The teachings of the law of attraction are quite simple actually, but how the process of aligning with what we want looks in theory, and in practice, can be very, very different. We are not masters of creating our reality and aligning. We have accumulated a lot of ‘stuff’ in the form of limiting beliefs, fears, doubts and what have you.
Our minds have been running the show for so long, and they are not just going to acquiesce to this process. Things are happening way beyond its understanding;but that doesn’t stop it one bit from still trying to understand, plan, figure out, draw conclusions based on the data is has access to, etc…
The focus on ‘being positive’ can make us freak out any time we aren’t. This idea we are supposed to be thinking about what we want all the time, and visualizing in specific detail really isn’t all that accurate, and can actually slow things down a whole lot. If we are not actively wanting something, our mind thinks we won’t get it, and that doesn’t sit well, not one bit.
For anyone who listened to my last podcast on the rollercoaster ride of releasing big resistance, I noted I would likely be putting together a blog post as well on the topic because it’s an important one, and I know that some people are more the reading type, and not big on audio and video content.
Though if you do find this topic particularly intriguing I do recommend listening to the podcast because me straight talking for 25 minutes will cover a lot more ground than a couple of thousand words will.
I was inspired to talk about this topic because I recently had a major resistance release. Something happened that triggered me massively—the event itself was not actually all that big. But my reaction to it sure as hell was.
In that moment, it became glaringly obvious that certain things from my past had not really been dealt with; certain feelings and beliefs were much stronger than I had realized. I wasn’t totally shocked at my reaction in that I did have some awareness that some things may not have been totally shifted, but I did not realize how strongly they remained in my energy.
That is why it is so important to let yourself have your reactions, no matter how silly, irrational or whatever they seem to your conscious mind. Because the triggering event was not a big occurrence, I could have easily told myself I was overreacting and totally shut it down—and that wouldn’t have been good.
I just went with it and I’m glad I did. Something permanently changed within. This doesn’t necessarily mean these beliefs, fears, thoughts and feelings will never show up again—remember we are really never done.
We are human and have a mind, and we must make peace with that. But what does change over time is the intensity, the way we respond, our perspective and all that jazz.
These big releases are awesome in that we can make big leaps in our energy, but they can be uncomfortable. I think that there can be certain expectations of what this process looks like and what transpires afterwards, and the reality often looks quite different.
And we all know what happens when things don’t look like we think they are supposed to—we freak out and think something has gone terribly, terribly wrong. But nothing ever goes wrong.
So, here are some thoughts on what can happen in this space, and how to proceed.
You Feel Like You Don’t Give a Shit Anymore
This can really freak people out because we think that in order to allow what we want into our lives ,and improve them in the way we want them to be improved, we must be thinking positively about what we want and getting all excited about its eventual arrival pretty much all the time.
Our mind has concluded that a sense of wanting is somehow necessary to the process of getting our stuff, and all of a sudden feeling like we don’t even care if we get these things, throws it for a loop big time. It likens this to giving up on getting it, and it doesn’t like that.
But feeling like you no longer give a shit after a big resistance release is very, very different from not giving a shit what happens in your life because everything sucks anyway, God hates all of us, the world is a cruel place and you won’t ever get what you want so why even bother wanting anything better at all?
If we are honest with ourselves, most of our ‘work’ in manifesting is coming from a place of resistance—we don’t like our current reality and we want all the things we want so we don’t have to experience these these undesirable elements anymore.
Obviously we gotta start somewhere and it’s okay to have preferences. But once we have used what we don’t like as a springboard for figuring out what we do, trying to create from this place of resistance will just slow shit down big time, as you have probably experienced personally.
Most of the time, we aren’t thinking about what we want from a place of detachment and openness to something even better possibly showing up. We are thinking about it from a place of noticing its absence and feeling badly about ‘what is.’
That resistance creates so much energy, so much feeling…there is just so much momentum. And these big releases come when the pain of holding onto all that resistance, and wanting what you want so badly, becomes too much, and you finally let it all come to a head. You just get sick of the wanting, the fear, the doubt, the need to control, the lack of trust, and all that other stuff.
And after so much wanting and so much pushing against, it will feel like you don’t give a crap anymore—you don’t care if what you want manifests. You don’t feel as compelled to take the actions you may have been taking that you believed were necessary to get what you want. The passion and enthusiasm might just not be there.
