{"id":6472,"date":"2018-01-10T10:37:13","date_gmt":"2018-01-10T15:37:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=6472"},"modified":"2021-07-31T12:41:17","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T12:41:17","slug":"law-of-attraction-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-partner\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Can I Manifest if My Partner (Or Anybody Else) Isn’t On Board Too?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’d love some guidance on manifesting abundance into a family where one parent doesn’t believe in the ability to attract abundance, and maintains their negative, limiting beliefs and money blocks.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Can one person manifest joy for many?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

This is a great question and addresses one of our biggest barriers to more consistent energetic transformation–other people and all their \u2018stuff.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

The dynamics between one couple as compared to another can be very different,as are the particulars of their situation, which would affect the specific advice I would give. So this post will present some very general insight about this issue.<\/span><\/p>\n

And what I am talking about here can pretty much be applied to any relationship where you feel someone else\u2019s energy is affecting you and your ability to manifest, where the other person is not doing this same \u2018work\u2019 on their vibration and what not. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is one area that can challenge us a lot when it comes to changing our energy, but addressing it is not complicated or difficult as it probably seems to our mind; it just requires persistence on our part.<\/span><\/p>\n

We Can\u2019t Manifest in Each Other\u2019s Realities<\/span><\/h4>\n

It was asked if one person can manifest for other people, but the underlying concern prompting that question is likely if WE can still manifest what WE want if others don\u2019t believe in the power to create our reality, aren\u2019t cooperating, if they aren\u2019t working on their sucky energy, aligning and what have you. <\/span><\/p>\n

So that is what I am going to address primarily. <\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to relationships, the other person can\u2019t stop you from manifesting money or anything else because their energy can\u2019t \u2018mess up\u2019 yours. What they believe about reality can’t impact what you believe. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only reason someone wouldn’t be able to ‘benefit’ from another’s manifestation is if their energy was so<\/em> out of line with yours, you could no longer remain in each other’s realities. But as for your manifestations contributing to their joy and happiness, that is not something you can guarantee.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Someone else\u2019s vibration can only affect our reality if WE let it, if WE let their behavior, actions, feelings and beliefs shape our own, if WE let their negativity pull us down, if WE use it as an excuse for not being able to feel better. <\/span><\/p>\n

If someone else\u2019s choices, behaviors,etc…lead to something that affects us personally, the experience was a match to something in our energy or we couldn\u2019t have been affected by it. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This perspective can be a really hard pill to swallow and our mind will fight us on it. But once the sting wears off, this view will feel a hell of a lot better<\/em> than thinking someone else fucked up your life and you can\u2019t do anything about it, or seething with bitterness and resentment as you work on correcting course . But I digress. Anyway…<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of us aren\u2019t too stable in a higher energy, especially when it comes to more emotionally-charged issues like money. So it is more likely we will get sucked down to other people\u2019s level rather than them rising up to meet us because we ourselves can\u2019t keep that higher vibe.<\/span><\/p>\n

Over time this gets easier as we get more confident about our belief system and manifest more \u2018proof\u2019 these beliefs are in fact valid. You may have your moments here and there no matter how \u2018advanced\u2019 you are, but for the most part, we don\u2019t get sucked in as much, as intensely and as for long a time. <\/span><\/p>\n

You develop a stronger \u2018defense\u2019 against energetic assaults.<\/span><\/p>\n

The first step to erecting this vibrational shield is…<\/span><\/p>\n

Taking Responsibility for Our Vibration<\/span><\/h4>\n

Our mind is very accustomed to blaming outside circumstances for our lot in life, our own negativity and inability to be happy and improve our lives. <\/span><\/p>\n

Someone does or says something and it makes us feel badly. So naturally, it is their fault. If they didn\u2019t say or do that thing, we would be fine.<\/span><\/p>\n

But this is not how it works. What actually happened was this person\u2019s actions or words triggered something ALREADY there. It triggered the part of you that feels insecure, that still harbors the same negative belief or perspective this person is spouting, that is questioning your choices or path, that is lacking clarity,etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

So while it might be a huge<\/em> pain in the ass, we must take responsibility for our vibration, and we must take responsibility for our feelings, our reactions to what other people say and do. No one else is responsible for the negative reactions we have–the sadness, the anger, the hurt feelings, the bruised ego. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is so absolutely<\/em> crucial to managing your vibration, because other people, in countless<\/em> scenarios, in countless<\/em> ways, will challenge your energy, from your co-worker who constantly complains to your brother who is in a perpetually bad mood. <\/span><\/p>\n

This total ownership of our emotional world is probably not something we are just going to start doing fully and completely, especially since we have likely been operating in the exact opposite fashion our entire lives. <\/span><\/p>\n

