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And now back to our regularly scheduled programming…..
If it wasn’t for those damn limiting beliefs, this whole manifesting thing would be a breeze. But, we all have our fair share that have been put there courtesy of a variety of outside influences, from religion to well-meaning people who just haven’t a freaking clue how powerful we are, and what is possible in this crazy reality of ours.
For years and years, all sorts of crap made its way in and set up a nice home inside our heads. When we were younger, we were kind of powerless against it, and just took certain things to be true for no other reason than we were told such.
Perhaps we had a really shitty parent who told us we were no good and would not amount to anything.
We may have heard over and over again that rich people are greedy, spirituality and financial abundance are like oil and water, to gain means that someone else always has to lose, and a million other things that created mountain-sized blocks around money.
We observed people just going to work to get money, all the while complaining about their job, or just complaining about life in general. And we drew a conclusion that life is really not supposed to be anything special, and being truly happy ,and doing what we truly love, is a luxury reserved for a few who got ‘lucky.’
And because these beliefs are so pervasive, we experienced and observed all sorts of things that reinforced them. We had no lack of evidence to show they were true. But here’s the thing….our world is created from the inside out, so it all started with the beliefs. All of these crappy things only seem true because so many people believe said crap.
After believing certain things for so long, and having so much ‘proof’ they are true, the average person is not just going to drop them. There is just too much momentum behind them. The mind doesn’t like change..it doesn’t like it one little bit. Treading into new territory, no matter how awesome this territory would be, is uncomfortable and scary.
If you have started working consciously with your energy and creating your reality, you have probably discovered you are harboring a whole bunch of ‘head trash’ that is getting in the way of creating the awesomeness you so desire. It is frustrating as hell..I know. But, you are certainly not alone in this, so take comfort in that.
Here are just a few tips to help you deal with these limiting beliefs.
Don’t Worry about Completely Obliterating Them
Right now, you may have the idea that you must beat all your limiting beliefs to a bloody, unrecognizable pulp, lest you will not get anything you want. While totally getting rid of a belief in all its forms, is certainly something we want to accomplish eventually, it is not absolutely necessary for creating a better experience.
As you get better at manifesting, and your energy shifts, these beliefs will weaken considerably.Here’s the thing..we attract based on what is dominant. Dominant implies majority, which implies the presence of a minority. This means that all that is required is your new, empowering beliefs take up a bigger slice of the pie than the limiting ones.
You just have to start feeling better more of the time than you are feeling badly. The belief you can have what you want just has to be stronger than the one that may be lingering, telling you that you can’t.
As some of you may know from past posts, a few years ago, I lost my sole source of income pretty much instantaneously, with basically zero savings to boot. This put my attraction efforts into overdrive, and a few months later, I attracted three lucrative freelance writing jobs all in the same week, providing me with more income than I had ever had previously.
That is a pretty great manifestation, but I still had plenty of ‘stuff’ that would come up, sometimes quite intensely, for days at a time, during this ‘work.’ These jobs still made their way in. Would I have gotten them sooner if my vibration was more consistent? Probably. But, it is what it is. Better late than never.
Another aspect of this idea of not worrying about completely eliminating a belief is that what you think is possible for you now is only a sliver of what is actually possible, but based on your current belief system, you may not be able to let in the highest representation of your desire. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t let anything in.
The attraction process is often incremental—we work with desires that seem feasible based on where we are now, that actually feel good and possible, and as we shift our inner world, what we believe to be possible for us expands. We then set bigger goals, but they don’t feel as unnatural anymore, they just seem like the logical next step.
Just to be clear here, I am not advocating being ‘realistic’ in setting your goals, and thinking small based on where you are now. What I am saying is that since we attract based on what we feel, we can’t attract something that truly doesn’t feel possible for us right now.
