Law of Attraction: How Can I Get My Mind to Stop Messing with Me?

How can I get my mind to stop downing me all the time? It never stops and its so hard to feel better when it pokes at every single little thing.

I’ll be going beyond discussing  just the ‘poking’ ,and negative focus of the mind, because this is just a manifestation of deeper issues that are important to understand. 

I loved this question because it allows me to talk about what is  our core, and essentially, only problem when it comes to changing our energy in significant, lasting ways–our highly dysfunctional, fucked-up mind! 

Think about it–without all its nonsense, this energy ‘work’ would be an absolute breeze.  Actually, we wouldn’t even need to do it in the first place because we would naturally be existing in a state where we were wide-open to receive all the best life has to offer, all the things we want so, so badly. It would all be the ‘norm.’ 

There would be no need for any sort of personal development ‘work’  at all because essentially its purpose is dealing with the‘symptoms’ of this dysfunction–the fear, the anxiety, the incessant thinking, our distorted view of self and all that other fun stuff. 

But alas, this is not how it works. This part of us is pretty messed up, and we often wonder why it does what it does and how did it get this way? Excellent questions and I wish I had the answers. 

And since we will probably never get any , spending too much time lamenting this won’t do us much good. It just is what it is, and upon recognizing this dysfunction, we’re faced with a choice of whether we do something about it or continue to be its victim. Hopefully you’re opting for the former. 

It’s Not the Chatter, It’s The Emotion

As all of you may have noticed, that lovely voice in your head NEVER stops going. It’s constant, whether it’s narrating your current situation, wondering whether you turned off the coffeemaker, having an imaginary fight with your ex, rehearsing what you’d say if you ran into the friend you recently stopped talking to, re-imagining an argument where you’re armed with all the witty retorts that eluded you at the time,  listing all the reasons why you probably can’t have the thing you want, what could go wrong with your sales presentation, how you’re a horrible failure because you can’t lose weight, or reliving a humiliating moment from high school from which you never fully recovered. 

Talk about torture. From an energy perspective, you see how this tendency can make it hard to really change your vibe in significant ways, how it can keep you stuck in all sorts of energies that will keep you stuck in whatever unwanted situations in which you find yourself now. 

Thinking we need to somehow shut this down permanently or it will continue to mess with us…even more torture because we see we kind of can’t. And this means we’ll continue to be miserable and we’ll never get what we want because we can’t change our energy and focus in the way we know we need to change them to manifest a different reality. 

Well, the good news is, you don’t have to find a way to stop this, you just need to stop getting emotionally invested in what it’s saying, you have to stop believing these things are true, you MUST stop fighting for all these shitty-feeling thoughts and beliefs based on your past and current circumstances–we do that more than we know and it’s pure insanity through and through. 

The emotional charge is the problem from an energetic perspective because that is what determines the make-up of your energy, that is what comprises the ‘signature’ you’re sending out into the world that’s determining what’s showing up and what’s not. 

You must be willing to accept your mind has no clue about anything, how little it understands about energy and how the world works, how little it understands about you and what you’re capable of . 

You have to understand the core energy from which it operates is deep, deep, deep, deep fear of pretty much everything. It’s addicted to your pain, it’s addicted to finding problems and will turn anything into one the first opportunity it gets.

It wants you to be in pain, it wants you to be neurotic because this is how it controls you, how it keeps you loyal to its various messed-up agendas. 

Don’t worry though, as you make certain shifts in your thinking and perspectives, purge and heal emotionally, you’ll stop thinking and feeling many of the things you do now. It’s not about accepting your mind will always be operating at a 12 out of 10 and you just have to find a way to deal with it. There can, and will be, significant relief. 

The point is, as a human this part of you isn’t going anywhere, and you want to find a way to not let it rule you like it does; you want to change your relationship to this part of yourself–you need to be the boss of it so it’s no longer the boss of you. 

Your Mind’s a Mess

Our mind is very good at convincing us all the shitty stuff it believes is absolute fact, and no matter how painful it might be, you don’t get to change your mind. This is just how it is and that’s that. 

And for most of us, for most of our lives, we bought into this. We fight fiercely for all our limitations in thinking, our fears and shitty perspectives about how the world works. 

You would think we would want to question such things given how terrible they make us feel, but the mind is very good at what it does. It is very good at helping you forget the energy came first, and then the manifestations, both on an individual and collective level. It then points to all these things as ‘proof’ what it believes is obviously true. 

It doesn’t care about being happy, it just cares about being right. Your mind doesn’t give two shits about your emotional well-being, it couldn’t care less if you ever deal with the pain, the traumas or anything like that. 

