Today I am answering a question that is probably on the mind of many a conscious creator. When we start paying more attention to our energy and thinking more deeply about teachings like the law of attraction, there can be a tendency to wonder how other people have managed to manifest what they have, especially since they aren’t doing the ‘work.’ On top of that, they seem to be so negative, yet they manifest ‘good’ things. How does that happen? How unfair is that shit? There was no mention of fairness in Megan’s question–that is my own addition because that is usually what we are thinking, am I right? 😉
I hope this email finds you well. I was wondering maybe if you had written a blog post about this already or if not, maybe you know where to direct me. I was thinking about people who work themselves up about their grades and are the type of people who always worry they failed a test or did bad on a paper, and they talk about how stressful everything is, but they end up doing fine – better than fine most of the time! I’ve known several people like this throughout my years as an undergraduate and now as a grad student. How does that work with the law of attraction? We usually get negative results if we are always putting negative energy into things, and vice versa (unless there are hidden subconscious beliefs)…so why do these people see positive results when it seems like they have such a negative outlook?
Megan
So here are some of my thoughts on that.
Our Vibration is a Complex Mix of Energies
The first thing we have to understand is our vibration is a complex mix of energies–it is comprised of a whole bunch of feelings and beliefs. It tends to get oversimplified–a high vibration vs. a low vibration, a negative vibration vs a positive vibration,etc…
Most of us have a pretty eclectic mix of ‘stuff’ and we can’t ever truly know what comprises someone else’s vibration. We don’t even know what’s floating around in ours most of the time!
When we observe someone’s behaviors or things they say, that is just one small piece of the puzzle. We are filtering that through our own point of view, which just further limits being able to see the whole picture.
We tend to complain a lot, put ourselves down,etc…because that is the norm, that is our conditioning. But it doesn’t necessarily represent our dominant energy on a particular aspect of our lives or a situation with which we are dealing.
For example, a person who is worrying she failed the test or did bad on the paper is acting out common conditioning that we beat ourselves up, downplay our talents and abilities, or expect we messed things up,etc…But how she really feels deep down may be very different–she studied hard for that test and she knows she was well prepared. She knows she is a good writer and killed it on that paper.
No matter how ‘negative’ someone may seem, or how much he seems to bitch and moan, it is almost certain he is not like that every moment. He may be in a really high vibe when engaging in an activity he really enjoys, gets drunk, smokes a big fat joint, eats a delicious meal, hangs out with his best friend or gets laid.
The Mechanism of Reality Creation Doesn’t Need Our Conscious Participation
If you were to think back to a time before you knew anything about the law of attraction, I am sure you manifested plenty of wanted experiences. You were creating your reality by default rather than deliberately, but that doesn’t automatically mean you were manifesting nothing but crap.
You likely picked up many beliefs that served you well; you likely had many experiences that cemented ‘positive’ beliefs. In many situations you had positive expectations things would go your way. You may not have been consciously focusing positively or working on your ‘energy’ but you also didn’t have a huge amount of resistance either so things turned out ‘good.’
This is kind of related to the first point I made about our vibration being made up of a whole bunch of energies. When we first start working with a teaching like the law of attraction, it is easy to make the assumption that all the beliefs of which we are not aware must all be ‘bad.’ But that really isn’t true.
In my own life for example, I always felt super-confident in job interviews, and of all the ones I had ever went on, there was only one where I wasn’t offered the position. I had a weird vibe about it anyway and I wasn’t surprised that is how it turned out. But anyway…
This was not something I consciously ‘worked on.’ Interviewing didn’t make me nervous. I always felt if they were contacting me for an interview, they thought I was someone who could do the job. To me, it meant I was just as good as hired and the interview itself was merely a ‘formality.’
There was no visualizing, no affirming, no building momentum behind any particular energies,etc…
I couldn’t pinpoint the exact experience or moment where that belief began to take root or what made me look at things that way, but that was the dominant energy and perspective that sprung up around that particular experience. It wasn’t something I consciously cultivated but it was there nonetheless.
When you decide to be more conscious of your energy and go about being more deliberate in creating your experience, that allows you to get ‘better’ stuff faster and more easily.
There is less ‘effort’ and you don’t have to wade through as much crap to get to the good stuff. The more ‘positive’ energy becomes more dominant and allows for all sorts of great things to show up, even if your vibration isn’t ‘perfect.’
You Don’t Know What Other People’s Manifestations Mean to Them
Remember what I said earlier about how we can’t know what’s going on in someone’s energy? Because we can’t know that, we also can’t ever really know what people’s manifestations mean to them. Manifestations always carry unique messages meant just for the receiver, and often are mirroring back a whole variety of things to someone.