But this isn’t a bad thing, not by a long shot. It’s normal to feel this way, because again, much of what you were feeling was the resistance, not the warm, fuzzy stuff. All that energy just dissipated big-time.
This doesn’t mean you have given up on what you want, all it means is you have stopped resisting your current reality as much—you’re not fighting against ‘what is’ with so much intensity and fervor.
And when we do that, we can let so much in (maybe not immediately.) When we are not as attached to specific manifestations, we open ourselves up to so many things showing up—possibilities our mind did not even see. Things we may have been working so hard to get, just show up, now that we aren’t meddling so much in the process.
This detachment from such specific desires allows a variety of things to show up that feel just as good or even better, and we start getting what we have always been after all along—to feel a certain way.
You Don’t Feel Great But You Don’t Feel Badly Either
Manifesting what we want doesn’t mean we have to be in this state of manic joy every second—while there may be some people who are truly in that state all the time, I have my doubts this is possible, unless perhaps you are totally removed from a ‘worldly life.’
Not from a pessimistic perspective, but from the fact that as humans with a mind that can’t fully understand who we really are and that of which we are capable, a range of emotions (that all have value by the way), and some pretty deep conditioning, always sparking new desires that we may not be a match to, our experience will probably make for a bit more variety in the feeling department.
After these big releases, there may be an expectation that you will feel on top of the world, and just move into this higher vibration automatically. And that is totally possible…there will be times when that is exactly what happens.
Anything I am talking about here is not necessarily things that will definitely happen to everyone all the time. Everyone’s experience is different. But like I said earlier, many people don’t experience this, and it freaks them out. Hence a post like this.
After such a big release, there can be a stage in-between where you have stopped traveling one path but haven’t quite started on the other. You aren’t feeling badly but you don’t necessarily feel all high-energy and enthusiastic either.
You may feel kind of nothing, but not that numbness that comes from suppressing strong negative emotion. This nothingness can shift in and of itself. Sometimes you feel a bit apathetic; sometimes you feel neutral; sometimes you just feel at peace, no matter what is happening around you—you aren’t in a state of resisting and judging your current reality.
In all honesty, I kind of like this state because our craving for being in those high-energy states constantly causes us quite a bit of distress. When we feel them, and move away from them, our lower energy states feel worse. We can get caught in a nasty cycle of craving and aversion and as the wise Buddha noted—this is the root of our mental suffering.
Again, I am not saying it’s not possible to reach that state more frequently—it most certainly is, and as you release more and more on your resistance, and adopt different perspectives on everything that happens to you, you’ll feel that way more of the time.
But, if you make the goal to be there all the time, that’s probably going to be very painful. There is nothing wrong with this in-between stage and don’t worry about getting stuck there permanently, where you will never feel passion, excitement or enthusiasm ever again.
There is nothing wrong with simply feeling contentment and a sense of peace, of feeling balanced—to me personally, that is the best place to be.
There is nothing wrong with not feeling very much of anything—again, there is a difference between numbness caused by severely repressed emotion, and being in a state of non-resistance to your current reality, and not having a strong reaction to what is happening right now, knowing things will be okay.
Honor how you are feeling right now. Don’t feel pressure to act if you are not feeling action. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
Don’t get all bent out of shape because you are not feeling super-happy; only engage in your tools if doing so actually makes you feel better—don’t act from a space of resistance, thinking you have to do these things or nothing will change.
This time can be very beneficial in helping you define more clearly what you actually want (which is ultimately to feel a certain way) realize there are changes you may want to make in your daily life, business, relationships, etc.. and just gaining more clarity overall.
The ultimate key in manifesting is lack of resistance, and in having had this big release, you are contending with much, much less, so it’s all good.
Coping with Resistance Aftershocks
Remember what I said about us never really being done with this work, and never being able to just shut off our minds? While you may have released a crap load of resistance, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is all totally gone.
And that’s okay. After such a big shift, you may experience some resistance ‘aftershocks’ if you will. That is the residual crap that is coming up to be released as well. Something has really been shaken loose.
You may experience sudden surges of emotion. You will likely manifest situations that are the perfect trigger to bring it up, if these manifestations are necessary to to facilitate this.
Just breathe into whatever is happening; sit with it. Don’t try to make it go away. Don’t get mad it is there. Be honest with how you are feeling. Don’t shut any of it down. Just cultivate an awareness of what is happening without judgment.
The aforementioned in-between state is actually a good one to be in because in this state, you won’t resist the resistance as much—if you got all happy immediately and super-high vibing, you would probably get really pissed when this stuff came up for ‘ruining your good time.’
