Wouldn’t it be great if we could consult some sort of oracle that would tell us our future, or give us an exact series of steps to take to get from where we are now to where we want to be? How much easier would it be if we could receive some sort of guarantee we would get what we want, allowing us to move forward with total confidence?
Well, none of that is really possible. But, if you cultivate the belief you will get what you want, and you learn to trust in the amazing forces that bring us the insights, ideas, solutions, people and other stuff that help our life shape up the way we want it to, you’ll end up where you want to be.
There may be some bumps on the road for sure. Your exact vision of what your ideal life looks like may change along the way; things may not look like you think they have to look right now, in order for you to conclude you have gotten what you wanted. But, you are always after a feeling anyway. And if you take the leap, you will end up creating all sorts of great stuff that will give you the feelings you are after, whether it is peace, happiness, fulfillment, purpose or whatever other warm fuzzies you had in mind.
It can be hard breaking out of our current circumstances, and moving towards something else. We may not be exactly sure what that something else is. We can’t figure out how it would all come together, and taking that first step can be scary if we can’t see how the whole journey will unfold.
We naturally go into planning and figuring out mode, and our puny brain can only come up with a handful of possibilities of how things can come together, when there are actually infinite. Our mind is very good at convincing us if we can’t conceive of a possibility, it must not exist. Your mind means well much of the time, but it can be a real stick in the mud sometimes.
Even if we are not exactly enthralled with the state of our life as it is now, it is comfortable and familiar. We’re not completely miserable, so we should just accept our lot now, right? Wrong, wrong a million times wrong.
So many fears hold us back from making the changes we want to make, and at the root of it all is the fear it won’t work out. And this fear comes from a lack of trust. We don’t believe we are being supported by some wonderful loving force that will happily serve up anything we want, provided we can let it in.
But we are being supported ,I assure you. I have seen it in my own life countless times. A lot of people want to know how I created the life I did for myself, and a huge factor was trusting (at least most of the time!) the things I wanted would come together for me.
We think we have to control everything, and make it all happen, and this leads to all sorts of issues, from slowing down our progress to not even bothering to try at all. On one hand, we are controlling everything in the sense we get to decide what we create and where we will put our focus—on the things we want or the things we don’t. But, as far as how that stuff will actually materialize in our experience, we don’t have to do as much as we think. We have to figure out the ‘what’ but the ‘how’ is not of our concern.
You have no idea how your life can change, and what you can open yourself up to, when you really begin building that trust you will get what you want. You may not feel it every second, it may be incremental, but so long as it is with you to some degree most of the time, you will start seeing changes in your experience. You will start to believe you can have what you want, and what a great feeling that is.
But, like any shift that needs to be made internally, just telling yourself you will start to trust more, and then magically trusting more, may not happen. Your mind will need a bit more than that, and you will need a bit of guidance in adopting this new way of operating.
Be Willing to Accept Things Can Come Together Even if You Can’t See How Yet
Like I said before, you may not be able to make the leap from totally being afraid to go after what you want because you are scared you won’t get it, and you can’t logically figure out how it would work out, to just totally trusting 100 percent the Universe has your back.
While such a leap would be totally awesome, and I guess technically possible, most of us are going to have too much momentum behind the more limiting beliefs and lack of trust. And the good news is, this dramatic shift is not necessary to move forward.
The only thing you need to start is a mere willingness to accept that what you want can come together for you, even if you haven’t a freaking clue what that looks like right now. This acknowledgment is extremely powerful because in that very moment, you can create an internal shift that opens you up to more possibilities, that starts making you a better match for what you want.
This willingness can create a sense of relief it isn’t all up to you to bring everything together, that you are not tasked with figuring out every component of your desire.
I am sure there have been times in your life when something came to you completely out of the blue, or in a way you would not have expected. Even if it was something small, really think about these moments. If it happened then, it can happen again. And it can happen for anything, no matter how big.
Realize Everything that Is Happening is Serving You in Your Journey
So, you have decided to give this trust thing a go, and you have started really allowing yourself to want what you want. You may have set your sights on very specific desires. You may have even taken some steps to move closer towards them.
Certain expectations may have been established regarding how things are supposed to unfold and what getting what you want looks like-really try not to do this. It’s hard, I know, but something to work on..you will benefit tremendously.
