{"id":6405,"date":"2017-11-14T10:20:24","date_gmt":"2017-11-14T15:20:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=6405"},"modified":"2021-08-02T05:02:44","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T05:02:44","slug":"law-of-attraction-negative","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-negative\/","title":{"rendered":"I Fear the Law of Attraction Won\u2019t \u2018Work\u2019 Because My Negativity is Too Deep"},"content":{"rendered":"

This post topic is courtesy of a recent blog post suggestion from someone expressing this fear in relation to manifesting a relationship. But this is a fear that can exist no matter the manifestation, so I will tackle it from a more general perspective that can be applied to anything.<\/span><\/p>\n

The LOA Isn\u2019t Something that Works or Doesn\u2019t<\/span><\/h4>\n

There are so many misconceptions about this teaching, and the one that probably screws with our conscious creation \u2018efforts\u2019 the most is viewing the law of attraction as a \u2018tool.\u2019 This is certainly not the first time I have addressed this issue, and it certainly won\u2019t be the last since it is often plays some sort of role in many of our manifesting woes.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is not something that \u2018works\u2019 or doesn\u2019t \u2018work.\u2019 All the tools that are mentioned in conjunction with this teaching–affirmations, visualization, vision boards– are meant to help shift energy and focus, to build momentum behind a vibration that will serve us much better. They can be very very helpful in this regard, but in and of themselves, they have no power. No \u2018tool\u2019 can ever succeed in changing your reality unless you are energetically aligned with these changes. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is a Universal law that has ALWAYS been operating in your life. We just didn\u2019t know our energy was creating our reality so we weren\u2019t very conscious in our focus, we didn\u2019t stop to really question our beliefs, we didn\u2019t take the time to examine the connection between how we think and feel and what our external reality looked like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now that we know there is this connection, we can be more deliberate and conscious. We can work on changing our belief system; we can start focusing more on what is wanted, and less on what isn\u2019t. We can harness the power of our energy to make life easier, to get things with less effort, to create things we probably didn\u2019t think were possible before.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hope this clarification provides great relief for anyone who thinks that the law of attraction just can\u2019t \u2018work\u2019 for them for whatever reason, that worries they must be doing something \u2018wrong,\u2019 that thinks they must not have found the perfect \u2018tool\u2019 yet. NONE of these things are true.<\/span><\/p>\n

This teaching doesn\u2019t function on the level of \u2018doing\u2019 and \u2018action.\u2019 It functions on the level of \u2018being\u2019 and our \u2018being\u2019 is something that is totally under our control because we get to choose what we believe, what we think, what we feel, how we respond to the events in our life, how we view ourselves. Every single person<\/em> has the capability to make these choices. Nothing outside of you can keep you from doing that. <\/span><\/p>\n

The Energy Came First<\/span><\/h4>\n

According to the law of attraction, energy is the level of \u2018cause\u2019 and the physical world is the level of \u2018effect.\u2019 What happens there is the result of our dominant beliefs, thoughts, feelings and focus.<\/span><\/p>\n

Intuitively this makes sense to us, something about it feels right. In looking back on our own lives, we may see this connection more clearly, and we buy in. <\/span><\/p>\n

But as for really, truly<\/em> understanding and believing this, it can take some time. We still have the habit of looking at our past experiences, our current circumstances as \u2018proof\u2019 of our limiting beliefs, as validation for our various fears. In theory we can just flip that switch, but in reality, this is a habit that is not broken so easily. <\/span><\/p>\n

The submission this post is based demonstrated this tendency big-time. And it was clear as day she was still basing her beliefs on what had happened in her past, what was happening now that was working against her; all of this was justification for her fears. <\/span><\/p>\n

She is certainly not alone in doing this. This is how the mind works–it forms conclusions and makes decisions based on what it is observing . Our \u2018default\u2019 energy is a shitty stew of all sorts of limiting beliefs and fears, and this informs said conclusions and decisions, which just makes us attract more of the same, which makes us keep believing these things, and so goes the vicious cycle. <\/span><\/p>\n

