Do You Sometimes Curse the Day You Learned About the Law of Attraction?

Do you sometimes feel that actually learning about the law of attraction has complicated your efforts to improve your life? Do you rue the day you were introduced to the idea of conscious creation? Do you think in this case, knowledge isn’t really power?

If so, you’re not alone. Actually learning how we create our reality can create a lot of anxiety about our negative thoughts and feelings.

Actually letting ourselves want things we may have never thought possible, and then fearing we won’t get them, can sting. It can sting a lot more than trudging along in a life we don’t like, thinking there really isn’t anything we can do about it.

Knowing we are responsible for everything that comes into our reality, in the sense our vibration made us a match to it somehow, is great because it means we can exert greater control over our experience by being more deliberate about our focus.

But this can quickly slide into self-blame and beating ourselves up for not being able to create the energy that will allow what we want into our experience. We just can’t seem to ‘get happy’ or shift the limiting beliefs that we know are standing in the way.

We get mad at ourselves for having created the various circumstances that have caused us so much unhappiness throughout our life, and wish we would have known earlier the power we have.

Oh how differently things would have turned out. How much sooner we could have had the things we wanted. How much suffering we could have avoided.

And all of that feels really shitty, compounding the negative thoughts and feelings, giving them even more pull.

Waking up and coming out of that fog is awesome, but at the same time, can certainly be disconcerting. And it’s understandable that a person could feel this way.

You are shifting to a whole new paradigm. You are doing a complete overhaul of your belief system, self-image and how you move through the world.

There will probably be some growing pains. You won’t master this immediately. You probably won’t master it ever, actually. And making peace with that will benefit you tremendously in conscious creation.

You likely have some misconceptions about how the law of attraction actually works , and boy does that complicate things for people, and is a primary cause of frustration.

But know that no matter how much you may feel this way, knowing your true power, and how our reality is really created, can never, never, a million times, never, be a bad thing.

And on that note, let’s discuss a few things that may help you re-establish your enthusiasm for awakening to your true power and the ability to create your reality just to your liking…

Are You Trying to Intellectualize an Emotional Process?

If you are like many people, you are trying to use your mind to accomplish something that requires emotion. You can’t think your way to a new reality. It is very easy to think certain thoughts and get the LOA in theory, but it’s not enough. You have to feel your way to it.

Obviously our conscious mind plays a role. It is your conscious mind that is thinking all day long, and we want to work on thinking thoughts that are conducive to what we want. Our conscious mind is what is observing the world around us, and helping us decide what we like and don’t like.

Our mind is not some total enemy we must eliminate. It serves us well in many ways, and we need it.

But, our reliance on using our mind can really get in the way of consciously creating our reality in a variety of ways.

First and foremost, we have this need to make the law of attraction make sense logically, and we can’t do that. Logically it doesn’t make sense. But logic is not the end all be all for drawing conclusions about what is real or feasible.

There are things we can’t even come close to fully understanding, given our limited human perspective, and it is a good idea to make peace with that. Just give this law of attraction thing a serious try and see what your experience shows you. I imagine you have already manifested enough ‘proof’ to keep you interested if you’re reading a blog like this.

Work on changing your thoughts, beliefs and most importantly, your feelings, and see what happens. A whole lot will happen, and how it is happening is not something that can really be explained in the way we want it explained to us.

But, the main issue with this whole intellect vs. emotion thing is our obsession with what we need to ‘do’ to make the law of attraction ‘work.’

There is nothing you can do to make it work. The law of attraction just is. It is always working, we just weren’t aware before,and we weren’t creating consciously.

Our mind is all about action and strategies, and as such, we can get very fixated on techniques and tools. We jump from program to program, hoping to finally find the thing that will ‘work’ for us and magically change our life.

We lament we have tried everything and nothing has changed. But, the reason nothing has changed is because you have not changed in any significant way.

That ‘work’ is just a means to an end. It is a way to change your focus, evoke positive emotion and help you shift limiting beliefs. So it is very, very useful, but in and of itself, it can do nothing.

