How can I change my energy when thoughts are uncontrollable? How can I feel better when I have no dominance over my them? Thinking positive has never helped. I’m not sure what to do about my racing mind.
Learning about something like the law of attraction and conscious creation can literally be life-changing–you’ve now been informed the core element influencing your life is something under your ‘control’ for lack of a better word.
You discover all you desire is truly possible; you come to understand there is no reason to struggle with the many things with which we struggle. You can improve your health, you can turn your finances around, you can make money and do something you love at the same time, you can find a relationship, you can lose the weight.
You discover the Universe is this amazing co-creator that can help line things up for us, that can assist us, that can help us accomplish things we never could simply through our own efforts or left up to our own devices.
The ‘catch’ will all of this though is we are going to have to make some changes, sometimes really big changes in ourselves and in our lives. No longer being held hostage by our mind, and letting its ill-informed views dominate our life is one of them.
If our inner world is the level of ‘cause’ and setting the stage for what’s happening outside, we have to make sure what’s going on there is conducive to these changes we desire. We have to be sure we are in a position to receive them. We have to make sure the energetic ‘signature’ we are emitting (at least most of the time) lends itself to receiving these things, not repelling them.
This ‘work’ often creates a lot of tension within us because we get so focused on attracting what we don’t have. We anxiously try to monitor our thoughts and feelings, not for the sake of feeling better (that would be pure insanity I know) but just to get something, just to change the outside. And this sets us up for a lot of unnecessary emotional ‘ick.’
For many of us, it isn’t until we take this foray into the world of conscious creation, that we become aware of our belief system, of how we focus our attention most of the time, of how we truly see ourselves, of what we believe is possible, of what we believe about how the world works.
And a lot of it ain’t good…we are going to need to make some serious tweaks. This is okay though…this is the situation that pretty much all of us are facing. Unless you were raised in an environment where you were conditioned with these perspectives from a young age, you picked up a whole lot of shit programming that probably created all sorts of undesirable situations, that kept you from manifesting the myriad circumstances you would have preferred.
Our mind is a real motherfucker and when you really tune into what it’s doing, when you start to realize that little voice in your head never stops talking, it can feel like quite the formidable foe.
The idea of now having to ‘control’ this thing that’s been controlling you your whole life can seem like quite the tall order. This will kind of never happen but that’s okay because that isn’t necessary. We literally have 10s of thousands of thoughts a day–the idea we can control every one…good luck with that.
Don’t get me wrong though…as you do this work, as you truly begin to adopt certain perspectives as your own, you will likely stop thinking certain things altogether. You will change your general frame of mind.
But overall, you will probably still have thoughts that bother you, you will have moments when you feel fearful or doubtful about something. Things will happen that unearth feelings you didn’t realize you felt, beliefs you didn’t know you believed. There will always be some ‘stuff’ floating around.
So, the primary goal will be changing your relationship to these thoughts, this part of your mind that seems hell-bent on torturing us.
Emotionally Divesting
The only reason our ‘negative’ thoughts are a problem is because they produce ‘negative’ emotion. There is a ‘charge’ to them that affects the energy we are putting out into the world. This obviously means this is going to impact what our life looks like, what shows up and what doesn’t.
The only reason we are bothered by negative thoughts is because they make us feel badly and we obviously don’t like to feel badly.
And once we get wind of something like the law of attraction, we feel even worse because we are now aware of the impact of our thoughts and feelings, which further amplifies the deep fear we may never get what we want and all the negative feelings we are banking on the manifestation to take away.
The only reason this ‘charge’ exists is because we believe the thought is true. The more you learn about the true nature of reality, who you really are and all that jazz, the more we see these ways of thinking are not valid.
The key here though is trusting the intuitive resonance you feel with this information, that feeling in your heart you are stumbling upon some sort of ‘truth.’ This is a necessary ingredient.
That is all we have to go on for the most part–that is why faith and trust is such an important part of this work. There are no logical, rational explanations that you can seek out to ‘justify’ thinking and feeling this way, that it is ‘right.’
So if that is the case, then we see all these negative ways of looking at things, all the fears, all those limitations in thinking that feels badly–that obviously can’t be true.
It’s really that simple…it just might not always be so easy to put into practice. It takes a bit of effort especially in the beginning. Here’s the thing…this work isn’t inherently hard, but our conditioning does make it feel challenging at times.
If we want to use that as an excuse not to do it, it’s fine but we have to accept the consequences of that–we won’t change which means our life won’t in any real way, unless of course we take a shit ton of painful action to try and force certain results. But there are no guarantees there, that’s for damn sure. So just suck it up and do the ‘work.’ It’s worth it.
So, the first step in dealing with all that ‘chatter’ is not getting emotionally invested. This reduces the ‘effect’ it will have on your circumstances because that emotional component becomes weaker.
When you find yourself getting really worked up about something, finding yourself thinking in a way that doesn’t serve you, you just have to remind yourself your mind doesn’t know what it’s talking about, it is misleading you.
Don’t get invested emotionally. Some visualization may help here: imagine the thought melting away, turning to dust, turning down the volume until it goes mute…whatever floats your boat.
The less emotional charge, the less impact it will have on your energy. The less these thoughts will interfere with any ‘work’ you are doing on cultivating positive emotion and shifting perspective, changing beliefs. And as your energy shifts more to the ‘positive’ end of the spectrum, you’ll manifest stuff that reflects it back to you.
