Law of Attraction: 4 Nuggets of Wisdom to Get You Unstuck

So, nothing is really coming to mind for my usual blog- post -within- itself intro, so instead of forcing it (which we know is oh-so-bad from an attraction perspective), I’ll just jump right into the heart of the matter. Enjoy!

Don’t Keep Moving Towards the Pain

From an LOA-perspective, doing things that make us feel badly in hopes that it will somehow provide a positive benefit in the end is ludicrous. But, we do it all the time. At some point, we decided to take a tremendous amount of pride in leading really hectic, stressed lives, devoid of any sort of joy. We see being able to handle a boatload of crap as a sign of strength, and so long as we are still at a point where we haven’t totally collapsed emotionally and/or physically, we keep trudging along, refusing to back away from it.

We suffer and suffer, hoping God, the Universe, Source or whatever you call it, will see how hard we are trying, and how good a person we are, and throw us a bone eventually. We think we are deserving of something good, and anticipate its arrival eventually—the more we suffer the better the reward right? Right????But, in my experience, it doesn’t work that way. This force is neutral, and can only bring to us what mirrors our internal world. It doesn’t judge, decide or do anything else that falls under the realm of ‘human’ action.

We have been taught it takes lots of suffering, and hard work, to get any real results in life. We must do a bunch of stuff we don’t want to be able to do at least some of the things we do, and get some of the things we want. We hear countless people tell of how much suffering they had to undergo before they got to taste that sweet, sweet success.

You have to strive and toil, compromise, and fail over and over. Sure, this is one way to go about it, but it doesn’t have to be like this. Yeah, there is work that will be done, and actions taken, but when you shore up things on the energy front, there is a lot less of it, and it feels good. Lots of things will come together without you having taken any direct action to get that result. You will feel inspired to do certain things, and lots of good will come of it.

Now, as awesome as that course of action sounds, it seems too good to be true, and we don’t have enough examples of that way of being to draw on, either in our own experience, or that of someone else, to trust it fully. But, the hard work paradigm has proof abound, and as much as that way sucks, we think we will at least be guaranteed something eventually, so better stick to this path just in case.

But, this is not how life has to be. You don’t have to do things that feel badly. You don’t want to keep going until the pain gets so great, you can’t take another second, leaving you with no other option but to change. It doesn’t have to get to that extreme a point. If you are in pain now, no matter how much you can ‘handle it,’ it is too much—life is supposed to be joyful and fun. Re-evaluate and see what you can do now to shift course.

If you are killing yourself trying to get results, just stop and ask yourself for one second…’’What if there were an easier way?’’ ‘’What if success can come effortlessly and in a way that feels good?’’ This simple act of asking a different question can get the wheels in your mind, and your energy, turning in a whole different direction. Be willing to accept another way, an easier, less painful way, exists, even if you can’t see it yet.

STEP AWAY FROM THE PAIN!!!

 Remember Bigger Negative Manifestations Don’t Come Out of Nowhere…

How many times has a really big unwanted event happened, and you felt blindsided by it? We insist everything was going fine, and there were no indicators this shit storm was brewing in the distance.

This is the kind of crap that really shakes up our world and sours us on life. It makes us view the future and unknown with a strong sense of fear–who knows what else is in store for us? You just never know how life is gonna mess with you next.

But, if you believe in law of attraction, you know  nothing just happens out of nowhere for no reason—it is all a mirror. We may not always be able to pinpoint exactly why we may have manifested something on first thought, as some manifestations can be quite complex. But there was something going on without a doubt. And just in case anyone reading this needs this little reminder, manifesting negative situations is not about being punished. You didn’t get what you ‘deserved’ and you shouldn’t blame yourself. The law of attraction is just a neutral process—input, output.

The thing about these types of manifestations is a lot was going on leading up to it. We were denying how much certain things bothered us, and we were doing a lot of glossing over. We pretended to be fine with things we weren’t fine with. Certain experiences niggled at us, but we rationalized rather than explore, because the conclusions we may have reached were ones we were not ready to handle.

