{"id":7243,"date":"2019-09-15T14:21:36","date_gmt":"2019-09-15T18:21:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=7243"},"modified":"2021-07-30T12:12:16","modified_gmt":"2021-07-30T12:12:16","slug":"change-perspective","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/change-perspective\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Can I Keep Doing \u2018Bad\u2019 Stuff and Just Change My Perspective?"},"content":{"rendered":"

So I have a question that is a bit hard to explain. If feeling better is the key, than rather than giving up something that makes us feel bad, can we simply work on changing perspective and feeling better. For example lets say you have a certain person that you feel like you should stop talking to, but rather than following through with that can I just instead work on my energy around it and stay in connection with him? Or, instead of eating healthier can I simply change perception about junk food and keep eating the way I am and loose the weight? I hope this makes sense!<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

There really isn\u2019t a simple yes or no answer to this question…it really depends on the \u2018bad\u2019 situation and actions. But in the context of the examples she gave, it leans more towards \u2018no.\u2019 You probably can\u2019t keep doing that stuff for a variety of reasons; it\u2019s probably having a very recognizable effect on you, and you know something needs to change. The fact this person is even asking shows she probably already knows the answer! Part of what I write here will address some of the underlying energies and what not that make us ponder such things.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not so much what we’re doing, it’s why that matters in terms of evaluating the impact, whether or not it’s ‘bad,’ and how this may all be affecting our energy.<\/p>\n

And for the times when the answer is \u2018yes\u2019 you\u2019ll recognize that a shift in perspective can do the trick. So long as you are always honestly assessing what is happening inside, the answers to these sorts of questions aren’t as elusive as they seem; the confusion we feel is not really necessary. <\/span><\/p>\n

All this usually comes when we’re not being honest. Honesty will be a conscious creator’s best friend–our energy is whatever it is, and there will be no ‘work around’ for manifesting changes in your life if what’s happening inside is not lending itself to them. We have to recognize when this is the\u00a0 case so we can tweak what needs to be tweaked.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Things Probably Won\u2019t Change Unless We Do<\/span><\/h4>\n

If our reality is influenced by the contents of our inner world, if on the physical level, our experience day- to- day\u00a0 is shaped by the sum of our habits, choices, behaviors, actions and the like, if we\u2019re not where we want to be, if we\u2019re experiencing \u2018problems,\u2019 it\u2019s very unlikely we can see any real change in our lives if we stay basically the same.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If most of us are honest, if we could find a way to get all the stuff we wanted without having to change ourselves or our lives in any way, we\u2019d be down in a second. Totally get that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But all this personal growth work starts to reveal one very core nugget of wisdom–nothing outside of us will ever make us happy, nothing outside of us will heal our wounds or fix our inside in any way.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Accepting this is life-changing. We want<\/em> to do this work or else we\u2019ll never enjoy anything that shows up; each manifestation would be nothing more than\u00a0 temporary relief of the \u2018ick\u2019 which will surface again sooner than later. We\u2019ll never enjoy our life in any real way since the present moment will always be relegated to creating something even better in the future, a new thing to take the pain away. Nothing will ever be enough. We’ll never enjoy the journey, and like you have probably heard countless times before…that’s all there is<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But I digress\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s been said countless times that perspective is the cause of our feelings, not what\u2019s happening. There is no true objective meaning to any experience, and we simply layer some sort of story on top, usually a story that feels really badly in 10 different ways.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So changing perspective is a core element of energy work, of healing pain from the past and all that jazz. And in some cases, that alone can be sufficient for a particular situation. We may be viewing things in a way that isn’t totally accurate and as our beliefs change, we see things in a different light. So many views we saw as objective ‘fact’ are anything but.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You may really dislike someone for example,\u00a0 but then you do some inner work, see what\u2019s really going on, and start feeling totally different about this person; you relate to them completely differently; you take responsibility for your shit ,and your emotional reactions, realizing it was never about them. <\/span><\/p>\n

You may not become friends, you still may not like them as a person, but you can now be around them without any issue. It\u2019s not necessary to stop attending gatherings where they are, or having any discussion with them about how you feel , the nature of your relationship or anything like that. Whatever buttons they were pushing were addressed and this person is no longer of any significance in your world.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But sometimes, this change of perspective isn\u2019t sufficient, we know on some level<\/em>, we need to make certain changes in our lives, we need to do things differently, we need to spend less time around certain people or let them go. <\/span><\/p>\n