And then, something happens that makes you doubt you can get what you want. You anticipated some sort of result and that is not what happened. You experience something unwanted, and it totally throws you for a loop. Then the panic sets in, and any trust you may have banked, just gets shot to shit.
But, here’s the thing..everything that is happening is always serving us in some way. There is always some benefit to be had in regards to ultimately getting where we want to be.
Sometimes experiencing something we don’t want helps us get a clearer idea of what we do. Obstacles that pop up can often reveal to us limiting beliefs that may be getting in the way of achieving our goals. Without them having been brought to our attention, we couldn’t address these blocks, and they would continue to hinder our progress.
Things we label as ‘bad’ are actually ‘good’ in that they help us get where we want to be more quickly–like unexpectedly getting laid off from your job that you actually didn’t like anyway, and which prompts you to look for something in a field about which you are passionate, or using that as an excuse to take an extended vacation ,where you end up having some life-changing epiphany, that totally alters the course of your life for the better.
Like many of you may have read in previous posts, totally losing my sole source of income a few years back was one of the best things that ever happened to me. It kind of sucked at the time for sure, but it was the catalyst for really getting into my work with law of attraction on a level I had not previously. I ended up attracting much more lucrative writing opportunities. The clients were great, and the work was easy.
When you view things in this light, you will come to see that everything is helping you along in some way. These are not signs you should give up, or what you want just can’t happen.
Banking Some Positive Energy
In order to really cultivate the trust required to stay the course, and make you a match to all you want, you have to build some momentum behind your preferred feelings, thoughts and beliefs. The ones that have been messing with you thus far have a lot of power behind them—it isn’t difficult at all to get into a more negative state. It is familiar. Our mind tends to go there automatically. We never have to deliberately focus our attention to create bad feelings and thoughts—they just pop right in there, and dig in.
You may not be used to focusing more positively on a consistent basis. You are used to worry, doubt, anxiety, focusing on what you don’t want, and what you hope doesn’t happen. Yuck, right? And when this is predominant, you will amass plenty of proof that all of this ick is true and valid, but it isn’t.
When you shift your focus, your external experience will change. You will start to experience things that reflect these preferred beliefs, thoughts and feelings. You will have some proof there is something to this, and another way is possible. And, this will make the trust grow.
And when I talk about focusing more positively, I am not just talking about thinking happy thoughts, or saying affirmations that your mind is outright rejecting before you even finish the sentence. I am not talking about pretending to like things you don’t like, or going into denial.
I am talking about actually focusing your attention in way that evokes true positive emotion, that helps you chip away at the beliefs that tell you you can’t have what you want, and nurture the growth of the ones that say you can. I am talking about adopting a different perspective on your current situation, and what you think is possible moving forward.
This way of operating will take a bit of practice. Focusing more positively may feel a bit strange at first because you just aren’t used to thinking that way for any sustained period of time. Actually letting yourself believe you can have what you want may be a brand new sensation—pleasant for sure, but again, uncomfortable, because it is new.
So, take a few minutes each day to get into that warm, fuzzy space. Think about what you want. Don’t worry about figuring out specifics—it is okay to go more general. Specifics tend to activate the mind, and get us into ‘figuring out’ mode, and remember what I said about the dangers of that mental space.
For example, if you are in the midst of opening a new business, just envision yourself talking with your customers or clients. Don’t start thinking about how you are going to market or how you are going to get these people. Think about what constitutes your ideal client or customer, and imagine interacting with those types of people specifically—that will help draw them into your orbit.
Don’t worry about creating movie-like images in your mind if that seems hard—that really isn’t necessary. I am actually not a visual person, and when I do this type of focusing, it is feels more like simply thinking. That’s fine..it is the feeling you want to strengthen—what is actually happening in your head doesn’t matter as much.
When this focusing isn’t really feeling great, back off from it. Don’t force yourself to do it. When uncomfortable things pop up, take a moment to examine them.
Technically, this focusing really isn’t necessary, it is just a tool. We can create all sorts of things by simply deciding we want them, and then never giving them much thought ever again. I have experienced this plenty of times.
