In theory, learning about the law of attraction should mean your life instantly getting better, and it being smooth sailing from here on out. And things can start improving quite quickly.
But, because we have all sorts of resistance in the form of limiting beliefs, fears, doubts, skepticism, deeply ingrained behaviors that don’t serve us, and all that other fun stuff, becoming a match to what we want, and more fully embodying a ‘higher’ vibration, means working through all of that.
And as such, a lot of things can start happening that we may not have expected, that we don’t understand, and what have you–and it freaks us out. But it’s all good.
So I hope you enjoy this podcast and I would appreciate if anyone with iTunes could leave me a review here.
Also, I have a new post up at Huffington Post about the most beloved LOA topic of all…money! Check it out
If you want to learn more about law of attraction, you can also find my Making Sense of the Law of Attraction series on Amazon. If you are a Kindle Unlimited member, they are free…sweet. And if you aren’t, no worries..they are super-cheap!
Wow, this was the podcast for me. You really addressed a lot of my concerns from my last email.
The point you made about the control we have, not lying in how things happen but whether or not we get attached to the hows or the outcomes really resonated with me. Because I’m guilty of this. Without realizing or thinking I was doing it. I realized a few days ago I’ve gotta let that all go. I realized it’s not my job to figure out the hows. I’ve taken the approach now that it’s not any of my business how I’m going to get these things I want. It’s not my job, it belongs to the universe. And I need to get out of the way. That feels really good!
I tapped into the relief of feeling that the things in my life that bother me may just go away on their own without me having to do anything. And that felt really good too. It was nice to hear you mention that, because that hit me several days ago as well.
Every point you made was helpful and informative to how I was feeling last week. After I wrote you, within 24 hours my energy completely did a 180. It was amazing. I’m back on track again for now.
Thank you Kelli!
Hey Corin
So glad you enjoyed it. I am glad that resonated with you because I think that is something we may not realize at first, and it is a pretty big distinction that once understood can help things go much more smoothly. Like you said, we don’t always realize what we are doing, but the good thing is, we always figure it out eventually and it is always a relief. It is better to realize we really werent’ aligned as well as we thought than thinking we are doing everything ‘right’ and nothing is happening, that there is some hidden belief screwing with us.
Happy to have come across your detailed LoA website, I`m an avid student of spiritual laws for over 20yrs now, always growing and learning daily, love it all. Love that new and exciting gifts come quicker, the more I allow and offer no resistance. True test coming up right now, I`ve bought a ticket from home lottery here in OZ where I live (I`m British) and emigrated twice now, so I`m really being very careful with my expectations on this now, but massive part of me doubting I can win this big prize of a beautiful new home. Any idea`s on helping me relax in to the feeling of already winning this house?
Hey Deb
I am glad you are enjoying the blog. Unfortunately there is nothing I can tell you that can guarantee you will win that house because that is just one channel through which the house can come;and while we can control our experience by directing our focus on what we want–which are ultimately feelings, and that is why the advice of feeling good now is so oft repeated–we can’t control HOW that happens. By focusing all your energy on winning this lottery, you are trying to control how you will get a house. What does the house represent to you? What feelings are you after in wanting a house? How can you get into that energy now? Do that and that house will come, whether through winning this lottery or another means.
Hey dear Kelly, 🙂
When You said that when we begin to transform something inside….the universe will put us in situations that will trigger those things, feelings we would like to change….like testing us how far we have reached …I agree with that.
In another podcast You have said also that we should stop doing the things that we are aware of having bad influence of our energy …like : stop whatching the news ,certainly tv show etc. I personally have done those things before I have hear them here. So yes I agree totally with that as well.
Here I would to ask though ….one of the things I mostly would like to achieve is INDIFERENCE towards a “toxic ex” who have hurted me a lot and I still have trouble forgetting and healing the wound he made.
I have no contact to him , but the problem is take a look at his profile. And every time i see something new happening to him and his new girlfriend my heart hurts. Totally stupid what I’m doing right?
But somehow something is pushing me inside to do this…like…..when I see something there that upsets me it’s like it triggers the pain and the anger created by him so I can manage and process them….and in a certain moment to bring me to a state where I do not care anymore….it’s like I’m putting myself alone in that situation so to manage those feelings and reach indifference….or is just my fantasy playing here?
On the other hand as You have said we should avoid doing things that make us feel bad and I agree.
Here is where I become confused …..I really really want to heal myself from all that bitterness and anger and just not to be interested about him.
Kind regards,
Sandy
The end of relationships can cause a lot of pain understandably–we look to them to solve basically every emotional wound and need we have– and if you are willing to really let yourself feel it, you will move closer to this state of ‘indifference.’ The reason it feels so hard now is because you are basically feeling the exact opposite and leaping from one end of the spectrum to the other usually means dealing with some ‘stuff’. It is important to engage and acknowledge our resistance and negative emotion when we feel it, but that doesn’t mean purposely doing things that make you feel badly as some way to ‘evoke’ it, like looking at his social media accounts. I would highly recommend you stop doing that…not going to be helpful. The reason you feel so compelled to do this is because our mind is basically addicted to pain and will encourage us to do things that feed this need for it. You are also likely telling a story about him and this relationship that feels painful, that makes you feel victimized in some way. Change that story and those feelings will automatically change.
I have heard that our human nature is more negative then positive unfortunately…..but that our mind is ADDICTED to pain is something new…very uncomfortable , but at the same time helpful to know this. 🙂
Yes exactly ….i am aware that i’m still bounded to him in a negative way….i still feel the anger , the resentment.. and because i have learned from here we should acknowledge and process the negative emotions from the past and not suppressing them my mind is like : okay….keep looking, keep triggering the negative emotions inside you till they are gone and you are tired of them.
I thought that when at some point i get totally exhausted and disgusted i will reach the indifference……
A problematic thought that is coming to my mind is that … if i stop looking and then suddenly at any point in the future ( a year later ) i see something and that causes me pain…i am afraid that will make me feel totally desperate because that would mean that after so long i still have those toxic emotions….and i don’t want wasting my life and energy for someone who doesn’t deserve it…..
So if LET myself, give me the PERMISSION to feel the indifference i will in any moment really start feeling it?
I am leaping from one end of the spectrum to the other because maybe i have some resistance that prevent me from feeling indifferent?
And i should change my point of view about all the story like instead of feeling victim , to see it as a lesson?
Thank you a lot for the answer and for your opinion…it was very helpful.
Kind regards,
Sandy