A particular manifestation could represent both ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ aspects of someone’s energy. I remember years back when I had severe financial issues, I managed to manifest sources of income that had me making more money than I ever made. I certainly raised my vibration around money but it certainly wasn’t ‘perfect’ and I had plenty of moments of feeling lack, panic and severe fear. Again, perfection not required.
But I also came to realize that manifestation was also showing me that I still needed to do some work on my energy because I didn’t feel any more secure being flush with cash than I did when I was literally living off credit cards and flat broke. I had to really start internalizing that little nugget of wisdom that states security can’t ever be achieved by external means and it has to be something cultivated from within.
A manifestation could be partially what someone wants but also partially what they don’t want and is there to show them what still needs to be ‘cleaned up’ energetically or to give them further clarity on what they truly want to align with. Someone manifests a seemingly awesome job that has a lot of aspects he likes but also contains elements he doesn’t like so much.
The pay is great but he finds he manifested a work environment that makes him feel similar negative feelings he had in his last job. He now realizes that merely changing locations isn’t the answer–he must go within and see what is being shown to him.
A manifestation that would seem ‘good’ to someone else because it is something she wants could be mirroring back some sort of limiting belief to the person who manifested this thing.
Someone has a belief that you can’t have everything you want and there will always be compromises and the need to settle for ‘good enough.’ One way this energy gets mirrored back to her is through relationships.
She never seems to have issues manifesting a boyfriend but she is never truly happy because they are never quite the right match for her, and she tends to overlook a variety of issues because of her belief in having to settle, compromise, and accept you can’t ‘have it all.’
And if I could give one piece of advice regarding this sort of thing, do your absolute best not to pay too much attention to other people and their manifestations. Like I said before, we will never see the full picture when it comes to someone else’s energy. On a deeper level, our interest in doing this stems from our mind’s desire to try and ‘figure out’ how manifestation works so it can do it ‘right’ and get everything it wants. But it isn’t something we can do ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ because creating from energy doesn’t work that way.
Your Turn
What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? Looking forward to your comments as always.
Vibing on the interview point. The only job I wasn’t offered was one at Pet Smart (no offense, but pretty simple job). All others ended in offers because I had a similar confident, detached vibe. All our creations have different meanings to our lower self, and are just book-keeping to our higher selves, which are infinite. Fab post 😉
Hi husband
I like the book-keeping…good way to put it.
Wonderful post Kelli. Couldn’t agree more. It’s true that we can’t see whole picture. And nothing is perfect. Universe doesn’t give everything to everybody . If it would have then life would have became like plastic flowers. Which has everything but no life. I always came across people who think rich , good looking and successful people are lucky and happiest people. But they have their own problems. And I guess no matter what you want it ,comes in pacakage. You might get 9 wanted things out of 10 but still there will be one thing which you may not feel very happy about. And sometimes I think negative people still get good things because they say things for sake of saying. They don’t attach any emotions to it. One of my classmate was like that. She always used to complain about not studying enough for exams but she was one of the top students. And I too surprise about few things I received besides not having any confidence in them and being so sure about not getting them. But I think our real self knows what we really want and if we don’t interfere so much in his working then we get it in no time. Thank you.
Hi Resh
Thanks so much for your comment and sharing your great insights. You are right that most of us have at least one issue that is troubling us. No one’s life is ‘perfect’ in the way we tend to define that. You are right that words in and of themselves really have no power–it is the emotion behind it.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve manifested something I wanted that came attached with stuff I didn’t want, especially in the area of relationships. It took years to realize that those manifestations were showing me the beliefs I needed to change if I didn’t want to keep getting the stuff I didn’t want. Great article! I’m really enjoying your “earthy authenticity”!
Hi Patrice
Thanks so much for your comment. It is interesting how manifestations are so perfect for us and what we need to see. Glad you are enjoying the content. Relationships in particular can be great teachers!
Hi Kelli,
Long-time lurker who’s been voraciously reading her way through your blog. I love how you write, and at times I’ve definitely caught myself giggling at your turns of phrase. Thank you for simplifying such an abstract concept into small bits that we can chew on and assimilate at our own paces!
This one really hit me. Last year, straight out of graduation, I landed my dream job at my dream city, but got laid off within 8 months. Looking back on that now, I can see that I had a ton of personal crap to work through. I loved the job, and I’m still looking for work in that field, but the office environment was toxic. I also had pretty shaky self-confidence back then and I’m happy to say that I’ve used my time off to whittle down my limiting beliefs (they’re still alive and kicking to some degree, but my thoughts are on the upswing and can now more easily smother the useless limiting naysayers in my mind). Baby steps, right? Your blog has helped immensely in getting comfortable with being uncomfortable; thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.