And like I mentioned earlier, all this ‘ick’ helps control you and keep you listening to it. It wants you to feel badly about yourself, it wants you to be scared, it wants you to see the world as a hostile place.

So not only does it have no use for your happiness and well-being, it is a direct threat to its very existence. Just like you would probably do anything to survive if you felt your life was in true danger, your mind will fight just as hard with all that chatter, with trying to make you feel separate, keeping up those walls, keeping you in a literal constant state of fear. 

So, once we get a better understanding of how it works, we come to understand….

We Have to Make Some Choices

So, you now have a better understanding of the depth of the dysfunction ,and why your mind operates this way, you are faced with one core choice you will need to make over and over again, not just once–do I keep listening to it or do I stop and start operating from a different space, one filled with self-love, faith and trust? 

And then there’s all sorts of other choices you will be called upon to make, again, over and over most likely, as your mind will be very good at pulling you back into habitual patterns of thought, feeling and behavior. 

This is true even among the most ‘advanced’ people. Your mind’s dysfunction will thwart you in countless ways, but only if you let it, only if you let it keep dictating how you move through the world. 

You’ll have to decide if your feelings and intuition are a valid means of evaluating what is true and untrue. The stuff that feels good–you’re a powerful creator who is whole, perfect and complete as you are,  the Universe supports us–is true. The stuff that feels badly–life is random and meaningless, you can’t rise above your past–isn’t.

This is really all you have to go off of when you think about it–you can’t keep trying to do this work from the level of the mind, keep looking for rational, logical explanations before accepting these ideas.

Changing your reality by way of changing your energy will be very hard if you remain locked into your mind and doing things its way–it will be virtually impossible to make these inner shifts because it won’t allow for them. And if your energy doesn’t change significantly, neither can your reality–this is a simple fact you won’t ever be able to find a work around for. 

Here are some of those choices: 

Do I do the things that will get me where I need to be, or do I let my fear keep me stuck? 

Do I make the changes and decisions required of me to see the things I want to see in my life, or do I continue to see the discomfort they may cause as a valid excuse not to make them? 

Do I start being the person who is the match to the money, the relationships, the successful business, the opportunities and all that other stuff I want or do I stay exactly the same, taking a totally passive role in this whole process, hoping the Universe will swoop in and fix everything for me? 

Do I deal with my emotional shit that is dominating my vibration or do I keep suppressing it because it’s scary, and according to my mind, that’s a perfectly valid reason not to? 

Do I see all my experience as neutral feedback and learn from it, or do I huff and puff I don’t like what’s happening and I get to feel badly until something changes? 

Do I let myself get mad about every little thing I don’t like, or do I gain some perspective and realize most stuff is not actually worth getting upset about? 

Do I just keep trying to attract what I don’t have because then I won’t have to deal with my feelings or do I actually focus on true inner transformation? 

Do I embrace challenges and unwanted circumstances as an opportunity for growth ,and positive change, or do I maintain a constant state of resistance and lamenting ‘what is?’

Do I choose to look beyond my unwanted circumstances to what I would rather see instead, or do I use them as justification for my negative feelings and beliefs? 

Do I keep insisting my mind knows best what I want or can I concede it has no idea what would actually make me happy? 

Do I insist on attaching to specific representations of my manifestations or do I remain open to all possibilities? 

These are not easy choices to make. Our conditioning runs deep. There’s a part of us that believes our mind may be ‘right’ about everything and we’re afraid to abandon it for perspectives and ways of being that are unfamiliar, of which we may not have much ‘proof’ of them being ‘right.’ But this is where that emotional guidance system comes in, this is where the faith and trust comes in. 

If your life doesn’t look like you want it, if there are elements of your being that aren’t ideal and get in the way of your happiness and well-being, something needs to change and that can be uncomfortable. 

There is some effort involved in making these inner shifts–these things feel hard and uncomfortable and to the mind, that’s a perfectly valid reason not to do something but it’s really not.

Your mind doesn’t have to rule you. But you’ll have to consciously participate in the process of breaking free…it’s really not so bad and isn’t as hard as it probably seems. 

But the first step is making a true ‘commitment’ to doing so, and once this happens, you’ll see all sorts of changes that will motivate you to keep doing it, you’ll manifest any help you need; and before you know it, you’ll be a whole different person. Just accept it will be uncomfortable at times, and in doing that, this discomfort won’t stop you. 

‘Succeeding’ with all this will always come down to conscious choice. Your mind can only keep messing with you if you let it…you’ve got all the power. 

Your Turn

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? How do you deal with the mind? Looking forward to your comments as always.