Law of Attraction: Lessons Learned from Building My Blog and Business (That Apply To Anything)

I am so passionate about educating people about the law of attraction because learning about it changed my life dramatically. My experience has shown me over and over and over again, that by directing our focus on what we want, and away from what we don’t, we can let in more of the former and less of the latter.

By engaging in some self-reflection, teasing out the beliefs that weren’t serving me, and shifting them, I created a whole new reality. Like anybody else, I am on the proverbial journey and I’ll never be done. And for the most part I have made peace with that…I’m human just like the rest of ya.

As anyone who reads my blog regularly knows, I often share experiences from my own life to show how I apply this knowledge and how it has helped me. Like many other people, my ‘professional’ life is one area in which I put a lot of energy manifesting-wise.

It is an area that occupies a lot of my time and attention. It is an area where we have learned a bunch of ‘stuff’ that really doesn’t serve us well, and can bump heads with the wisdom of conscious creation.

So I wanted to share some insights that I think will be helpful for people, but not just for people concerned with their business. These lessons are applicable to anyone wanting to manifest anything, as the basic tenets of attraction are the same no matter the type of manifestation.

I started writing this and realized that I had gone to my usual post length and hadn’t even covered all the points so there will be a part two.

I hope you enjoy it.

Don’t Look to Outcomes to See if Things are ‘Working’

Let’s face it…we don’t fully trust in this whole LOA thing, and this is true no matter how much we manifest to show us, in fact, there is something to it. When we are contending with a situation that still isn’t to our exact liking, there is that niggling fear that things may not work out. We haven’t totally stripped our conditioning away.

We really want that ‘proof’ our efforts are bearing fruit. We want to see movement. We want those results. We want feedback. We want validation.

And this tendency is understandable. But, at the core of this need, is a lack of trust in the process, a fear we won’t get what we want. Again, understandable to have this.

But while we may not be able to eliminate it completely, we do have to work on it.

I may be one of the few bloggers who doesn’t check their ‘stats.’ I have no idea how many people read my blog. I have no idea where my traffic is coming from. I don’t do any sort of ‘analysis.’ When I first had my blog, I did check this information.

And I didn’t like how it made me feel. I was basing how I felt on outside circumstances. When I had a lot of visitors, I felt good. When I didn’t, I felt badly. I wondered if my stats were ‘good’ or ‘bad’ for a new blogger, blah, blah, blah.

Knowing what I knew about the law of attraction, I realized this habit was detrimental…looking to the outside will always fuck with our energy. By looking to the outside, we lose touch with our inner voice that provides the most effective guidance and feedback of all. We diminish our power. We chip away at the positive momentum we have built through our ‘inner work.’ We forget the law of attraction is not ‘magic’ and most things don’t change immediately.

I knew that if I kept creating the content that I felt compelled to create, if I kept doing something that was making me feel good, which was writing the blog itself, I would get to where I wanted to be. I knew I would be led to inspired actions that would draw ‘my people’ to me. I knew it would lead to all sorts of opportunities that would allow people to find out about me.

I recently started my ebook series about the law of attraction. I have no idea how many books I have sold. When I get my first royalty check, I suppose I’ll get some clue. But, I don’t check the sales because ultimately it doesn’t matter.

It feels good to write them, and people will buy them. I haven’t set any sort of goal income-wise with the books, because I really can’t control that. And know why I can’t control that? Because there is nothing I can do to make people buy them.

Maybe it will turn out to be a really solid source of income, or maybe I was inspired to write them because somehow this will open up some other opportunity of which I can’t conceive in my mind right now. At first I checked to see if I got reviews, and they were all really good, but I don’t anymore.

Maybe people are leaving more positive ones, or there are people who are leaving negative ones ,because they don’t buy into the law of attraction, they don’t like my writing style or a dozen other reasons.

Naturally I want people to like them, and find them helpful, but again, can’t control that. If there are people who don’t like the books, so be it. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t matter.

While validation in the form of positive feedback is always nice, we can’t rely on that. If we feel good about what we are doing, or we know it is the right thing for us in the moment, that is all that matters.

Of course, we may get feedback that can be helpful for us, and taking it into consideration can be of some benefit. This is surely the case at times, but often this feedback isn’t helpful, it’s just someone else’s opinion and nothing more. You’ll know if there is something of use in there, and you can make the necessary adjustments to whatever it is you are doing.

Our energy is our point of creation, and as long as you are aligned with what you want, and are feeling good about getting it, you’re going to get there. The path may not look like you think it is supposed to, or the manifestations may not be the exact ones you have in mind, but you’ll get there. But I digress…

Don’t always be looking for the ‘proof’ you are on the right course. Don’t look for others to validate you, and tell you you’re doing good or you are ‘right.’

