{"id":7476,"date":"2020-01-16T11:14:48","date_gmt":"2020-01-16T16:14:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=7476"},"modified":"2021-07-30T11:39:59","modified_gmt":"2021-07-30T11:39:59","slug":"law-of-attraction-my-mind-is-fighting-all-the-changes-i-want-to-make","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-my-mind-is-fighting-all-the-changes-i-want-to-make\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: My Mind is Fighting All the Changes I Want to Make"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve recently come to terms with certain changes I want to make. But my brain doesn’t like it. How can I move forward if everything my mind is telling me is pushing me to stop.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Love this question because it allows me to talk all about the root of all our problems when it comes to energetic transformation–our lovely mind.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Start figuring out what\u2019s there, start \u2018unlearning\u2019 all it has \u2018taught\u2019 you, and all that positive emotion you are probably trying so hard to cultivate will just naturally appear.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

All those beliefs you are trying so hard to change just fade away.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And with this \u2018shedding\u2019 of all the shit, you will start manifesting all sorts of evidence that all those warm, fuzzy, feel-good beliefs are true, which makes it much easier to adopt them as our own. We have that all-powerful \u2018evidence\u2019 –our own experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

All that personal growth \u2018work\u2019 you are doing that you probably don\u2019t enjoy all that much is not really necessary anymore since its main purpose was to help us deal with the \u2018symptoms\u2019 of this dysfunction. And if you do continue to do this or that thing, it will be with a very different energy, with a very different motivation and you will probably find it \u2018works\u2019 better for you than it had previously.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0The mind serves us well in so many ways but not so much when it comes to conscious creation, changing our vibe, adopting perspectives and beliefs that will serve us quite nicely in all areas of life, making positive change, emotional healing and what have you. It has no place in this world. But it is constantly trying to dominate this work, which does nothing more than sabotage our efforts big time, slow us down and make things so much harder than they have to be.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This work of energetic transformation, of positive change, isn\u2019t inherently hard. We kind of make it so because we have so much crappy conditioning. We have a hard time breaking away from the mind, who doesn\u2019t want us to make all these changes, who has a problem with pretty much every belief that can make you feel better, any change that will improve your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Why is it so messed up you may wonder? Excellent question but no clue. Why oh why does it torture us so? Your guess is as good as mine. Why in the hell would it fight changes that would make it so much easier, nay GUARANTEE , we get all the stuff it wants so badly, that it feels so miserable without? No freaking idea.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

While there may be some satisfaction to understanding this, to getting a definitive answer to these questions, knowing this wouldn\u2019t necessarily make it easier to deal with it. In fact,it would probably make no difference at all. So don\u2019t think that is holding you back.<\/span><\/p>\n

It just is what it is, and our job is to not\u00a0 let it keep getting in the way of our inner work, to not keep letting it rule our choices, habits, behaviors and actions, to not let it keep sabotaging us.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Happiness Is a Threat<\/span><\/h4>\n

Being a happy, mentally healthy, emotionally well-adjusted person is a huge threat to your mind or ego, whichever term you use. How could it not be? It is the exact opposite of all these things.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you were to actually be that way, there is no way in hell you would continue to let it rule you the way it does now. In that \u2018cleaner\u2019 energetic and emotional state, you will finally see–like REALLY see, not just intellectually understand–how screwed up it is. It doesn\u2019t want you to ever see this.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And just\u00a0 as you would probably not be so keen on following the advice of someone who is a big, hot mess, you would see the insanity of listening to this part of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

When all you want to be is \u2018happy\u2019 the idea of continuing to listen to the mind, who wants the exact opposite for you, gets easier and easier over time. You see how continuing to do so will ensure you NEVER reach this goal.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You see how doing things its way, holding onto the beliefs it wants you to hold onto, will make it very hard to manifest the various things you want to manifest, from money to love to a better job to a healthier body.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

How Is the Unwanted Serving You?<\/span><\/h4>\n

There is a \u2018payoff\u2019 to everything we do or else we wouldn\u2019t do it. This can be hard to grasp since on a conscious level, we may not be aware of this payoff. On this level, we are very unhappy with our circumstances, we very much want them to change.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So our typical response to this idea is one of indignation–we are offended, insulted. How dare you suggest I want to be unhappy! How dare you suggest I prefer being sick, lonely, poor, overweight or whatever else. And then we just shut it down without any real exploration.<\/span><\/p>\n

And as a result, the\u00a0 part of us that actually sees some sort of benefit in our circumstances now continues to dominate and nothing changes. We fight against all the beliefs that would help us change things, we resist all the changes that would benefit us, we don\u2019t do any of the things we know we need to do if we really want things to be different.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you are knowingly not doing things you know would help you, if you are continuing to fight for beliefs and perspectives you know aren\u2019t helping you, you must explore this.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The new is scary even if it seems like something we really want.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

All the \u2018good\u2019 things we want may come with things we don\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0If you believe earning a lot of money will be hard, then you won\u2019t want to find yourself in that position. If you worry you\u2019ll become a walking ATM for less financially stable family members or people won\u2019t like you as much if you are successful, you\u2019ll shoo that money away at every turn.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you think finding a relationship<\/a> would make compromise necessary in other areas of your life that are very important to you, you may not be so gung-ho about meeting \u2018the one.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

