Questions are one of simplest, and most powerful tools we can employ to explore our mind and heal faulty thinking that lies at the root of all emotional distress.
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Podcast #223: A Powerful Question to Challenge One of Your Mind’s Faultiest Assumptions
Kelli, I just came across your website and I am so thankful that I did!! Your perspective has helped me to shift my own, and I already feel so much happier; like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. “My circumstances don’t control my happiness”- I love that!!! Thanks for covering the “basics” and helping others like me truly address the root problems.
Hi Caity
Thank you so much for your comment and kind words. I am so happy to hear the site has been a helpful resource for you…plenty of content to go through for sure! That our thoughts are ever the only thing really hurting us is so liberating because we get to choose our perceptions ad nothing can interfere with that choice but ourselves…pretty great!
Oh man! I keep coming back to this one, Kelli! So well put and so well done, yet the brain loves to go back there, bring it up again from time to time, because that’s what it does. It chatters. As gurus say, it adds and multiplies. That’s its nature and what it’s for. We can’t rely on it for this purpose, even if it’s trying to help.
You are right. We have absolutely no way of knowing that if we married another person we’d be better off. Sure, it may seem that way. They sure seem happy on FB, let’s say. But that’s not a true snapshot is it? Who knows how they may be married to you down the line? Their temper may come out, they may never take your side or root for you, or just not support you in your endeavors and may want you to support them instead, even if they don’t really need your support in your eyes. They may really be miserable inside and drag you down with them. You have no way of knowing. You may have end up resenting them. You just don’t know what bullet you may have dodged by something not happening the way you thought it should, at that time.
So, we should instead embrace the flow of life as things come to us and trust that things are going as they should, always in our favor. I’m talking generally here, when we have a tendency to look back. Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi Kat
Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad you find this podcast helpful. Questions are a really powerful tool in that they give us practice thinking in the ways that serve us. It is hard to change our thinking when we really don’t try to change it! The mind is good at dreaming up all these scenarios and it does a good job of convincing us that it is probably right about these roads not taken or these different choices. There is nothing to ‘refute’ it after all. The example of the relationship is a good one–we have no idea how that dynamic would play out over the long term. That trust you speak of is key, and when we make a real effort to muster some up, it can take us far, even if it feels in short supply sometimes. Just a little can get the job done.