If you are aligned, you’ll certainly get that feedback, so don’t worry…we all like it, and need it sometimes, and it’s okay.

I ,like anyone else, enjoy the comments, and emails, from people saying they like my work and it is helping them. I enjoy my clients telling me our work together has helped change their life. But I know that ultimately I can’t always be on the lookout for that.

Follow Your Intuition and Feelings

This is easier said than done, and we may not always succeed. The difficulty in doing this is one of the things that slows our manifestations down big-time, but it just is what it is. We weren’t encouraged to operate from this space, and we just won’t go full bore, simply because we now know more about the law of attraction, and how our feeling is our point of creation.

But when we do operate from this space, boy, does it feel good, and boy, do things come together nicely.

When I first started my blog, I read very little about blogging. It really didn’t interest me. This wasn’t from a space of feeling like I knew everything and had nothing to learn. It was more from a space of just doing things in a way that felt right to me.

I didn’t care about what words I should include in a title to pique interest, the different styles of blog posts, doing outlines or whatever. I just got an idea about a post and wrote it.

That’s not to say we should never seek out advice from others who are traveling a similar path or working towards a similar goal…there are times when it will be very helpful. Again, when that is something that will be helpful for us, we’ll know it.

But I didn’t feel lost or stuck in any way. I had a pretty good idea of what I wanted to do, and I just did it. My feelings let me know I was on the right track. And at times when I did feel stuck about certain things, I managed to attract the very information, that was perfect to help me.

While I was obviously writing my blog for other people to read, I wasn’t overly concerned with how other people might perceive the topics, my style or whatever. I was writing what felt good to me, and what was interesting to me.

My idea to write my ebook series came to me during a silent meditation retreat, and it felt so good and right. I was excited. And when I got back, I started writing the books. I don’t know how many I’ll write. I am really enjoying it and people seem to really like them.

One day after Ryan and I did an audio interview on my blog, I felt inspired to start a podcast, and I just did. I really enjoy doing it and people seem to really like them. Will I do them forever? Don’t know. Right now I like doing them and I can see myself continuing for the long-term. But who knows what will happen?

By doing things that make me feel good, I am aligning with the energy of what I want, and as we all know, that is the most important thing we can do to reach the goals we have set for ourselves, and manifest the things we think will make us happy.

There is a tendency to really overthink our inspirations. We consider the impact over the ‘long-term.’ We let our mind get in the way and start questioning and picking things apart. We try to see 50 steps ahead when we just can’t.

If you follow your feelings, you will always be led down the right path, and the next steps will be revealed. The next inspired actions will surface. What are you being led to do right now? Do your best to just stay in the now, and heed those nudges.

Do Things Your Way and Be Yourself

If you were to have a conversation with me in person, you would find I sound much like I do in my posts and podcasts. I am totally myself. I never considered what sort of ‘image’ I wanted to project when I started. Like anybody else in this world, there are people that will resonate with me, and people that may not, for one of a million reasons.

Let’s take my tendency to curse. This isn’t to purposely craft some ‘edgy’ persona or to provide any sort of shock value. I simply don’t censor myself if the next word to come out of my mouth, or that I want to type, happens to be such a word.

I think cursing can be a great way to emphasize a point or to inject some humor. It’s not excessive, and I don’t think it makes me sound ‘rough’ or unintelligent. I actually don’t curse all that much in my day-to-day life.

Now many people would say that’s a big fat no-no when it comes to blogging and podcasts, because you may offend people. And that’s true…some people may find it offensive. But I don’t give a fuck. Ha, see what I did there? That’s their problem, not mine. You can’t please everyone.

My authenticity is what allows me to help people as best I can, and share what I have learned in the most effective way. It is what makes what I do fun and what makes me enjoy it.

If I worried all the time about presenting myself in a certain way, or I suppressed who I was, not only would that totally stilt my creativity, it would be a huge manifesting block, because it’s really hard to get exactly what you want, when you won’t let yourself be who you really are.

Living authentically means getting comfortable with the idea not everyone will gel with you, that not everyone will ‘get’ you, that people will most definitely make all sorts of inaccurate assumptions about you. It also means getting comfortable with the idea not everyone may like you either.

One of the reasons we are so reluctant to be ourselves is fear of people not liking us or criticizing us. But the great thing is, once you get more comfortable being who you really are, there is less insecurity and doubt within to be mirrored back to you, in the form of people criticizing and judging.

Remember our interactions with people are a manifestations of our energy just like anything else.

These people either won’t come into your orbit at all, or they won’t feel compelled to say anything, and will just turn their attention elsewhere—there will be no nasty remarks, blog comments, emails or whatever.

The people who do gel with you, and do ‘get’ you will find you. These are the people you are more likely to start encountering in your daily life.