The drop in energy would feel very painful, and you would be much more resistant to examining what is happening and just letting yourself be with it, observe it and process it. You would instead be lamenting that you are no longer feeling great, which will just make you feel worse.
You Might Not Have Immediate Manifestations—Nothing Went Wrong
One of the things that really slows down the allowing of what we want into our lives is always being on the lookout for manifestations. We want ‘proof’ what we are doing is ‘working’. We have a hard time feeling better, and are waiting for something to happen, for some reason to feel better.
When we have these big releases where we are not actively wanting anything very much, or not feeling much resistance, we will have that tendency to expect these big, huge changes to rain down upon us immediately.
And when that doesn’t happen, we feel discouraged. We start focusing on ‘what is’ more strongly again, and we build that resistance right back up.
You have to understand that in these moments, there is a lot of ‘rearranging’ of energy if you will. You are in a ‘rebuilding’ phase and in that moment, there is lots of stuff going on behind the scenes. The actual manifestation of something in the physical is the last step in the process.
Just because we don’t see something, doesn’t mean nothing is happening—think about a plant. With all the right conditions, it is growing and growing, and eventually it will poke through the soil more fully formed. It just didn’t sprout forth right from a seed.
In these moments, you may feel very tempted to move into action, but be very, very careful. If that action is coming from resistance, from the need to make things happen, refrain.
If ideas spring forth for your business or whatever, and it feels good to take some sort of action towards that, go for it. But if it doesn’t, hold off, and focus on your inner world—that is where it’s at anyway, and in this state, that will become clearer and clearer, and that the truth that manifesting is all about what we are being and not what we are doing will sink in a bit more deeply.
When we take action from a more aligned space, when are are taking actions to create just for the sake of creating, without expecting a certain outcome, oh how magical things are. How easily things come together. So let that alignment come—let the next steps be revealed to you. Don’t try to figure out that next step from that space of resistance,from that space of not wanting to create something better, but to extract yourself from something unwanted.
So, that’s it for this post…hope you enjoyed it and I hope you found some nuggets in here that were helpful and provided some clarity and relief that everything is okay. Whatever is happening for you right now is perfect for showing you where you are now, and how to proceed.
Your Turn…
What did you think of the post? Are you in this in-between space now? Anything resonate with you in particular? Do you have any advice you would offer? Looking forward to hearing your comments as always.
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Hi Kelli,
Thank you so much for this post! It came in the nick of time (that’s LOA for ya!). I just recently experienced a big release, and was in this wonderful space of neutrality and inner peace. No longer was I trying to force anything to happen – I was just not caring so much anymore! But of course, as you mentioned, the mind starts getting in the way, and although I started manifesting some good “stuff” here and there, I started to question this place of non-resistance. Although emotionally, I felt this amazing calm (along with feeling openness), my mind was questioning this state and I started to judge myself (i.e. I’m being lazy). So lately, I started to feel a bit of resistance again, but after listening to your podcast and reading this post, I now have a better understanding of what my mind chatter is trying to do!
Thanks again, and please keep up your work! Love your e-books and podcasts!
Hi Letty
Thanks for your comment and I’m glad it was helpful. That resistance is normal…our mind may never stop that questioning but it gets more subtle over time, especially as your manifestations ‘prove’ to you that it is all about your energy truly and not your action. Then you get more comfortable acting only when it feels inspired and right. I am so happy you are enjoying my work.
Good post, Kelli. I appreciate you doing one because I’m one of those people who prefers reading! I will check out your podcasts too though. 🙂
I’ve been feeling up and down lately. I’ve been thinking things went “wrong” again, although I know things are always meant to be working out for the best. I feel a bit better today.
An interesting thing for me is that I have very little resistance in dreams. I experience the things I want in them but it’s harder for me in this plane of “reality”. So I thought I could try to tune into the feelings I experience in the dream state. I’m interested in dreams in gerneral, I got more into dream work about 11 years ago and I sometimes write mine down.
Hi there
Glad you liked it. I am partial to reading as well. Dreams are interesting in that the nature of our dreams can certainly reveal to us any resistance we may feel, things that may be in our vibration,etc.. If you are experiencing that, you are more aligned with what you want than you think. It just comes down to that willingness to not look at ‘what is’ so intently, waiting for something to change so we can feel better. It is also so important to remember the perfection of you and the moment–all that is happening is just showing us stuff and doesn’t ever really mean what we think it means.
