Law of Attraction: 3 Reasons ‘Nothing’ Is Changing

I have been practicing law of attraction for X amount of time and NOTHING has changed! This whole concept is a bunch of bullshit. Sound familiar? If so, don’t worry, you’re not alone.

Discovering how our reality is truly created and that we have this amazing ability to align with what we want simply by harmonizing our thoughts, feelings and beliefs in a way that supports getting it, is literally life-changing.

This knowledge completely changes how you move through the world, and consciously working with your energy will impact every corner of your existence for the better.

And we get super-excited that things don’t have to suck anymore. The idea we don’t have to rely on any outside circumstance to get what we want is empowering.

So, we start doing all our exercises, reading books and what have you, ready to welcome our brand new life and make all our dreams come true.

And when nothing seems to be changing, talk about a let down. It is one thing to mope around because your life sucks but you really don’t think you can do anything about it.

It is completely another to allow yourself to imagine the possibilities with a sense of hope and then ‘fail’ miserably at allowing them into your reality. That shit hurts…a lot.

Notice the fail was in quotations…you are not failing. You can’t fail at this—we are designed to create our own reality, it’s built into our being. Perhaps you are flailing a bit at the moment, but that can always be turned around.

If you are one of those people who is currently lamenting nothing seems to be happening, I know what it’s like. It’s frustrating as hell.

But the good news is, it’s not because the Universe is against you or because law of attraction is not a real thing and something just delusional people believe in. It’s real alright and it’s always working. It’s the most powerful law in the Universe.

It’s all you baby…and I don’t say that with a hint of blame. This is a whole new way of operating, and is not something that can be mastered overnight.

So, if ‘nothing’ seems to be changing for you, here are a few reasons why…

Good Old Fashioned Stubbornness

For most of you, this is probably the biggest culprit, and there is a good chance you will deny it…you simply refuse to truly feel good (or at least better) much of the time because you are still insistent on basing how you feel on how your life currently looks.

And even the most wet-behind-the-ears LOA enthusiast knows the key to changing your reality is taking your focus off what is and feeling shitty about it, and putting it towards what you would prefer, and feeling all warm and fuzzy, and therefore attracting more things to feel all warm and fuzzy about.

In theory it is easy, in practice, it can be challenging. You are so used to basing how you feel on what is happening outside of you and complaining about what you don’t like.

Yes, obviously it is easy to feel better when things are more to our liking. We have preferences and it is perfectly fine. The sense of contrast is what helps us figure out what we want.

It is easier to feel better when you have enough money to pay your bills than when you don’t.

It is easier to feel better when you have a wonderful boyfriend than being single and hating it.

It is easier to feel better when you get to spend eight hours a day doing a job you like than one you don’t.

It is easier to feel better when your have a steady flow of clients and sales than when things are stagnant.

It is easier to feel better when your family is supportive of you and your path, and not critical.

I’m not going to argue with you on that.

The problem is, though, if you keep using this as a justification for feeling badly, you are fucked big time, pardon my French.

You may not be able to feel good every second…it’s cool. We all have our moments. It is important to be honest with how we are feeling and let ourselves express our negative emotion.

I am not advocating you go into complete denial and just try to ‘get happy’ no matter what is happening around you, and push down all the crappy feelings, fears and the like.

But, you have to realize that at some point, something has got to give.

You have to work on building momentum behind the beliefs, feelings and thoughts that are in harmony with what you want, and flowing some good energy towards the things you want.

Just wanting what you want is a good first step but it is not enough. You have to become a match to it, and that can’t happen if you spent more of your time focusing on your present reality and all the things you don’t like in it. It can’t happen if you keep pointing to all the reasons you are entitled to feel like crap.

Many Manifestations Just Can’t Fall into Your Lap…Aligning with Them is a Process

There is a lot of misunderstanding about how law of attraction works, and one of the big misconceptions is that it is basically like magic where what you want just appears because you thought about it.

But, that is not how it really works. Technically we could manifest a lot of things that easily but that would likely require dropping like every limiting belief we hold and having not a shred of doubt in the process.

Of course in many cases, things can happen very easily and what we want in its full form does make its way in relatively quickly.

But, many of the things we want really won’t happen that way.

You probably won’t be booked solid with clients within the first three days of opening your business.

If you have a severe poverty consciousness, you probably won’t automatically transition to a level of vibration that would allow you to make millions of dollars without any stops in between.