But, when it comes to things we really want, and our belief we can get them is pretty weak, we have to work on building some positive momentum and chipping away at the negative. And this deliberate focusing is what will help us create that shift. Like I said before, this deliberate focus will help reshape our external experience, and will allow the trust to flourish, because we will start seeing all sorts of signs that what we want can actually happen for us. Imagine that!
In Closing…
The nature of our human minds, the conditioning that we have been exposed to, and a whole bunch of other crap, can certainly make it difficult to operate from this sort of space mentally and emotionally.
Looking towards the future, and the unknown, is usually done from a space of fear and worry—our mind automatically goes to all that could go wrong, all the bad things we worry may befall us at some point in the future. When pondering a new experience, we think of all the reasons why we might not like it.
Will you experience things you don’t like? Will things happen that you would rather not? Probably. But, there is also lots of great things that can happen too. Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be great. It is okay to put your sights on all the good things that are awaiting you, rather than all the shitstorms that may be brewing in the distance. That is not naive in the least.
Put a new spin on the ‘you just never know’ line of thinking. Believe things can come together. Know you are being supported. Realize whatever happens is contributing to your journey in some way. Be willing to release the beliefs, and ways of being, that are no longer serving you. Know you can turn things around at any time, and your experience up until now is not any sort of indicator of what things have to be like from this point on. Trust.
Your Turn…
What did you think of this post? Are you struggling with cultivating trust? What do you think is standing in your way? Any part of the post resonate with you in particular? What tips would you give for upping the trust factor?
To keep myself believing I always refer to two quotes by famous LOA authors. Neville Goddard always said that he never worried if his manifestations would occur because the feeling from having them was enough.
Esther Hicks also says that the joy is actually in the action and not the ending, which I believe to be true because by the time, our desires manifest themselves, they feel ordinary anyway
Hey Natalie
I love those two quotes and they make perfect sense to me. All we want are feelings and when we can create them now in some shape or form, we can start feeling better without it being conditional on receiving a specific things. That is an interesting point about them ending up feeling ordinary..I imagine that is because we have created a strong expectation we will get them, so nothing to be too surprised about!
As I read this post, I thought of baking with toddlers. Odd, I realize. But if we imagine that we are the little kid, and the Universe is the parent, it works. Say a toddler wants cookies. He asks his mom for cookies. She gets out all the stuff to make fresh cookies for him, then he says he wants to help. Anyone who has baked with toddlers will understand what a disaster it can be. Their “help” isn’t always helpful, and actually delays the process of getting the cookies made. So I imagine that our trying to figure out the details of what we want while the Universe is mixing it all together for us is like the kid who thinks that cheese would be perfect in the chocolate chip cookies because he likes cheese so much. Instead, we can sit back and watch as Mom bakes our cookies for us in the way she knows will taste good.
This is so beautiful and such a great illustration! Thank you so much for sharing!
Hey Judy
That is an awesome analogy and I loved it! You are so right about that being kind of what we are doing when we try and get involved in the process. Of course we will be drawn towards certain actions, but for the most part, our higher selves and the Universe know what’s up and they really don’t need us!
Judy,
This is brilliant! Thank you so much for this analogy!
It is funny, my nephew described the lemon and orange filing in some cookies as cheese! Haha!
This illustration really helps in understanding the process more and how we can actually just watch the parent and end up with something delicious instead of making a mess of sorts! But you know, come to think of it, even when we do, the parent cleans it up, but it may take some time getting the dough off the ceiling.
Ouch… Hit me hard really hard. Lately I had a hard time trusting and actually not wanting to think about what I really want. Because I might not get it and can I trust it will all work out ? Weird brain tricks trying to keep me safe from no apparent danger. Building trust will take time for me. Hopefully I’ll be living a magical life like you. Honestly you live a incredible life and trust 100%. I really would like to do that also. It’s good to be aware that people are living life lavishly. 🙂
Hi Kerby! I saw your comment and wanted to offer a little concept that really helps me with fear. There are two types of problems we have as humans: Safe Problems and Quality Problems. Safe problems are generally self created, internal friction like fear or depression. By keeping this problem we are safe from failure, we can count on this problem to be there whenever we need protection. Quality problems involve risk and mean that we have to go forth and put something into the world with no reassurance of how it will work out. The main difference is that with quality problems we have a much larger chance of feeling fulfilled. Those of us who stick with our safe problems tend to look back and wonder where their life went.