These negative experiences were signs we were on the wrong track in a particular area of our life, but because we didn’t pay them mind then, and do the necessary ‘work’, whether it be shifting a belief, taking particular action,etc…the energy just continued to gain steam, and eventually, something really big happens to jolt you and allow you to see things as they really are.

When you see  there was some rhyme and reason to what happened, it makes you feel more in control. You can examine what may have contributed, and take an active role in shaping your experience from this point on. Things may kind of suck right now, but you know they don’t have to keep sucking. These big shake ups are tremendous opportunities to really work on creating something great, and stepping into the life you really want to live, and the person you really want to be.

Don’t Freak Out about Unwanted Manifestations—It is ALL There to Serve You

With very few exceptions, the average person is going to have a mixed bag when it comes to her vibration. There is some good stuff in there that has been serving you pretty well, and has probably led you to manifest all sorts of good long before you had any idea about any of this attraction stuff. And, you probably have some stuff that needs to be cleaned up a bit, or perhaps a lot.

You have set some intentions to get more money, a relationship, a better job or whatever, and you are probably not quite a match to it. You are working on shifting beliefs that you have been buying into for years and years—that is not an immediate process. There may be some glossing over and denial going on as discussed above.

Once you start working consciously with law of attraction, and deliberately creating your reality, it is really easy to get freaked out about unwanted manifestations. We have a much greater sensitivity to, and reduced tolerance, for anything unpleasant. Try as we might to do otherwise, we are still generally attached to our desires, and have decided our manifestations must look a certain way.

So, when we experience things that we perceive as being ‘bad’, or things don’t go quite as we hoped they would, we get all discouraged and start worrying what we want is never coming. We take these events as ‘signs’ we are not mean to get what we want. This is also the point where we may feel like we haven’t been taking enough action, and we jump in and try to make shit happen, and this almost never works out well.

Like I have mentioned before in other LOA posts, we are always moving towards what we want (so long as we adopt that belief mind you), but in order to get our vibration in line, and get clear on our desires, we need some sort of feedback. These ‘unwanted’ manifestations are just that, and help us see where we stand vibrationally in the moment. They often help us fine tune our vision– think about how many times you have gotten clearer on what you want by experiencing something you don’t.

Without these events, we would have no idea if we are lining up or not. Without this sense of contrast, we would have a harder time getting crystal clear on our wants. Another thing to keep in mind is when things don’t work out as they should, it usually means it wasn’t the best representation of your desire, and you are meant to line up with something more ideal. Sometimes, something that appears negative is actually positive, and is the quickest path to realizing your desire.

Also, when you first start doing this work, and deliberately shift focus and build momentum behind the positive energy, the negative stuff can rise to the surface to be released, and these unwanted manifestations represent that ‘purge.’

You want to examine how unwanted situations made you feel, because we attract situations that reflect the beliefs and feelings that are currently predominant in our vibration. That will clue you in to what is happening inside, and what may have contributed to this manifestation.

You may also make the interesting discovery that you may not have actually wanted something you thought you did, and when we truly don’t want something, we aren’t a match to it, and it won’t come in. For example, if you are interviewing for a certain type of job because you feel it is the next ‘logical step’ in your career trajectory, and it is what you ‘should’ be doing by now, but it is not actually what you truly want, you will probably find yourself getting passed over.

And, if you make the discovery you may not really want something you claim to want, don’t ignore that! Figure out what you do truly want, and start shoring up the energy behind that. You never have to settle; there is no such thing as ‘should.’

Bottom line—anything unwanted is just part of the path to manifesting what IS wanted. You may get upset, have your moments, and what have you, and it’s cool. You’re only human. But, remember this isn’t the end of the road, and provided you have been focusing positively and working on your vibration, that positive momentum is building, and this is here to help you release the yuck that is dragging down your energy.

