Law of Attraction: How Can I Protect Positive Energy that Feels So Fragile and New?

So I have been doing the work and noticing that my energy seems to get better each time I go through intense release. But this new energy feels like a baby–just new and not quite stable yet. Its so fragile and easily mucked up by little things during the day. How can I keep this good energy consistent when its so new?

Getting Off Auto-Pilot

Living more consciously is a huge part of the journey of personal growth and energetic transformation in particular. For most of us, we are just walking around being run by very deeply ingrained patterns of thought, emotion and behavior. We have all sorts of reactions locked, loaded, and ready to go, as soon as something happens that warrants them, at least to our mind. We aren’t responding to the world around us, but simply reacting. These words are often used interchangeably but are very, very different.

We have to stop ‘reacting’ and start ‘responding,’ and the only way we can do this is to engage in the huge-pain-in-the-ass endeavor of going within and seeing why we act the way we do, why we believe what we do, why we feel the way we do, why we think the way we do. It’s funny how we want to make all this inner change but do everything in our power to avoid looking inside. 

If you’re not willing to do this, and you just keep viewing the law of attraction as a tool to get the stuff your mind wants so you don’t have to deal with your feelings, true energetic transformation will always be out of your reach; you may make surface changes here and there, you may manage to let in some stuff your mind wants, but what you are truly after at the end of the day will elude you–just feeling better.

And you’ll be wasting your conscious creation potential big-time because you’ll never let in the most awesome stuff of which you are capable of receiving with the ease which we are supposed to be able to let it in. 

But I digress as I often do. So yeah…gotta get off auto-pilot. You have to start choosing more consciously your thoughts and feelings about what is happening in your life; you have to be more aware of the shitty-feeling, untrue stories your mind is layering on top of your current reality, as well as your previous experiences and choose to reject them, no matter how brilliant an argument your mind makes for their validity–and believe you me, it will make stellar arguments but if you choose to keep deferring to your mind, that’s your prerogative, but understand the damage this will do.

When you catch yourself responding with the old programming, you will be faced with a choice…do I just keep buying in or do I consciously choose in favor of the thoughts ,feelings, beliefs and perspectives that will help me move towards all the things I claim to want to be, do and have so, so badly?

You don’t need to be perfect at this, you’ll have your moments, it’s fine. But you do have to make some effort here. You either keep looking at your circumstances, using them to justify your shitty feelings and beliefs or look through them, cultivating the energy you know will transform them.

Either you keep at it understanding the lack of the stuff isn’t the real problem so no need to obsess over it, or you complain it’s too hard, it’s not ‘fair’ or whatever other bullshit your mind will tell you, and give up. Don’t do the second thing. You started on the path, you know the potential, so just commit, and commit to doing it the way you know it needs to be done. 

Recognizing External ‘Saboteurs’

This ties into getting off auto-pilot. We pay so little attention to how the external affects our internal, and we are exposing ourselves all day long to all sorts of shit that makes us feel badly, that will constantly undermine all our efforts at feeling better and changing our energy in deeper, lasting, meaningful ways, not just the surface ways your mind is happy to settle for so you can manifest some ‘good enough’ version of what you want to make your icky feelings go back dormant.

Here’s the thing…if you want to change your life, and change your energy in real ways, become truly happier, you are likely going to have to change, you are going to have to make changes in your life. I know it would be great if we didn’t have to do a damn thing but yet somehow be able to achieve these massive changes in our experience, our personality and emotional state but that probably isn’t going to happen.

You have to start paying attention to anything external that ‘sabotages’ you and see what you can do to remove or reduce these influences in your life. Significant inner change will rarely be able to take place without being supported by outer change.

You might be surprised at some of these saboteurs, like insipid reality shows about rich people that make you think bad things about people with money, that if you hope to have money yourself, you need to stop watching so you can break these associations in your mind.

If you watch these sorts of shows because it feels good to hate these people and talk shit about them so you can feel better about your own life, it is probably a better use of your time to actually improve your own life and make it better.

It’s okay to have some guilty pleasure TV, but if you watch this sort of stuff in excess, it’s not a good idea from an energy-perspective, and I would recommend cutting back.

If you are trying to reduce anxiety, your habit of watching the news several times a day may need to go; if you feel really crappy about your life, it is probably a good idea to spend less time on social media. If you are trying to get over your ex-boyfriend, and you just ‘can’t help’ looking at his Facebook 10 times a day, guess what…you can help it, so stop it.

You might find yourself having to make some hard choices about the people you spend time with…this one might be a more gradual process since it can be really uncomfortable. But if you know in your heart you need to remove certain people from your life or spend less time with them to further your growth and emotional health, you should get the ball rolling.

This might include the relationships of convenience where there is no real connection and they don’t add anything to your life, the lunch with co-workers who just complain about everything under the sun for an hour straight, or the friend from childhood who you actually outgrew once you graduated high school, and you actually don’t enjoy spending all that much time with if you are honest.