I hope this helps you, like it does me.
With love,
Nikki
Thank you for the comment ! I really appreciate your suggestion! I do believe that quality is what I’m reaching for you know… I like to have things work out . Plus being fulfilled is what I really want ! 🙂
Hi Kerby
You are very welcome. We all definitely want to get our ‘stuff’ so you are not alone in that feeling of ‘need’ we can sometimes develop. We almost cant’ help it, but when we start to build that trust more, we will start seeing all sorts of amazing things happen that let us know we are moving towards it
Ha..just realized you were replying to Nikki..that was an awesome answer she gave!
Hey Kerby
Trust can be tough because it involves relying on what can’t be ‘proven’ or worked through with our logical minds. I have my periods as well when I am not fully on board the trust train. It’s okay if you don’t feel it every second..the times when you truly do, even if they are for shorter periods, are very powerful, and will help build more positive energy. You can create everything you want. And as far as thinking about what you want, it isn’t something you must do on a daily basis–when it doesn’t feel good, don’t make yourself visualize or do other exercises because it will just make you feel worse.
Hi Kelly Yes I replied to Nikki haha. Ya the trusting on what cannot be seen is tough sometimes. Like you said we all want things to workout. No need for me to meddle with the universe. It’s knows better ways than I am aware of. That puts things into perspective. Lol funny thing is I don’t visualize as much because people say you must. Just feel better everyday is really a great thing for me. No need to force feelings haha. Thanks for the comment Kelli ! Very helpful made me wake up ^_^
My pleasure Kerby! Feeling better will get us more results than we can know.
Thank you again Kelli, for your well timed words. We all need a dose of trust if we are to create something worthwhile. With all the factors out there that are beyond our control, we need to remember that we can only do our part. The universe and the rest of the world must do theirs. What a beautiful dance we are taking part in!
Hey Nikki
Thanks so much for your kind words as always. So glad you enjoyed the post. It really is like a dance isn’t it? You are so right that the only thing we can control is our own ‘stuff’ and the more we do that, the more we realize that no matter what happens on the outside, nothing can ever really keep what we want from us.
Hi Kelly,
To start off, actually, yes, the Universe tends to let us know that there is something bigger than us that is protecting us and leading us to what we want.
I’m saying this because I’ve observe that in every step I’ve been taking for my trip to Italy. Everything related to the trip has been a positive experience so far.
For example, last week, I had an appointment for the renewal of my American passport and it turned out that the lady who helped me went above and beyond to help me fill out the form and send it in right way.
The same thing happened when I renewed my French passport this past November in Atlanta. And I actually received my passport way sooner than I was told, and everything went perfect.
So I started noticing that the Universe is telling me yes, go Italy. Go to Europe, because that’s where you should be going right now.
So, yes, I’m nervous and when I start thinking too much, I still have some type of hesitation, but when I feel this force that’s saying yes to me, I know I’m doing the right thing and it’s very reassuring.
The exercise you’re giving to take on a more positive attitude is right on.
Hi Sylviane
Thanks for your comment and sharing your experience. Things are certainly lining up nicely for you, and I agree that the nudge to go there is definitely ‘big’ Sylviane letting you know this is the move to make right now. I am excited to hear what transpires on your trip and how it will all tie into whatever goals you have set for yourself, or what insights or opportunities arise as a result.
It really is great when we can tune into these manifestations and see that we are being assisted in all that we want. It is a really nice feeling.
Thank you for this wonderful post, Kelli! This is perfect timing, because the last three days have been riddled with doubt and fear for me, when I was doing just fine. My brain was like, “and how will that happen,?” “what will that be like, it will be chaotic” and all that, when the Universe keeps proving to me that it can all be good, like Sylviane mentioned above. I go back and forth from pure positive knowing to doubt again. I can’t seem to maintain it. Any tips for that?