Consider How You’re Being Served by Your Current Situation, and the ‘Negatives’ Of Getting What You Want

Whatever our life is like now, every unwanted aspect of it is serving us in some way, or we would have made some sort of change by now. Consciously, we reject this idea—why the hell would we prefer being broke, single, unhappy in our job? That is utter nonsense. But, this is exactly what is happening or else we wouldn’t keep torturing ourselves. We are benefiting somehow, we are protecting ourselves from something.

For example, being overweight often protects people from having to deal with a fear and belief they are not good enough. So long as the weight is there, that can be blamed for their lack of success, not being able to find a good relationship, or whatever else they are unhappy about. And as long as that belief persists, so will the weight and the struggle to lose it. Once they get to the root, those pounds will begin to melt away. They will receive inspiration to follow certain diets, take certain supplements, try a certain type of exercise,etc..and it will be wildly successful for them. Losing the weight will not feel as hard.

So, carefully consider how you may be benefiting from your current situation—I assure you there is some benefit, some way you are being protected. It might take a bit of digging, but you will uncover this ‘saboteur’, and once you do, you now have something to work with. Then you can begin shifting that energy, and start seeing changes quite quickly.

You also want to examine any ‘negatives’ that may come with getting what you are claiming to want. Regardless of the exact reason, at the root is a fear of some kind, and fear is an extremely powerful blocker of manifestations. It is really hard to let something in if there is a relatively strong belief getting it would be bad somehow.

So, think about the things you want, and ask yourself whether you think getting this thing would be problematic for you in some way. Let your mind go on this, and don’t censor. It might be a good idea to actually write down what comes up so you have something concrete to examine.

Are you afraid how your blue collar family would view you if you became very successful financially? Would you be worried they would always come to you for money? If you fully move into your awesomeness, do you think you will evolve past all your friends, or you would no longer be a match to your partner, leaving you alone?

Are you afraid of the responsibility that would come with that more prestigious job, or running your own business? Do you fear the increased risk of criticism you may face as more people become familiar with your work? Are you scared that husband and kids you want so much would interfere with your career ambitions, or are you afraid your career ambitions would cause problems in your family life?

Remember LOA is not about just thinking happy thoughts and ignoring all the yuck—if the yuck is really powerful, it needs to be dealt with directly. It just won’t go away. I think a lot of people develop a fear of acknowledging blocks, and bad feelings ,when they start working with attraction consciously, because of all the emphasis on thinking positively and feeling good. And yes, that is where we want to be as much as we can, but getting into that space genuinely often entails some deliberate effort at clearing out what is dragging us down. So, don’t be afraid to do this work—it won’t slow your efforts, it will strengthen them.

In Closing…

Law of attraction is not inherently difficult, but we have a lot of ‘stuff’ happening inside of us that needs to be acknowledged, and worked on, to fully tap into the ease of the process. That is why it seems so hard. And, like I always love to say when talking about LOA or any sort of personal development work, is that it’s okay if you are struggling a bit.Don’t beat yourself up for not feeling like this is as easy as everyone tells you it is. Be patient.

The powerful creator within is buried underneath an avalanche of crap that has been existing for years and years. It can take a bit to trust the process fully. There are fears and beliefs that need to be addressed. We have to be willing to take full responsibility for our life and our results, and that doesn’t always come easy.

You don’t have to be a master to start seeing positive changes, and things can start getting better almost immediately–as long you start feeling better, things will get better. As your vibration raises, more good will come into your life, and as this begins to happen, attraction will become easier. You’ll set your sights on bigger manifestations, and they won’t feel like such a stretch because you’ll have more trust and faith. You won’t have to pay as much attention to the ‘yuck’ because it will become less powerful, and simply feeling good will naturally cause all the negative to weaken.

Just keep working on feeling good in any way you can; don’t be afraid to face what is blocking you–you are much stronger than you think, and you can handle it. Keep feeding your mind information about LOA that makes you feel good and helps you understand it better. You have so much power, and as you keep up your efforts, you will access more and more of it.

Your Turn…

What did you think of this post? Did you see any of your own experience in what I wrote? What part did you find the most helpful? What tips would you give others to help them when they are feeling a bit stuck or overwhelmed by their challenges? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts so we can have a chat.