It’s been awhile since Ryan the manifesting master has done a post around here and I’m happy to bring you his unique brand of writing and manifesting advice. Enjoy…
I styled my coif into a Triceratops haircut. Earlier this week. Before I got a mini-fade.
I’m often spotted wearing my face. Or, wearing a Blogging from Paradise T-shirt. With my requisite grille.
I shave my head. Once a year. Or two. No. Not two heads. Two years.
I sure ain’t over myself but do a decent job routinely slaying my self consciousness. From writing colorful, detailed, sometimes bawdy blog posts to self-deprecating the shit out of myself, I generally do not take myself seriously. Triceratops haircut. Shaved head. I routinely wear a Gizmo T-shirt. Which a Costa Rican man fell in love with. But that’s another story.
Self-consciousness ain’t a big issue with this fool. Because I’ve molded a more confident, clear, detached vibe. How? You guessed it: with the law of attraction.
Being Boy Versus Doing Dolt
I once was the online version of a cloistered nun. I left my cyber cave as frequently as the arrival of the Haley Bop comet. Rarely spotted on my blog. Or comment fields. Or publishing guest posts. I was bloggana non grata. Which twas not a good thing. Because unless I mastered instant manifestation I couldn’t grow a prospering business from the cyber sidelines.
My overpowering sense of self-consciousness made me huddle in a cyber cave. I feared “looking like an idiot.” I regularly felt embarrassed if I even thought of being bold, or humorous, in a public setting. Cyber or otherwise.
Turns out, I had to learn – the hard way, because I resisted intuitive nudges – that you can’t slay self-consciousness by attempting to “out-do” it. Because the law of attraction is a law of being. Not doing.
Your doings in and of themselves mean little or nothing. But your being means everything. And the being/feeling you embody while doing, well hell, that means everything.
I shifted my energy to become increasingly less self-conscious. I progressively gave a rat’s ass less what people thought about me. I didn’t much fear “looking like an idiot.” I shaved my head. I wrote from my heart. I added more colorful, or sometimes, off color stories to my blog posts and eBooks.
Never been happier. Never been having more fun. Never felt more free. And yes, consequently, never have more folks knew who I was. I crave not fame but enjoy inspiring the legions of Blogging from Paradise minions to retire to the tropics through smart blogging.
So as we proceed, hold this idea seed in your noggin: these tips are for being, not doing. Or, step into the feeling/being of each tip to make self-consciousness your bitch.
1: Hang with Free Spirits (or….Folks Who Don’t Give a Hoot)
Kelli and I are weird. We are funny. We are free spirits.
We’ve built our lives on not caring what people think, say or do in response to us being us. This inspires us to feel/be even less concerned with the opinions of others. With dissolves any self-conscious, paralyzing energy from our beings.
When you’re being NSC – Non Self Conscious – other free spirits will align with you, support you and inspire you to be who you really are. Hang with ’em. Follow Kelli’s blog. Read my law of attraction eBooks. Feast on our free energies. Bathe in our fun vibe. Bask in our stupendous glow. Birds of a liberated feather should flock together. Allow more of these “do not care” folks into your experience to care less about the opinions of others, yourself.
2: Do Freeing Stuff….Even if You Feel Hella Self Conscious at First
Kelli gazed at me with a smile.
I was running down the beach in Manual Antonio, Costa Rica with a 6 foot long piece of driftwood. Par for the course. Because I carried small boulders on the beach in Savusavu, Fiji. And up small hills in Rivas, Costa Rica.
People often stare at me while I engage in these unorthodox exercise rituals but I got guns to grow. Gotta take care of that ticker too.
The old, heavily self-conscious me would have pooped my pants even thinking about running up and down a beach holding a log. Because I believed folks would deem me nuts. I was so bat shit crazy back then, I even felt I’d get “in trouble” for such silly shenanigans.
Thank the gods that the new me just does stuff that feels a bit uncomfortable but fun, and freeing.
Here’s how the law of attraction comes into play: the more you do this stuff, having fun, the self conscious energies in your being dissolve and you’ll attract more bold ideas, people and circumstances through which you can grow.
I used to be as chatty as a church mouse. Now I BS with just about anybody when out and about. I can strike up a conversation with a telephone pole. And make a subscriber out of it.
3: Let Go the Self Conscious Schlubs
Former schlub talking here. I know how it goes. But I also know how self-conscious poison easily seeps into your being if you hang with self-conscious folks.
The folks who don’t want you to “look like an a-hole” if you’re just having fun, being silly and acting a fool. The douchebags who take themselves seriously. The clowns who do everything in their power to humiliate free spirits, and other folks with balls.
Gently release these folks. Meaning, kick their asses out the do’. Meaning, let go these acquaintances and follow tip #1.
Again, you will align with all energies free, bold and empowered, and you’ll have a boatload of fun if you release self-conscious, serious, staid folks who can’t laugh at themselves.