You may have to set boundaries, and this is never comfortable because people will no longer get things from you they are very used to getting, they can no longer act as they please, and no one ever likes not getting what they want.

This might include the neighbor who asks you for endless favors you never want to do, the sibling who will eat up hours of your time at a stretch complaining about the same things over and over again, or the parent who is constantly offering unsolicited advice or talking shit about your husband whom she has never liked.

If you are faced with uncomfortable choices and your mind views this discomfort as a valid reason not to make these changes, you are free to do as you please, but you must own you are making these choices and accept the consequences of how it will hold you back or slow your progress. This stuff may be really uncomfortable at first, you may shake shit up with people initially but in the long run, this will be worth it, I promise.

Don’t Get Too Attached to ‘Good’ Energy

We all love feeling good and we all hate feeling badly. But one of the greatest sources of tension for people trying to improve their lives, and especially for the conscious-creation-minded is the desire to feel good all the time, to want to hold onto these feelings constantly.

Intellectually we understand this shouldn’t be the goal, that it doesn’t need to be the goal, but on an emotional level, this is exactly our goal, it is exactly what we are hoping for, and this deeper want that we may not always be conscious of, is one of our primary problems.

Don’t get fooled into thinking understanding something intellectually means you aren’t doing this thing, that this isn’t a  problem for you. The world of emotion is very different and the most basic things are often our biggest issues.

We get a taste of these good feelings, these higher energies, and we kind of get addicted; and when they go away, which they ultimately will because it is normal to experience a whole range of emotions on a daily basis, we feel even worse than we did before. And we feel even more tension trying to get them back, trying to make them ‘stay.’

We become even more resistant to our negative emotion, and even more resistant to work through it, which is much to our detriment since we can’t transform energy we won’t even acknowledge in any real way.

As many of you may have already seen, this creates quite the clusterfuck internally, one that is wholly unnecessary.

You can certainly drastically cut down on how much negativity you feel, for how long and how intensely without question; you can certainly feel more positive feelings much more than you are now, much more than you probably think possible. Your core energy transforms, and even if things are getting roiled up on a more surface level, this energy is there, supporting you.

But to experience the ‘highs’ more you don’t have to try to eliminate the ‘lows’ completely.  

You can become a much happier, emotionally healthier person while still experiencing the full range of emotions us humans tend to experience…in fact, the shitty ones, when we are willing to process and deal with them properly, directly contribute to this transformation. They do serve a purpose, even if at the moment we may not see that, may not be interested in seeing that.

Don’t freak out when you feel bad; don’t constantly try to manage your energy in ‘real time’so you can control every minute of your life. Don’t feel so much pressure to feel ‘good.’ When you’re more relaxed about it, these feelings just come more naturally with less ‘trying.’ Remember all the ‘good feels’ is actually our natural state, not the shit.

When you’re not in ‘fight’ mode against the ‘bad’ feelings, they just pass eventually, they don’t consume you in the moment. You’re aware of them but not totally sucked in.

Your negative feelings aren’t ‘getting in the way’ of your happiness, they are showing you the way…they really are. Don’t keep viewing them as the enemy.

As the saying goes…what you resist persists. Your mind can argue against all this spiritual and personal growth ‘truth’ all it wants, but it will never make these things untrue, and it will never make all your mind’s bullshit true.

Commit to Transformation, Not Getting ‘Stuff’

Trying to get something you don’t have and trying to meaningfully change your energy are very different journeys. The former creates a lot of pain, confusion, tension and a bunch of other ‘ick’ that will not go away so long as you remain on this path, even if you manage to get some of the stuff your mind wants.

It’s okay to want stuff you don’t have, but when it is the PRIMARY objective of your energy work, oh boy, oh boy…it’s a rough ride. You will always be focused on what you don’t have, you’ll always be looking for the work-around so you don’t have to deal with your feelings, you’ll always have a hard time looking beyond your current circumstances, you’ll stress about every decision and action, worrying how it ‘fits into getting what you want, you’ll feel immense pressure to be ‘positive’ all the time and it won’t be close to genuine.

A journey–not always an easy one for sure– that is supposed to lead to all sorts of wonderful things and wonderful transformation will bring you nothing but pain and frustration.

I really recommend the journey of trying to meaningfully change your energy–which naturally leads to external change, has no choice–because what you truly want is to feel better, to heal all your pain, to be emotionally free.

You can still want the stuff, but knowing it comes as a natural byproduct, you won’t be so focused on it anymore, you won’t always be in ‘control and manipulation’ mode. You’ll chill the fuck out. You’ll deal with your shit, which is the true root of your problem, not what you don’t have–I know your mind argues against this brilliantly and I know you think it’s right, but it’s not…trust me.

Your Turn

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? What suggestions do you have for protecting your energy? Looking forward to your comments as always.

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