{"id":7109,"date":"2019-06-07T09:30:53","date_gmt":"2019-06-07T13:30:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=7109"},"modified":"2021-07-30T13:01:18","modified_gmt":"2021-07-30T13:01:18","slug":"law-of-attraction-my-fear-is-keeping-me-stuck-and-i-cant-move-forward","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-my-fear-is-keeping-me-stuck-and-i-cant-move-forward\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: My Fear is Keeping Me Stuck and I Can\u2019t Move Forward"},"content":{"rendered":"

How do I deal with the fear of taking a leap of faith. I feel like making drastic changes to my life, but the fear is holding me back.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Getting Comfortable with Fear<\/span><\/h4>\n

Your mind\u2019s belief system is rooted in fear, it\u2019s the driving force. It\u2019s likely the basis for most of your decisions. If we continue to defer to the mind for everything, listen to all its assessments, the fear will rule every corner of your life. Since the mind is part and parcel of the human \u2018package\u2019 we\u2019ll probably always be contending with it, just like all its other bullshit. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, if we\u2019re unlikely able to totally eliminate fear, we must get more comfortable with the feeling, we must change our relationship to it, so it doesn\u2019t hold this immense power over us anymore. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fear can be much more intense than the other negative emotions we deal with; it\u2019s literally the mother of all emotions, in that at the deepest root, fear of some kind is likely triggering our anger, resentment, anxiety, sadness,etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

But for the most part, dealing with it isn\u2019t any different than other feelings. You don\u2019t resist it, you don\u2019t judge or criticize it, you just let it be, you just observe it, you consciously choose not to let it consume you, you consciously choose not to let it influence your decisions and run your life. You see what inside of you is triggering it and you work on that in whatever way it needs to be worked on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your mind is really good at convincing you there are \u2018exceptions\u2019 in this work. That certain issues, feelings and the like are \u2018different\u2019 and therefore the advice can\u2019t be applied, that you can\u2019t act in a certain way in this instance. <\/span><\/p>\n

It will want to do that with fear in particular because your fear is what keeps you in line, it’s what keeps you listening to it, it blinds you to its dysfunction. Not realizing the depth of your mind’s dysfunction is one of our biggest stumbling blocks– we are often reluctant to break free of the mind and doing things the way it wants things to be done, and thinking the way it wants us to think because a part of us still believes it might be right, that it might be onto something. It\u2019s not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t make the goal eliminating your fear…all sorts of things will trigger it constantly. The goal is not letting it consume you and be the guiding force in your life, getting more comfortable with its presence and acting despite it, making your faith and trust more powerful. <\/span><\/p>\n

Everything Serves You in a Positive Way<\/span><\/h4>\n

If you fear moving forward in life, it\u2019s likely you have amassed a number of future scenarios and potential outcomes in your mind that don\u2019t feel good for one reason or another. These things happening would be \u2018bad\u2019 in some way so you resist doing anything that may bring them to pass. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to understand that even if these things were to happen, or anything else that you haven\u2019t thought of yet that would also be labeled as \u2018bad,\u2019 it\u2019s totally fine and it would benefit you in some way. It was kind of supposed to happen just that way because that experience would be integral in helping you make the inner shifts required of you to get whatever it is you\u2019re moving towards. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you will burn through your savings getting your new business off the ground but it will help you work on some really deeply-rooted money shit that would be good to work on if you want to be self-employed, if you want to have a really great relationship with money. So…serving you and it\u2019s a good thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you won\u2019t like this new job that you quit your old one for but now you have even more clarity on what type of work, environment, culture, etc…,that will help you get a job you\u2019ll really, truly love. So\u2026.serving you and it\u2019s a good thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you won\u2019t like backpacking the world long term a few months in ,and you\u2019ll regret quitting your job, and selling everything you owned. But now you know and you won\u2019t have to live with the regret you probably would\u2019ve felt the rest of your life for never following such a big dream of yours. You will have learned a shit ton about yourself and knowing ourselves is the core foundation of living a happy life. So…serving you and it\u2019s a good thing.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll be able to correct course in whatever way it needs to be corrected, anything else ‘bad’ that happens as a result of this other ‘bad’ thing happening will work itself out just the same. If you need to turn to your credit cards to keep you afloat when you quit the new job too or waiting for your business to pick up steam, it’s all good. You’ll get money coming in and you’ll pay them off.<\/p>\n

If you come back home after cutting your journey short, you’ll find a new job, a new place and you can get new stuff…you’ll be fine.<\/p>\n