I’ve a question about your job interview strategy. You said you’ve always been confident and that that’s helped you vibe high enough to breeze through the interviews and even get offers without any worries. I’m looking for opportunities now and wanted to know how to get truly detached from landing a job. I seem to touch on the border of detachment, but it’s like chasing a dream once you’ve woken up. I interview well, I’m enthusiastic about the job itself (dream job, really gets me happy just thinking about it), I “do” what I need to action-wise (follow-up, network), and I work on staying in a positive place more (your 51-49 tidbit). I also worked on writing up my trust wins to make my own “trust fund” a la Ryan’s post. How do I stay positively aligned and detached? Does a moment of weakness when I want the job undo any good from sporadic detachment? When people ask about my current employable status, and tell me to settle because I’m being too picky (when I know that their suggested jobs are terrible fits, and I’ve no guarantee of landing those with my current resume/qualifications), how do I protect my alignment/detachment?
Sorry for the long post. I hope you and the other readers have great weeks 🙂 Thanks so much for such a kickass blog.
Hi Jan
Thanks so much for your comment and sharing your experience. When we examine our life from this energetic angle, we get a clearer sense of why we manifested certain things and that is very empowering because we can change the core determinant–our energy.
All of a sudden life doesn’t seem so random and chaotic anymore. I am so glad you are enjoying the blog. I think your question would make a great blog post–lots of people struggle with detachment and alignment. I will probably do that next week.
wow…all great comments above! Ok soooo…i’ll buy you an umbrella drink Kelli if you can answer this question….so here goes…all of my LOA life I’ve heard ppl suggest…”let go…be detached and “it” will show up. You just have to forget about it and go about your life…don’t put so much energy and thought into wanting, etc” Because if you think about it all the time, obsess over it, mull it over, wonder what’s happening, when is it coming etc…well your shit aint coming. You’ll just scare it away!
And for the most part I I have detached for a lot of things on my list. And to sum up the list Im talking about..I just want my life to get a smidge better. It’s been efffin HELL since 2004 when my parents died horrible hideous insipid deaths, 4 months apart. If I listed everything I’m referring to, you and your readers would probably send me sympathy cards and say how is that shit even possible!? It’s like a movie..or more apropos..nitemare! You can’t make this shit up! Just when I think it cant get any worse..it does. And I am a positive person…no really I am!! Ppl love being around me. Im the person ppl run to when they walk in the door to a party!
So then the flip side to this question is this: what about the people who have, say, potential health issues and are always thinking about their issue before getting a diagnosis from the doc. Then they go to the doc and BAM! They’ve actually got the shit they were obsessing over.
Why can we obsess over bad shit and it comes true but the good stuff that we hardly ever think about is still out of reach..? Your turn-go!
Hey Kameron
I think your question would make a great blog post…stay tuned.
I love this and all the comments as well. So great to see how everyone deals with these things. I have to be positive in all things or I just get so far down. I read, I read all the time things that life me up. This week it’s The Problem Solver by Tom Gehring, tomgehring.com if anyone needs a great book to put them back on track! But I just surround myself with the things I can control and always push towards the light.
Hi Lynne
Thanks for your comment and I am glad you enjoyed the post. Thanks for suggesting that book…I have no doubt that at least one person reading your comment will find that is the exact thing they need right now.
Wow this one inspired me! Thank you for the awesome kick ass article! 🙂 It helped me look at things in perspective and what I have been manifesting, the good and bad things, and how I can change my thinking. I’m generally a positive upbeat person but sometimes I worry. I however don’t obsess so much over bad stuff anymore. I’ve been doing really well with my arts of late, the last 3 years. I’m replying to this particular comment because I would too love to see the blog post about Kameron’s question. Has it been put up yet?
Hey Chelle
Thanks for your comment and so glad you enjoyed the post. That examination is key–don’t have to do it to death but if things are happening we are not loving so much, checking in on where our vibe may be at will certainly be helpful. I will have to check on the question you are referring to…there is a good chance I have answered it but if not, I can bump it up on the list!
Great post, Kelli. I believe most negative people grew up in such environment: bad parenting, negative friends, too much television. For me, the true enlightenment came from books. And more particularly from Napoleon Hill books. Yes, they’re a bit cheezy, but they surely can inspire you towards action.
Hi Ivaylo
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you enjoyed it. You are right that it usually starts when we are young. Think and Grow Rich was one of the first books I read that introduced me to the idea we create our reality–a classic for sure! And I agree that immersing ourselves in material that exposes us to these perspectives is very important for introducing helpful information and motivates us to apply it practically.