As a fellow human with a mind that functions just like the rest of you, I get this is challenging. We have so much \u2018proof\u2019 our fears are real and our limiting beliefs are true. To believe things for which we have no evidence for in our own life is not an easy thing to do, and adopting these new beliefs is something that happens gradually. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only way to get the ball rolling on this however, is having a real, true, willingness to look beyond your current reality and past experience, and no longer use this as a basis for your belief system. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to \u00a0really be willing to buy into the idea the energy came first and then<\/em> the manifestations; and in doing this, your experiences up until now will not have such an intense grip on you, they will not affect you as strongly, they will not used as a benchmark to determine what is possible moving forward. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to be willing to buy into the idea that they really, truly don\u2019t<\/em> matter. <\/span><\/p>\n

Many people claim they are doing this, but they really aren\u2019t and that\u2019s okay if you haven\u2019t been. You just need to own up to it and correct course. <\/span><\/p>\n

Some people outright know they are doing this, fight for their shitty beliefs, fight for their negative feelings about their life now, and refuse to change their beliefs and feelings until they are given some sort of reason to justify doing so. If you fall into the latter camp, that\u2019s okay, but with this mentality, a teaching like the LOA will be of no use to you because you will have a very hard time creating a different life by way of changing energy. <\/span><\/p>\n

With an unwillingness to look beyond \u2018what is\u2019 and attempt to feel at least a little bit better, the energetic shifts required of you just can\u2019t happen. <\/span><\/p>\n

Given our conditioning to live outside in, to let our feelings be determined by what is happening, I know this isn\u2019t easy. But this difficulty is not an excuse to give up trying. <\/span><\/p>\n

It comes down to a choice. We either choose to keep believing things that feel badly, pointing to the circumstances of our life as \u2018proof\u2019 these beliefs are true, or we choose to make these inner transformations, look beyond current circumstances, trusting as we make these internal changes, we will see external ones as well. <\/span><\/p>\n

Addressing the Energy That\u2019s There Now<\/span><\/h4>\n

So, if the law of attraction is not a \u2018tool\u2019 but a Universal law that states our inner world creates our outer, just thinking some positive thoughts, saying affirmations and the like, may not be sufficient to attract whatever it is you want to attract. <\/span><\/p>\n

Since you have ALWAYS been creating your reality by way of your dominant energy, there is a good chance you\u2019ll have to examine your current vibe to see why you may have manifested the unwanted in your life, why things look the way they look now, why certain things in your past may have happened. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sure, there is talk about changing limiting beliefs, but this part of the process often requires a bit more of our attention than we may be led to believe when presented with the theory of the attraction process from most sources. <\/span><\/p>\n

With most explanations of the teaching, it is easy to think our only problem belief-wise is that we don\u2019t believe what we want is possible and we just need to believe it is. This is certainly a biggie for sure, but there can be lots of other energetic \u2018debris\u2019 that can also pose a problem. <\/span><\/p>\n

Our mind may have certain negative associations with the things we want, and this may lead to issues like self-sabotage or not taking actions that would be really beneficial. We may not think we deserve what we want, that we are worthy of receiving it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Our fear of not getting what we want may be so strong, it creates a huge amount of resistance to our current reality, and we are manifesting from a really screwy space. This fear creates a huge wall around us. <\/span><\/p>\n

How deep you have to explore really depends on a how much \u2018stuff\u2019 you have under the surface. It depends on how deeply you want to transform. Do you want to maximize your spiritual, mental, emotional and physical well-being or do you just want your \u2018stuff?\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

When answered with real honesty, some of you might say the latter…that\u2019s fine, it really is. Just keep in mind with the former, the \u2018stuff\u2019 comes anyway. \ud83d\ude09 I speak from personal experience on that one. <\/span><\/p>\n

Do you want to change your energy just enough to let some version of what you want in, \u00a0to see more surface changes, or do you want to do really deep work, where you are a magnet for the miraculous, where life becomes effortless, where you manifest the creme de la creme of all the things we are capable of receiving? <\/span><\/p>\n