If you have a lot of resistance around a particular manifestation, there has to be some clearing done, and as you shift your energy, you will move closer to allowing this thing into your life.

So, if you are like many people, there is a good chance you have made some shifts but you don’t even realize it because the exact thing you want still has not shown up.

You have probably manifested all sorts of little signs that your vibration was changing but they were either totally dismissed because they were something small or you didn’t even see them because you didn’t know that was what they were.

And when we miss or dismiss all these types of manifestations, and still are just focusing on the lack of the ‘end result’ we screw with our energy and what we want gets delayed even further—we are still stuck in ‘what is.’

Let’s say that you have had a lot of blocks around manifesting a relationship because you are overweight and you feel like you can’t get a boyfriend because you believe you are unattractive.

You start making some shifts and feeling better about yourself. You start feeling more optimistic that a relationship is indeed possible for you.

Some possible signs that show you are aligning with your dream man include one of your overweight friends telling you how she met this great guy, noticing more frequently people of all shapes, sizes and levels of ‘attractiveness’ paired up quite happily, or all of a sudden getting complimented more often on your hair, clothes, eyes or whatever, leading you to believe that perhaps you are not disgusting and unlovable after all.

You’re Doing All the ‘Work’ But Nothing is Really Shifting

We are very oriented towards actions and we are always wanting to know what we need to ‘do’ to make changes in our life and to manifest what we want. And sure, we will take all sorts of actions.

Things like affirmations, writing out what you want in your life as if it is already yours, making vision boards, visualizing and the like, are great tools for focusing on what you want and helping you build some positive momentum.

In the moments we are using these tools and techniques, we are giving ourselves permission to feel good. In these moments, there is not as much focus on what is currently, and that helps weaken the negativity that has been building for such a long time.

And because we are used to the paradigm of achieving a result through action, we believe that all this ‘work’ is what is going to help us manifest what we want. We are putting in the effort and we expect to bear fruit. We are trying and doing all the things various LOA teachers told us we need to do to manifest.

But you have to remember that creating our reality deliberately and with greater ease and joy is something that is done on the level of feeling. It is not something done on the level of intellect and action. Our tendency to intellectualize this process is what makes us obsessed with the tools and techniques, and the ‘doing.’

Again, they are usually necessary at times because we need something to help us redirect our focus. We can technically just start feeling better without any assistance, but that can be hard.

But, you have to remember they are a means to an end…in and of themselves, they can do absolutely nothing to change your reality. They are useful because they help create those inner shifts—that is what is determining what you are manifesting.

So if you are one of those people who feels frustrated because you are ‘trying so hard’ by diligently performing all your rituals and using various tools, you have to stop and think if all of this ‘work’ has actually produced any real shift in what you are predominantly thinking, feeling and believing.

When you are engaged in these tools and techniques, is there true genuine positive emotion that is being evoked or does it feel like you are going through the motions?

Can you honestly say that you are actually starting to feel better more of the time, and are less focused on your present reality? Can you honestly say the more positive beliefs have grown stronger?

You have to remember you are dealing with a force that is simply operating in a manner of input and output, and brings you things that are a match to your energy field in some way.

This is not some big man in the sky that is keeping tabs on you, and deciding which experiences you can and cannot have, that is judging you worthy or unworthy, or can decide to give you something because you are a good person who is trying really hard.

What you do only matters insofar as how these actions are making you feel, and whether they are assisting you in aligning your energy with what you want.

In Closing…

I know these barriers can be really frustrating because the concept of law of attraction is so freaking simple and straightforward. We just think we can just decide we want something and we’ll get it…if we had no resistance, that would pretty much be all we had to do. We would always be working from a place of inspiration and it would be delicious the whole way.

But we do have resistance and that slows things down, and we just have to accept that. But, that doesn’t mean the process has to suck ass the whole time and we have to suffer while working through this resistance.

It may not always feel great, but it also doesn’t have to be rife with mental anguish. Luckily any shift in energy can bring changes to our outside experience so you can start getting some good stuff without having completely worked through all your shit…thank God for that right?

Your Turn…

What did you think of this post? Anything resonate in particular? Have you experienced this problem? Are you dealing with it right now? What advice would you offer to deal with these rough patches and reinvigorate our energy and efforts? Looking forward to your comments as always.