When you remember that no matter what happens, it\u2019s helping you in some way, that you\u2019ll be okay no matter what, the fear of the unknown or particular outcomes won\u2019t hold you back so much. You see there\u2019s not that much to be afraid of. The fear is coming from the wildly inaccurate meanings and stories your mind is assigning to the experiences and they\u2019re \u00a0just not true.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember, everything that happens is serving you so how can any of it be truly \u2018bad?\u2019 The mind might not like it but it doesn\u2019t know shit so who cares what it thinks?<\/span><\/p>\n

If you’ll be fine no matter what happens, you see how your fear of not being ‘fine’ doesn’t hold water as a valid excuse not to move forward.<\/p>\n

You will constantly be faced with the choice of continuing to view things through the filter of your mind vs the filter of your spirit…that is always all on us.<\/p>\n

Gotta Work on Your Shit\u2026<\/span><\/h4>\n

Big surprise I\u2019m mentioning this little nugget I know, since I so rarely speak about this. This statement is dripping with sarcasm for anyone who may be new around here. <\/span><\/p>\n

But there is a reason I talk about this so much…the \u00a0emotional \u2018ick\u2019 is our biggest problem as a conscious creator. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s what drowns out all the positive energy most of us are working so diligently to cultivate, it informs the \u00a0dominant energy that\u2019s been ruling our life and so we must deal with so it\u2019s not anymore; it\u2019s what holds us back from making the changes we need to make, taking the actions we need to take; it\u2019s what keeps us stuck in self-sabotage. <\/span><\/p>\n

And MOST importantly, it\u2019s the true root of our unhappiness, not what we don\u2019t have, so if you don\u2019t work on it you\u2019ll never truly feel happy no matter what you manage to manifest. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to dive into where this \u2018fear\u2019 is coming from, you have to get a better sense of the specific energies, perspectives, etc…that are contributing to it. Start chipping away at all that, and the fear subsides. The \u2018stuff\u2019 triggering it is no longer there. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is a very individual thing. For some, it might be fearing disapproval or judgment, particularly from specific people like your parents. <\/span><\/p>\n

For some, the idea of \u2018failure\u2019 is too much to bear…why are you so afraid of that, what would it say about you as a person? <\/span><\/p>\n

For others, doing what you want may mean revealing parts of yourself you may have been hiding from others, and being who you really are \u2018openly\u2019 is very uncomfortable…why? <\/span><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t look at any of this, the fear \u2018energy\u2019 will continue to dominate because all this shit will keep feeding it. And the greater the fear, the less likely you are to act in spite of it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Action is always the last part of the process, not the first. The more we understand action is a manifestation of energy, the more sense this makes, the more we see the importance of cleaning house energetically before we make our moves. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, do you have to work on any of this in order to move forward? No, not really. You can just take the leap and do whatever it is you want or need to. It wouldn\u2019t be a \u2018mistake\u2019 but you might have a rougher road ahead. \u00a0Depending on how much this element is factoring into your fear, you may have no choice though.<\/span><\/p>\n

But even if you didn\u2019t \u2018have\u2019 to, I would highly recommend doing so. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t beforehand, you\u2019ll almost certainly manifest stuff that\u2019ll trigger all your shit because it needs to be triggered–it will almost certainly get in the way and you always manifest experiences that help you deal with things that will get in the way of getting where you want to be. And of course you\u2019ll be able to deal with whatever gets thrown your way but it will be more challenging if you\u2019ve already made all these big changes, burned your bridges,etc\u2026 <\/span><\/p>\n

Do it before and things will go more smoothly. If certain things you\u2019ve feared happening actually come to pass, you\u2019ll have a different perspective on them almost immediately since your internal world is comprised of very different energy now. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be able to move forward in spite of emotional discomfort, unmet expectations, unexpected challenges,etc\u2026 When we haven\u2019t done the inner work first, and all this \u2018ick\u2019 is overwhelming us, we\u2019re more likely to throw in the towel sooner than later. The mind will tell you that it\u2019s all too \u2018hard\u2019 and to our mind, this is a perfectly valid excuse not to do things as you have probably seen countless times in your own life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fear and other negative emotions are uncomfortable; having to deal with our mind\u2019s dysfunction and how that affects our perspectives and emotional world is super-annoying. But you can handle it. It might not always be easy. It requires us to be conscious in a way we probably haven\u2019t been our whole life. We have to participate in the process and make some \u2018effort.\u2019 But if the end result is being emotionally healthier, happier and actually living the life we want, I would say it\u2019s all worth it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? How do you deal with your fear? <\/span><\/p>\n

I recently had a great conversation with Stacy Jones of Hollywood Branded. While we focused on business, there was plenty of discussion of the LOA and manifesting in a more general sense. You can check it out here.<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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