Being into personal growth, and the law of attraction in particular, often calls for making really big changes in our life. It may call for doing things in a way that is the polar opposite of what you may have been taught to do.

And this can lead to a lot of fear about not getting the results we want. We worry that truly being ourselves is not appropriate, given a particular goal, or will hinder us in some way. If the way we feel inclined to do things, is not the way we have been taught we ‘should’ do them, this causes a lot of discomfort, and we are reluctant to trust ourselves.

But that all stems from limiting beliefs that contain within them very strong ‘declarations’ of how things are, that are just not true;or are based on the experiences of other people who have decided things have to be done a certain way, and there is no viable alternative, and again, is just not true.

Again, our energy is our true point of creation, and when we are aligned with what we want, we will get it. We can do things our way and we can be ourselves. We don’t need to conform.

Just because other people have done things a certain way to get certain results, doesn’t mean that is the only way to get those results. The perfect clients, friends and romantic partners will find you, and totally vibe with how you are.

In Closing…

I hope you enjoyed the post and found some helpful manifesting lessons within that are applicable to your current situation, no matter what area of life you are trying to improve. Have I applied this wisdom perfectly each and every time an opportunity to do so presented itself? Um…no.

But, I applied it enough to make really awesome changes in my life, and over time, it gets easier and easier to act in a way that is more ‘LOA-friendly,’ if you will.

There is certainly a learning curve with this whole conscious creation thing, but like I always like to remind you…thank God you don’t have to be ‘perfect’ to let in any of the good stuff.

Your Turn…

What did you think of the post? Anything in particular resonate with you? Have you found any of these lessons to be helpful in your own manifesting journey? Would tips would you offer? Looking forward to your comments as always.

 If you want to learn more about law of attraction, you can also find my Making Sense of the Law of Attraction series on Amazon. If you are a Kindle Unlimited member, they are free…sweet. And if you aren’t, no worries..they are super-cheap!

 

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14 thoughts on “Law of Attraction: Lessons Learned from Building My Blog and Business (That Apply To Anything)

  1. Thanks for the reassurance Kelli! I’ve been reminding myself not to get caught up in looking for proof that I’m headed in the right direction when I know perfectly well that I am. Sometimes those outside influences can really mess with you! Thanks for the reminder that all is well, I needed that.

    1. Hey
      You are so right about those outside influences…happens to the best of us. But the more we manifest, the easier it is to trust our inner knowing and feelings.

  2. Wow! This post is quite jarring and confronting. To a degree (not obsessed about it like some) I DO watch the numbers because I have set targets that I want to reach. But I get what you’re saying about how that kind of thinking is contrary to what LOA is about.

    I guess what you’re saying is that it’s vital to ‘be ourselves’ which to me is about finding our authentic voice. When people find that they’ll be amazed that many people will find ‘the voice’ attractive, and will naturally gravitate towards them.

    Thanks Kelli

    1. Hey Kim
      Thanks for your comment and I am glad you found some helpful tidbits within the post. I don’t think there is anything wrong with tracking stats or doing other things that allow us to gauge progress. I was just sharing my personal experience with how I kept myself in alignment with what I wanted to accomplish by not paying attention to things that might lead me ‘astray.’ For some people that sort of information can be quite helpful and motivating. It is all about how a particular action, strategy or whatever is making us feel personally. You are so right about that…that authenticity will draw to us the people who vibe with our message, style and whatever, and we shouldn’t hesitate to be ourselves for fear we won’t succeed. We may not be everything to everyone but we’ll find our people.

  3. Hey Kelli,

    First off I just want to say a big fat thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic because I was nodding my head almost all the way through with what you were sharing. Why you might ask?

    When people started first coming to me wanting to “know my secret” and what was I doing specifically that was getting me so much attention I couldn’t honestly tell them. Like you, I was just being myself, doing what I thought might work for me at the time and just seeing how it went. Was there some huge laid out plan? Hell no and that’s the reason I drug my feet for two years before putting together my course because I had done everything pretty naturally.

    Sure, I did learn from some people about things that could benefit me but in the end I did it my way and a lot of what I did they hadn’t taught me. I was just doing what felt right to me at the time.

    I really don’t check my stats a lot either. I know I should since I’m running a business and I need to stay on top of where my traffic is coming from but like you, it’s not something I’m obsessed over. I’ve getting great results, people are enjoying what I share, I’m helping them with what it is that they want to know and all is good in my world.

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately actually so I’m going to give myself permission to just do what feels right for me and know that what is suppose to happen will. Not a great way to teach people how to be successful with blogging but sometimes we just have to go with our guts right!

    Thanks for your honesty and as you know I did download one of your books and really really enjoyed it. Wrote you a great review as I’m sure everyone else is as well.

    Keep up the excellent work, you’re a natural.