And with this ‘proof’ these ways of thinking have some validity, you automatically see the old ways don’t and it gets easier and easier to release these ways of thinking. And even when you have moments you are thinking this way, you know these thoughts aren’t true; and again, lacking your belief in them, you don’t have an emotional response. They pass eventually.
There has to be a real, true willingness to entertain all these new perspectives and beliefs with which you are being presented–if most of us are honest, we really aren’t doing that. We still believe all the stuff our mind tells us, we don’t make any real effort to redirect our thoughts.
Like I mentioned before, it feels too ‘hard’ to do this so we basically don’t. Don’t let your mind keep convincing you this is a valid reason to not try…it believes this to be 100 percent, and then we believe it.
Living in the Present Moment
One of the best ‘defenses’ against a racing mind full of unhelpful thoughts is trying to be more in the present moment. In the ‘now’ most things are usually fine. If there is a problem, you deal with it in whatever ways you need to, both practically and emotionally. It’s hard to ‘deal’ with things that are just projections in the mind, that actually haven’t happened.
So, if things are usually just peachy in the ‘now,’ all our mental ‘ick’ is stemming from thinking about the past and future in ways that serve no positive purpose.
We are lamenting and regretting all sorts of experiences that can’t ‘unhappen.’. We waste precious time and energy questioning decisions that have already been made, and resulting outcomes that can’t be changed.
We are worrying about all sorts of things that may never happen. We are worrying how we will handle things we know for sure are going to happen, and dreading the moment they finally do, making all sorts of assumptions about what will transpire.
The mind loses all its power in the ‘now’ which is why it doesn’t want you to stay there; but if you’re diligent about making this effort, you would be amazed at the difference in how you feel, how much of the racing thoughts you can basically shut down–they may still be there, but sound like more of whisper rather something that is screaming in your face.
The second challenge is most of our ‘nows’ are kind of mundane–checking email at work, doing the dishes, feeding your kids, cleaning the house, doing laundry, showering, waiting on line at the store. That’s life.
But those moments when you are truly immersed in the present–they feel oh so good and it’s worth the effort to try and give your full attention in these moments.
And when your ‘now’ is something more substantial, something that is really producing positive feelings, lean into that shit as best you can.
It might be things that feel good on a physical level like a massage, yoga, exercise or sex. It might be something that feels very enjoyable on an emotional level, like spending time with your niece whom you love more than anyone, watching a really funny comedy act, getting together with friends you haven’t seen in awhile, being in a beautiful natural setting.
The more you can be in the ‘now’ the more we start to see how many of our ‘problems’ really aren’t problems at all. We see how things–even if they aren’t ideal right now– probably aren’t as bad as our mind is making them out to be. We clean up the ‘filter’ through which we’re viewing our experience, and perspective is everything in this journey.
General Vibe Management
I talk about this a lot because it is so crucial to energy work and just personal growth work in general. The better we feel overall, the easier it is to deal with challenges. The better we feel overall, the less we get sucked into our mind’s bullshit. The better we feel overall, the more clearly we can see all these wonderful things we are being told are actually true.
The better you feel, the easier it is to do things that will keep you feeling better. You start to break up that momentum of ‘negativity’ that lends itself to bad choices and self-sabotaging behavior that keeps us stuck in the very circumstances we claim make us feel so badly, and want to change so desperately.
Since manifesting is all about what we are ‘being,’ that energy we are emitting 24/7, it becomes very clear how feeling better overall is very beneficial for ‘getting stuff.’
Everything you want is because you think it will make you feel better. All the inner work we do, all the effort we make at changing our mindset, getting a grip on our mental chatter and everything else–it’s because we want to feel better. That is all we are after at the end of the day.
And there are tons of things we can do now to help us achieve that goal–you can start getting what you want at any moment.
What can you do now to start feeling better? What changes do you need to make in your life? How can you best manage your negative feelings? Is it meditation? Exercise? Journaling? Making more time to do things you enjoy?
Do you need to subtract anything from your life? Negative people? Bad habits? Working too much?
What we ‘do’ externally to support a healthier internal environment is a very individual thing. We all have unique challenges. We respond differently to different tools, techniques, approaches, activities.
To best execute this ‘strategy’ of general vibe management , you need to start paying attention to what’s happening in your life, how different things are affecting you on an emotional level.
And with that feedback, you will start to see what you can do. And then actually do it–that should go without saying but far too many people don’t take that last crucial step.
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What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? What advice would you give about managing your mind?
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Hi Kelli, Very well written and thought provoking blog post .There is a saying “You Are Not What You Think You Are, But, What You Think, You Are”. Initially it is definitely difficult for me to believe that i will be attract what i think about most of the time but over a period of time it became very clear and evident. I was able to get away from negative thoughts by watching motivation videos and writing clear written daily goals.
Hello Sajan
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you enjoyed the post. Like you have experienced, once you are introduced to these perspectives and consider them carefully, you start noticing the truth of it in your own life. This makes it easier to embrace these ideas and release the ones not serving us because we see directly they aren’t true. Thank you for your tips on what worked for you. Taking in this information through whatever resources resonate most is so important because we need that repetition to really make the ideas take root more deeply, to ‘cancel out’ the contrary input we always seem to be receiving. I am also a fan of writing…there is something very powerful about that. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts!