We put so much effort into changing our energy so we can allow for a new reality to take shape around us, but then we constantly undermine it by failing to protect this more beneficial vibration.
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Podcast #115: Law of Attraction: You’re Changing Your Energy but Are You Protecting It?
Excellent.
For me, it has been about being present for my shifts – shifting away from love to fear, and nudging myself back to love – so I could protect my vibe. Some folks desperately try to change their vibe and do a terrible job because force negates. Other people are doing well changing their predominant vibe for a little bit but then crap on it by exposing themselves to people vibing on a lower wavelength, which of course leads to some deflation.
If you change your vibe slowly and gradually, clearing fear and making fun choices, persistently, making the shifts from fear to love when you need to becomes easier. All down to making the decision to shift your energy before doing anything else.
Wise words here.
RB
Hi Ryan
I agree that trying to force the energy backfires sooner than later. We are pushing against something and that ‘something’ will just remain dominant. Being willing to go a bit more slowly will actually be the faster way because the shifts, while smaller, will be genuine and the more ‘positive’ energy actually starts to build.
Well said.
I would really love to guest post on here someday.
BTW I think that is the first time you called me “Ryan” in 10 years.
Hi Kelli, thanks for this post. I feel like most of the time when you are trying to figure out what works for you, there are a lot of instances in real life which go against what you want to believe and that can mess with your process because you wonder if what you feel is valid and because these feelings are driven by certain beliefs, you begin to question them too.
My question for you is this, what can you do if a person who is close to you has limiting beliefs and these beliefs constantly have an impact on you because of the bond you share with them. To put this in context, my father is a man who believes that everything comes if you wish for it and he has actually helped me achieve a lot of things. But he’s also one to believe that feeling the struggle and living through it actually makes it more worthwhile to be successful. So when things don’t go his way, he shuts off, like most men do and goes on to the next venture without addressing his failures. This obviously has an effect on me as I see him struggle but cannot change his belief system and that in turn has an effect on my energy as I tend to gravitate towards not feeling and just doing. How can one disassociate from such a situation?
Hi Snig
I wouldn’t make ‘disassociating’ the goal–that word choice was interesting because it speaks to our tendency to want to totally eliminate negative feeling, be untouched by things that our mind doesn’t like. You are struggling with this issue because your father’s beliefs are showing you the lack of clarity you have about your own–that is always the core issue when we find ourselves bothered by what other people think and believe. If we were totally clear on our own beliefs, we wouldn’t feel any ‘charge’ when presented with ones that oppose ours. The key to feeling better is examining yourself–no use trying to get him to agree with you and see things differently. You can’t control that. And as you work through your own ‘stuff’ you will find one of two things happening–either your father doesn’t seem to talk that way around you or he does but it doesn’t bother you. There will be no emotional reaction.
I really struggle with this. I am on social media entirely too much, not posting but reading. That’s how I keep up with what’s going on in the world. I don’t watch the news, I read it. There is so much shit going down and part of me has an enormous need to know, while another part wishes I could step away. I know checking FB or Twitter is just going to wig me out, but to allow myself to not feel outrage over things I know to be outrageous feels to me like white privilege. Like, why do I get to unplug when across town, someone is losing her health insurance and is going to suffer and die? Why do I get to stay chill when another mother just lost her son to gun violence? Not meaning to get into a political rant. All this to say: I am deeply affected by all the agony being witnessed publicly, and I don’t know how to disassociate from it, and I also believe I have a responsibility to stay woke and do what I can to make this world a better place, but I also fully recognize the toll it’s taking on me. I don’t know how to be conscious and still protect my energy. I don’t get how anyone can live in these times, with access to so much information revealing the brutality, pain and evil so many struggle against, and not be impacted. My life is so good, I’m manifesting all over the place, I’m so blessed, but it’s bittersweet when there is so much suffering and ugliness everywhere you look. I can’t unsee what I see, unknow what I know. And it’s all just too too much.
