{"id":6243,"date":"2017-08-09T12:19:38","date_gmt":"2017-08-09T16:19:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=6243"},"modified":"2021-08-02T05:46:46","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T05:46:46","slug":"law-attraction-detaching-things-really-need","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-attraction-detaching-things-really-need\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: Detaching from Things We Really ‘Need’"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hello Kelli<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

My question is how do we \u00a0become indifferent about what we want while we may actually need it like money, \u00a0or a job, \u00a0or even the next meal we’re going to have? how do we trust when we face harsh realities that doesn’t meet even the basic needs of food and shelter?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

This is a great question. The more challenging the circumstance, the more challenging it is to embrace these sorts of perspectives. Besides advice on detachment, I gave some other thoughts too that I think people will find helpful if they are in situations evoking strong energies of ‘need’ and fear.<\/p>\n

You Don\u2019t Have to Pretend You Don\u2019t Care<\/span><\/h4>\n

The word \u2018indifferent\u2019 really stuck out to me, and illustrates one of the biggest conundrums of the conscious creator. We are told we have to \u2018detach\u2019 from outcomes and from what we want, and this is absolutely true. <\/span><\/p>\n

But this advice can lead people to attempt something that just can\u2019t be done–trying to get to a space where they literally<\/em> don\u2019t care if what they want comes, they literally<\/em> don\u2019t want it anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it–it\u2019s unlikely to happen, especially in this sort of circumstance. It is perfectly reasonable to want our basic needs met, and there is no reason to worry they can\u2019t be, especially if we understand the role of energy in our lives. Anything us humans require to thrive here will be given to us, provided we hold up our end of the bargain energetically. <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Money is a thing here on Earth, so it makes sense we want enough to at least meet our financial obligations, eat and have a place to live–though we do want to set our sights higher when it comes to manifesting it. You don\u2019t need to settle for a life of just getting by–again no reason to when we understand the role of energy. <\/span><\/p>\n

So don\u2019t try to force yourself to pretend you don\u2019t care about things you care about ,especially when you are in more challenging circumstances, especially when money is involved. <\/span><\/p>\n

The amount of energy you would need to expend to actually accomplish this would be much better spent banking some positive momentum, even a little of which can open you up to new possibilities and trajectories. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can want what you want–the key is dissolving the constant worry it won\u2019t come, and being open to the channels through which it will be delivered. That is the essence of detachment. <\/span><\/p>\n

Who You Really Are Needs Nothing<\/span><\/h4>\n

This is one of those perspectives that our mind can really take issue with, but just bear with me and I think you\u2019ll find it helpful. Remember the energetic transformations must<\/em> take place before<\/em> we see the changes in our reality. Our energy is the level of cause, and the contents of our reality is all on the level of \u2018effect.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

Doing this \u2018work\u2019 with the greatest ease<\/em> does call on us to adopt some pretty radical perspectives, some of which your mind will fight you to the death. We are constantly<\/em> being faced with the choice to entertain these more empowering ideas or keep believing the stuff that feels really shitty, waiting for a \u2018reason\u2019 to stop believing these things. This is not something you do just once.<\/span><\/p>\n

Manifesting from a space of feeling whole and complete now, realizing we are perfect as we are now, is much easier, and much more pleasant than manifesting from a space of intense resistance to our current reality, when everything we want is preceded by a desperate sense of need. <\/span><\/p>\n

Human ‘you’, with all your \u2018needs\u2019 is not who you really are<\/em>. Who you really are is again, whole, perfect and complete. Who we really are needs nothing. Spirit doesn\u2019t need food, shelter, money to pay bills, or a job. Who you really are is not lacking in any way because these things are absent from your life experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, I know you are thinking that \u2018human\u2019 you does<\/em> need these things, so you get to be all in a tizzy because you don\u2019t have them. You get to lament your current circumstances, and feel badly until the problem has been solved. This is one of the stupidest, most useless perspectives–it being an understandable one doesn’t change this.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In saying this, I\u2019m not telling you to literally give up on these things, to get into some sort of head space where you would be totally fine not having money or a place to live. This perspective is to help cultivate an energy<\/em> that will make it much easier to allow these elements into your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remember the Universe doesn\u2019t respond to your hatred of your current circumstances, the fears you have about potential outcomes that are undesirable, or your \u2018wanting.\u2019 It responds to your energy, and if your energy isn\u2019t a match, it can\u2019t defy that and bring these things anyway<\/em>, again, just because you want them and their absence is causing emotional turmoil. <\/span><\/p>\n

