in turn, will help you think more clearly–is pull your focus from the external and bring it into your mind. The only reason we get stressed out about decisions, attached to outcomes,etc..is because there is some sort of emotional discord at the root we are looking to fix through external means, like getting a different job for example. And when we are operating from this ‘pain minimizing’ mode as I refer to it, it will lead to the type of experience you are having now–overthinking, worrying about whether to make the right decision, etc…
What we really want is always emotional at its core–we want to feel certain feelings and we don’t want to feel certain feelings. And the human mind believes we can achieve those emotional goals by changing the outside and that isn’t true. It’s okay to want a different job, to do something you enjoy doing. No reason for that not to happen but it happens more easily when we pursue these external changes from a more relaxed space. We have to achieve some degree of genuine detachment from the outcomes, and that can only happen in a real way when we are willing to explore the root of the attachments. And when we explore that honestly, we see how we feel actually has nothing to do with the circumstance, which helps us realize changing the circumstance isn’t the answer. And when we realize it isn’t the answer, we feel less pressure to do so. And in that more relaxed space, you can think more clearly about what it is you actually want, you are in a better position to hear that guidance. If energy and vibration are just fancy words for ‘feelings’ anything we do that gets us in a better feeling state will be beneficial for this journey. Hope that helps a bit!