Law of Attraction: Why the Idea of Sacrifice May Be Mucking Up Your Manifesting

Today I am happy to bring you some law of attraction wisdom from my husband Ryan Biddulph. Got some good stuff here that will help you step more fully into your true manifesting power. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this and this is definitely his best post here at Life Made to Order

I’m embarrassed.

I feel like a bum.

I worked for about 3 hours today. Pathetic, right?

The old me would have spit in my face. Old me spitting on current day me.

The old me worked 8 to 15 hours a day sometimes. I was hellbent on sacrificing my pleasures and comforts and joys so I could make room for my pleasures and comforts and joys.

I even perverted the true definition of sacrifice:
“Sacrifice is releasing something of a lower nature to make room for something of a higher nature.” ~ Leland Val Van de Wal

Yeah, the old me was a dingbat. I created from a space of tension. I networked from a place of resistance. I let go the good feeling, enjoyable activities of watching TV, lazing in bed and spending time at the park to strain and strive and push and force my way to the top.

That didn’t work too well.

Breakdown

Since you’re all fabulous manifesting machines after heeding Kelli’s advice you know what happened next: breakdown. Or, breakdowns. I CHOSE to stop feeling good because I BELIEVED that I should let go good-feeling activities to make room for the less good-feeling, tension-filled, uncomfortable activities.

Almost like I’d be rewarded after I punished myself. But the punishment never really ended. I appeared to peak then I’d break down. Because tension attracts tension.

Resistance builds, attracting more resistance until the Biddulph Bomb detonated.
As I dove into marathon late-night networking sessions I created a force field around my being.

Same force field creating resistance which didn’t allow my goodness in. I wore my Stupid Sacrifice as a badge. Pride did me in. So did a perverted definition of sacrifice.

The Silly Definition of Sacrifice Screwing Up Your Manifesting Mojo

Letting go good-feeling actions to move into bad-feeling actions.
Bad-feeling actions align you with crummy circumstances. Again and again.

My Turning Point

Well, after I broke down for like the umpteenth time I finally smartened up. But I had to make the biggest/only/most dang uncomfortable sacrifice of my life to make the shift. This is the prime sacrifice that any law of attraction manifestor need make.

Honestly. But it ain’t always pretty.

The Law of Attraction Application of Sacrifice

My sacrifice (and yours): I had to sacrifice doing for being.

I had to let go the idea that my doing had significance. It does not. We let everything in. Whether we do nothing, or whether we act from a playful space. I had to let go the idea of inspired action masquerading as desperate, “A + B = C” actions.

You know damn well what I’m talking about. The idea that we NEED (resistance/repelling/blocks) to take certain steps to manifest something.

You don’t.

You are C. A + B are mind games, stories, stuff to keep your silly little ego amused. But when you sacrifice doing for being, you become C. You are whole and complete. You are everything. You allow. You let it in. “It” meaning all the delicious stuff you’re attracting now.

The Mind Bending Part

By just being, from a relaxed, chill, detached space, you note all that you have, and everything you want feels like extra. Kinda like the feeling after eating a big old spaghetti dinner. You feel full. Satiated. All is good in the world. You need nothing else.

Everything is just a bonus. An extra. So the actions, or the doings, they become extras too….but sacrificing the doing is the step to take to put your manifesting mojo into overdrive.

This has been an enlightening -at -times, hellishly- maddening -at- times- and- mind warping -journey for me. This law of attraction sacrifice bit. I felt letting go what I loved doing for hard work was sacrificing, and now I’m learning that letting go any work that is NOT light and detached and playful is the truthful definition of sacrifice.

Blogging Example

I busted my ass for weeks to boost my blog subscriber count. I was in doing mode. Not being mode. My days were largely filled with tension, force-filled feelings and a general noticing of what I didn’t have: enough blog subscribers, or at least what I considered enough.

After a particularly vicious mental breakdown I licked my wounds for a few days. Then I decided to sacrifice doing for being. I felt largely detached. I felt grateful for the moment. I needed nothing extra.

I felt that any amount of subscribers was a bonus. I felt like having access to the internet was a bonus. Feeling good, just being, without doing a damn thing, I felt an intuitive pull.

I didn’t need to take this action but I felt it’d be fun to drop $20, to buy a snazzy pop up form widget, to jazz up that pop up form, and to take a few days off from blogging. So I did that, feeling light and playful, and not caring if I got the form to work how I wanted it to work. Did it for the joy of it.

After playful tinkering I set it up. Felt good about it. But I didn’t need it.

Then the playful thought hit me:
“Wouldn’t it be fun to write in-depth, helpful comments on a top ranked blog each day for 2 weeks?”