Let’s say you are working on increasing your income for example. You have a home-based business that is currently making you around 1,500 a month. You want to make more. Based on the law of attraction, you know you can make as much as you set your sights on…you could make 20 grand a month if you so desired.Chances are, however, you probably don’t feel that to be true at this point in time, and that’s okay.
But just because your current belief system is not at a point where you truly believe you can be wealthy, doesn’t mean you are doomed to never make any more than you are making now. It’s not an all or nothing proposition.Right now, you might feel good about doubling your income…that seems possible to you. When you think about that, it feels good. So, just work on developing a mindset that supports doubling your income.
Then as you start seeing results from that, your positive beliefs about what is possible for you financially speaking, will strengthen, and your limiting beliefs in this same area, will naturally weaken.
Am I Doomed if I Never Uncover and Destroy All My Limiting Beliefs?
There is a hell of a lot of stuff swimming around in that stew of beliefs residing in our subconscious mind. While educating ourselves about the process of attraction, and the power of our thoughts in shaping our reality is awesome in countless ways, it can also create a lot of anxiety.
We worry there are things lurking in our minds that we will never uncover, that will sabotage our efforts to be happy at every turn. And we will be powerless against them, because we don’t even know they are there. How do we get rid of something if we don’t even know it exists? That can be a kind of depressing thought.
I have a couple of things to say about this. The first is, I think that for most people, the major players limiting belief- wise are pretty obvious, and don’t require much digging or analyzing. I grew up poor so I am destined to be poor. Having money would create more problems for me. I have never had a healthy relationship with a man, so I probably never will. I can’t make money doing what I love. There is too much competition in my field, it will be hard to be successful. I’m not good enough. I don’t deserve good things. You see where I am going with this.
Sure, you may still have some that are hiding in dark corners, but if you start tackling these bigger ones, you will make huge strides in your work, and manifest all sorts of great things. Then as you go for the bigger and bolder stuff ,that may have been considered ‘impossible’ before your work with LOA, you’ll likely uncover these saboteurs.
Once you start working towards specific manifestations, and your energy starts shifting, you will likely run into the obstacles characteristic of forward movement, and you’ll uncover some more stuff that may be within.
And then there is always the possibility you are overestimating how well you are doing in shifting some of the obvious beliefs, and are convinced there must be something hidden that is standing in the way, because you still don’t have what you want. Sometimes we can go into denial about how we are really feeling, or claim to have conquered certain beliefs and we really haven’t.
So, if any of that particular nugget resonates with you, give it some thought. It can be hard to admit when we are struggling with this work, but isn’t it better to do so than think some ‘mystery’ belief beyond your grasp is screwing with you?
Secondly, to really start making headway with shifting your energy, and manifesting what you want, you don’t have to start digging around for limiting beliefs. Just look at what is standing in your way right now. What is coming up for you when you think about a specific desire? What feelings are welling up? What are all the reasons you think you can’t have this thing? Are there any memories of other events coming up when you think of this thing? Those thoughts are coming in because they are a match for what you are experiencing now, and have a common link, limiting-belief-and-feeling-wise.
Just work on what is in front of you at this moment. Whatever is coming up now are the major blocks, and shifting them will produce tremendous results.
Shifting Them Doesn’t Always Require Your Direct Attention
While rooting out our limiting beliefs, and allowing more empowering ones to take hold and grow, sometimes requires us to pay direct attention to the unpleasantness floating around our head, this is not always necessary.We can make a lot of headway with our limiting beliefs by simply focusing on activities that raise our energy, by just feeling good and deliberately focusing on the good things about us.
It is kind of like having a plant but not watering it…you are not actively taking a role in killing it, but it certainly won’t survive without that water.As our energy raises, and we start feeling better, our inner world begins to change in countless, glorious ways. We start seeing ourselves in a new light—when we feel happier and less stressed overall, we will be less inclined to criticize ourselves, focus on our faults, think negatively and all that good stuff.
We will feel more optimistic about life and what is possible for us. Those limiting beliefs may still be there, but they feel less powerful. We don’t get sucked into them as much. They will just naturally weaken.
