Law of Attraction: You Gotta Be It To See It

Today I am happy to present an awesome guest post by my husband Ryan, a master manifestor…enjoy! 

Approximately 20 months ago you’d think we were living in Dante’s Inferno.

At least according to some frightened folks.

Kelli and I were spending 6 weeks in a remote Costa Rican jungle. Bullet ants, poison dart frogs and marauding army ants were a dime a dozen.

The stunningly gorgeous scenery was pretty damn amazing too. Toss in regular visits from sloths, monkeys, toucans and parrots and you had a tropical paradise.

I loved our trip to the jungle. Sure it was challenging. But being away from it all amid the perfect of Nature was enlightening for me and Kelli.

But seeing some folk’s reaction to the creepy crawlies, you’d fully believe Kelli and I spent 6 weeks at the bottom of the Mariana Trench, in a shit hole of a dive that would have made any slumlord proud.

Why?

You see what you *be*.

Or, some folks with deep fears concerning insects, snakes or flat out roughing it saw a nightmare because they were *being* fear, while a healthy collection of folks were being love and fun and harmony, so they saw a miraculous, transformative experience, just like Kelli and I saw.

Life is a mirror.

Reflecting back to you whatever you are being.

The experience was just the experience.

We add the energy, based on what we are being.

You be it. You see it.

Living From the Inside Out

Most folks live life not unlike the movie Groundhog Day. Same shit, different day.

Or, they look outside of themselves, perceive limits, lack, failure or struggle, and energetically align with a fear-based existence.

The women who spend months or years desperately trying to get their ex back. The person who has seemed to have money problems for their entire life. The dude or dudette who hates their job but continues to devote 40 hours a week to some venture, spending most of their existence trying to survive, versus living to thrive.

Goodness knows I have been there. In each case. I was desperate to get my ex back many moons ago (Don’t worry Wifey; I released her to the ethers). The money and job issues. Turns out though, I was *being* fear, predominantly, so naturally, all I mainly saw a fear-based reality, mired in lack and limitation.

I was being it. So I was seeing it.

How did I begin to turn my life around? I chose to live inside-out, more and more. I also realized that to do this, I would need to face, feel and release deep fears I clung to. Which I often refer to as eating an energetic shit sandwich.

Something funny began happening when I faced and felt and release some pretty rough-feeling fears; no matter what I manifested, circumstance wise, I saw love, or fun, or awesomeness, or blessings. I created. Just for the joy of creating, not trying to squeeze anything through any creation. I did more unconditionally.

The best part? I did not need to see any specific manifestation to determine my worth, or to validate me. I could never make another dollar in my life, but since I am largely being love, all I am seeing is love. Whether people buy my stuff or hire me, or not, I have largely cleared out the fear-based energies which I caused me to judge myself based on manifestations, so I see fun and love, get busy creating, help more folks and am slowly falling deeply in love with writing, creating videos, helping folks and just plain enjoying the ride.

Ya gotta be it to see it.

Your Turning Point

If life seems to suck, and you feel stuck, you need to eat a shit sandwich, energetically. Maybe you will allow yourself to feel a little crummy for a few minutes, or hours, and the feeling passions. Maybe you will grab a pillow, walk into a quiet room and either cry like a baby into the pillow or perhaps you’ll punch it a few times.

In any case, as you begin to clear the fear, you will *be* more love, and less fear, and being love helps you to see a beautiful, harmonious reality, where you can get busy following your passion, having fun, serving people, helping folks and looking with delight at what you are co-creating with the Universe every day.

If you are seeing lack, you got a fear, that you gotta clear. When you consciously choose to clear the fear – nobody else can do this for you (I see it as paying your energetic dues) – you see more abundance.

It is a very simple equation. Uncomfortable at times, but this is good because it proves you are growing, not dying. Being uncomfortable sometimes proves you are creating, not disintegrating. Being uncomfortable proves you will see more love and fun in your life, and less fear and lack.

The Analogy

Imagine that the sun is shining brilliantly outside. 70 degrees. Clear blue skies. Zero humidity. A light breeze. Perfect weather.

But imagine you *choose* to close the blinds, to lower the shades, to put on a thick pair of black glasses, and to bury your head under the pillow. Darkness will overtake you. Depressing, debilitating darkness.

The Reality? Sunny weather that’d make you jump to the clouds. The Truth? Light, and Love. But if you *choose* to bury your head under the pillow, wearing dark glasses, pulling the shades and closing the blinds, all you will choose to see is darkness, despair, and fear.

Most human beings travel through life without facing, embracing and releasing their fears. So they live like the person with their head buried in the bed. Everything sucks. Unending financial issues. Shitty job. Trying to get their ex back for years. Shitty relationships.

Once you consciously *choose* to feel the fear and grief and anger, with your pillow buddy (NOT projecting it on other sentient beings, but rather, on an inanimate pillow), you will peek your head out from under the sheets. Still dark, but things are a wee bit lighter. Just a lil’ bit.

This feels scary. But freeing too. Because you left your comfort zone.

Then you get an idea to do something fun, exciting and freeing. But you need to face, embrace and feel your fears – again – which kinda sucks. But only for a few moments. Because you have experienced the benefits of feeling your fears before.

You are being more love, and seeing more love, more than ever. You feel crappy feelings, and decide to take off your glasses. Damn! It’s a little bit brighter. Sweet!

You’re beginning to feel happy now. Slowly, but surely. You feel hope. So you do something freaking uncomfortable as hell, because even though it feels like you’re piddling in your pantaloons, ya feel an urge, an inner pull, an intuitive nudge to leave the bed and pull up the shades. So you do. Whoa! Pretty nice out there, you can tell, as the sunlight peeks through the blinds.

Then feel some more fears, nut up, open up the blinds and….sunlight! Blessed relief!

Then you sprint outside and run around like a portly pepperpot in a candy shop, even though the light is a bit blinding at first.

You are being love, predominantly. You are following your passion, serving people, being generous, practicing skills, monetizing your passion, and are well on your way to living your dreams.

You are being love, so you see love. No matter what you manifest, it is colored with love. The ex? What ex? You should send the guy flowers! You were never a match LOL! Laughable, right?  Money problems? You may not have manifested a cent in 2 months, but you largely see love, and being cared for, and you trust, so everything is A-OK.

It was always brilliantly bright outside. It always is, really. You just needed to take a few conscious steps, by being willing to BE with shitty feelings (as Kelli always advises and as I can attest to) and then, patiently and gradually, you go from dark, to light.

You are being love, so you are seeing love.

Ya gotta be it, to see it.

Your Turn

How are you being these days? How regularly do you sit with crappy feelings? How are you seeing love around you?

Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author, world traveler and Kelli’s dishwasher who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized ebooks on Amazon (with a few law of attraction eBooks in there). Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.

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