Law of Attraction: I Got What I Wanted and I’m Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop

I got what I wanted, what I dreamed of, for years and years. I made it happen, I manifested it. Holy shit! It’s really wonderful and I’m so happy and feel so blessed. So what’s the problem, right? Well, now I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop! Why do I sabotage myself like this? Why am I still so fearful, like this is too good to be true, like I don’t get to be this happy, so don’t get used to it because any minute now something tragic is going to happen and my bubble will burst. I just want to relax, be here now and really enjoy manifesting my dream, but there is a part of me that sleeps with one eye open, and it sucks!! What is wrong with me??!

Insidious Global Beliefs

Nothing is wrong with you, trust me. This is one of those beliefs that really aren’t borne of our own personal experience. It might seem that way since we have manifested ‘evidence’ of it in our own life countless times. But it was something, that was for the most part, absorbed as one of those beliefs that make up the generally pessimistic, fearful thought system we have all created together.

When we read something like this, our logical-make-sense-of-everything-so-I-can-buy-in-mind might be wondering where this all started. How did we come to these conclusions? Where did these beliefs first take root? Who was the very first person to think this way?

Great questions and ones I can’t answer as much as I would love to. Suffice to say, it was a group effort.

It’s not like a belief in unworthiness because you had an abusive father who told you that you were worthless. It’s not like a belief in not being good enough because every boyfriend you ever had left you for someone that you perceived as ‘better’ than you in some way.

It’s just one of those things we have come to believe because over time we just came to an agreement that this is how life is. Life is hard. No one gets to have everything they want. Gotta take the good with the bad. For you to gain, someone else has to lose. So on and so forth.

You observe this sort of belief playing out the world over in big and small ways.

The woman who just had a beautiful baby and she gets diagnosed with cancer. The man who just got married to the love of his life getting into a terrible car accident.

You finally start saving some money and an unexpected car repair wipes you out. You finally got a great job and your boyfriend breaks up with you a week later.

But don’t forget that the energies and beliefs come first and then the manifestations. It is easy to forget this when we are looking at the experiences of others, whether individuals or humans collectively. Limiting and fearful beliefs certainly seem to hold more weight when we see them on such a large scale.

Knowing What We Know

If there is a belief that the ‘good’ happening somehow makes you more vulnerable to the ‘bad,’ that the ‘bad’ thing happening is directly linked to the ‘good’ thing that preceded it, you have to take some time to consider why you feel that way.

Do you think happiness is a state that can’t be maintained consistently and regularly, but something that is fleeting, that isn’t for everyone?

Do you think you don’t deserve to have only ‘good’ things happen?

Are you afraid feeling happy and satisfied with your life will make ‘bad’ things feel more painful, and you fear that pain?

Do you think focusing less on what is ‘wrong’, unwanted, or what could go wrong, somehow makes it more likely to happen?

Do you think it is important to focus on what isn’t wanted, think about it a lot or just worry in general so the Universe ‘knows’ what you don’t want to happen?

Do you think there has to be some sort of ‘balance’ in life, and the ‘bad’ things have to be as ‘bad’ as the good things are good?

Now, when you weigh these sorts of beliefs against beliefs like the law of attraction, that your energy creates, that you live in a loving Universe, how does it hold up?

If we know it is our energy that creates our reality, and life is just not random, then we know that being deliberate in our focus helps us attract more of what is wanted and less of what is unwanted.

This is not a call, however, to try and ‘use’ the law of attraction to micromanage your reality and try to insulate yourself from any manifestations your mind has judged as ‘bad.’ Just had to throw that reminder in there.

If we know the Universe is a loving force set up to work for us and not against us, there is no limit to the ‘goodness’ we can manifest.

If there is infinite abundance, there is more than enough to go around, and it isn’t rationed out.

If we deserve because we ‘are’ and not based on what we ‘do’, we know it makes no sense we would be limited in our ‘goodness’ because no one person would be able to ‘do’ enough to have such a great life.

If something ‘bad’ happens to you after something ‘good’ happens, it had nothing to do with the ‘good’ thing. It happened because something in your energy lent itself to this thing manifesting.

The Key to Releasing This Belief

The key to releasing this belief is actually not different than the key to releasing a belief of any nature. But it is particularly key to these global beliefs that really aren’t truly our own. And this key is…wait for it….simply deciding you are not going to believe it anymore.

That is all you can really do with beliefs. Yes, you can engage different tools and techniques to help you make these shifts and do whatever works for you, whether an affirmation, some sort of scripting exercise or whatever else you come across.