Hi Randy
I think a lot of people feel the way you do–we are living in some turbulent times. But just like I believe we create our reality as individuals, so do we collectively as a whole. And all that is happening is a perfect mirror to our collective energy, which is vibing pretty strongly with some lower energies for the most part–division, fear, intolerance, sense of powerlessness,etc… And I think that it is spurring lots of positive change–people getting involved in causes they really care about for example.
I think a lot of people deal with their guilt about not experiencing some of the things people do in this world by ‘bearing witness’ to it. They may not be touched by it, but at least they are informed, they know what’s going on and they feel badly about it. Not to say that people aren’t truly concerned about the various problems in the world. I think many are, but ultimately we are doing this for our own benefit, it is self-serving and not helping in any way. Perhaps this perspective may allow you to pull back a bit from all the news.
There are lots of shitty things happening but also good things. You can choose to put more attention there. The only thing we can really do is work on our little corner of the world–put our loving energy out there, and help where we feel inspired, whether it is donating money to a cause we care about or getting involved with an organization that we think is doing helpful work.
And as for the ‘white privilege’ thing, I get what you are saying but there are a couple of things I would say. First, white people are not exempt from suffering. Plenty are in various ways. If we were literally untouched by anything, I could see feeling this way, but it’s not the case. And again, this goes back to simply alleviating our own guilt, and while I am sure many people of color want white people to understand better how issues of race have impacted their lives, I suspect many wouldn’t want our pity. Second, the spiritual teachings from which the ideas of not focusing on the negative, focusing on peace,etc…were those of many non-white people, like the Buddha, Rumi,etc.. 😉
It sounds like you do really need a break, and I highly recommend giving yourself permission. Even if you can’t totally withdraw, at least scale back and see how you feel. Sending hugs!
I had a nasty interaction on facebook, immediately was inspired to listen to this, and a day later (just now) I deactivated my facebook on a whim. It feels weird since it’s the first site I go to every day! It’s become a habit, like smoking or something. Does it matter that I don’t feel completely aligned with the decision to deactivate my account? I know you say to only take aligned action, but this podcast sort of seemed to suggest that there are a few actions that would be useful to take even if they feel a bit off. Thanks 🙂
Hey Matt
I wouldn’t worry too much about the exact blend of feelings and motivations that led you to do it. It felt good to some degree or you wouldn’t have at all and you don’t necessarily have to stay off it forever. You may at some point reactivate it, even by tomorrow, but you might change how you use the site, how often you are on it,etc…if you feel like it is having a negative impact on your life. If you stay off it awhile totally you may begin to see you can live without it, and again, even if you go back on, its ‘presence’ in your life may be dramatically reduced. Sometimes actions that we know will be good for us may be motivated by something ‘negative’ they might not always feel comfortable,etc…But they are good actions to take in the moment because we just know it is something that will benefit us.
Hi Kelli! Thanks for the timely post. You can tell from the comments that it resonated. I appreciated your and Ryan’s comments about forcing backfiring and also needing to change other people’s beliefs or behavior because we don’t fully trust our own.
I have gradually cut violent or “junk food” content, news, social media, interaction with negative people and commitments that feel like “shoulds” rather than freely given. It’s an ongoing process but I’ve found that it raises my vibration and increases my mental and physical energy.
The most beautiful change though is that as I clear out all these external voices and expectations my own voice that was drowned out is emerging. Now I feel my own guidance clearly about things I desired but neglected for years, including self-care, creativity, having a soul tribe and travel. This is really a Law of Vacuum lesson that we have to clear out what doesn’t serve us to make way for things that are infinitely more valuable, magical and make us feel alive.
I divide my time between two cities and there is always an energetic dip when I return to the old one so the reminder about protecting my own energy was right on.
Thanks for your lightwork and blessings to the other commenters who are taking similar steps on their own paths.
Hi Ruby
Thanks so much for your comment and sharing your own experience…such great insight here. I love what you said about how you created a space for your inner guidance to come through–that part of us knows better than anyone what we should do, what will work best for us and lead us to our highest success, well-being and happiness. And yes, yes, yes to the vacuum. It is really helpful to take a look at where in our lives we aren’t making room for the new and better.