This whole law of attraction things seems like a piece of cake, but once you get in the thick of conscious creation, you might find it’s anything but. This is due to a number of issues from trouble shifting deeply ingrained beliefs to the massive misconceptions there is about this teaching.
Today I chat you up about the biggest manifesting enemy, in my humble opinion. Enjoy
Podcast #44: Law of Attraction: Your Biggest Manifesting Enemy
I really needed to hear this… Thank you!
You are so welcome Julia.Glad it gave you something you needed right now.
Thank you Kelli for this podcast. It’s not airey fairy it’s down to earth and I get it now. Manifestation is one of the things that I struggle to understand. It’s better to deal with situations than to pile on extra layers of happy and hope that it works. I loved your mirroring analogy because I only thought the same thing yesterday. Thanks for your post.
Hi Viv
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you found what I had to say helpful. It’s funny because on one hand, the keys to manifesting are quite simple but on the other it can feel really tricky because of all our ‘stuff.’ Theory and practice have their differences and I aim to help bridge that gap.
Dear Kelli,
I have read your blog about a year and really appreciate your wisdom and down to earth style!
I’d like to ask you something.
I’ve read a lot and understand loa extremly well -in theory! But when I try to apply it and do it all you are supposed to do, be grateful and let go and visualise etc…then when the things don’t appear/happen, I feel enormous anger, strong rage. I don’t do or say anything to anyone, but it’s just the feeling I feel inside. Often, the intensity of that reaction scares even myself! It’s such a strong anger…aggressive, defensive feeling. I’m not that kind of a person and don’t want to be that kind of a person! 🙁
I’m externally always smiling and polite, friendly person, but I have lot of this hidden disappointment in me…sadness, how I seem to be “outsider” in my own life.
I feel angry and humiliated, when I have tried to win the lottery (with loa)….and then every week, other people win -those who have never even heard of loa!
I’ve noticed I have a lot of this hidden anger towards “other people”…”They” don’t hire me, “they” don’t give me enough work/salary, “other women” get all the men, “men” don’t give me what I want and deserve…and that of course makes me extremly defensive, like damn, can’t they see, how nice, good, skilled, loveable etc. I am…
And then I start to get all these crazy thoughts, doesn’t God want me to be happy etc…And I do know, that it’s me who creates my reality…but I still can’t get rid of these thoughts! 🙁
Last year a special man left me, he said “it’s difficult to be with you because you have so much anger inside”. Shocking, I really had no idea! I can usually “hide” it well. I do know that loa works, because everytime I have felt really good and grateful, I have attracted amazing things! (including him!). I’m basically a very normal young woman…so what’s wrong with me, why I feel this way? 🙁
(sorry about the long post! :))
Hi Anna
Thank you for your comment. The first thing that you must do without question is let yourself feel your anger…suppressing our emotion in the name of being ‘positive’ never works. The idea that anger is bad or that a ‘spiritual’ person wouldn’t get angry does a great disservice to people in my opinion. Anger can move us into positive action and out of feeling hopeless or powerlessness.
As for people winning the lottery without knowing about loa, it is important to remember that the LOA is not a ‘tool’ it’s not something you ‘use’. It is considered one of the Universal laws, a way of explaining how reality works. We are creating always, consciously or not. And it is important to realize that we have no idea what other people’s manifestations mean to them–coming into large sums of money like that often have very negative consequences for people for example. It’s not a ‘good’ thing that happened to them. And trying to use the LOA to manifest in a very specific way tends not to go well because it is coming from a space of control…that is one of infinite ways for you to make more money. You can control your energy not every aspect of your outer experience. That is a big misconception many have that leaves them feeling frustrated and thinking the LOA doesn’t ‘work.’
I can only address so much in a comment and if you wanted more personalized advice, you might consider booking a coaching call if that resonates.
Good luck and start letting yourself get in touch with your emotions…that is going to open things up for you.
Thank you Kelli, your kindness and wise words really touched my heart! You know, writing all of that and somehow become conscious…even that in itself relieved me!
I never thought that for example a lottery win could be a negative thing to some people! Of course I don’t wish bad to anyone but it’s good to put things on perspective?
I’m already feeling better and smiling and thought…could it be that for us women, sometimes the reasons are purely biological? At some point of the month the feelings of anger and irritation just trigger more easily? 🙂
Thank you everything and your wonderful website!!
Dear Kelli,
A question came into my mind. For example, if my dog is ill, that´s all I can think of. If I have pimples in my face, I’m hyper-focused on them (heh, and worry that other people are too!). If I hear something horrible in the news or someone says something nasty to me, I can remain upset and negative several days. Etc, etc…Then my thinking becomes over-simplified, “if only my dog is ok, then all is well”, “when my skin becomes clear, I’ll be happy all the time”. Is this normal? Good, bad? Or am I over-sensitive? My point; spiritual teachers say we can (and we should?!) “deliberately choose” what we feel, think, react, no matter what is happening. How can I do that? Isn’t it normal, for example, become upset…if something upsetting happens?
And I haven’t understood how to really “shift” limiting beliefs/release negative emotions? For example, during 20 years I have struggled with working life. Never permanent position, unemployed, minimal salary etc…And I’m a smart woman, graduated from the university!
Recently I finally realised the “core issue”, I’ve always felt worthless, life is a competition, others are better, I’m not good enough and so on…This makes me feel chronic stress and worry, feeling of “not belong”…which of course keeps creating the same, over and over again 🙁
My question is, where do I go now from here? Is this “enough” that I have made those unconscious beliefs conscious and am aware what I feel, to shift them “automatically”, or what should I now specifically do? I really don’t want to create the “same old” anymore!
Kind regards
Hi there
I am sorry…I thought I replied to this but I realized I didn’t. I wanted to say i wanted to answer your questions in a blog post and when I went through the comments to find it, I saw I didn’t answer it. I will be doing this post this week so be on the lookout
Hi, Kelli! Let’s say 2 people both are not aligned with love and are desperately lonely. 1 of them manages to attract a relationship which mirrors these self-esteem issues. The other person does not attract such shitty relationship at all. (so he’s not being shown his issues this way). How he will ever understand that he’s not aligned in love? (by other manifestation? ) Eventually, I think, his reality will have no choice but to catch up with his inner world. What do you think determines the most suitable way in which reality will catch up? He could become frustrated that the other person at least succeeded to manifest that relationship while he couldn’t do even this (if he behaves like a baby).
Hi Radost
Manifestations are very personal so this person could be shown this in a variety of ways that to an ‘outsider’ would not seem to hold any significance.