The good news is, as we realize all that lies behind what’s going on inside, the reluctance to make them lessens, they usually don’t feel as hard as we think they would be now; they may still feel uncomfortable at the time, but we’ll deal with it much better. We know it’s the best course of action.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve gone through a break-up, and you\u2019re trying to be \u2018friends,’ for example. But you\u2019re\u00a0 really struggling emotionally, feeling hurt, rejected,etc… Could you change perspective on this situation, seeing that whatever happened was supposed to happen, that however the person treated you had nothing to do with you, that whatever painful stories your mind is telling you about it, are untrue?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Could you be thankful for the experience, could you thank your ex for playing such a helpful role in your growth and then be BFF\u2019s? Yeah, sure.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But unless that\u2019s how you’re TRULY feeling right now, being around this person, keeping them in your life, trying to be \u2018friends\u2019, probably isn\u2019t the best tack for your healing.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0If you\u2019re at a point where you\u2019re open to dating again, starting another relationship, it will be very hard because energetically, there is no \u2018space\u2019 for these people to show up. You can\u2019t fully process the situation because the \u2018wounds\u2019 basically fully reopen every time you speak. All your mental and emotional energy is on this person and again, no space.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Certain changes in our life are just necessary. And this brings me to my next point…<\/p>\n

Sometimes This Stuff is Hard<\/span><\/h4>\n

Do we have to suffer to earn our happiness? Are we only worthy of the good stuff if we make all sorts of sacrifices? Is this journey inherently supposed to be hard?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The answer to all these questions is \u2018no.\u2019 BUT, sometimes this journey will be hard, it will be really hard. But if we accept that, it makes the hard parts a lot easier to deal with. We won\u2019t suffer nearly as much as we do. Things feel less hard when we recognize them as such.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We have to understand we\u2019re<\/em> the ones that make it hard, but it\u2019s just par for the course, that we\u2019ll have tendencies, and what not, that are certainly going to get in the way, and we have to deal with it.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We have all sorts of conditioning that is working against us big-time and breaking free of it does take some conscious effort.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Our mind\u2019s whole MO is based on fear, and it is the space from which we have been living our whole lives, from which we make pretty much every decision. Moving out of a space that has led us to act against our own best interest at pretty much every turn is no small task emotionally speaking.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The dysfunction of our mind<\/a> manifests countless ways in our life, and it is the root of all our vibrational \u2018discord.\u00a0 And once we see this, we have to stop doing things its way, we have to stop seeing things its way, we have to stop letting it convince us the way it wants to do things is best for us.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s not easy…all the\u00a0 changes we\u2019re being asked to make in our belief system, how we focus, how we view the world and ourselves ,are seen as a direct threat to its survival. So it puts up quite the fight.<\/span><\/p>\n

We have lots of emotional \u2018shit\u2019 that needs to be unloaded if we want to change our vibe in any real way, if we actually want to be happier. Nothing outside is going to fix this, and this can be a really sobering, unsettling realization. These feelings suck and we don\u2019t want to feel them. We don\u2019t want to make changes that are going to trigger them, force us to deal with them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There are lots of changes we\u2019ll have to make that will feel hard or uncomfortable in some way, and our mind is really good at convincing us that this alone is a valid reason not to make them. But it\u2019s not. Yeah, it\u2019s hard to not talk to your ex anymore, it\u2019s hard to set boundaries, it\u2019s hard to learn new skills that will advance your career, it\u2019s hard to build your solo venture when you\u2019re still working full-time. <\/span><\/p>\n

But if that’s our reasoning for not doing them, we have to realize all the problems that stem from this are on us. If we keep doing things we know are bad because it’s hard not to, we have to accept the consequences of that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We can\u2019t manifest significant lasting change in our life, we can\u2019t solve all our problems unless we change inside what needs to be changed.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We probably won\u2019t become much different unless we actively try to be different.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We probably just won\u2019t magically develop certain desirable qualities unless we practice them, consciously try to cultivate them. We probably just won\u2019t all of a sudden become \u2018patient\u2019 for example. We become that way by consciously trying to be that way in situations where we would normally react with \u2018impatience.\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We can\u2019t manifest the amazing boyfriend, the large sums of money and all that if we\u2019re not \u2018being\u2019 the person who is a match to them. And achieving this \u2018being\u2019 usually requires some \u2018doing\u2019 in the way of this inner exploration and \u2018work.\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Honoring Our \u2018Limitations\u2019 in Thinking<\/span><\/h4>\n