Hey Kelli, thanks for your reply. Sorry I didn’t reply earlier, I’ve just seen it now. 🙂
I have had experiences with a couple of dreams where they’ve come true in some way. And sometimes I feel that dreams are messages. Yeah, I am least aligned on a certain level, so maybe my waking reality will eventually “catch up”! But you’re very right, it will be good if I can just feel happy now.
P.S. I’ve signed-up to Joy Holland’s manifesting series and I’m looking forward to hearin your interview! I think reading will probably always be my favourite but it’s good to asborb information in different ways sometimes. 🙂
it is true we have to accept what we are feeling and dont fight it or try to ignore it.
Hi Angela
SO very true. Thanks for your comment
I found this post very helpful. I am a big believer in the Law of Attraction but I really struggle with it sometimes. I know that my negative thoughts are holding me back from many things I want to accomplish, but because whatever situation I’m experiencing hasn’t worked out for me in the past, I find it increasingly hard to maintain a belief that THIS time, the result will be a positive one. This has been a pattern for me for more than a decade in many areas of my life. I guess that’s what you’re calling resistance, but I don’t quite know how to move past that point. Can you point me towards some articles or posts that would be helpful to deal with these recurring negative outcomes? I found you on Triberr – I’ve only been on the site a week or so, but maybe this is why I was drawn there. I believe things happen for a reason.
Hey Adrian
I am glad you liked the post and thank you for your comment. I think a lot of people can relate to what you are saying. That you are looking to the past to see if the future has a shot of being different is a common issue because our mind can only look at what has happened so far, what it observes in the outside world,etc..for determining what it thinks is possible, what it thinks has to happen for us to get what we want,etc..but know your past has absolutely no bearing on what is possible for the future. Try to see what your previous struggles were trying to show you, knowing that it was not any sort of indicator of how things actually are. My whole blog covers this to some degree but to really zero in, my ebook on overcoming limiting beliefs might have the type of information you are looking for. We have turned releasing resistance into this complicated thing that we overthink way too much, but simply deciding we want to release it is a powerful first step. And it is also important to remember that whatever it is you want now, is just one representation of what you ultimately want, which is to feel a certain way–when we can remember this, it gets easier to detach from specific things manifesting, and when that happens, resistance naturally weakens.
Kelli this is such an important topic I’m really happy you went over it again. It seems us LOA people are really hard on ourselves. Especially if we’re not flying high constantly or maintaining that perfect focus. It’s such a relief to know it’s all okay and part of the process.
It helped me so much to know that the neutral space is okay. Now when I feel it, it’s a relief versus a concern.
It’s been so great to know too that the resistance isn’t something to be afraid of. So now I approach those moments so much differently than before. I realize now these lows aren’t here to torment me or punish me. Just to show me what needs addressing. It’s great to see it from a much lighter perspective.
The idea of not seeing immediate manifestations being a big deal is also very important. I know for myself, I’ll kinda expect something to happen but that doesn’t necessarily happen after a big shirt. And it’s all good. 🙂
I really hope more people stumble across this post because it’s so timely and right on for those of us struggling with resistance and what to do with it.
Hey Corin
It is really important and that is why I wanted to do a post as well. You are so right that we are way too hard on ourselves–it is easy to forget what we are really after and that there is nothing absolutely essential for our happiness. Knowing that, we can begin to feel better no matter what is happening, knowing we can transition to a new reality without actively wanting anything in particular. Relief is a wonderful energy in this ‘work’ and can open up so much. So glad you liked it.
Kelli,
I’ve listened to your podcast on this subject a couple times now, and I’m so glad I finally reached your post. I’ve experienced 3 of these shifts in the past 6 weeks, the last one last night. I woke feeling this incredible buildup and started to really dig into why I’m so scared to leave my current (very draining on every level) job.
I started to feel fearful and anxious, so I tried to just breathe through it. Once the tears came, I got up so I wouldn’t wake my husband. I cried for quite a while, then calmed down enough to go back to bed. Today at work I feel kind of headachy and shellshocked. I want to just go home and be by myself. Is this normal? Did I actually release anything?
