Thought this person’s question and the info provided in my response would be helpful for others so sharing the exchange here on the blog…
Hello Kelli
I hope you are well.
I had a question and wondered what your thoughts might be. I’ve sort of decided to stop asking for something I’d like though I’d still like it because I feel a bit tired but have a sense that something is happening though I’m not sure what or if I’m imagining the feeling. Is this something you’re familiar with?
That sense of ‘giving up’ on something because of the strain of the ‘wanting,’ and any efforts we may be engaging in to make it happen, whether it is ‘typical’ action, or the action of personal growth/manifesting ‘work’ such as affirming, doing various exercises,etc… is very common.
It is important to keep in mind that just because you stopped actively asking for something, that doesn’t mean that it is no longer possible to receive it–that sense of ‘wanting’ you are experiencing is really not necessary to the process though it is hard for our minds to grasp that.
This is especially true as many LOA-type teachings emphasize very diligent focus on this or that. For most of us, that approach backfires because the root of the ‘wanting’ is rooted in a lot of negative feelings to which we feel very resistant and we are hoping the manifestation will fix.
Technically, in theory all we would need is the slightest ‘whisper’ of a desire sent out into the ‘ethers’ and that would be sufficient. But in reality, this ‘set it and forget it’ approach is difficult. We think about what we want quite a bit.
We have some ‘stuff’ we often need to work through to get more aligned with it on an energetic/emotional level. We usually feel a strong sense of ‘need’ around getting the thing, rather than a mere preference, which will be loads lighter energetically.
It is quite possible that you are sensing that something is on the horizon. It can be difficult to discern sometimes whether those feelings we get are true intuitive senses or if it is more our sense of ‘wanting’ and hoping that something is going to change. Sometimes it could possibly be a mix of both.
One thing I would say is not to get too caught up in trying to analyze this feeling, trying to discern what it actually is. It is important to understand what lies at the root of this sort of question, and that is ultimately fear, a fear of not getting what we want, a fear that things will continue on as they have been. And this fear creates an anxiety over whether we are doing all of this ‘right,’ an anxiety about trying to interpret everything that is happening ‘correctly,’ etc…
And because this ‘process’ is not ultimately action-based at the core, the idea that we can do any of it ‘wrong,’ that we must become experts at analyzing our feelings, discerning what they all may mean constantly,etc… is not really necessary.
That ‘giving up’ is actually a good thing though it may not feel that way at first since it is typically preceded by intense resistance rather than from some freeing, feel-good space of realizing you don’t need to do it anymore and you just let it go.
That you may still feel some level of attachment and ‘want’ is normal and it just is what it is. It is just something to be aware of, and it is important to engage in honest self-reflection and be willing to engage with your negative thoughts and feelings when you intuitively understand that it will be beneficial in the moment.
Just keep the focus within, and if you feel guided to focus externally in any way, to do certain tools or techniques that feel light and right in the moment, go for it. But don’t worry too much about all of that.
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