{"id":6583,"date":"2018-03-16T02:25:36","date_gmt":"2018-03-16T06:25:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=6583"},"modified":"2021-07-31T10:33:56","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T10:33:56","slug":"law-attraction-change-beliefs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-attraction-change-beliefs\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: How Do I Know If I Changed My Beliefs or if I Am Just Lying to Myself?"},"content":{"rendered":"

How do you know if you are lying to yourself or if you really got rid of your limiting beliefs?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Excellent question that actually has a very simple answer: If you feel better, your belief system is changing. An improved emotional state is our very first manifestation of the new energy we are working to cultivate. It is a sure-fire indicator things are changing inside.<\/p>\n

But sometimes even the simple requires more explanation and elaboration, especially when it comes to matters like the law of attraction.<\/p>\n

How Are You Moving Through the World?<\/span><\/h4>\n

Your life and how you live it are your beliefs in action. Your decisions, your perspectives,your behaviors, how you treat people, how you respond when things you don\u2019t like happen–it all<\/em> <\/strong>stems from our beliefs, how we view the world, how we view ourselves. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your beliefs inform everything<\/em> about your existence–your life is merely a reflection of what you think, what you believe, what you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n

Does fear drive your decisions and behavior or trust? <\/span><\/p>\n

Do you go with the flow of life, and act from a space of inspiration and what feels good, or are you constantly trying to cajole, manipulate, force and control circumstances? <\/span><\/p>\n

When something doesn\u2019t work out the way you expected, how quickly do you bounce back from the disappointment? <\/span><\/p>\n

How quickly do you walk away from what you don\u2019t want, from what isn\u2019t working so you can make room for something better, something you actually want?<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you take responsibility for your life or is someone or something else always seemingly at fault for the lack, the struggle, the unwanted? <\/span><\/p>\n

How much have you moved away from living outside-in, letting your feelings be determined by your current circumstances, refusing to feel better until something happens to justify doing so? <\/span><\/p>\n

Do you see the value of unwanted manifestations and how they help you clean up your vibration, or do you huff and puff that things didn\u2019t go your way or turn out exactly as you expected them? <\/span><\/p>\n

Understanding this will quickly give some valuable insight into how \u2018far\u2019 you have come with your energetic work and changing your belief system. <\/span><\/p>\n

And one of the key ingredients for assessing how much you have changed is…<\/span><\/p>\n

Brutal Honesty–You Down? <\/span><\/h4>\n

Pretty much all of us, myself included, would likely answer no if we are being really truthful. It\u2019s often unpleasant to take a cold, hard look at what\u2019s really going on inside our hearts and minds. We are really, really good at denying and suppressing our feelings, since dealing with them is seen as a fate worse than death by many.<\/span><\/p>\n

We claim confusion about our energy and our beliefs, but there is a part of us that knows exactly<\/em> what we believe and how we feel, and whether we are more closely aligned with our unwanted current reality or the one we prefer.<\/p>\n

We do ourselves no favors if we deny our misalignment–doesn’t matter what you want<\/em> to believe, it only matters what you actually<\/em> believe. Your intellectual understanding of the teaching, and what you are ‘supposed’ to believe and ‘should’ do means nothing–where your energy is actually<\/em> at is all that matters.<\/p>\n

‘Brutal’ may seem like a dramatic word, and perhaps it is, but I think it accurately conveys the level of truth we must establish with ourselves.<\/p>\n

Couple this reluctance to look honestly at ourselves, with the fact we kind of believe we can trick the Universe into thinking we have changed, and the problems really start. We think it is responding to our words and our declarations but not really. It is responding to our energy. Saying something doesn\u2019t make it true. <\/span><\/p>\n

One of the reasons the brutal honesty is key is because words can\u2019t convey how deeply something is true for us, how deeply we believe something. We can all say something like \u2018I believe in the law of attraction\u2019 but as for how much we truly, truly believe it, how much we live our life from this space, that can vary greatly among us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Someone saying this from a space of purely intellectual understanding, who may be new to conscious creation likely doesn\u2019t have the same level of conviction and deep resonance as someone who has been living in this space for decades, constantly noticing how her energy is being mirrored back to her, having seen so much evidence in her life of the truth of the teaching, there is not a shred of doubt. <\/span><\/p>\n

With this brutal honesty, the question of whether you have made any dents in changing your belief system will be rather easy to answer. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, on some level we always<\/em> know how we really feel, what the truth is, what we need or want to do. We can see, we may often just not want to. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, intellectually understanding the validity of a belief, and wanting to believe it, are usually going to be the starting points, but are very different than truly holding this belief as your own. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, wanting to believe something doesn\u2019t mean you actually do. <\/span><\/p>\n

Often times, one of our biggest issues is not realizing we have never made that transition from knowing intellectually to really, truly knowing, in any real, consistent way. <\/span><\/p>\n

There are a couple of things to keep in mind when checking in with your beliefs. <\/span><\/p>\n

First, don\u2019t beat yourself up and know it\u2019s okay if you realize you haven\u2019t made much progress or not nearly as much as you thought. That your beliefs are still the issue feels a hell of a lot better than all the tales your mind was weaving around your struggles, your lack, your unwanted circumstances, tales that likely have the central theme of feeling powerless or that there are all these outside circumstances responsible for the problem and\/or blocking the solution, the end result. <\/span><\/p>\n