Our thoughts are manifestations like anything else, and when we are vibrating at a higher level, and are feeling all happier and shinier, we will naturally attract thoughts that match this frequency. The more these thoughts enter our minds, the more momentum we build behind them. They can really start forming roots in our minds. The stronger they are, the easier it is to think them. The stronger they are, the easier it is to go back on that track when we find ourselves straying into limiting-belief territory. These more positive thoughts and beliefs do not feel as far away and unnatural to us.
In this state, we will begin to attract all sorts of great things into our life, and this strengthens our belief in law of attraction. Seeing all this ‘proof’ will naturally chip away at our limiting beliefs because we now have some real-world experience that refutes them. We start to see the process of attraction works the same no matter what we have our sights set on, and no matter the area of the limiting belief, we will have an easier time rejecting it. We will truly start to see we have a choice as far as what we believe, and that whatever we believe will be true for us.
The more you study law of attraction, the more you will understand it, the more the knowledge will seep down into the deeper parts of your being. This greater understanding will lend itself to a more ‘intellectual’ evaluation of what is going on in your head, and you’ll more readily accept that what you think is not some cold, hard fact.This pure theoretical understanding is usually not enough to totally root things out,but it definitely does help.
This is why it is so important that we regularly expose ourselves to the information that helps us strip away the old conditioning and let better thoughts, beliefs and feelings take up residence.So, yeah, you would be amazed at how much you can shift your belief system without paying it mind specifically.
In Closing…
While this attraction stuff can be serious at times–facing things we may have been suppressing, being honest about how badly we have been feeling, and then actually feeling it for the first time, owning up to our feelings and taking responsibility for them, etc..–largely, it should be on the lighter side and fun. The ‘work’ does not always have to be actual work, as in something unpleasant and difficult.
You have a belief system…much of it has probably served you very well. Some of it hasn’t..the less than desirable elements may have jacked things up for you at points, but that all ends the moment you decide it will. You might not be able to shed something overnight. You might find different aspects of larger belief –like not being good enough– surfacing as you tread into different areas of manifestation, even though you thought you moved past it.
You will want to create new things and you may not be a perfect fit for them right at this moment, and you’ll have to do some work. This is just how it goes. But, we don’t have to suffer.Things can start getting better before you totally shift something—you might not get exactly what you want as fast as you want it, but things can improve nonetheless.
Since I know you will be working on feeling better overall ,because I have stressed the importance of this countless times, you will start to see you can feel happy now, no matter what is happening, and that you don’t have to wait for these things to feel better. And from this better-feeling space, the limiting beliefs won’t bother you as much, and you’ll be able to work on them more effectively. You know you will succeed, and things will just keep getting better and better.
Your Turn…
What did you think of the post? How are you doing with shifting your limiting beliefs? What makes it hard for you to do so? What tips would you give that have worked for you? Looking forward to your comments so we can have a nice chat!
Hi Kelli, good post. So much of it is about believing something is really possible. I’ve been thinking about that lately. Thanks for the tips about looking at what’s standing in your way right now. 🙂
Hi
Thanks so much..so glad you liked it. It really is all about that…it sounds obvious and simple, but if there is at least a small part that really believes that to be true, that is really powerful and that alone creates a shift. Looking at that will definitely help and release some worry that there is some hidden belief messing things up for us!
Thanks Kelli, it’s a good reminder, especially the part that you don’t have to focus on limiting beliefs to shift them. I have shifted a few beliefs lately and it feels really good. I kind of start to obsess when I start having negative thoughts, which leads to a downward spiral. Now that I know what I am doing, I just stop and change my focus – read my affirmations, read your blog or other uplifting stuff – and it works a treat. I can turn a mood around really quickly this way. My problem doesn’t seem so bad, and I realise that I need to go with the flow, not force things to happen the way I want and I can feel the alignment happening.