Hi Jeannie
Thanks so much for your comment. What you are experiencing is totally normal. You are allowing yourself to really look at and let up emotions that you probably have been suppressing to some degree. It is all part of the process and the physical symptoms can often accompany this too–that has happened to me many times. Just be gentle with yourself and know that allowing all of this to come up is key to moving past it and making some ‘room’ in your energy for the beliefs and perspectives you are looking to make more your own, the ones that may be primarily understood intellectually at this point. You certainly released things. One of the things to remember about releasing energies is that you don’t necessarily get rid of certain emotions,etc…completely never to come back. It is more about acknowledging things that haven’t been. Once you start doing that, you can really start shifting focus and perspective in a way that was more difficult before.
Thanks so much, Kelli! I’m so excited to tell you I manifested something amazing 2 days after going through this. I was reading one of Ryan’s ebooks, and felt inspired to write my own nonfiction ebook! I normally write romantic fiction, so this is very different from my norm. But it’s like Ryan says – it wasn’t me! It was the Universe! I finished it and had it posted to Amazon in one day! It usually takes me years or months to write a book. I’m still blown away by it. And now I’m filled with this incredible sense of peace. Thank you and Ryan so, so much! You two are transforming my life!
Hi Jeannie
Congratulations on that and I am glad that Ryan and I were able to help in some way. I am sure it is a great book. It is a great feeling when you seemingly led to do things and totally in flow like that. Best way to create.
Hi there,
I have a simple method to achieve that stage, I write everything that bothers me,triggers me,bugs me for all areas of my life ,childhood included. And then something happens. I have no emotional charge anymore after those speedy writing down sessions. I have seen my subconscious patterns as well as what is stopping me.
For all who seeks peace of mind and feeling neutral, I strongly recommend wrting down your emotions and reactions into a paper or word document. I will clear your mind and release your resistance.
Thanks for the article 🙂
Hi Ayca
Thanks so much for that awesome tip. I am a big fan of writing as well. Gets stuff out of our head and the power dissipates.
Hi Kelli!
This post is amazing! I have my LOA coach, but she is currently unavailable due to family issues and I go to a psychic school and I have been working on loa for almost 6 months. I have come a super long way, and one of major manifestations just finally got me into alignment 3 weeks ago. For almost 2 weeks I felt that super satisfying content and happiness, and whenever I felt myself leaving alignment I’d get myself back into it and I kept balancing myself like a pro! Last weekend I knocked something loose inside of me and apparently a small issue in my head (like you mentioned above it was a small thing but released something very major) turned into one of the biggest and most painful releases I’ve had in my 6 months. I’m finally weaning off of it, but man, I felt so anxious and helpless for 2 days and the other days didn’t feel great but not horrible. And I did all my little exercise to be kind to myself and to calm myself down. I think I did a decent job, but it sure was tough! I do love the learning process tho! So my question is, is it possible I was still in alignment for most of the release? Or am I always automatically out of alignment when I release? Because I have been surrounded by butterflies (one of my signs I’m in alignment)?! Thanks so much for the amazing post! I just found you and I’ll be following you more!
Hi Babs
I am so glad you enjoyed the post and found it helpful. You certainly didn’t throw yourself out of alignment. If emotion is there it’s there, and denying it won’t get us very far when it comes to conscious creation. Intention is a cornerstone of this ‘work’ and when we intend to feel these sorts of feelings with the intention of purging them, making room for the energies that serve us,etc…that is very very different than when we are just feeling badly, thinking we can’t do anything about our circumstances,etc… That deeper release really allows for us to get into the flow in a way we really can’t when doing this work on a more ‘superficial’ level, such as just trying to feel better just so we can get what we want.
I loved this. Thank you so much. I thought I was an anomaly because I literally stopped caring about everything. I was walking around numb yet still believing in the LOA. I now feel like there is hope.
Hi Smash
Thanks so much for your comment. That feeling is very common after feeling frustrated with things not changing, trying and nothing happening,etc… Eventually it transforms into a detachment that doesn’t feel so ‘negative’ but one that comes from knowing all is well and things will work out and you don’t need to be worrying and trying all the time to make things happen the way you want them.
Hi Kelli,
I’ve been studying LOA for about 2 months now and have seen big, HUGE, emotional changes in my life and have already started manifesting some pretty awesome stuff. I am happy nearly 80% of the time and the rest of the time just neutral. I think I’m vibing pretty high consistently. I still have some resistance/limiting beliefs in some areas to work out but my question is, how does a person release resistance, surrender, detach and still want what they want all at the same time?
Every time I think I’m detaching or releasing resistance, it feels better, but then I think that the Universe will get confused that I really don’t want it anymore and then the thing won’t manifest. LOL! I’m a hot mess sometimes. But I love every part of my confused brain!