If you try to make a change and \u2018fail\u2019 then it\u2019s all on you and you don\u2019t want to find out you\u2019re not smart enough, good enough or capable enough. As long as you never try, you\u2019ll never have to face that potential painful truth, which actually wouldn\u2019t be true, but your mind would think it so.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We may not feel great, we may not love things as they are now, but we are used to feeling this way, we are used to the struggle, the problems, the unwanted.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Mind\u2019s Most Dangerous Excuse<\/span><\/h4>\n

Lots of positive changes we have to make are hard. Lots of the shifts in thinking and feeling we need to make are hard.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We have to get off auto-pilot and develop greater awareness of how we are responding to life, how we are focusing our attention, what we believe. We have to clean up the \u2018filter\u2019 through which we are seeing the world, seeing ourselves, seeing the challenges we face.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We have a lot of conditioning working against us. Again, inherently it\u2019s not hard, we make it so. Again, just is what it is. Accepting it can be hard actually makes it way less hard interestingly enough! Because a shit ton of our resistance comes from thinking it is hard and wishing it wasn\u2019t. Anytime we fight against the reality of \u2018what is\u2019 we suffer.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The problem is our mind thinks something being too hard or uncomfortable to do is a VALID reason not to do it. It\u2019s a reason for sure, but not a good one.<\/span><\/p>\n

The reason this is excuse is its most dangerous is because doing hard and uncomfortable things is par for the course with personal growth work, inner transformation and changing our energy.\u00a0 It will constantly be pulling us away from doing what needs to be done to make things better.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it hard to stop living outside in and not letting your feelings be determined by external circumstances? Yup. But we don\u2019t have a choice if we want to transform said circumstances.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it hard to embrace unwanted experiences in our lives, and see them for what they truly are–opportunities to grow, opportunities to look within and see where we need to clean things up energetically? Hell yes.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it hard to stop using your past experience as a measuring stick for what is possible in the future? Yeah. But if we don\u2019t do this, everything we want will continue to elude us because your mind will keep convincing you it\u2019s unlikely to happen because it never has before.\u00a0 And no amount of tools or techniques can compensate for truly not believing something is possible for us.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it hard to develop TRUE gratitude for the good things in our life when we are so used to taking them for granted and just focusing on what\u2019s wrong and what we don\u2019t like? Absolutely.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it hard to set boundaries in a relationship when they have been completely absent the whole time? Affirmative.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Is it hard to break off contact with your ex? Yes indeedy<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Is it hard to let go of bad habits and embrace good ones? No doubt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And if we decide it being too hard is a reason to not try at all or give up before we\u2019ve succeeded, we have every right to make that call. But we must accept the consequences of that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If we don\u2019t really change inside, if we don\u2019t start doing things differently, our life isn\u2019t really going to change in any meaningful, significant, lasting way, things probably won\u2019t ever look much different than they do now, we probably won\u2019t feel much differently than we do now.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It can be a hard pill to swallow but that\u2019s the reality of the situation. Some of these changes may need to be gradual…that\u2019s fine as long as you keep moving forward. You may have lots of stops and starts but as long as you keep starting again, you\u2019ll get there. As long as you can honestly say you are really making a sincere effort, you\u2019ll get there.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You must get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Do that and nothing will stop you because our mind\u2019s unwillingness to contend with unpleasant feelings is our only real obstacle in pretty much every aspect of this work.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We Have to Make a Choice<\/span><\/h4>\n

Before when we had no idea what was going on on that energetic level, when we had no clue the impact our inner world was having on our outer, when we really weren\u2019t aware of how messed up our mind was, we created all sorts of problems for ourselves. But we didn\u2019t know any better–we weren\u2019t doing it on purpose.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But now that we are \u2018burdened\u2019 with all this knowledge, we do know better. We do know things can be different. We do know we are capable of changing in all sorts of wonderful ways.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And I\u2019ll tell you something–knowing all this stuff now and then not doing anything will feel far worse than whatever transpires emotionally and situationally once you commit to this journey in a real way. There will be an ever-growing tension that you\u2019ll be acutely aware of pretty much constantly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018Succeeding\u2019 with all this \u2018work\u2019 ultimately comes down to conscious choice. We get to choose what we believe. We get to decide if we are going to put forth the effort to make these changes.<\/span><\/p>\n

We get to decide if we\u00a0 embrace these beliefs and perspectives we know in our hearts are true–this is all we have to go on essentially , especially in the beginning when we haven\u2019t manifested much proof in our own experience.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We get to decide if we truly embrace our challenges as an opportunity to grow or an opportunity to just bitch and moan things aren\u2019t fair, feel badly for ourselves and use them as \u2018proof\u2019 of all the crappy beliefs to which our mind insists on clinging.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

These choices aren\u2019t one-and-done-deals either. They are continuous because we will always be getting \u2018contradictory\u2019 input from outside us, from our own personal experience to what we observe in the world at large. \u2018Stuff\u2019 will always be coming up that you didn\u2019t know was there. Certain experiences will bring to light things you didn\u2019t realize you felt or believed.<\/span><\/p>\n

We have to continuously choose in favor of truth, in favor of our own well-being rather than all the nonsense our mind is telling us, which will never do anything but lead us astray.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is challenging but like I said earlier, accepting it is challenging makes it so much less so because our resistance to it being \u2018hard,\u2019 that whiny toddler part of us that just wants our \u2018stuff\u2019 and doesn\u2019t think it\u2019s \u2018fair\u2019 we have to \u2018deal\u2019 with all this, accounts for the bulk of the \u2018challenge.\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? How do you deal with your mind? Looking forward to your comments as always.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

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