Another interesting thing happened to me today. I briefly visited someone I have known for a number of years today. Even though he has a good heart, he is very self destructive, and resists any efforts to help him see his problems or to help himself in any way (I know, I’ve tried). I haven’t seen him for many months and usually his presence is kind of neutral to me. Today, when I saw him I felt extremely negative. It’s hard to describe, but it was like I was suffocating. It was overpowering and oppressive and I couldn’t wait to get out of there, even though it was very hot outside and his apartment was airconditioned and comfortable. As soon as I got outside, I felt ok again. Perhaps because since I saw him last I have been actively raising my vibration and was not resonating with him even stronger than before? Also he is taking part in a very physical trek soon and his health is less than ideal, and I feel as though he won’t come out of it so well. He won’t listen to advice so it would be pointless to tell him this. A bit off topic, I know, but I can’t talk to anyone I know about this stuff.
Hi Bunny
Isn’t it great to know we can make headway with shifting them without always paying them direct attention? When we focus on raising our vibration overall, we are just naturally going to have an easier time buying into more empowering beliefs and releasing the older ones..our knowing that they arent true expands, and they lose their power.I love what you said about changing focus…that is so powerful and simple, but we have to deliberately practice this sometimes so it becomes more natural to us. It is easy to get sucked into the other stuff.
That is an interesting experience, and I imagine you are right..all the work you have been doing on yourself has leveled you up some, and that greater contrast between the energies probably hit you really hard, especially since you hadn’t seen him in awhile. If this new level of vibration has been relatively consistent but still feels kind of new to you, it might not be super stable yet, and that could also account for such a strong reaction. Either way, it shows you are really making progress so that is good. You are right in it being pointless to talk to him…when people aren’t a match for certain information, it just bounces right off of them. They get in defensive mode and it really would just be a waste of your time. It’s hard sometimes though to see people hurting themselves in various ways, but ultimately it’s their journey, and you’ll know if there ever comes a time when he might be receptive to your help.
It really is a slow but inevitable process of growth as we gradually unfurl into our highest potential. No need to force anything – just allow it to happen naturally. Thanks for another inspiring post Kelli.
Hey Faith
You are so right about it being a gradual process..we want everything yesterday and that can really throw a wrench in our manifesting efforts. But, if we can just exercises some patience, we can start shifting our vibration and we will make a pleasant discovery that we can still feel pretty good even if all the things we want are not quite in our grasp yet. We know they are coming, we can start enjoying life a bit more now and from that space, we are actually speeding things up.
Hey Kelli,
When I look at all your photos of everywhere you’ve been, I know the law of attraction works. I have to say, I’ve got some pretty big requests, but I don’t see any reason why they can’t be fulfilled.
I grew up with a mother that gave me no confidence or self esteem. I have to say, as an adult, I realized maybe it was a blessing in disguise. I feel I can conquer anything I put my mind to. I am no different than anyone else who has attracted health, happiness, love, wealth, prosperity and abundance.
I believe and I know I live a piece of it each day. All in due time. Thank you. Lisa
Hi Lisa
Hey Lisa..the bigger the better! It really does work. Several years ago, I never would have thought I would be doing what I am today, but I believed and I took a shot on this whole conscious creation thing, and it worked out quite nicely. You are right…you are no different. The only thing that separates us is our mindset. That you can see the value in that experience and how it may have served you positively is a HUGE thing that will bode well for your manifesting efforts and just making positive change in general. You have decided you will not buy into whatever she may have created in your mind, and that this situation will not define you in a negative way.
Hello! kelli!
I just started changing one of my limiting beliefs because it was constantly showed up last year multiple times. I beat myself up on it everytime I made a mistake because of the limiting belief but I wasn’t commited to changing it and trying to shift it on a daily basis.
So I was aware of it but still couldn’t change it.
I would like to believe that making mistakes and having fears are ok and it’s a learning process.