Be Willing to Receive All Outcomes<\/span><\/h4>\n

This is another mind fuck, and again, just hear me out. If you believe your energy lies at the root of your life experience, you\u2019ll find that many perspectives that seem ridiculous to your mind actually make a hell of a lot of sense. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fighting against our current circumstances does nothing for us<\/em> manifesting-wise. The Universe responds to energy, and that energy just brings more of the same. It closes us off to possibilities, to solutions, to the insights and inspired actions that will help us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Our desperation to manifest certain things obviously stems from the fear of certain outcomes that make us feel really badly, that our mind thinks are really bad. These things just can\u2019t happen. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just like we want what we want because we think it will make us feel a way we want to feel, we don\u2019t like what we don\u2019t like, and we don\u2019t want what we don\u2019t want, because these scenarios and experiences makes us feel a way we don\u2019t want to feel. <\/span><\/p>\n

Everything always boils down to our feelings, no exceptions ever. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

One of the best ways to clean up your energy is a willingness to receive all<\/em> outcomes. A willingness to accept the things you fear worst may happen. <\/span><\/p>\n

A willingness to believe that maybe those things have to<\/em> happen in order for you to really make the shifts required of you. A willingness to believe that even if these things happen, it\u2019s still all good and you\u2019ll be okay<\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know there is resistance to doing this because we fear if we are willing to accept these outcomes, that makes them more likely to happen. But the exact opposite is true<\/em><\/strong>. This willingness breaks down a ton of energy, the very energy that is perpetuating your current circumstances, and walling off the \u2018good\u2019 stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n

Think about it for a second. All the fear and resistance you are experiencing about the present and the future–how has that been working for you? Doesn’t it make sense to consider another approach?<\/p>\n

You might not feel this way all the time, that\u2019s fine. Just the intention<\/em> to do so can make a huge difference. <\/span><\/p>\n

What are the things you fear worst about your current situation? What if you made peace with the possibility of it happening? What if you stopped fighting against it, and currently worrying about it? What if you just accepted it as a possibility?<\/span><\/p>\n

In my experience, lack of resistance to my current circumstances, and possible future circumstances, \u00a0seemed to be a bigger factor in what showed up in my life, rather than being in some constant high-energy state, rather than constantly focusing on what I wanted, trying to force it from the ethers, all the while lamenting my current state of affairs. <\/span><\/p>\n

Imagine the energetic weight that would be lifted if you accepted all the things you feared, knowing that they in fact might even benefit you, knowing they might be a crucial part of actually getting what you wanted, \u00a0knowing that even if they happened, it would still be okay, knowing that whatever feels badly about this is just a story your mind is telling. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, can\u2019t stress this enough–resisting your current reality, and future outcomes that you find undesirable, are of absolutely no help<\/em> to you in this process. <\/span><\/p>\n

You Have to Take Responsibility<\/span><\/h4>\n

The worse our circumstances, the more external factors at which our mind tends to point the finger. All along the way, we were probably blaming something or someone else, and the list just got bigger and bigger as time went on. <\/span><\/p>\n

By time we are really in the shit, it is easy to convince ourselves that none of this was our fault, and we are victim of everything from shitty parents to big, bad corporations. We never stood a chance. <\/span><\/p>\n