Hi K
So glad you enjoyed the post. I have experienced that too..feeling all fine and dandy but the something happens or just out of nowhere those thoughts come in super-strong. Happens to everyone. One of the things that helps me the most is working on feeling good just for the sake of it, and not always tying it to the idea of trying to attract something specifically. Also, being more accepting of these moments is helpful for reducing the intensity of these times. Over time you get more comfortable with the uncomfortable moments, and that makes all the difference.
Hi Kelly,
I usually read many positive life quotes when I feel emotionally down. Moreover I always believe in God and I think I always get some inner strength to believe in myelf because of my belief. Your post is much needed for life and Inspiring too!!
Hi Vino
That is great you read the quotes..it is helpful when we are feeling badly to go back to things that remind us of what we really know to be true, and will help us more deeply ingrain a more positive perspective. A belief in something larger than ourselves is so important for our well-being.
Absolutely right,Kelli.. We must breathe in NOW to sip all magic of this moment. Appreciate what we have right now to embrace positivity in our life. If we are accepting things as they are, life turns out to a happy place. Lovely post kelly
Realize Everything that Is Happening is Serving You in Your Journey
Be Willing to Accept Things Can Come Together Even if You Can’t See How Yet
Hello Yatin
Thanks so much..so glad you enjoyed the post. There is a lot to be gained by showing true appreciation for what we have now…not only will it make us happier in the moment, what we want can actually flow to us more easily.
Hi Kelli
This is a post worth reading over and over again. You really said some things that got me thinking.
Be Willing to Accept Things Can Come Together Even if You Can’t See How Yet. You are right as somethings don’t go as we planned but there is a reason things happen and they lead us into something that we can’t grasp yet.
Realize Everything that Is Happening is Serving You in Your Journey. This touched me so much. When things happen to you especially when they don’t favour, it is easy to stay in the sad zone. Why can’t I achieve what I set in my mind. I agree that Life is a journey; whatever we face does shape us and makes us grow.
We need positive energy and that is something we struggle with most times. One needs to believe that all is well and trust that every quest will turn out fine and the Universe does have a way to make our beliefs come true. Thanks for sharing. Ikechi
Hi Ikechi
So glad you enjoyed the post. It can be hard to keep the faith when things aren’t going well, or we can’t seem to figure out how we would possibly get from a to b when the two point seems so far from each other. But that mere willingness to accept it can happen, and that alone, really can make all the difference in the world, even if it just seems like a small thing.
It can be a process for sure, but the more we move in that direction, the more ‘proof’ we will see, which just makes it easier and easier to believe.
Hi Kelli,
I tell everyone that winning or losing, failure or success, happiness or sadness, pleasure or pain… everything is just a state of mind. You can actually practically experience and prove all of it. You can literally make a shift of mind and your feelings and thoughts can change at that instant, making a whole world of difference of experience.
You are right about the energies and forces, and how we can change and position ourselves to make them help and fulfill our requests. This requires you to be focused and have a balanced and sane state of mind. It’s not easy to practice that, but those who do really receive the fruits. We need to remember that our intentions are the seeds of these fruits.
You are right when you say that “It can be hard breaking out of our current circumstances, and moving towards something else.” It’s so difficult to go out of your comfort zone. But fear is the biggest enemy that can stall your progress and stop you from being successful. I like how beautifully you have emphasized the importance of trust or faith. Yes, it’s all about it.
It may sound weird, but it is all about surrendering to the force – that kind of trust will do you wonders. But people misunderstand this and get entangled in silly religious issues. But positive belief has its benefits, and as you mention, things start changing when you begin to believe.
I like and agree with all of your ways to build trust. We need to remember that our life is the result of the choices that we make. Also, there is this old wisdom that whatever happens, happens for the good. Now, it’s up to us how we interpret and make use of the opportunities or circumstances.
It all starts in the mind, which actually is a mine, of possibilities. Now coming to what I think of this post – it’s great! I think we all have some moments or phases of doubt, and this post does well to remind you about the power of trust.
I read a poem attributed to Mother Teresa that it is not between you and the people or events or things… life is a conversation between you and the force. Therefore, the ultimate aim of life is not to acquire things, but to understand life and be happy. Make trust as essential as breathing, trust as you breathe, and make it a part of your life.
