Naturally, most people are drawn to a teaching like the law of attraction because they are unhappy with their lives to some degree. There are things you want that you don’t have. That’s all fine and good. But a key to allowing them in with greater ease is making peace with where you are now, and that isn’t always easy.
Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here.
Podcast #103: Law of Attraction: Making Peace with Your Current Circumstances
I listened to a boot-legged version before the podcast went live on iTunes. Wise stuff as always. I intend to largely embody this quote some enlightened soul shared once: “Love it the way it is.” By thinking that one through, I fight less and less, and love more and more. Not from grudging acceptance – which is fighting, masquerading as acceptance – but from wanting less, and being cool and relaxed and chill more.
I have learned how to release resistance more easily by not predominantly giving to get. I used to meter all things out. I gave,mainly to get. Now it is more about giving, to have fun, and not judging my vibe by some imagined yardstick based on what I am manifesting. Pretty peaceful vibe, coming out of that one, and it also puts one into a trusting, relaxed space.
I’m sorry for stealing the black market version.
I love that quote and it is important to recognize making peace doesn’t mean resignation or finding a way to be okay with things as they are now in case they don’t change-they will as your energy does. Great insights as always.
Wow Kelly, this is very timely. I was getting increasingly irritated for the last several weeks when I kept misplacing my cell phone and I would mumble to myself “stupid f*king phone”. I just had it in my hand…where the #!% is it! I was always in a hurry and having trouble keeping track of where I left my wallet in the house. I kept thinking maybe it’s time for a new phone…maybe a new wallet. Nah…it’s not their fault…get a grip, be organized, reduce clutter, stop pms-ing and wake the heck up. Control…control..control.
Well, Wed night I went to my gym and someone broke into all of the digital lockers and stole our phones and wallets. I was so upset I couldn’t think straight. I did everything right! This shouldn’t have happened to ME. Waaahhh! I spent the next couple of days hopping mad, blaming the gym, spinning my wheels, having meltdowns and even organizing the other victims to revolt. Understandable, but then every single thing became a big hairy deal. My replacement phone didn’t arrive overnight even though I paid for expedited shipping. My credit cards were charged to the hilt and I had to be on fraud alert and spent lots of energy reiterating what happened to investigators. A couple days later my VOIP phone stopped working for no reason and I couldn’t contact clients. And just for good measure, a toxic “friend” I thought I had successfully rid from my life months ago waltzes in out of nowhere and really unnerves me. I was trapped! I could actually track my stolen phone in real time but the cops were too lazy to do anything about it. I called them first thing every single day to get a “progress” report and remind them of all the taxes I’m paying to support their donut-eating lifestyles.
Everything was an obsessive epic battle, underscoring how unfair life is. Just when I thought the ju-ju had passed, today my brand new sparkling red, over-priced effing “smart” phone doesn’t work. It’s a verified lemon. What are the chances!!! Pretty darn low but I finally see how I attracted this disaster. Listening to your podcast, it dawned on me that my energy was the culprit. You’re insights are spot on. I swore I had a sign on my back that said kick me…hard. It’s the story I’m telling myself that’s behind it all–unbelievable drama. Being a victim got me to a place where I continued to gain momentum and attract bad stuff non-stop. I never quite understood that you do have control over your energy when you don’t have control over anything else ..pretty much most things. The great news is I had some amazing and unexpected financial and personal success this month when my energy was good to good++. I actually made the correlation! Very eye-opening. Thank you for all you do Kelly. I’m inspired 🙂
Hi Marilyn
It was interesting following your train of thought as you worked out what was happening and what the different manifestations were showing you. Those ‘good’ manifestations are great evidence of the energy correlation and once we start seeing that more clearly, we realize it doesn’t only work that way for the ‘good’ things but everything and it makes us feel empowered and less like a victim.
Hi Kelli,
Wonderful as always! And truly what timing for this topic! I am increasingly getting frustrated with the existing circumstances and it was only yesterday that I burst into tears out of nowhere. I actually told myself what a fool I am to believe that the loa stuff would work for me, I have been trying for months and months and not a single thing seems to change. I have tried everything – read the books, did affirmations, starting to love myself, must have read the whole of internet articles on this, I was so desperate I used to do tarot, iching, oracle card, play quizzes, exercises… and that is just the tip of the iceberg, you name it, I have tried it, just to get some evidence, some hope that things are shifting in my favour. Just a teeny tiny bit also will do to give me hope. But nope. Not an inch. Worse, it keeps anchoring in place even more and gets worse. I have prayed, screamed and begged God to just look at me for one second and just help me out too. But nothing. A wall of silence as always. You can sense what a state of mind I was in, I am just realising it as I type!! I actually reached a point yesterday where I questioned myself on my beliefs on loa. I wanted to throw everything out. I was really miserable because I had thought non stop about the existing circumstances and it just kept getting worse every hour. People I don’t like started popping in, things happening which I don’t like and take me back to anxious childhood scenarios yet again. As if the whole Universe is out there conspiring against me, hating me. I have lost my sleep literally and I lay awake scared not knowing what to do. Part of me knows only my energy is responsible for all of this. part of me knows I need to change my thoughts but the other part wants to just drop everything and weep and wait to be somehow rescued.