Second, let whatever comes up come up at whatever intensity in which it comes. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is a good chance you were drawn to the teaching to get something that you felt badly without, so your mind is probably giving you a really hard time about trying to feel better even though you still don\u2019t have it. You may have not been properly dealing with negative emotion due to pressure to feel \u2018positive\u2019 all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your mind sees the manifestation as the key to healing so many wounds and fixing so many problems. The more we want something, the greater that sense of \u2018need,\u2019 the more negative emotion present we are hoping the manifestation will eliminate.<\/span><\/p>\n

So get it out of your system, whether it\u2019s a good cry, a pity party, an anger release or whatever else. There is no right or wrong way to engage your feelings, just feel them, preferably with minimum resistance, judgment and self-criticism in the mix. <\/span><\/p>\n

There will be an easing of pressure, lightness, a release, a sense of relief, and from there, you can tackle the \u2018problem\u2019 energy much more easily and effectively, primarily by focusing on doing whatever makes you feel better. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dealing with our resistance is going to be the lion\u2019s share of our work with this teaching a good deal of the time, particularly in the \u2018earlier\u2019 stages.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it is helpful to remember that it is actually secondary to doing whatever makes us feel the feelings we want to feel now so we can solidify that energy and attract things with greater consistency, that mirror back these feelings to us. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is just as an important part of the manifesting equation. <\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s Showing Up?<\/span><\/h4>\n

If our energy is what determines our external experience, then the current state of our life, and how things have been going since we started working more consciously with our energy, can clue us in real nice to what we\u2019re vibrating, what we\u2019re sending out into the world energetically. <\/span><\/p>\n

And when making this assessment, don\u2019t just think of whether you have the specific things you want, how \u2018close\u2019 you seem to be to manifesting it,etc\u2026 Don’t evaluate whether your journey, and what has happened thus far, has matched what your mind has expected, and wanted it to be, wanted it to look like.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Go bigger picture, more general. How are things looking in all areas, at least most of the time? Have you manifested things more easily; had a lot more \u2018coincidences?\u2019 Have you had a lot of the \u2018stepping stone\u2019 manifestations that mean you are moving closer into the vibrational neighborhood you desire?<\/span><\/p>\n

Are more general \u2018good\u2019 things happening that make day to day life more pleasant or easier? Have you been meeting more positive and like-minded people?<\/span><\/p>\n

Are you just feeling better overall, more optimistic, more hopeful, at least more of the time, more frequently than in the past? <\/span><\/p>\n

We tend to miss the \u2018evidence\u2019 we are changing our vibe because they are small things, not a big deal,etc, and instead of celebrating this, and taking advantage of an opportunity to build momentum energetically in a positive direction, we are still focused on the fact we don\u2019t have the specific things we want. <\/span><\/p>\n

And in doing this, we continue to give our attention to lack and perpetuate the very reality we so desperately want to change. We slide right back into our old beliefs, our old responses, our old behaviors. <\/span><\/p>\n

When we are constantly on the lookout for the \u2018end\u2019 result, the \u2018thing,\u2019 we miss all the ways in which we are beginning to align, and in ignoring this, we create a real uphill battle. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s like we are taking one step forward, but then two steps back over and over, leaving us in seemingly the same place no matter how much time passes. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now this isn\u2019t a call to analyze every single manifestation to death, to note every little thing that happens to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

But you do want to have greater awareness of what\u2019s happening in your life because that shows you where your energy is at in a completely objective way. Input, output. <\/span><\/p>\n

Awareness is probably the most beneficial \u2018tool\u2019 of which you can make use as a conscious, deliberate creator. <\/span><\/p>\n

If certain manifestations produce a stronger emotional charge, or get your attention in some way, those are the ones where you want to take a beat and see what\u2019s going on.<\/span><\/p>\n

Something Really Important to Remember<\/span><\/h4>\n

It is really important to realize changing beliefs is typically a gradual process, and any shift we make is beneficial, plugs us into new possibilities. <\/span><\/p>\n

That you totally haven\u2019t embraced a certain way of thinking wholeheartedly with every fiber of your being doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t reap the benefits of it. While in theory, we can just make this leap, in reality, we are going to need some \u2018evidence\u2019 and the more we gather, the easier it gets to buy into manifesting-friendly beliefs. <\/span><\/p>\n

The willingness to believe something new, something that feels better, creates a big enough opening in our vibe to manifest this evidence. As we manifest more and more \u2018proof\u2019 these beliefs are true, we become more confident in believing them. <\/span><\/p>\n

The limiting beliefs start to naturally fall by the wayside because this \u2018evidence\u2019 of positive belief being true also simultaneously serves as \u2018evidence\u2019 the limiting belief is false. <\/span><\/p>\n

The goal is not perfection, but making this energy more dominant as best we can and removing the emotional \u2018charge\u2019 that typically gets sparked when we are engaging in the old ways of thinking and believing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Our mind will always go to that place anytime it gets the opportunity, but how invested we get in the current story, the judgment of the situation, the conclusions we draw, is a matter of conscious choice.<\/span><\/p>\n

You really do get to believe whatever you want–there just has to be that willingness to stop fighting for crappy beliefs that have been formulated based on what has already happened in your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

All the physical world is merely an \u2018effect\u2019 of our inner world. Change the latter, the former must follow suit. Remember the energy came first and then the manifestation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? Anything you would add? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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