Trying to change deeply ingrained beliefs can be really hard because of all the ‘evidence’ your mind has amassed they are true. But what if it wasn’t totally necessary to totally change them?
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Podcast #127: Law of Attraction: Your Mind’s Not Always ‘Wrong’ It’s Just Not the Whole Story
Being the first to listen to this podcast live and in the flesh, methinks that thinking or projecting is the core of suffering. Judgment is too. Like, something happens, and nothing right or wrong occurs; it just is. In the moment, or present, all just is. So yep; the mind is not wrong, it just paints things, and sometimes the painting is drab or dramatic or fear-based in nature. The key is to be present to see and feel the mind’s stories, so each little vignette passes. Fab podcast as always 🙂
Ryan
I agree with presence being so important–just observe and be willing to let it go if it doesn’t feel good or serve what you are working towards in your life .
Great post. I am in the same place or similar to the woman who helped inspire this post. I am 46, single, never married and have no children. I am now really excited about being married and being a mother – having a child. As well as excited to travel more and just enjoy life all around. I have this feeling and totally embrace it but yes I do see and hear a lot of information that is opposite of that. But, as I look with positive yes more than the “other” eye I see a lot of evidence that supports that what I want is possible and happens everyday. I find myself not even receptive to those people and things that promote the thought of “too late”. But I do admit from time to time I am “aware” of that alternate reality. During those times I just try to put myself back into a positive space while acknowledging the momentary doubt or sadness. Life really is a series of choices.
I have shared your site with a family member. I hope she takes a look around.
Thank you.
Hi Michelle
Thanks so much for your insightful comment and sharing your experience…I know a lot of people will find what you wrote helpful. Like you experienced, as the energy builds and the beliefs strengthen, you see the evidence, which just makes it easier to keep believing those things. And thanks for spreading the word!
I love this podcast Kelli!!! There is so much passion and energy in your voice here! This really helped me wrap my mind around some things…like my mind can still be “”right”” about it’s beliefs but we can expand our belief to include infinite possibility including what we “want” (if we’re” lucky” enough to know what exactly that is lol)
Thanks Summer…glad you enjoyed it. Infinite possibility is where it’s at! At any given time, our mind can see maybe three…not very impressive
Hi, Kelli! What aspects should be emphasized (to find the right frequency) if I visualize certain amount of money for important goal like University (using the letter to the Universe from Melody Fletcher) ?
Radost, please be sure to check notification of getting a response to your comment. I see you left this numerous times and I let you know I answered it several ones back….
Hi Radost
Don’t make the tools responsible for the energetic transformation and manifesting what is wanted/needed. If a tool helps you activate the energy that you think would lend itself to getting what you want, then it serves its purpose.Ultimately, the tool isn’t going to be what gets you there. Also, it’s not the money you want, it’s going to university. Focus on that and the resources that will allow you to do it will materialize, whether it is money or some other way.
Thank you, Kelli!
Thanks for the reminder that the perceived “way it is” is just collective agreement on a particular reality. We are socialized from a young age to believe truisms that are negative and limiting but when you examine them closely don’t have any real basis. In the past couple years I have excavated so many of these ideas and am still surprised when I identify one that has held power over me but makes no rational sense, never mind having spiritual resonance. I am finding that the most valuable things in my life now have come from following my own intuition and true self. This has almost always meant breaking with traditional thinking and external voices around me. Blessings, Kelli!
Hi Ruby
Thanks for your wonderful comment. Like you have experienced, we will always be coming up against weird beliefs we didn’t know we held, no matter how ‘advanced’ we may be or how much ‘work’ we have already done…it is important to acknowledge them so we can consciously decide to let them go. Following our feelings will always lead us where we want to be.
So true! An icky feeling always means you are out of alignment with your true self. My personal indicator now is that my heart (and heart chakra) tightens up. For many years before that my indicator was in my gut and feeling sick to my stomach. When I am in alignment I feel love, joy, expansiveness, aliveness, creativity, gratitude, flow and playfulness. They are all such gifts but the playfulness is the most surprising because I was so “adult” that I didn’t allow myself that before. I am also noticing that my mind is shifting from reptilian “problem solving” mode now and my mind itself feels relieved to do this because it enjoys creativity so much more.