I would like to believe that I can get love anywhere and anytime if I release resistance about it. So there are a lot of opportunities in the universe. I manifested previous guys whenever I released resistance. So that could be my own proofs.
So nowadays simply I repeat the words and try to feel gratitude. I sometimes record my voice and try to listen on a daily basis after waking up or before going to sleep.
Hi Jamie
Thanks for your comment and sharing your experience. That is great you have become aware of a major belief that you want to work on changing. I think everyone can relate to what you are saying about being aware of something we want to change and not liking it, but then really not doing much to address te problem. Even if we are not happy with certain circumstances, we actually get quite comfortable with our life being that way, and as much as we would like things to be different, we may not feel all that motivated to actually create the new reality. It is DEFINITELY okay…if having a perfect vibration was a requirement to get anything good in life, I don’t think any of us would ever get much of anything! You can get whatever you want, and as you move through the process, that resistance will release. It is also important to remember that you are going for a majority good feeling..that is all you need to start seeing real changes. That is a great idea about recording the words…great way to let it seep into the mind.
Hey Kelli!
This is, as always, so relevant and applicable. It really is beautiful to see the way life opens to us as we open to it. I have been working hard on my limiting beliefs for some time and am now in a class to become a certified life coach! I still see some things come up about my own worthiness and what I think is possible but I work with them by questioning their validity and choosing thoughts to believe that feel better. I think the first and most important step is being able to recognize these beliefs with compassion for ourselves.
Thank you so much for your insights.
With Love,
Nikki
Hey Nikki
So glad you liked the post. I couldn’t have said it better myself..that openness can change our life in ways we never could imagine. That is great you are taking that class..good luck with that! I totally agree that compassion is a key ingredient in doing this work. Great insights here!
Hi Kelli,
Such a great article. Interestingly enough, most of what is here is what we talked about last night in the LOA group call (which I loved by the way). I learned so much and as I noted, I’m just really getting into this and I’ve seen ‘direction’ in the way I need to go.
I needed to know about not limiting my belief and how to not completely worry about what I wanted. I still have to work at this. I think some of the things we talked about last night are limiting and I’m still tied up mentally with things I don’t even want to think about anymore.
I have to work on this. What makes it hard for me is just my brain keeps going around and around in circles. I literally have to stop myself, then 5 minutes make another conscious effort to stop myself. I guess I just have to keep working at it. But each time in between does get longer and longer so that’s a good thing.
I find this completely fascinating and I really want to know more. I’m learning from your posts and I thank you for that.
God bless and have a blessed day.
Barbara
p.s. Ryah popped in on FB. You guys are just down the street from where I live. Awesome! Who’d have thunk it? lol Talk soon.
Hi Barbara
Thanks so much. So glad you liked it. I know it can be frustrating when we are still concerning ourselves with things we just want to ‘be over’ but it is great that you recognize how these things may be problematic and limiting for you..that alone gets energy moving in the right direction. It is great you are making that conscious effort to redirect your thoughts…that is where it all starts. Like you said, your mind might wander back, but the stretches in between are longer and longer. I am so glad you are finding the posts helpful. There is some sort of resonance there, and that means you are getting just what you need. Yes, on the call I saw your location listed,a nd I was like…that is right near us. Perhaps we can get together one day before we leave.
It’s funny but if you just move your attention toward what you can do and you keep doing it then your limiting beliefs will disappear. Where your attention and energy goes, grows. Loving the message here and hey, keep on keeping on with those powerful webinars!
Ryan
It really is amazing how that alone can be helpful in changing our beliefs without really specifically working on them. THere is a time and place for that, but that is not the only way to shift.
Hi Kelli,
I love your message, I love your posts and I love your teachings. For some reason I can just relate to what you’re sharing more than I can from other information I read about this topic.
Maybe because I know that you’re living what you teach. So many people “know” what it takes to achieve what they want but they’re still not there. I find that hard to learn from someone like that when they aren’t walking the talk.