Hi Tiffany
Your issue is a very common one, which is our mind being afraid of letting go of that feeling of ‘need’ that typically accompanies what we want. It worries if we aren’t expressing our displeasure with our circumstances now, the order will get cancelled. But the Universe is responding to energy, plain and simple, not your declarations, not your resistance to your current reality. Don’t overthink things too much…just be aware of how you feel without totally overanalyzing and just do what you can do enjoy your life now since that is all you want anyway. And within that general higher vibe, contains all the energies that likely lie at the root of the specific things you want and they will just show up without much help or attention on your part.
Thanks Kelli! I think part of my problem was that I was in analysis paralysis and it was causing way too much anxiety on whether or not I’m doing LOA correctly.
After listening to your podcast about taking a manifesting hiatus, I’ve decided to stop doing so much research and constantly scanning my feelings and emotions and looking for the right information to fit my situation exactly. I’m just going to let things flow, stop doing so much research and do my best to be present in each moment and trust the process. I’m already predominantly feeling better and that’s really all I wanted anyway!
Thanks for all of your insight and information, it really has been a game changer in my life!
Hi Kelli- I relate to what you are saying in a most real sense…love reading and listening to your pods…I had been working very hard at moving past and into a place of joy and peace, and then found myself in a place
of weirdness…lol…liked this conversation…
Hi Becky…yes the whole journey is kind of ‘weird’ but as you get more comfortable being uncomfortable it’s not so bad!
Hi Kelli,
I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of months now, and I can say that your explanation about the LOA is the one I resonate with the most! I really like that you emphasize us being human, so we shouldn’t get freaked out when we are not 100% positive all the time. That’s a relief for me… 🙂
I’m familiar with the LOA for more than a year now, and I already experienced the above mentioned releases several times in the last couple of months. Sometimes I could literally feel the shifts within me…
My question is though, can it also happen that you have a kind of “positive” release?
Let me explain. I’m attracting something that is really important for me, and I can say, that now the sense of ‘need’ has already dissipated (thank God 🙂 ), and my faith is getting stronger each day, my blocks are also getting released (in bigger and bigger leaps), I’m getting useful insights, ideas, and I’m more and more in the stage of ‘letting go’. Due to this, 3 days ago, an inspired action has popped into my mind, I acted on it, and boy, how happy I was after! I felt like I could fly, I was really on cloud 9, I visualised my dream with strong feelings, nothing negative, just me and my dream, I could almost ‘taste it and feel it’ physically. I was in this state for hours. But then, the next day, I entered this state of ‘blah’. Yesterday, as well. I was not feeling bad, but not good either. So just kind of neutral. I could still think about my dream, but I was not really feeling it, I was just OK – not ‘being’ in it, but not worrying, either.
What do you think about this? Was it also some kind of ‘release’? Or was it just because I was in such a state of joy that after, the ‘normal’ state just felt empty?
Thanks a lot in advance, and keep going, I love your blog! 🙂
Hi Barbie
Thanks for your comment and so glad you enjoy my content and find it helpful. Generally speaking, I would say what you are experiencing is normal. Those really ‘high’ moments we get when we feel really aligned, things really ‘click’ and we have that trust and faith, we realize our power,etc…feel awesome. One of the reasons it feels so good is because it really overshadows any negativity we may be feeling in the form of fear, doubt, not liking where we are now, the story the mind is telling about our circumstances now,etc… So when it ‘goes away’ it can be a real blow because then we may have to contend with these other feelings again. That state you experienced is very delicious, but like any other emotional state, it probably won’t last forever, especially since we are so conditioned to living outside in and letting our circumstances dictate our feelings. That ‘neutral’ state isn’t a problem at all…a lot of times that ‘excitement’ we feel has an underlying tinge of anxiety because we are still really in a space of resisting where we are now and just wanting to get our ‘stuff’ I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Enjoy those high moments when they come but don’t get too attached to them and know that is certainly not the way you need to feel all the time to change your reality.
Thank you Kelli for your quick and prompt answer! After reading your comment, I was really honest with myself, and I have to admit that yes, I still have some underlying anxiety, and ‘not liking’ of the current situation.
Do you have any advice for me how to manage when my mind is starting to tell me that the present won’t be any different than my past? Like if I have tried to reach my desire in the past, but without success, it will be the same now, and I will fail again? That’s the thing that causes me most of the worry…