Law of Attraction: Navigating Your ‘Negative’ Emotion

Once you start learning about the law of attraction it is easy to get the impression you must get rid of any shred of negative emotion to change your reality. You’ll never get what you want, the stuff you don’t like won’t ever gravitate out and you’re basically fucked, unless it is banished forever more, and you are bursting with happiness every second.

Thank God that’s not really true. If it was, no one would have anything that was to their liking because of a vibration all muddied up by things like fear, doubt, anger, anxiety, resentment and sadness. If we never, ever had these emotions, would we manifest things more quickly? Most likely, yes. We would be unstoppable.

But, that is not the reality in which we entered when we took on being human. We basically forgot how things worked, and the ‘big’ us is basically having an adventure where we get to experience all this contrast so we can decide what we like and don’t like and allow more of the former into our experience.

Not knowing how things worked, us humans co-created a whole bunch of stuff that is none too pleasant, some of it downright horrific; we came up with all sorts of beliefs that limited us in countless ways and made us feel trapped, powerless, pessimistic and all that other junk.

So, it would seem to me that all the resistance we encounter is by design. Without it, we wouldn’t know what we would prefer to be experiencing instead. Our emotions are our guidance system and let us know when we are moving towards what we want, and who we really are, or further away from it.

Because what is happening in our inner world is influencing what we are experiencing in our outer world, becoming more deliberate in what you allow into your experience requires some examination.

We can no longer let ourselves be at the mercy of the thoughts, beliefs and feelings that are not serving us. There will be shifts that need to be made; there will be perspectives that need to be transformed; there will be decisions and conclusions that need to be changed regarding our capabilities and how the world works.

And because of this, it is easy to get freaked out by all your negativity; it is easy to resist the resistance, which just strengthens it. It can create a fear of acknowledging its existence and letting yourself feel it.

Here are some tips for navigating your ‘negative’ emotion.

You’re Human…Deal with It

On an intellectual level, we get that no one is perfect, that negative emotion is par for the course, that you may not feel happy all the time, blah, blah, blah. But when it comes to working more consciously with our energy, and wanting to harness the power of the law of attraction and tap into that divine assistance that is available to us, that understanding goes right out the window.

I see this happen all the time with myself, clients, people who email me, people who comment on my blog and friends who ask me about the law of attraction. People are super-freaked out about their negative emotion and god, how it complicates things.

There is this idea that somehow we can learn to transcend all negative emotion and never feel it again. There are many people out there making very bold claims in their ability to help you do this in a variety of ways, and I am a bit dubious. This is just my opinion and maybe it is possible. I want to believe it’s possible but I’m just not sure.

Don’t get me wrong…we can totally make gigantic leaps in this department. We can learn to let things go completely that always used to bother us. We can adopt completely new perspectives on situations that lead to experiencing completely different emotional reactions.

We can respond completely differently to our various triggers. We can more consistently experience states of joy, peace, happiness and balance.

But to me, being a happy person isn’t about being happy all the time. If we make the goal sheer, unadulterated bliss every waking second, we may be setting ourselves up for a really bumpy ride.

We live in a world with a lot of variety, and most of us probably won’t totally get rid of our tendency to have preferences, and to like and not like stuff. We can’t control anything outside of us, and more likely than not, we will regularly experience situations and people we don’t prefer, and we’ll probably have some degree of reaction to that.

As much as we may intuitively know there is something to this idea of being this powerful being, there may always be some degree of doubt—you may not always feel so sure you’ll get what you want, especially as you reach for bigger and bolder things.

As much as you know you are after a feeling and nothing more, there may always be a part of you that is clinging to a specific manifestation, not being able to believe you could actually be happy without it.

Things from your past may trigger you still, and you won’t totally ‘get over it.’ You’ll continue to feel sadness about the losses in your life.

Having a mind was part of the package, and as useful as it is in many respects, it is not equipped to understand who we really are and what is possible for us; it is not equipped to understand the true nature of reality. And as such, it makes all sorts of judgments and conclusions that simply aren’t true; it misinterprets manifestations constantly. It is firmly entrenched in the illusion and the separation.

It ain’t going anywhere, and it may always be putting in its two cents. You get better at quieting that though as your trust builds and the truth sinks in more deeply. You can find ways to work with it.

Don’t resist all these feelings; don’t try to force them out. Don’t think you’re ‘wrong’ for feeling a certain way or you ‘should’ have gotten past something by now.