    ~Adrienne

    1. Hey Adrienne
      Thanks so much for your comment and sharing your own experience. I am glad you liked it. I stopped checking my stats a couple of months into my blogging because like I mentioned, I was becoming too preoccupied with it. And I got so used to not checking it, I never felt the urge to start doing it again. I know I have more traffic but as for getting the exact data, I am really not concerned. Following my feelings has always served me well, and anytime I feel like I need to learn something or need advice, I seek it out and apply anything that resonates. I always think it comes down to evaluating how something makes us feel personally and some people really like all that analysis and measuring, and what not. I think there is a lot to be learned from people discussing their experience with going with their gut…that can be a much easier path to success and if more people talk about that, others may feel more comfortable doing the same. That is not to say never learning from anyone again as there is lots of helpful info but it is beneficial to get more comfortable following our intuition. So keep doing your thing and keep inspiring people…you are really good at that.

  4. Hi Kelli,

    I so love that post of yours and find that we have lots in common while reading this.

    I too hate stats and rarely check them. Like you when they are bad it’s depressing and there’s nothing I can do about it. So I tend to let it be and just do my thing too.

    There’s always going to be some people that will or won’t resonate with us, but like you said whatever they may think it’s only THEIR point of view, and point of views are what they are, just the thought of that one person that has nothing to do with me, and I don’t give a shit 🙂

    Now, that brings me about the cursing thing. Well, I grew up in a house where people were totally allowed to curse, my mother did curse in front of us (her two kids). Did that made us bad people? No, not at all. I consider myself a pretty decent human being. So cursing has nothing to do with who you are as a person. Some people just do more than others. Here in Europe cursing is left and right, we just curse more over here. Or may less hypocrite too.

    To me, speaking 3 languages, I think that a curse word is really just a word, because a curse word in one language can mean something else in another.

    CON in Spanish mean “with” CON in French means “an asshole” and it’s basically pronounced the same.

    Now do you want to laugh? a “seal” (the animal) in French is “phoque”. Do you know how that pronounces? FUCK. So we were in a zoo in New York one day my mom and I, and she says very loudly OH let’s go see the phoques!

    Now even though she was speaking French, I saw some people looking when she said that word. I was embarrassed and told her don’t pronounce that word here, it’s very bad.
    But dang! We were speaking French, we shouldn’t have been embarrassed.

    So anyways, it’s been a long time that I don’t consider a bad word a big deal, because of all of that and some.

    However, people do, and I feel that I wouldn’t say a bad word if I were to speak in a meeting or at a conference and so on, so I choose not to use them on my blog or videos. But I totally get it that some people don’t care about that. I know other bloggers who feel the same way you do.

    All in all, it’s very important to follow our own thing and not to care too much about what other people think. Nobody has the right to tell us if we’re doing right or wrong, because we have that inner voice (if we listen) that tells us when we’re fine.

    Great post.

    1. Hey Sylviane
      I imagine you resonated with a lot of this having a similar mindset and interest in mindset and the law of attraction. Your perspective on the words because of speaking multiple languages is interesting and that story is very funny. You are so right about the inner voice being the best source of guidance…it can never really steer us wrong.

  5. Hi Kelli
    I must say ‘This is one of the best post I have ever read’. I was enjoying every word. There is so much depth and purity in your writing.
    It takes lot of courage to portray our real identity. As you mentioned in the post, there is no use of pleasing everyone. By making everyone happy, we lose ourselves. It is always better to project the truth.
    I have seen many people who are worried about their stats. They are more concerned about their google analytics data. When I started blogging, I was a complete stranger to all the technical aspect. Like you, it didn’t interest me. With time, I have learnt many things. Earlier, I used to think a lot about the stats. Now, I focus on my content only. I know there are many people who will feel connected after reading my articles.
    Good to know you started with your podcasts and E-book series after listening your inner voice. When we feel something from inside, it becomes easy for us. This is all about law of attraction, isn’t?
    Thanks Kelli for this awesome post. Best of luck with your Amazon E-book Series.

    1. Hi Yatin
      I am so glad you enjoyed the post and thank you for the compliment about my writing…that is so nice to hear. It is interesting to hear others feel a similar way about the stats and stuff…I think a lot of people like looking at that, but like you, I just never had much of an interest. Once I stopped looking at my stats early on, the urge to check them never resurfaced so I just never did. You are right about writing good content and the right audience will be drawn to it. Being too careful to try and cultivate mass appeal will definitely make us lose something I think.

  6. hey its amazing that you do not check your sites statistics that is amazing.Your site looks like its doing well because of also your good work.

    1. Hi Angela
      I like to think things are going well…following my feelings has served me well up until this point so will just keep doing that!

  7. The law of attraction states that like energy attracts like energy. The point being, don’t put negative or inferior energies back onto the universe. Always act with love and respect, and the universe will always respond in kind.

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