Law of Attraction: Dredging the Sludge of Unworthiness

Happy to bring you another guest post by my always wise husband Ryan…enjoy! 

Scum.

Filth.

Pollution.

During our world travels, Kelli and I have seen brilliant spots.

Some of the most pristine places on earth, like Fiji, Bali, Thailand and Costa Rica.

But we have also seen some rough-looking, polluted canals in places like Bangkok.

Festering, stinking bodies of stagnant water.

These disgusting canals are, you guessed it, man-made.

Just like the disgusting, filthy, scummy, polluted, dirty, man-made (and woman-made) energy of unworthiness.

You know something interesting? The only animals that can survive in those disgustingly-polluted Bangkok canals are 5 foot long, Komodo dragon-like monitor lizards and monstrously large cat fish. Primitive creatures.

We lack the lizard brain or the fish brain to pull that off, and would die a quick death after repeated exposure to pollution in the water.

Ditto for any human being who walks around saddled by unworthiness issues. The self-sabotaging, masochistic energy eventually manifests as some really rough situation after having created some nasty circumstances in your personal and professional life.

By facing, owning, embracing and releasing worthiness issues you can live a neat life.

Kelli and I are proof of this. We circle the globe while running our online businesses and in truth, things flow much more easily to both of us these days because we have cleared out a crap load of unworthiness energies in our lives.

Follow these tips to own and release any worthiness issues you may be suffering through.

You are Worthy By Default

What a killer.

If you believe half the horseshit beliefs about working hard to be deserving, or even worse, the belief that you start off your adult life as some unworthy lump of a dump who has to prove yourself, earn trust and jump through 453,000,000 hoops just to get your first promotion, or to get your first client, or to get an A, or to get anything remotely desirable, you feel as if you are carrying around an energetic anchor the size of a blue whale.

The world would have you believe that you are worthy after earning your worthiness, through action. This is a mass-created and subscribed-to bullshit theory constructed by the monkey mind, and is a lie.

As an infinite being masquerading in a meat suit, you are worthy the split second you enter into this plane of existence.

Imagine looking at a little baby. Do you deem the cute babe to be a scumbag that is unworthy of love, or food, or clothes, or toys? Of course not. That baby deserves the world.

But something strange happens as the baby grows, in most of our cases. The same deserving baby eventually evolves into a being of plight who needs to do something, or somethings, to deserve even an iota of goodness, let alone to have it all.

Sure you will learn certain skills, and you will practice, and you will devote your loving energy to serving and helping others, but you need to be open to awesome ideas, awesome people and awesome things in your life, because the split second you embrace this idea, you begin to allow all types of fun people and circumstances into your life.

You are worthy. By default.

Believe this and you will align yourself with your dreams.

Your Results Suggest Nothing about Your Worth

This was a stickler for me.

I aligned with low energy circumstances because I judged my worth as an infinite being of light on numbers, or dollars, or blogging success, or metrics, or anything outside of me.

Nutball crazy, right?

I understood eventually that this story – see below – of tying my worth to results or outcomes is a form of insanity we humans seem to have cornered the market on.

You will never feel worthy if you tie your worth, or value, to something other than your infinite capacity to love and to have fun.

From point #1, we learn that we are all worthy.

When you cease identifying with any outcome you instantly vibe higher, moving up the energetic scale, and you will align with other folks, circumstances and situations that mirror your worthiness.

Stop judging your brilliance according to what you have, or own, or even, what you are doing.

Nothing outside of you and nothing you do defines you or points to some lack of worthiness. Or on the flip side, if you have manifested worldly success in some area of your life – big money, successful business, great job – that does not define you or prove your worthiness, either. Because that money or business or job can disappear in a heartbeat and if that happens, your energy and worthiness will drop quicker than the Coyote off of a cliff, after he chases the Roadrunner off of the edge, into space.

These days, I see online stuff as no big deal, either way. I am worthy, because I am breathing. Any online or offline manifestation has nothing to do with my worthiness.

The Devil Is in the Story

I am no believer in demons from the ancient world – usually – but do believe that your stories can have a hellish effect on your life.

What is a story? A machination of the mind. A creation of the monkey mind, that lovely but sometimes silly and always limited entity that projects, colors and literally adds stories to every single moment of existence.

Judging. Good. Bad. Worse. Horrible. Great.

Unfortunately, the unworthiness demon that most people carry around is hatched in a story. A creation of your mind.

Pure fiction, as stories are, yet, if you tell yourself a story frequently enough, like:

“I am not worthy.”

“I am dirt.”

“I am lower than dirt.”

…..or any other terribly limiting, low self worth belief, you will believe the story as true and live your life vibing like a low-life, a low self worth piece of energetic excrement.

Clear out any story by doing things from your heart.

But first, you need to face, feel and release your stories around self-worth, progressively.