Thank you for this post, Kelli. Your thoughts are beautiful, but I’m sorry for this lengthy comment. You made me do it! 🙂
Hi Vinay
NO worries about the long comment..I love when a post inspires people to really share their thoughts in detail. I love picking up on my reader’s own insights and tips, as well as hearing about their own experiences. It is truly amazing how we can shift our reality in an instant by shifting our thoughts. Perspective is everything, huh? I love how you used the word ‘surrender’–it can be misconstrued as giving up and admitting defeat or totally relinquishing control over our experience, but it can also mean just giving into the flow and knowing your intentions have been set, and they will come together in the perfect way so long as we believe-at least most of the time–we will get it, and make the deliberate effort to focus on what we want vs what we don’t.
I love the idea of that poem..you and force…so many great nuggets in this post! Thanks so much for sharing!
Hey Kelli,
The “how” is what trips us up every single time.
Knowing what I know now, that the how isn’t up to us but the Universe, it’s still mind boggling at times when we want/desire something but can’t even fathom how in the world it will ever happen. It’s the not knowing that makes our minds start to go kind of crazy and the doubt creeps in.
Of course myself I’ve been very sure that certain things would happen for me, I just had to believe and have patience. But those were things that I knew could eventually happen. The bigger things, the ones we want so badly yet can’t even comprehend how it would happen, those are the ones where doubt comes into play. Like something would literally have to fall out of the sky, which we don’t believe could or would even be possible.
I continue to fight with myself at times, struggling to let go of the uncertainty and just believe. It’s holding that thought pattern constantly, daily that I have issues with at times. Knowing that things can happen if I just get out of my own darn way, that’s where I still have to get to. I think once that can take place then I will be open to receiving and doing my happy dance over there once it all shows up.
Thanks for sharing this, as always you just have a way of explaining things and making us all realize that we just have to hold those thoughts, we have to continue to believe and things can come true.
~Adrienne
Hey Adrienne
You are certainly not alone in that one. It can be challenging to totally release that..our brains are designed to calculate, figure stuff out, and all that so to just totally shut it off is not small feat. And we really don’t need to do that to get stuff, as you have probably seen in your own manifestations. The key is to not get caught up in the thoughts and give them power. When we can get to a space where we are just observing them, but not buying into them, they won’t get in the way as much.
You are so right about the bigger the thing, the more challenging the process of trusting–when our mind can’t come up with any solution, or only a handful that seem impossible, our spirits can plummet for sure. The mind will put up quite the fight, and it just is what it is..we just have to work on making the trust and other things predominant and that is all we need to tilt the scales in our favor. If we had to have all that positivity at 100 percent at all times, most of us would be screwed!
Hi Kelly,
This is such a timing post for me and confirmation. I’ve been working 12- hours rotating shift for over 21 years and I’m tired of it. I recently applied for a new job with another company and was offered the position. I’m taking it! It’s 8 hours/40 hours a week off weekends. I will be taking a hung pay cut but I’m trusting and walking in faith that everything will turn our right.
Like you said so many fears can hold us back from not making the change we want to make. I listened to my wife’s concerns and fears and let her know that everything is going to be okay. I sat down with her and we went over our bills. We have to make some sacrifices with our spending but we will be fine.
I pictured me being successful and our family happier. She responded by telling me all she wanted to know was her feeling was important to me.
I shared this to add that when we’re about to make a dramatic change in our life we must consider everyone it effects too. Often during times like these, especially with us men, our egos can take control and we can hurt others in the process. It’s better when everyone is trusting the process.
As I look back at my life and see those times when I was fearful the most everything always turned out right. I’m trusting this career change will too.
Thanks and I can’t wait to share this with my wife Nicole!
Hi Vernon
Congratulations on your job…that sounds like it will be a nice change! Your story is a perfect example of how money is not the end all be all…it can be hard to walk away from it, and the act of taking this job alone shows a huge degree of faith, which will serve you well.
It can be challenging operating from an LOA-type mindset when our partners aren’t exactly as on board, particularly in these types of situations. When we are all in faith and trust mode, they feel they have to do all the worrying for both parties, and it can feel like a lot to take on! It is good you took the time to hear her concerns and did those practical steps like going over the bills,etc…That is the type of stuff to do in these types of situations.
Just keep picturing what you want, and as that energy raises, you will also see a change in your wife as well.