Law of Attraction: 4 Manifesting Anxieties and How to Quell Them

Learning about the law of attraction was life-changing for me, and you can never go wrong with consciously working with your energy and being deliberate about your focus. But, the flip side of learning about all of this is over-thinking the process way too much, and obsessing about your ‘vibration.’

We make manifesting way harder than it needs to be, but we’re learning to operate in a whole new way so it’s understandable there is a bit of a learning curve. We won’t master it immediately—we probably won’t ever fully master it for that matter!

We’re human and have to accept all the ‘imperfections’ that come along with that. Our mind will never stop doing its thing—the questioning, the wanting to figure things out, and what not.

Doing the inner work that is a necessary component of making significant change in our life may lead us to uncover things that don’t sit well and there can be a lot of discomfort.

This post was inspired by some recent questions by a few of my awesome readers, and they all seemed to fall under the umbrella of manifesting anxieties. Hope you enjoy it.

Not Sure How Much to Focus on What You Want

Oy…this can be tricky, not gonna lie. Technically, we never have to think about what we want and we can still get that thing and/or a whole bunch of other stuff that will mirror back the ‘positive’ energy we are emitting.

Like I have said a million times before, what we are truly after at the end of the day is to feel a certain way, and your mind has just translated that energy into some specific want, and it is highly likely your mind is very attached to said want, but I’m getting a bit off topic. Anyway…

Think about all the stuff in your life that manifested that you never thought about—both wanted and unwanted. It all showed up in response to your vibration, which is our true point of creation.

The thing is though, being that you have a mind, you are probably going to be thinking about what you want. If you are not used to thinking about what you want in a positive way, finding a way to do so through the use of visualization and other tools, will be very helpful.

But the exact pictures in your mind and the exact thoughts you are having are ultimately not what creates your reality. Often times, these exact things are what will show up because they are a good representation of what you want, but many times, something completely different may show up that is even better or something that you didn’t even know you wanted, but once you get it, you really like it.

Regardless of what shows up, it showed up because it was a match to your energy. The most important work you can do in manifesting is working on that overall energy, not thinking about the exact things you want all the time—simply wanting something is not what brings it to you.

I can’t remember the exact quote or the person who said it (and I’m too lazy to look it up) but it was something along the lines of ”You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.”

The second that desire was sparked, the good old Universe got the message—it doesn’t need to be reminded. Big you is always flowing that awesome energy out into the ethers, and all sorts of great stuff that will reflect it is always en route—we just have to let it in.

The amount of time you think about something will not determine the speed at which it comes to you.

Many times, thinking about what we want is detrimental because we are doing it from a space of not liking what is happening now, and our mind is very convinced this thing manifesting is the answer to our problems. But it really isn’t…your mind will make a very compelling argument to the contrary, however.

If you have various rituals that involve thinking about what you want, and it feels great, like affirmations in the morning, or spending a few minutes in visualization each day, or whatever, awesome, go for it.

Anything we can do to evoke that energy is a great use of our time, and it is ultimately the energy that creates.

Not Sure How Much Action You Should Be Taking

When it comes to the teachings of the law of attraction, there can be a tendency to take certain statements quite literally, like your thoughts create your reality (we all know the ridiculous scenarios the skeptics cook up to argue this point) or you don’t have to do anything.

Yes, our energy is our true point of creation, not our actions. All sorts of things can come together for us without us having taken a specific action to bring that manifestation about—people giving us things, random encounters landing us new business, etc…

Changing our energy can completely transform our money situations, businesses, relationships and other aspects of our life without us having done one thing differently.

But, in some cases, taking certain actions may be a part of moving a manifestation along, and failing to act may slow things down a bit. But the lack of action isn’t necessarily the culprit—it is your energy, it always is.

If you feel inspired to take a certain action, and you don’t take it, there may be a missed opportunity for example. Don’t worry though, you can always get what you want and you can’t permanently ‘mess’ it up.

If you feel inspired to take certain actions, but are reluctant to actually do so, it is a good idea to do a bit of digging and get a better idea of why you feel this way.

For example, if you are looking to increase your income, and all sorts of inspirations are striking for new products or services you can start offering, but you don’t want to act on any of the ideas, why?

If you really want to start a blog, but weeks have passed, and you have yet to write your first post, why the hesitation?

If you are running a business, there are probably all sorts of logistical issues that need tending to, and if you are reluctant to do them, that could negatively impact your business. If you feel really resistant to handling them, you may want to take a look and see why.

The key is the energy that lies behind the actions because it is our energy that is creating. We are not going to be perfect at this, and this idea of doing less can make our mind very uncomfortable.

So, you will probably have times when you will take actions and you would have been better off not doing so—again, you can’t mess things up permanently and every thing that happens is a learning opportunity. You’ll still feel the need to take control and believe if you take certain actions, you can guarantee some sort of result. So don’t beat yourself up when you find yourself doing this.