The folks around you will always respond to your energy. Inside-out deal here. Vibe higher. Follow your fun. Hang with energetic dynamos. Let go the lame louts. Do what feels fun and freeing to you. Even if you feel a bit scared to dive in and be different.
Take it from a guy spotted running around exotic beaches with small boulders and young, firm saplings; you’ll be floored at the deluge of fun people, ideas and circumstances you’ll allow in when you bitch slap silly self conscious tendencies.
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Thanks for letting me post here, Fellow Weirdo.
RB
This is so me. Just today I wrote 3 comments on 3 different blogs and then deleted all of them without posting! I do this all the time and haven’t stopped to think about why I do it. I think it’s part perfectionism but think it’s mostly shyness and being self-conscious. Thanks for making me aware of this.
Hi Audrey,
Way cool.
I’ve been in the same boat. On many different levels. Not emailing. Not reaching out. All from self consciousness and a fear of looking silly/stupid/weird/insert emotions here.
Publish those comments Audrey! The world wants to hear what you have to say. You rock 🙂
Ryan
Thanks Ryan!
I was getting there when I was about 30, when I felt carefree and liked hanging out with people who were even more carefree, like you, hoping more would rub off onto me! Then… I didn’t pay attention to how I was reacting to the hustle-bustle of life, reaction turning into more reaction, then that turning into more things to react about… And now I am 55, and it SEEMS more difficult to undo all of that reaction to get back to carefree. I hope that anybody who reads this gets the moral of my story! If I would’ve paid more attention to my reactions, I wouldn’t feel like it’s “so hard” to get back to carefree! Yes, I know it’s only an illusion!
Thank you soooo much for this reminder!!!
Hi Tolmie,
You’re so on the right road 😉
Seem. Illusion. That’s wonderful. You see the truth of it.
Whether 5, or 55, or 105, we can leave self consciousness behind.
Here’s my daily Rx; do 1-2 things today that challenge your self conscious urges. It will feel stupid freeing and yep, maybe uncomfortable too.
Example; yesterday, I picked up an old, beat-up basketball I found in a field and walked thru a lil bit of sewage-filled mud to get to the basketball court. I felt a few kid’s eyes on me, but did not care. Nothing to do with me.
Then, I did basketball drills (figure 8’s with ball between legs, etc) as I walked home. Some stared. Again, nothing to do with me. A colorful, wacky neighbor even suggested that doing the b-ball drill stuff while walking down the street would inspire somebody to call the cops LOL. The old, heavily self conscious me would never do these things, because people would think I was “crazy”, but it’s never about you, and always about other people.
Free spirits know this.
Go for it and let me know how your exercise goes, OK?
Ryan
Hi Ryan. I used to be very shy and self-conscious when I was a kid too. While not exactly to your level of freedom, I am definitely much more free than I used to be. There are too many things to experience to waste too much time worrying about what other people think. I think I probably got over most of it when I decided to quit my job and build a business online, then learned about the Law of Attraction. They weren’t a mainstream way of thinking or being 10 years ago.
While reading your post, the first thing that came to my mind was actors. If you are very self-conscious, maybe joining a local play or something might be a good activity to let you experience being more free. Tom Hanks and Jim Carrey are two actors that come to mind. They get paid very well for letting loose in front of a camera.
Then I thought about spending time with kids (in a positive way). Actually, I just came inside from a water gun battle with my two kids and one of my daughter’s friends. You can be so much more relaxed around kids because they really don’t care much about what others think. Spend time with them and adopt their attitude.
Hi Ben,
Both are way cool tips for dissolving self conscious energies.
Playing with the kids is a blast. Kids just let go. No shred of self consciousness. We learn tons from them.
I also enjoy playing with and observing pets. Same deal. In the moment. No self conscious energies spoiling anything.
Acting is a super fun, creative way to let go. I feel myself being me, letting loose, when filming youtube vids. So fun!
Thanks for your awesome comment Ben. Hope you’re all dried up 😉
Ryan
Superb! I just came inside from a water firearm fight with my two children and one of my little girl’s companions. You can be quite a lot more casual around children since they truly couldn’t care less much about what others think. Invest energy with them and receive their mentality. Thank you so much.
Hi Ryan,
Great post – very timely for me. Letting your freak flag fly and being myself has always been up my alley to an extent. However, I still hold myself up sometimes for fear of “losing” what I have, or “not being the right person” for what I want to receive from the Universe via people, places and things. Crazy to write that out – but I need to get that limiting belief outta my head and dissolve it. Time for me to let the sails open even wider. Thank you for the inspiration.
Hi Krista
So glad you enjoyed it. I think your ‘struggle’ is understandable and it can take a bit of time to work through that stuff. I suspect the journey of becoming our most authentic self is not one we wrap up so quickly and then we’re ‘done’ figuring it out at some point. It is good that you can acknowledge it. That is important. Most, if not all, of the beliefs that get in our way are not rational and make no sense to us so we can’t shut anything down for that reason, or because we ‘know’ that isn’t true.