I didn’t need to do this. I sacrificed the doing. My being did it all. My existence gives me divine license to allow everything in.

And I do mean everything. I just wrote the comments for shitz and giggles. Spent 30 minutes a day “working” or “detaching doing” but it was really playing, then I hung out and napped and prepared for an upcoming trip.

Two weeks later I added a boatload of new subscribers, when the prior month saw me hovering around the same count pretty much constantly. I attracted these new subs because I sacrificed.

It was pretty ugly. Pretty difficult. I slept in until 10 AM each day. I worked for 30 minutes versus 6 to 8 hours daily. I paid $20 for a pop up form……and I……gasp….only worked from a playful, detached, light space.

When you sacrifice doing for being, miracles will happen.

When You Give it Up You Let Your Joy in

Giving up the need to work hard, to work long, to force, to manipulate, and to impose your will on a Universe which laughs at your puny ego allows your joy in. Like, you’re better off doing detached, joy-filled stuff because doing this stuff helps you to just be. In the moment. Versus doing stuff from a resistant, goodness-blocking, space.

Watch the fun TV show. Breathe deeply. Relax. Be in the moment. Just…..being. Being regularly allows in your joy. You’ll likely attract playful ideas too. Stuff you’ll do for shitz and giggles. Not for money. Not for doing. Not for some outcome. Not because A + B = C. Nope. You’re being. You’re C. A + B is for tension-filled, Monkey Minds.

Do me a favor. Kick your mind between the thoughts. Serves it right. Just….be. Breathe deeply, relax, and return to the moment. That’s where all of your manifesting power is. No doing in the moment, just being. And when you’re being, damn will you become a manifesting machine.

Why the Heck Don’t More People Make this Simple Sacrifice?

Because letting go Doing is terrifying.

It’s safer and easier to cling to the other definition of sacrifice. This other definition of giving up feeling good to bust your ass gives you the excuse to bury your demons in a fury of busy-ness. Sure you’re miserable, but at least you’re comfortable. In truth, the widely-held idea of sacrifice lets you off the hook.

I spent one morning a few weeks back in a state of madness, it seemed. During my morning meditation session Kelli moved beside me, unintentionally scaring me. I felt terrified, then burst out in tears, crying my eyes out.

Instead of burying my scared, vulnerable energies, I allowed them to be. Because I was being. Not doing.

When you cease running around like a chicken with your head cut off you will allow stuff to arise from within your being.

(This is code for, “You may go bat shit or ape shit for seconds or minutes”.)

This is a blessing though. Regularly clearing these energies allows your goodness in. Regularly clearing these energies transforms you into a grateful, more detached, present, relaxed, manifesting machine.

My sacrifice has been a terrible blow to my ego. I felt worthless, like a pile of crap, totally lifeless at times, because I had based most of my self worth on doing, on outworking folks and on straining and striving my way to the top.

Oops. Turns out, by being more and doing less, and by doing from a relaxed, detached, playful space when I decide to do, I get to see my mental problems, my lack of trust, my delusions of grandeur, my manias, up close and personal. That’s the rub.

But here’s the fun part: I also get to manifest some ridiculously neat stuff from this “I am whole and complete without doing a damn thing”, being, space, and I relax and sleep in and I care less and less about outcomes and remain more present each day.

My creativity has skyrocketed and I’m not even trying!

I need less each day. I see more. I feel more grateful. I find myself being mentioned as a top blogger from the blogging niche, which I find as lunacy, but I guess I have pulled the wool over enough folk’s eyes.

Practical Tips for Making this Sacrifice

If you are like Old Me, and if you are like Current Day Me when I trip you, you become a *Doing Monster* too easily. Hey, I become an *Achieving A-Hole* sometimes, even these days.

The mind races. Ego calls the shots. I find myself trying to get stuff done. Or doing to get. Versus doing for the joy of doing. Or detached doing.

Here’s what I do: breathe deeply and relax my body.

Breathing deeply returns me to the moment. Ok good. Then I relax my body. What happens next is fascinating: I feel tension in certain areas of my body. I feel tension in my mind. I feel nervous or excited feelings.

I hear tense thoughts barking orders at me, courtesy of my ego. I take a few more deep breaths. I ease into the resistance. After feeling the resistant energies, the energies disappear.

I am back to being. In the present. Feeling light, and fun, and airy, I am once more whole and complete, and detached, a manifesting machine.

Sacrificing may be the most relaxing, chill thing you ever do.

Your Turn

How do you see sacrifice? Are you willing to sacrifice doing for being?

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