Again the law of attraction is a way of explaining how our reality is created, it is not some ‘tool’ you can use. Visualizing is not the law of attraction. Vision boards are not the law of attraction.

In and of itself, any action you take, will do nothing to change your reality in the way you truly want it to change, if your inner world is not shifting in any real way.

So how are you feeling? How are you really feeling? Are you avoiding your emotions? Are you not letting yourself do the things that will actually make you feel better because they seem indulgent, frivolous or make you seem ‘lazy?’

Are you just going through the motions with all your tools, thinking that is what is creating, not paying attention to whether they are actually making you feel any differently?

Are you listening to your intuition and heeding it? Are you giving your feelings a say when it comes to making decisions or are you still totally relying on what your mind is telling you, no matter how wrong it feels?

You’re Not as Fucked Up as You Think and Changing Isn’t as Hard as It Seems

One of the core teachings of the law of attraction is discovering the blocks you have to what you want so you can clear them out, and let the things you want come to you. This can really create a lot of anxiety for people.

First, you discover you may have a lot of beliefs that don’t serve you, fears, doubts and other types of resistance. And this freaks you out big time because you worry that you’ll never be able to change all of it.

We all have our shit. We all have our weird beliefs and screwed-up self-image. We all have stuff that has happened to us that messed us up somehow, and we have had a hard time moving past.

All of the crap is deeply ingrained, it just seems so hard to shift, and you’re screwed. You try and try and try to shift with your variety of tools and it’s just not working. And this frustration just adds fuel to the fire. You continue to manifest things that mirror back all the crap to you, and you feel trapped.

Here’s the thing. Yes, shifting our limiting beliefs and feelings that are holding us back can certainly be challenging. We have a lot of momentum behind them and just getting the LOA in theory won’t be enough to just drop it all.

That is why I always stress that it’s okay to be struggling a bit, that it’s okay to not be perfect at this.

But, with that being said, it really isn’t as hard as we make it out to be. Shifting limiting beliefs has been turned into this monumental task that frustrates people to no end, and many people end up totally giving up, feeling it’s absolutely impossible.

In sounds overly simple, but the key to shifting limiting beliefs, the most powerful thing you can do is simply decide not to believe them anymore. No, this doesn’t mean you will totally just stop believing it right that second.

But that’s not necessary to start the shift. It’s not necessary to start adopting the beliefs that will serve you better. It is never necessary for anything we don’t like to completely go away to start seeing improvements in our life and to start manifesting stuff that is more to our liking.

Making a firm decision to do that creates a shift that can really get things moving in the right direction. In that moment you begin to weaken that belief. In that moment, you make room for experiences to come to you that will help you reinforce the beliefs you want instead.

Sure, we slow things down with our resistance, but it is what it is, and things can still be awesome.

We overthink this law of attraction thing way too much. We obsess over all the negativity, our ‘imperfections’ our thoughts and feelings.

You’re Worrying about Hidden Beliefs

With all this talk about your beliefs shaping your reality, it is easy to start worrying you have a whole slew of limiting beliefs hidden in the deep recesses of your mind that will never make themselves known, that will continue to ‘fuck up your shit.’…loving that phrase lately.

And because you’ll never discover them, you’ll never get what you want because you can’t change what you don’t know exists. And how terrible does that feel?

Do you have beliefs that you are not aware of? Absolutely. Does this mean you in fact you may be screwed completely when it comes to manifesting certain things? Absolutely not.

Most of the beliefs that really stand in our way are pretty obvious and can easily be teased out the moment you start thinking about what you want, and it feels badly.

These are the beliefs that were formed from major life experiences that messed you up in some way, and are clear as day. Your abusive father telling you that you were worthless. Your string of bad relationships making you worry you can’t ever find a good relationship. Your struggling with money your whole life making you believe it’s not possible for you to be financially prosperous.