The question of whether you can lose weight<\/a> while still eating junk food is a good example since it deals with the physical body, an area where we often have a harder time seeing the link between energy, and what happens with it, an area where we may have a harder time believing any exists in the first place.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There are countless stories of people doing things that don\u2019t affect their physical body the way it \u2018should\u2019 given what we understand about the body, how it functions, its \u2018limits,\u2019 etc\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Indian gurus who have been observed not eating or drinking anything for extended periods of time yet are perfectly healthy; people who have exposed their bodies to extremely cold temperatures that would be considered deadly, that would cause all sorts of harm to the body, and nothing; running marathons in the desert with no hydration. People who are deeply devoted to certain spiritual and energetic practices , and literally look decades younger than they are, whose bodies are in a state that just shouldn\u2019t be possible given the aging process.<\/span><\/p>\n

So if all this is possible, it\u2019s probably possible to lose weight regardless of what you eat.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The thing about these sorts of people though is they have developed their mind and mental conditioning in a way that the average person probably wouldn\u2019t be interested in; The beliefs they have about the body are on a level most of us are lacking. <\/span><\/p>\n

Many of these people have been able to achieve this sort of energy because they have largely detached from the ‘worldly’ life and all that comes with it, including the desire for many of the things the average person cares about getting, and probably will always care about.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We have a lot of conditioning and strong belief around what influences our weight, what sorts of foods are \u2018good\u2019 and \u2018bad\u2019 and all that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The amount of mental work to overcome that conditioning is probably a lot harder than just accepting these beliefs and working with them in your effort to lose weight.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Certain \u2018limiting\u2019 beliefs can be helpful\u00a0 in that they help create positive expectation, abiding by them makes you believe you\u2019ll get where you want to be, achieve some desired result.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I had a period a few years back where I gained a lot of weight, and my journey\u00a0 showed me it really was energy above all else, as far as what led to gaining and losing it .\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Same goes for keeping it off since during the time of actively losing it, and after it came off, I\u2019ve probably been more \u2018lax\u2019 with my diet than I was even during the period I put it all on. But do these sorts of foods comprise the majority of what I eat? Not even close. But when I want to eat them, I do without any energetic conflict.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0I really don\u2019t want to eat that way all the time anyway, so it\u2019s not a problem . Very few people eat that way because of a true love of that type of food…there\u2019s usually something going on.<\/span><\/p>\n

I like eating healthy…I do believe it makes a positive contribution and I\u2019ve eaten pretty healthy most of my adult life. I enjoy these types of foods, I feel better when I eat them. Same line of thinking for exercise. Incorporating this \u2018belief\u2019 is not hard, it doesn\u2019t feel like a sacrifice, it\u2019s welcome.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If money is just energy, then it\u2019s obviously possible to manifest it without even having a source of income. But how many of us could feel SO clear on this, we would just quit our jobs, have no plans to start our own business, and have total faith the money would come? That we believe we need to take some sort of \u2018action\u2019 to earn money is technically a \u2018limiting\u2019 belief but it\u2019s not necessarily a \u2018bad\u2019 one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If physical illness is just a manifestation of various kinds of energetic \u2018discord,\u2019 repressed emotions and the like, then that \u2018inner work\u2019 is all that would be necessary to heal. But many of us have faith in external remedies, conventional and alternative.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

To completely abandon all that would probably be very uncomfortable. If you believe certain supplements or diet changes would help, then incorporating them is a good thing, without putting too much faith in anything outside. This was my experience when healing a health issue<\/a> I had a few years back.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Essentially, the perspectives we would need to adopt to see certain changes, the level of \u2018belief\u2019 we would need to achieve CONSISTENTLY, without addressing issues ,or making changes, we have been led to believe are absolutely essential, or at least, important, are ones we may have a hard time buying into 1000 percent without a doubt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? Have you had any experience with this issue? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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