But at the end of the day, it all comes down to this decision. Nothing will make you stop believing something independent of your willingness to stop believing it.

You can affirm your new belief from sun up to sundown, but it won’t do a lick of good if you truly aren’t willing to let the old one go, if your mind is waiting for ‘evidence’ to come along to justify releasing it.

You are unlikely to amass enough ‘proof’ from the ‘outside’ to satisfy your mind, who will then let you stop believing that good things happening somehow means something bad has to happen to ‘even’ things out or whatever.

This is especially true because, like I mentioned earlier, our collective belief system is definitely in need of improvement, and you will see no shortage of ‘evidence’ thinking this way has its merits.

There is nothing I can really say to ‘prove’ to you that this fear really doesn’t hold any water. There is no logical argument. Like any other limiting belief that feels badly, you just have to be willing to consider it isn’t true.

It boils down to choice.

It is this willingness to trust the good feelings you get from beliefs that the Universe works for you, that your energy creates your reality, that you are worthy and deserving for your mere existence,etc…are meant to alert you to a truth, and the bad feelings you get from thinking things like this are meant to alert you to something that isn’t true.

I know this is probably an extremely unsatisfying answer to your mind, that wants specific, concrete steps it can take to make these changes. It wants to know what we can ‘do’ to ensure our vibration gets ‘fixed.’ But it just really doesn’t work that way with energy.

Nothing Means Anything

Everything that happens to us essentially has no inherent, objective meaning. We assign a meaning to it, and some sort of emotional response follows. We don’t like what we don’t like because it causes us to feel feelings that are unpleasant in some way.

Having negative reactions to the various issues us humans experience is understandable, and it’s okay to not like things like financial problems, health issues, getting broken up with, losing your job,etc…

It’s understandable to be particularly bummed about these unwanted manifestations when things have been going really good. Our mind was really hoping that it would be smooth sailing the rest of the way, and it’s disheartening when it isn’t.

The sense of contrast is greater, and it can be unpleasant. When things were going shitty anyway, and another shitty thing gets piled on, it might not sting as badly because you were already feeling pretty badly.

This doesn’t have to add to the ‘pain’ of the unwanted when it was on the heels of the ‘good’ however. That doesn’t automatically mean we have to resist these experiences more strongly because our mind didn’t like having its bubble burst.

We do have an option to respond differently, to reject the meanings and conclusions our mind is formulating. We can allow these reactions, we can allow ourselves to process the emotions and fears being triggered.

But then we can pivot to looking at these manifestations in a way that will serve us much better.

So when something happens, you get to decide what it means. You can recognize it as vibrational feedback, and see what is being shown to you.

You can choose to learn from the experience, and use it to further help you create a dominant vibration that lends itself to the good stuff.

So you start making more money but then your boyfriend breaks up with you two weeks later.

But deep down you knew the relationship wasn’t working anyway, and it’s just a bruised ego. Now you can reap the benefit of your single status giving you more time for the inner work that will help you manifest an awesome partner.

You meet a great guy but then the next day you get fired from your job.

You really didn’t like that job anyway, or you really hated it, but you couldn’t bring yourself to walk away from the fat salary voluntarily. Now you can look for work you actually like.

Things are finally on track with your business, but then you start having health problems.

You realize you have really been neglecting yourself in a variety of ways, and this forces you into a space of taking better care of yourself, that gives you an excuse to do the beneficial things you kept putting off because you were too busy.

It is so crucial to understand that just because something happened your mind didn’t like doesn’t mean it is ‘bad’ or something went ‘wrong.’ Nothing could be further from the truth.

Working on your energy can reap so many benefits beyond just getting the specific things your mind wants to manifest, and the ‘unwanted’ manifestations present us opportunities to become aware of energies that aren’t serving us, and then change them.

These manifestations give us an opportunity to manifest from a very different space, a space where we open ourselves up to receiving in a way that may not seem possible now, that allows the best of the best to show up.

Again, if something ‘bad’ happens after something ‘good’ happens or when things seem to finally be falling into place, they have no inherent relationship. The idea they do is nothing but a fear-based limiting belief that makes no sense when you really think about it.

So enjoy your good manifestations. They are not a danger to you, they aren’t setting you up for ‘bad’ ones. Things can be good. Life can be easy.

We get to decide what our manifestations mean and how we feel about them. If we are always being served by what happens to us, that can soften the edges a bit of the stuff we don’t like.

There is no other shoe.

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