These are the cultural/ global beliefs that we have all been programmed with to some degree, such as ‘no pain no gain,’ ‘money is the root of all evil,’ ‘when things are going too good, something ‘bad’ has to happen to even things out’ ‘suffering and hard work make you worthy of getting what you want’….the list could go on and on.

Now it is possible there are things you may not realize that could be holding you back, but eventually they will make themselves known.

These types of beliefs are not responsible for totally keeping us from manifesting something, but keeping us from manifesting at our peak potential, keeping us from leveling up.

For example, you may have luck manifesting a nice office job after working minimum wage all your life, but then deeper issues of worthiness and deserving may be at play when it comes to getting a business off the ground that has the potential to be very lucrative, and allow you to make in one month what you may have been making yearly.

Again, they will make themselves known and it will be okay.

Give Yourself Permission to Be Happy Now and Stop Making Everything You Want So Precious

No matter what you want, at the core you just want to be happy. And nothing needs to change for you to start feeling better now. I know your mind will fight you on that.

And I want to make it clear I don’t mean finding a way to be happy about things that suck. It’s okay to not like certain things and to want something better.

But if you are not giving yourself permission to feel better now, you will have a very hard time manifesting what you want.

If you are not willing to adopt perspectives on your life now that genuinely make you feel better, or cultivate genuine appreciation for what is good now (no matter how small it is) it will be hard to embody the energy that will make you a match for things that will make you happy, and give you all the warm, fuzzy feelings you so crave.

Not sure if I ever mentioned this before, but know that no matter what you want, you are after a feeling (That was said with a heavy dose of sarcasm for those of you that may be new to this blog, because I mention this constantly.)

You may not feel great all the time; there will be time when ‘what is’ will grab your attention and you’ll lament it.

That’s fine…it happens to the best of us.

But there has to be that conscious choice to focus on what you want instead of what you don’t. You have to let yourself do things that will actually make you feel better…remember what I said earlier about our emotional state being key.

You have to be willing to put your happiness and well-being at the top of your list of priorities…you’ll have to be a bit ‘selfish.’

I know that scares people but it will be really hard to manifest the life you want if you don’t place a high value on your own happiness.

You also have to be willing to lighten up a bit as far as your desired manifestations go. Stop making everything you want so precious.

It is okay to want to manifest specific things, but you have to work on fighting your mind’s insistence you need these things to be happy, and you can’t possibly feel better without them.

That’s not true. There is absolutely nothing that is required for our happiness; there is nothing that can guarantee our happiness.

Happiness comes from choosing to be happy, not from things happening that make us happy. This is a lesson I think we are always learning to various degrees, no matter how ‘advanced’ we may be.

There are plenty of people who right now have all the things you want, that you are convinced are necessary for you to be happy…the great job, the money, the husband, the kids, the nice body,etc… that are not very happy at all.

Again, nothing wrong with wanting to manifest specific things, but really give some more thought to what you are really after. What do you want to feel? What energies do you want to experience more in your life? Which ones do you want to experience less? What could you do now to address all of this, no matter how small?

In Closing…

Okay…so that’s it for this post. I hope you enjoyed it. Again, it’s a good thing you know what you know now.

You just have to learn to navigate the world with this new knowledge without obsessing about every thought, feeling, belief and bad mood. Don’t over-analyze. Don’t take this ‘work’ too seriously. Have fun with it.

Know that you can have whatever it is you want, but it may take a bit to narrow down what that truly is. Know that while your resistance can complicate things, your life can still change relatively quickly. You can start letting in all sorts of great stuff.

Don’t be afraid of your negative emotion and let yourself feel it…that will be the quickest way to weakening it.

Learn to enjoy the journey more and don’t always be so focused on the end result. Find the good in your life now and appreciate the crap out of it.

Don’t be so attached to specific manifestations and know that by working on just feeling better now, you’ll attract all sorts of things that will mirror that back to you, and that is all you want anyway.

Your Turn…

What did you think of this post? Anything resonate with you in particular? Any tips you would give? Have you ever felt like this sometimes? Looking forward to your comments as always.

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