The latter is not better than the former. Not everyone wants to take it that deep and that\u2019s fine. Everyone has different values, a different vision for their life. Everyone has a different definition of happiness. <\/span><\/p>\n

If your energy changes, if your belief system changes, if your focus changes, your reality WILL change. It has no choice<\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n

How this will happen, when certain things will happen, the channels through which the manifestations will be delivered, what the path looks like at every turn…these are things we can\u2019t know, as much as we would like to. We have to learn to be okay with that. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

But this transformation usually hinges on a willingness to dive into the muck, to be honest about how we feel now, what we believe now. Just trying to get \u2018positive\u2019 from wherever we may be in the moment usually doesn\u2019t have the intended effect. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trying to force beliefs that we really don\u2019t believe because we think we \u2018must\u2019 believe these things to get what we want won\u2019t work because we actually don\u2019t believe these things to be true, and we can\u2019t \u2018hide\u2019 that from the Universe. It doesn’t matter what you want<\/em> to believe, it matters what you actually<\/em> believe.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Clearing out this stuff will make all the \u2018work\u2019 on your \u2018positivity\u2019 much more effective. These efforts will bear much more fruit for you because this fledgling energy will no longer be \u2018competing\u2019 for space in your vibration with the crap that has been there for years, that is way more powerful and established. <\/span><\/p>\n

And like I have always said, doing this will get you what you really<\/em> want pretty much immediately, which is to feel better. That sounds pretty good, right? <\/span><\/p>\n

I know we don\u2019t want to engage with this part of the process. I know this is one reason why we like the idea of the law of attraction being a \u2018tool.\u2019 If we just figure out how to \u2018use\u2019 it \u2018right\u2019, we can get all the stuff that we think would make our crappy feelings go away, and problem solved. <\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling Better Overall<\/span><\/h4>\n

I know most of us were drawn to this teaching because there was a specific manifestation we had in mind, there was a specific area we wanted to improve. And that\u2019s fine. It\u2019s okay to want a relationship, make more money, land a better job or improve your health<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

But given where our energy may be when we first happen upon this teaching, all this focus on one specific area right out the gate can be problematic in a variety of ways, namely we are usually trying to allow this thing in from a space of really feeling negative about our life in its current state. We are still really focused on what we don\u2019t like, what we don\u2019t want, what we hope won\u2019t happen in the future, on outcomes our mind has judged as \u2018bad.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

Combine this with the fact we are operating with a lot of misconceptions about the law of attraction, namely viewing it as something that we need to make \u2018work\u2019 for us, and we have quite the recipe for trouble. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t discount the benefit of just working on feeling better overall, especially if you are in space where there is lots of fear and negativity, where you feel like you are really swimming upstream in terms of changing your energy. <\/span><\/p>\n

This isn\u2019t to say you shouldn\u2019t focus on your energy in specific areas, work on beliefs that are specific to the particular manifestation you have in mind. There is certainly value in that as we need to practice thinking about the things we want in a more positive way; we want to uncover the resistance we may have around these subjects. <\/span><\/p>\n

But this work in these more specific areas will be a lot easier if you work on just feeling better overall in whatever ways you think will be most beneficial to you. This creates a better energetic foundation from which to tackle your energy as it relates to more specific aspects of your life, like relationships or finances. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you are feeling better overall, you will find it easier to detach from these manifestations because you will no longer be so adamant these things happening are the only way for you to start feeling better. You will see very solid evidence this isn\u2019t the case, and it is much easier to enter that space of receiving when we have a greater sense of peace about where we are in the current moment, when we aren\u2019t fighting against it constantly. <\/span><\/p>\n

The catch here though is having that aforementioned willingness to let yourself feel better even if you don\u2019t like how things look right now. You will concede that it is possible to improve your emotional state without having to first remove every element of your life you don\u2019t like now, without having to first get what you want. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? Any advice for changing energy when you’re in a really negative space? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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