It takes practice. It requires conscious engagement with our energy. It requires us to become more aware of our energy and getting off auto-pilot, where we just automatically react in ways that don\u2019t serve us courtesy of very deeply ingrained patterns of behavior. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know it can be really challenging to keep our vibration up when we are around people who aren\u2019t making this same effort, who complain a lot, who are very fearful, talking about doom and gloom all the time and all that other good stuff. Being human, it will probably wear on you at times.<\/p>\n

It isn\u2019t easy, especially when it is a partner–your lives are really intertwined and your mind will make very stellar arguments for all the ways this person will get in the way of you getting what you want, how it won\u2019t be possible, how unless they change, you might as well forget about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

And you\u2019ll want to believe it, but it\u2019s not true. <\/span><\/p>\n

So What\u2019s Being Triggered?<\/span><\/h4>\n

So we have established our reactions to other people actually have nothing to do with them, and it\u2019s all us baby. Now comes the fun part. What is the exact contents of that reaction? What specific fears, beliefs and thoughts are informing that emotional response? I know you are all just dying to dive into this, am I right? <\/span><\/p>\n

To do this work in any meaningful way, to change our energy in any meaningful way, we must be aware of the make-up of our vibration. <\/span><\/p>\n

We can\u2019t transform what we don\u2019t know is there; if we can\u2019t honestly assess where we may be \u2018stuck\u2019, we will just keep perpetuating the unwanted because the energy that led to it physically manifesting is still our default.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know this is difficult. It is much easier to blame it on other people, and point out all the ways they are mucking things up for us, all the ways they are preventing us from changing our energy, our feelings and our focus. <\/span><\/p>\n

If only they started doing this, or stopped doing that, it would be so much easier to feel better and change our energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It lets us off the hook from doing this deeper examination and the mind is perfectly happy about that, no matter how much it would benefit us ultimately. Remember your mind could give two shits about what would make you happy and improve your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, is it easier to maintain a higher energy when we aren\u2019t exposed to external elements that challenge it, like the negativity and fear of others? Hell to the yes. Absolutely. No denying that. <\/span><\/p>\n

But the reality is, we are going to be exposed to said external elements, barring withdrawing from society completely. And one of these elements that can be most challenging, and the most difficult to avoid, are partners and other people close to us, that we see a lot. <\/span><\/p>\n

So we have to make a choice. Do we go all in on this journey, willing to accept these challenges and face them head on, committing to changing our energy no matter what ,or retreat back to our old way of operating, blaming everything under the sun for our struggle, complaining it\u2019s too \u2018hard?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Succeeding with conscious creation ultimately comes down to choosing to succeed with it. Not always easy but totally worth it in my opinion. <\/span><\/p>\n

Many Different Versions of People <\/span><\/h4>\n

It is important to remember the delicious vibration that will plug us into the most awesome possibilities for our life already exists within all of us. We don\u2019t need to build it from scratch. <\/span><\/p>\n

Our job is peeling away all the gunk on top of it, courtesy of religion, culture, our parents, our teachers, the media, and the collective energy of people as a whole that is oozing with fear and all sorts of limited thinking. <\/span><\/p>\n

So your partners, your parents, your siblings and anyone else you can think of, has this energy within them, and by working on your own energy, it is possible to awaken it within them.<\/span><\/p>\n

They may not feel compelled to take this same \u2018journey\u2019 with you; they may not be interested in personal growth or becoming their \u2018best\u2019 selves, but that deeper part of you may connect with that deeper part of them.<\/span><\/p>\n

And in this energy, they may be more open to your more empowered positive perspectives on how life works, on how to acquire money or other desired things. <\/span><\/p>\n

They will \u2018hear\u2019 what you are saying, and even if they aren\u2019t totally buying in themselves 100 percent, they may not fight you on it as much. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t control their vibration but you can certainly influence it. <\/span><\/p>\n

As your energy becomes more stable, you are less likely to manifest the version of them that complains, that voices their fears, that is being negative. And this is because your energy is not vibing these elements as much so they don\u2019t need to be mirrored back to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is amazing how as you begin working on your own energy, your relationships with people around you often transform dramatically, even if they are essentially the same person. Trying to understand logically how this might be happening is futile, so don\u2019t even try. Just enjoy it. <\/span><\/p>\n

At the very least, even if they don\u2019t seem to change one lick, if they seem to be same person they have always been, it won\u2019t bother you as much, so their behavior isn\u2019t as big a deal. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only reason we had a problem with it in the first place is the same reason we don\u2019t like anything– because it was creating a feeling within us we didn\u2019t like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, we ultimately can\u2019t control someone else\u2019s energy, but in these situations, where we feel we are really being affected by it, it can\u2019t hurt to spend some time visualizing a different version of this person, of interacting with them in a way that is more conducive to maintaining your own positive energy. This increases the likelihood of smoother interactions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think of the post? Anything resonating in particular? Any advice you would give in this situation? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/span><\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Also, check out my interview on the Super Power Experts podcast<\/a>. The very LOA-savvy host and I have a really great conversation about manifesting. She is super-awesome and it was a lot of fun!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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