Our conditioning, humanness, distorted self-image and the like will likely lead us to manifest experiences that will cause us suffering without a doubt. Lots can be learned for sure. But there can be a tendency to place too high a value on suffering, leading us to experience way more than we have to.
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Podcast #63: Law of Attraction: Do You See Value in Suffering?
Twas a fun chat, as always.
~ Mystery Man or Mr. X
Sorry I forgot to mention you…my bad.
Hey Kelli,
My comment probably has more to do with your previous blog post than this podcast, but I figure that all of this ties together somehow. I don’t know if my comment will benefit you or your readers any, and it’s difficult to share my feelings, but I will go ahead and write about what I’ve been struggling with.
Recently, I’ve taken to uploading my music online. This is a huge step for me, as it’s something I’ve been wanting to do for years but have refrained from. Now that I’ve posted my first song, I’m hit with A TON (understatement!) of dread and anxiety. I hate my voice, my recoding/delivery of the song isn’t good enough, I’m not good enough to be doing this, and people are going to think I suck. I’ve been practicing a lot and really spending time becoming a better singer and songwriter, but I still feel like my current skill level is still crap. It’s always been a dream to do this professionally, and finally putting my work online represents a step in that direction for me. The problem is, I’m not sure I should be doing this if I’m not very good. I’m not sure if I should be doing this, because I haven’t been making music since I was 3 and had parents who really helped me get all the education and training necessary to be good. I feel like I’m making a fool of myself.
Then there is all the doubt that comes with getting your feet wet in such a competitive field. I feel like there’s no way I’ll ever stand out from the others who are doing the same. I’ll never be a good enough singer or writer. I don’t have the drive, thick skin, and social networking savvy necessary to make a career out of releasing my own music. I’m extremely self-conscious and uncomfortable with giving people bio and background information about myself. Being seen is very anxiety-inducing for me, and I feel well beyond my comfort zone (more like paralyzed by fear, can’t breathe, feel sick to my stomach mode).
Apart from music, another massive source of negative emotion is love and finding a partner. I’m extremely fearful that I’ll never find anyone who loves me who I also love. I fear that I’ll have to settle to have a long-term relationship. No one I’ve ever liked or loved has felt the same way about me. I don’t think I’m attractive enough for the kind of guy I want and would really hate being the less attractive half of a couple. I also don’t see at all how I could meet the type of person I’m looking for where I live now (I’d have to go to another country or bigger city, which I don’t have the money for right now.) I’m afraid that the only way I’ll ever experience my desired relationship is in my fantasies, as I have been for years. I don’t know how to quell this fear and feel completely stuck over how to find the person I’m looking for.
Sorry for making this comment so long. I know you’re busy, but if you have read this, thank you. I really appreciate it.
Hi Dahlia
Thank you for sharing your experience. I am sure a lot of people can relate to your fears and issues being triggered by pursuing your career and your relationship status. There is only so much I can address in a blog comment and if you wanted more insight, I would suggest booking a coaching call if that resonates so we can really discuss this at length. First, you are dealing with issues that are triggering massive amounts of resistance for you in the form of fear, doubts, limiting beliefs,etc…so it probably feels really overwhelming. If you work on getting more comfortable with that, your experience of this can transform dramatically. This is the part of the manifesting process we would be happy to skip–we just want to get our stuff and be on our way. There are no quick fixes for what you are going through now and if you are willing to just lean in and see what you are being shown, the clarity will come.
Hey Kelli,
I will look into coaching! My current financial situation is pretty tight at the moment, but maybe I can find a way to make it work. I feel so much stress and anxiety, I know it would be a good thing to speak with someone. I have a lot of fear around being judged though and am not sure if I would fully open up in coaching.
Hi Dahlia
If it resonates, then booking a session would probably be helpful. As for judgment, that is definitely not something that would come from me. The reason I suggested it is because you seemed to have a lot going on and having someone to talk to can be really helpful. Ultimately it comes down to using the tools and resources that feel best to you.