And yet today I just opened your blog and heard this and started weeping with huge sobs!!! Every word is true. I knew it but I just needed to hear it. Felt good to just be. Just be. but how does one change focus when such the existing circumstances laugh at your futile efforts and just don’t budge on and everyone and everything keeps reminding you of your misery? It is so hard. How did you manage during your pain with no hopes in sight? Nothing, absolutely nothing, is shifting and I feel that I am running out of time in life when everyone is settling, I am waiting for my life to begin and don’t even know if loa will bring me the good stuff? I feel scared and alone. How do we see the big picture? I am sounding hopeless, I know. But just being very real here.
Hi Littlered
It sounds like the main culprit here is something that trips most people up–you are seeing the LOA as a tool you can ‘use’ to make your reality change, rather than a Universal law that has always been operating in your life, and you just weren’t conscious of the energetic ‘signature’ you were emitting predominantly. The tools are great for helping us break up our auto-pilot thought patterns and the like, but in and of themselves have no power.Their purpose is to aid you in changing how you feel and your focus, and and if those shifts aren’t taking place, your reality won’t look any different. To feel the way you have been feeling, clearly not much energy was shifting–we don’t get fed up with feeling good; we don’t surrender from feeling trust and love. It is very important that you recognized that and copped to it, and I suspect the next item on your ‘agenda’ is really feeling all this stuff–not fun but will make the space for the energy you are hoping to cultivate.
Hi Kelli,
That’s it! Now that I reflect, I actually look at loa as a tool and not as a law. I keep ‘doing’ things in the hope of changing stuff, but in my mind the same old worries, feelings exist. No change there. I want loa to ‘work’ for me. I go into a loop of doing, not seeing change, worrying and trying harder. I see some people around me living the life of their dreams and they don’t do any of the tools and don’t even know about loa. I asked one girl she said she just does what she wants and feels good and doesn’t care what people say. I can see she pretty much has her life sorted in most areas. That’s what you must mean about ‘being’. It is a very good realisation and I thank you for it. Indeed now I have to sit and actually feel what I do to make changes, but I can stop being fearful of doing things wrong. I can stop doing things that don’t feel good in the hope that they will alter the circumstances or in fear that if I don’t do then something bad might happen. Like you have said in the podcast, existing situation is a sum of previous vibration and that’s all it is. So even as I see things around me, I don’t have to be afraid of ruining anything in the future. I am hopeful now and I have started doing things which lift me up energetically no matter how small. It does feel good! No pressure to manifest anything, just to keep feeling better.
Thanks a ton! 🙂
Sounds like you had a major epiphany here…I can feel the energies of relief and hope very strongly when reading this, and that’s awesome. The example of that girl is perfect and really illustrates the point that it is ‘being.’ Knowing these Universal laws and being more deliberate in our focus (tools are good for this) is certainly helpful as it can really step up what we allow into our lives, and makes things a lot easier! You are doing great
Very timely, thank you. I have talked myself into so many problems I keep manifesting more. I am now in a Grand Canyon sized trench. No more! Over my bathroom mirror, my computer, and my car’s dashboard I have now written the words: Today is a result of yesterday.
If I can remember that I am always living in the physical past, then I am sure I can make peace with the present for a happier tomorrow.
Hi Briar
That’s a great little tool you made for yourself…seeing the reminder is powerful. Repetition is key to making these shifts–some deep grooves we need to smooth out. Thanks for sharing!
This was a great podcast!
Can you do a post in the future or point me to one you’ve done that is about maintenance? Like when you are feeling good finally but there is that lingering fear that at any moment everything is going to tumble on top of you?
Hey Summer
Glad you enjoyed it. This post discusses what you are asking about, and I think it could make a good podcast topic so stay tuned:
Hi Kelli,
This and many of your posts finally resonated with me. I’ve actually been on your blog before back when I realized I wanted to manifest this very specific “thing.” At the time, I resisted the information especially the whole let go and detach even though I knew it needed to be done (I was also stuck on how what I wanted will manifest). Well I realized that everything that’s happened in regards to what I’m manifesting happened for a reason and today I can honestly say that I’m prett content. My current reality is just what it is and I’m fine. I understand more now than I did even a couple of months ago. It’s wonderful to feel my energy changing and seeing things relevant to what I want manifest. The “big” one hasn’t happened her but it doesn’t matter. I’m just glad I genuinely feel better. This podcast made me see that. Thank you
Hi A
Thanks for your comment–sorry for the delayed response, was off the grid for a bit–We all resist that info–our mind doesn’t like us letting go of what we want, and it interprets that advice as ‘you can’t have it, no way to guarantee you get it.’ But it’s not about not wanting specific things…we all will, that’s not going to change. But all the ‘trying’ we often engage in in regards to changing our energy just in the name of getting the ‘thing’ tends to get old fast and leaves us really frustrated. Sounds like you are doing great!