Hi, Kelli! I listened to 1 your podcast where you talked about the balance between high and low energies. And how one person might have fears and be negative most of the time on the surface, but simultaneously have supportive beliefs which helps him get what he wants. Do you remember which this podcast was?
With over 100 podcasts, wouldn’t be able to pinpoint that. But it sounds like you already know the main idea that is helpful…don’t need much elaboration. Just remember that
Agree it is a conscious choice to decide your beliefs but what if you are not truly conscious?One of my limiting beliefs that held me back for a long time was that I am not a good salesman because I am introverted. And I also told myself that I did not like it. Once I realized this was a false belief I started to learn how to sell myself better. And once I started to get serious about learning I started to get results. And now that I get results I find that I love it! The key to this paradigm shift was acknowledging to myself that I had this belief and like you said realizing it is not the whole story. Great podcast!
Hey Dean
We will always be coming up against beliefs we didn’t know we had, and I find that anything relevant to the issue at hand will make itself known at that time. I really like your example…it perfectly illustrates what I am talking about. Being introverted may pose challenges for that line of work, but it doesn’t mean you can’t do it at all. That’s awesome you were able to work through it and find success in your work!
Thanks for the hardcore honesty. So much of what I listen too, and read, is based on being extremely positive and I do believe in that… but I also know I battle a lot of very real (not so positive) things that have happened to me in my past and present.
Example: I look and “act” very normal., but I truly “think” very differently then most people. It was found later in my life that I have what used to be called Asperger’s, Sensory Perception Disorder, and some other stuff that is a struggle, but only if I choose it to be. I choose to do all I can, not use it as a crutch or an excuse.
Yet most all of what I am is what was forced on me. LIFE as people know it wasn’t a given for me. I had to learn how to “act” to ever be accepted at any level.
I simply became what others expect me to be, and in that came a mass of criticism because I could “act” as demanded, but often the emotions and physical body language didn’t exist for me (or was just screwed up timing how to use it).
Lots of what could easily be labeled as abuse took place when I was younger, which drove me inward which was basically the opposite of what people were demanding. So I lost who I really was in this whole messed up process. Somehow I woke up to that “fact”, and now I KNOW much of who I am… Is not who I really am, or ever was. So here I am mid life… Re-learning LIFE. wow.
I am extremely open minded, and extremely logical, but I can be very critical (mostly to myself), which I have found to be destructive at times. At least I can see this now, which before I never noticed much.
I have to live on facts that make sense to me… and you make lots of sense. I am very introverted by nature. I’m not sure if personality types matter, but I am INFJ so I can bury myself in over thinking just about anything.
I often feel (or think) that no one understands me, which relates to basically I am stupid or crazy, when in fact I am very intelligent… yet I can look like an idiot in the process of just trying to fit in with a world that maybe was not what I ever expected.
Very long story short… Universal “Law” or principles gets my attention deeply. Once I heard of them something went off in me… It’s like this spark lit back up. Yet NO ONE around me wants to hear about my “cooky” beliefs and it has turned to just one more thing that divides me from people.
This is getting too long real fast, but you make a lot of sense and I thank you for taking the time to help others try and make sense of things when its just not as easy as it sounds some times. : )
Great comment! I am imagining You shedding that false outer shell as I write this. What a beautiful image.
Hi Chance
What a wonderful comment and like Michelle noted, I sense a very powerful shift in you. It is a very ‘fuck it’ attitude but in a really good way. You may process things in a different way than other people and the like, and it always poses its challenges when we feel ‘different’ but maybe being ‘different’ in these ways isn’t such a bad thing. In fact, those challenges can lead us in directions we would probably never go if everything in life was just ‘fine’and we were ‘normal, whatever the fuck that means!