Taking responsibility for our life is absolutely crucial<\/em> to this process, and if you can\u2019t do this, you might as well forget you ever learned about something like the law of attraction or conscious creation, because this knowledge won\u2019t do you a lick of good. <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Taking responsibility is not the same as blaming yourself however. This is also absolutely crucial to understand. Personal responsibility is empowering; self-blame will get you nowhere.<\/span><\/p>\n

You weren\u2019t purposely creating the unwanted. You kind of didn\u2019t know any better. You were instilled with shitty programming, and didn\u2019t know you could change it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now that you know, you can<\/em> do something about it. Isn\u2019t it great to know you can<\/em> do something about it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t it great to know you aren\u2019t a victim of circumstance or that getting what you want is not dependent on the whims, choices and behaviors of anyone else? <\/span><\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t it great to know that your life is determined by your<\/em> energy, something of which you have total<\/em> control? <\/span><\/p>\n

I always find it kind of insane when people push against this perspective, whether in regards to their own lives or the lives of others, and fight for the shitty perspectives that leave us feeling disempowered and hopeless, that lead us to view certain types of people as incapable of helping themselves. <\/span><\/p>\n

So are you willing to own your experience? Are you ready to stop blaming whomever or whatever you have been blaming? Are you ready to reclaim your power, and tap into your natural ability to influence your reality? <\/span><\/p>\n

You Have a Real Opportunity Here<\/span><\/h4>\n

The upside to really challenging circumstances is they give us an opportunity to tap into and explore energies that we might not have willingly. They force us into a space to deal with our deepest, most intense shit. <\/span><\/p>\n

Having been pushed into this space on more than one occasion, I can personally attest to the life-changing benefit. I won\u2019t lie though–it\u2019s not pleasant by any means. <\/span><\/p>\n

But if you are willing to drop the resistance to the intense emotion you might experience, in and of itself, you will probably find it quite manageable, even if it is really strong. <\/span><\/p>\n

The worse our circumstances, the bigger the energy. We tend not to nip things in the bud in earlier stages, and as the energy gets bigger, the manifestations tend to get \u2018nastier.\u2019 And we get to a point where we are forced to deal with what is happening internally–we don\u2019t have a choice.<\/span><\/p>\n

The energy is just too strong and intense to sweep aside as we had been doing previously. You are way past being able to deny your feelings. Things are just too much of a mess, the chaos is just too great, and you can no longer avoid taking a long, hard look–with brutal honesty– at the role you have played in getting to this point.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This is a good thing, it really is<\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you keep in mind the benefit of diving in, and really being with<\/em> what is happening inside, you experience these emotions very differently<\/em> than when you are just feeling badly and you think there is nothing you can do about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, you don\u2019t have to do this. You can choose to just roll your eyes at this sort of perspective, as we are wont to do. You can just keep pushing against what is, hoping and praying the Universe will step in and relieve your misery, hoping that simply wanting what you want will be enough to allow it in. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can keep buying into your mind\u2019s insane line of reasoning where pushing against what you don\u2019t want, is somehow integral to getting what you do. After all, if you\u2019re no longer miserable, the Universe might think you don\u2019t want what you want anymore. Craziness<\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can try and force what you want through a bunch of actions, and that might get you somewhere, but the results will be lackluster at best, and it doesn\u2019t have to be that hard. <\/span><\/p>\n

But if you believe that your energy is the true level of \u2018cause\u2019 you start to realize that you really can\u2019t avoid this part of the process, especially if things are really falling apart. There is some strong energy there that won\u2019t be overridden by affirmations or a vision board. A pea-sized pile of positivity that you might be able to muster up here and there, laid over a mountain-sized heap of crap just won\u2019t cut it.<\/span><\/p>\n

The good news is, you don\u2019t need a complete emotional transformation to allow changes in, to activate new possibilities. You just need to allow yourself to start feeling a little better than you do now, and then a bit better from that baseline. <\/span><\/p>\n

Purging the pent-up emotions you have now–the anger, the fear, the frustration–is key to this gradual shifting. Letting this stuff out makes room for new energies that will serve you much better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? Any advice you would give?<\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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