I grew up with parents that were raised in the depression. I “thought” as a child that we were doing really well actually but every time we would be invited to a birthday party my Mom wouldn’t let us spend but $5 on a gift. That was so embarrassing because even back when I was young you couldn’t get much of anything for $5. I always heard the phrase “what do you think, money grows on trees”!
Even to this day it’s very difficult for me to keep my own positive thoughts because my mother still lives in the mindset of lack even though the lady is a darn millionaire. She’s that way though because of the way she’s lived, saved and beat into our brains the things we can’t afford.
When I’m around her I oftentimes worry that having to live in her world of reality will hinder my thoughts of manifesting what I desire because she knows what I can and can’t afford. So she keeps holding me back to an extent and I’m finding that the most difficult challenge to date. Does that make sense?
I try my best to not have those types of conversations when I’m with her but that’s daily since she lives next door. I fear that financially I’ll never reach my desired goals because of the reality I still have to live especially when I’m around her. I get what you’re saying here that we all still fight some of those thoughts but this one is more often than I even want to visit. 😉
Great share Kelli and thanks for this message. Really hit home with me.
Hope you’re enjoying your first week as a married lady! So happy for you and Ryan.
~Adrienne
Hi Adrienne
Thanks so much…that means a lot to me that you are finding the content so helpful. Everyone has their own style, philosophy and what have you, and some people’s work will just resonate with us more than others. When we find people we like and dig in, we can make change so much faster because we are really connecting with information that is most beneficial for us personally.
Thank you for sharing that story because I think a LOT of people can relate to what you are dealing with. Money stuff is one area in particular where our past experience and other people’s points of view can really dig in and hold on for dear life. Because we have so much ‘stuff’ our beliefs in this area can be a bit shaky and other people’s stuff just further complicates our efforts because that is all just a mirror of our own limiting beliefs we are still holding.
So, while it is certainly challenging, the good news is, no one can really ever affect our reality without our ‘consent’ and by that I mean, it only affects us in so far as we let it affect us. Whenever someone else’s point of view interferes with our efforts to shift beliefs, all it means is that there is still some part of us that also believes these same things. And this is understandable as we usually can’t just stop believing something one minute and something totally different the next. It is usually a more gradual shift from what we have believed to living our highest possibility, and this is especially true when it comes to money.
What is good is that you realize this is what is happening, and from what I have seen of you and what you have expressed about your beliefs and outlook on life, there is a pretty big chunk that seems to realize we have control and can create whatever we want. This particular aspect of life just may be a bit more challenging, and you are certainly not alone in that. We have adopted a lot of disempowering beliefs when it comes to money, and untangling all of that can take some time, but things can start getting better without totally releasing it all.
Thanks Kelli for your response.
My Mom is so “set in her ways”. As an example if we’re together and she says something like “well you can’t afford that” and my response was “I can afford anything I desire” she would laugh and say “how do you figure”? So logically you can’t explain the law of attraction to her because she only deals with what is.
My reality at the time might be that I can’t afford whatever it is we’re discussing at the moment but my mind knows that I can. So that’s what I fight with, having a conversation with her and then the conversation I tell myself.
I KNOW I can manifest whatever I want but I don’t want our conversations to stagnate me from moving forward. Know what I mean? That’s what bothers me at times wondering if having her here with me every single day is hurting me in that way although she has to be here in order for me to help her.
Okay, I’ll close this one for now and thanks for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate it Kelli.
~Adrienne
Hey Adrienne
I can relate to what you are saying totally..it can be a challenge when we have a certain set of beliefs about something and people close to us don’t exactly see things the same way. It can trigger a lot within us. One thing to consider might be not talking about money with your mom as much, at least as it relates to your own life. Then you can protect your energy better. As time goes on, and our trust and whatever grows stronger regarding particular things we are trying to manifest, other people’s opinions and points of views will not impact us as much.