Meditating helps in this regard. Expand your awareness to be aware of the feelings you experience, and live according to, on a deeper level.

When you eat a poop sandwich by embracing these stories you can vibe from a clearer, more fun, playful and of course, worthy space.

When you feel worthy and deserving, sweetness flows into your life because you will be a match for worthy circumstances, worthy people and all types of coolness.

Monitor Reactions to Ballsy People

I recall growing up; whenever folks around me mentioned ballsy, courageous, clear, successful folks, they referred to these people as being “opinionated” or “uppity” or some other quality with a negative connotation attached.

I later realized that the people labeling ballsy folks as being jerks had low self-worth. It was never about the clear person. Always about the unclear person with low self-worth who projected their stuff onto people who viewed themselves as worthy.

Carefully observe how you react or respond to bold, empowered, confident folks.

Do you admire them? If so, awesome. If you feel any negative emotions in response to these people you have unworthy, unclear, lower energies to clear, to feel worthy.

Your Turn

How are you clearing out worthiness issues?

Do you feel worthy?

Why?

Why not?

About the Author

Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.

If you like what Ryan is throwing down, check out two programs we did together:

Manifesting C#ckblockers: Tackling the Most Common Forms of Resistance

Get Your Mind Right, Get Your Business Right: Embodying the Energy of Success

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Law of Attraction: Dredging the Sludge of Unworthiness

12 thoughts on “Law of Attraction: Dredging the Sludge of Unworthiness

  1. Okay I get it. I know I have a worthiness issue but how do I clear it? this post does not show how to clear this energy. Being aware of it is one thing which is what I’ve done but clearing it is another thing that I don’t know how to do and I’m stuck with it for a while now.

    1. Hi Tina

      These clearings aren’t done on the level of action so there is not ‘how’ to give that applies to everyone. It is a decision plain and simple. In terms of actions to take, it would be making changes to behaviors that suggest you aren’t worthy, giving yourself permission to pursue what would make you happy, which I don’t think you have been doing as indicated by previous comments you have left here. It is always a choice to think differently, that is all you can do. No action can override that intention, that decision, can change anything inside independent of this.

    2. Hi TIna,

      Definitely read those blue sub headers again; those are the pieces of advice you may have missed, that help you face, own and release the unworthy feelings. Actually, give the entire post 2-3 re-reads. Slow down. Take a few deep breaths. Allow the concepts, and the ideas, and the energy to seep into your mind.

      One common thing my ego did when I felt really unworthy was totally ignore freeing, fun, helpful advice. Like I was on a different wavelength, and literally could not see helpful insights right in front of my eyes. We all do this sometimes. I still do it now.

      Actually, once you are fully aware of worthiness issues, the issues vanish. You feel it, because you resist it, so there is a part of you which is not aware, which resists, which clings to. That’s where those blue header titles come into play. Peep those ideas, and when going over the concepts, you will allow the feelings to arise, and feel them, then, the energies will clear.

      This may be a little rough or highly unpleasant but so worth the time and energy spent.

      Thanks so much for reading and sharing.

      Ryan

    3. Question: I feel unworthy of a job I like because I don’t have all the skills (or sometimes any skills at all) that it requires. How do I get over the feeling that I don’t have enough skills or good enough skill? Because these are the factors that will determine the quality of the work and therefor my success at it.

  2. Found this blog recently and starting listening to the podcast from the beginning (and I still in 2015 *I think*, and you are both in the middle of the jungle in Costa Rica!). Thanks for the post Ryan! I will have to save it and i feel I need to be reminded of that every now and then.

    1. Hi Rachel,

      Very funny, because Kelli and I were just talking about that Costa Rica jungle trip not 2 hours ago when walking to the grocery store. Amazing. I am happy you dug the post and follow Kelli’s podcast; I get the live version every time she records it. Thanks much and have a rocking week, worthy one.

      Ryan

  3. Hello Ryan,

    Great tips over here 🙂

    These are some great insights over here. I love to visit here as there are some quality of podcast which really helps a lot
    and managing some things which we really want to go and hold.

    Thanks for the share.

    Shantanu.

  4. I must say this post takes us to the foundation of happiness. If we constantly remember how precious we are then there is not much left to worry about.
    I loved the very first point You have mentioned here. “. You are worthy by default .” Yesssss it’s so true. It feels so good to know that you are the only person who should know how precious you are regardless what world thinks about you and how much material you possess.
    Thank you for this happy post.

    1. Hi Rhea,

      The worthy by default point helped me get clearer on being the person I wanted to be, despite conditions aka circumstances. Sometimes we tie worthiness to outcomes which is silly. Letting go of that helps you let in a pretty neat series of manifestations. Thanks much.

      Ryan

  5. Wau! I really got a lot out of this one! I think this is the most clear, to the point post on self worth issues I’ve come across so far, and I’ve seen a lot! Thank you!

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