Can I Use the Law of Attraction to Influence the Experience of Other People?

Thanks so much for your question and it is an understandable one. There can be a lot of anxiety around our children and the idea of wanting to do something that we think could protect them is understandable.I am not sure how much ability we have to ‘create’ in other people’s realities. That you would be able to exert control over their experience via your ‘energy’ is probably not something we could do to any major degree.

But I think by setting intentions for their good health, and your energy around it, could certainly make positive contributions. For example, you get a nudge to bring your child to the doctor even though the symptom seems rather benign, and you end up catching something that could have potentially been serious.

Really the better use of your energy would be exploring the fears you have around your children getting sick. There is never really any way to 100 percent control external reality, whether our own or someone else’s ,even if we had that ability, no matter how well we ‘manage’ our energy. So getting more emotionally comfortable with things of which we are afraid is a good use of our efforts.

It is important to understand that anything we want to manifest in the external world is always driven by some kind of ‘negative’ emotional motivator. The ego mind is solely driven by the desire to minimize pain, and believes this happens via making everything in the external world to its liking. And this is especially the case when we are hoping to try and prevent certain things from happening, trying to avoid particular outcomes.

We fear certain things, and then try to figure out ways to exert control, so we can hopefully avoid them and the really bad feelings we believe will accompany these experiences.

The feelings are what we are really afraid of, and the feelings are a result of the story we have about these potential circumstances, whether it is a child getting sick, a downturn in our finances, getting divorced, not reaching a particular goal,etc…

So if we start exploring that story, we get an opportunity to explore different perspectives and interpretations, ones that would not make us resistant to the situation as we may feel now. For example, spiritual teaching tells us that every negative experience offers an opportunity for some sort of positive change.

If we truly believed something like that on a deeper level–rather than just intellectually understanding it– we would not be as fearful of situations the ego mind judges as ‘bad’ because we would recognize there is something of value we can receive from it, even if we can’t see it right in the beginning or feel that way the whole time we are going through it.