Sometimes action can actually be a great form of energy work because it helps create the expectation your desired manifestations will show up—again, it is all about the energy behind the action. It can calm the mind a bit, but it is important to sever any expectations that may be attached to taking this action, as best you can anyway.

When we feel aligned with what we want, there is a good chance we will feel compelled to take all sorts of actions, and these types of actions have a very different feel to them. They feel light and right; we want to take them. They don’t feel like ‘hard work’ or that we are trying to force a specific outcome.

Finding the Balance Between Letting Yourself Feel Your Negative Emotion and Working to Shift It

Many teachings of the law of attraction give an impression that negative emotion is manifesting cryptonite, and you best get rid of all of it, if you hope to get anything good. Talk about pressure!

Yeah, the more positive we are, and the more we feel good, the more we trust,etc.. the quicker things will come to us. That is without question. But we can’t forget we are human, and we have negative emotion.

We can’t forget that we will always be experiencing both aspects of ourselves—big us and little us. And little us has a range of emotions, will not always trust, will let outside circumstances dictate how we feel sometimes, will get attached, will have expectations and will feel doubtful.

We also can’t forget that all our emotions have value, including the ones we don’t really like. We have to stop judging them as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong.’ They are just showing us something.

And because they have valuable messages, it is good to let ourselves feel them. It is important not to try to create from a space of resisting these emotions, and wanting all the stuff we want because we think they will make all the crap go away.

But at some point, something has to give, right? We can’t insist on feeling this way all the time, and declaring we will only feel better once things change more to our liking.

So, it can feel a bit tricky sometimes. How much do we give into the emotion? At what point do we work on shifting it?

It would be great if there was some exact formula, like let yourself feel your emotions for two to three hours maximum and then you must shift. But it really doesn’t work that way.

The best I can do here is offer some insight from my own experience. When I feel a certain way, I just let myself feel it. I give in. I embrace it. I don’t judge how I am feeling. I don’t freak out that I am messing things up by being ‘negative.’

And from this space, the emotions lose a lot of their intensity. By not resisting the state I am in, it passes much more quickly. I see the messages more clearly and quickly.

I don’t forget that all the trust and ‘positive’ emotion I have banked is still in my vibration–it didn’t just go away. It simply isn’t predominant in this exact moment.

I don’t force myself to get all happy, but I do keep an eye towards things I can do to ease up the pressure some.

For example, if I have a day where I feel low energy and a bit mopey, I tend to make myself go for a walk later in the day to get some energy moving, and get out of the house. I may not be all enthused to go, but ultimately, I know it will make me feel better, so I do it.

As much as we detest it, we will sometimes not feel good—sorry, you’re human. We don’t do ourselves any favors by trying to deny these feelings or force them out. Over time, how we view these feelings can change dramatically, and we see them more for what they really are, and how they are serving us.

The more we realize their purpose and that in fact, they are okay, the less pressure we will feel to try and make ourselves feel better, and the elevated moods and energy will just follow more naturally without us trying to make them appear.

Not Seeing the ‘Unwanted’ For What It Really Is

Before I wrote this, I was on the phone with a friend who was relaying a story about a problematic client she had been dealing with. Like me, she realizes the messages inherent in the ‘unwanted’ and how we can benefit from these experiences.

And this client was a real gift—the situation reflected back so many things to my friend that were perfect for revealing issues she has been grappling with in her business and personal life, such as boundary issues, respect, money and what comprises an ideal client.

Sure, she is human like anyone else, and was bothered by the situation, but ultimately, she saw how perfect manifesting this person was for her at this moment in time. It gave her so much clarity, and helped her set a host of intentions.

We have so many expectations of what manifesting is supposed to look like, of what our life is supposed to look like once we learn about our power, and being more deliberate in creating our life.

And these expectations totally cause us to misinterpret our various manifestations. We somehow think we can learn to avoid anything unwanted, at least what we would consider to be unwanted.

But, no matter what happens, it is just showing us something. In that sense, it really can’t be ‘bad’ right ? Sure, maybe not ideal, maybe something we would prefer not happen, but again, it doesn’t mean something went wrong, or we can’t have the things we want.

We have kinks in our vibration, and we may still manifest things we don’t like, but not the end of the world. Sometimes manifesting something we don’t like is perfect for helping us get more clear on what we do.

Sometimes these unpleasant manifestations are the perfect way to show us something we need to see.

The only reason we don’t like these manifestations is because it triggers a fear we won’t get what we want, but these manifestations are one of the keys to moving us towards it.

We just have to be willing to adopt this different perspective, tease out the message, understand working consciously with your energy does not mean exercising control over every last detail of your experience, and knowing you are always moving in the direction of better stuff showing up for you.

So, that’s that for this post. Hope you enjoyed it.

Your Turn…

What did you think of this post? Anything resonate with you in particular? Do you share any of these manifesting anxieties? Anything you would add here? Looking forward to your comments as always.

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