You’re human…sorry. 😉

All Emotion Has Value

I am sure many of you are familiar with Abraham-Hicks, and their explanation of your ’emotional guidance system.’ This teaching is a great way to explain the purpose and value of our emotions.

In a nutshell, our emotions are there to show us when our perspective is in line with our higher self who knows the deal, and when it isn’t, to let us know when we are aligned with what we want, and when we aren’t.

When we feel good, we are aligned. When we feel badly, we aren’t. A very simple, yet very powerful system.

Our emotions are very important messengers and aid us in deliberate creation. Being human, and not remembering our power, we needed something to help keep us on track, we needed some sort of guidance to help lead us to where we want to be.

And when we see the purpose of our emotions, it becomes very clear that ALL of them have value. None of them are bad. None of them must be eliminated from the line-up. They are a crucial part of the creation mechanism. There aren’t any that aren’t ‘supposed’ to be there.

How we are feeling is letting us know what is going on inside. It lets us know what thoughts, feelings and beliefs are dominant. It lets us know whether we are focusing more on what we want or what we don’t.

If we are infinite beings that are ‘everything’ that includes the nasty bits too, that includes the ‘negative’ emotion.

I know these emotions don’t feel good and we don’t like them…fair enough. And we can certainly reduce their occurrence. But when they are occurring, don’t freak out. See what they are showing you.

It’s not ‘bad’ you are feeling them. You’re not ‘wrong’ for feeling this way. You are simply being given some feedback that will be helpful in bringing you back into alignment.

You Don’t Always Need to Examine and Analyze

Because of this misconception you must always be happy as a clam, there can be a tendency to really zero in on your feelings every time you aren’t feeling so hot. You worry you’re messing things up and you best figure out what’s going on so you can shift it, or you’re screwed.

And the resistance to the feelings build and it just gets more intense. You’ll likely start focusing more on your current reality and the lack.

Sometimes a bad mood is just a bad mood and it will pass. You don’t need to sit and see what is going on. You don’t have to dig deep. Try and do something that makes you feel better, and just ride it out.

You’ll know when you need to look more closely at something.

If you find yourself manifesting things lately that are triggering a similar emotional reaction more frequently, you might want to look at that. What is making you have that particular reaction?

If you find yourself coming up against certain feelings, thoughts and beliefs more often recently, you should probably sit with that and give it some thought.

If you find yourself suppressing something a lot or avoiding thinking about something that is bothering you, there is probably something bigger there that needs to be brought out to the surface, that you need to allow yourself to feel.

One of the big issues that gets people all twisted up with the law of attraction is over-thinking the process. You become hyper-aware of your inner world and that can be a double-edged sword–not because that is inherently bad in any way, but because your mind tries to get overly involved in the creation process, and it starts judging all your negative emotion as ‘bad.’

If It’s There, It’s There

There is a very big difference between negative feelings that have just been there all along and generating new negative feeling by focusing in a way, or doing things, that you know are going to make you feel badly in some way, that are going to make it harder for you to remain in alignment.

Again, we’re human and we’re supposed to experience the gamut of emotion; we picked up on beliefs that didn’t serve us and all sorts of stuff showed up as a result that made us feel badly in some way, etc…

So, you’re probably going to have some feelings that don’t feel so great. You have some kinks in your vibration that will probably lead you to manifest things you may not like very much—not the end of the world by the way. Don’t think you can ‘use’ the LOA to create some perfect life where everything happens to your exact specifications.

Denying your feeling isn’t going to get you very far—your vibration is your vibration, no matter what you are telling yourself or how much you pretend you feel a certain way when you really don’t.

Again, you’re human…can’t do much about that except die and I’m guessing you want to stick around a bit longer.

So, that’s that, hope you liked it.

Your Turn…

What did you think of this post? Do you get freaked out by your negative emotion? Do you have any tips to offer for navigating it? Any other thoughts? Looking forward to your comments as always.

Also, a couple of things I wanted to share: 

 I did an interview with a fellow coach Keilayn Greenwood on his show all about personal empowerment and you can listen to that here. 

Also, the awesome Joy Holland is doing a free series of interviews all about manifesting, and I am honored to be included in the bunch. You can register to receive the series of calls here. 

If you want to learn more about law of attraction, you can also find my Making Sense of the Law of Attraction series on Amazon. If you are a Kindle Unlimited member, they are free…sweet. And if you aren’t, no worries..they are super-cheap!