This is an all-too common issue that can lead us conscious creators to freak out unnecessarily, and it seems like I have been coming across a lot of people experiencing this lately, so wanted to weigh in.<\/p>\n
Even the most \u2018wet-behind-the-ears\u2019 conscious creator quickly starts to realize our mind can be a real motherfucker as far as getting in the way of our manifesting capabilities. <\/span><\/p>\n Infinite possibility sounds really good, but it is something we can have a hard time really grasping because the mind with which we are attempting to take in this information, cannot even come close<\/em> to understanding this process.<\/span><\/p>\n With any given thing we want, it tends to only see very limited possibilities; it can think of like…three ways something could happen. And it may work very hard trying to manipulate results through those channels. <\/span><\/p>\n It gets very attached to things in our reality that have the veneer of giving us what we want. It gets very scared something better may not come along, so it really hopes that job, or that guy, or that potential client, works out. If it doesn\u2019t oh the horror. <\/span><\/p>\n When our energy starts changing, and ‘better’ stuff starts showing up in our reality, we have \u00a0tendency to glom on, thinking this or that must be the<\/em> manifestation. Maybe it is, but often times it’s not.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It is operating from a space of manifesting to minimize the pain you may feel due to the lack of whatever it is you want. You are unhappy now, and you want that unhappiness to go away as quickly as possible. As soon as your mind gets something in its sights that may accomplish this very important goal, it can latch on with a death grip. <\/span><\/p>\n It might not set its sights very high. Again, it gets very attached to anything, or ANYONE that seems to check at least some of the boxes, and may think this is the best you can get. <\/span><\/p>\n All your mind knows is what is right in front of your face or what has already happened. <\/span><\/p>\n This explains why so many people want to manifest their ex-boyfriend or girlfriend back. This is an experience, a person with which you are already familiar. There were some good times, you still have feelings, and your mind is convinced the best representation of the love you want is this person, a person you have already had the experience of loving. <\/span><\/p>\n Our wants tend to get formulated with this part of our mind first and foremost, but to say that whatever it decides it wants may not be the best representation of what you truly want is an understatement if there ever was one.<\/em> Which brings me to my next point, one of the most important things to remember, but one of the things we resist with all our might…<\/span><\/p>\n Nothing you consciously want is what you actually want. I don\u2019t care what it is, no exceptions. We are always after a feeling, nothing more<\/em><\/strong>. Bolding and italicizing these words cannot begin to emphasize the importance of them. <\/span><\/p>\n You want to manifest what you want to manifest because you think having it will produce some sort of desirable feeling–peace, love, fulfillment, contentment, excitement, enrichment, a sense of purpose. <\/span><\/p>\n You crave certain energies in your life, and your mind translates that energy into a particular desire.<\/span><\/p>\n Now this isn\u2019t to say you can\u2019t want specific things, like a success in the business you are passionate about, financial prosperity, better health, a loving relationship, travel, a better body, a better job or meaningful friendships. <\/span><\/p>\n You can want all those things, they are all great, and there is no reason<\/em> for them not to show up in your life in some shape or form. <\/span><\/p>\n The trick is wanting these things from a space of feeling whole, perfect and complete now, not from a space of lack, feeling like you need them to be happy, feeling like you need them to prove something, or as some sort of condition for manifesting something else. <\/span><\/p>\n The trick is being open to the idea the particular \u2018translation\u2019 may not be the best representation, and you\u2019re at least willing to exercise some degree of detachment. <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n You want to want these things because you think they would be fun to have. You are drawn to certain lines of work or experiences because you personally find something appealing about them. You feel passionate about certain subjects or activities, and want to integrate these passions into your life in some way. <\/span><\/p>\n We are here having a physical experience, and we are going to want to stuff. We all have our own unique personality and preferences. <\/span><\/p>\n But \u00a0ideally our path unfolds \u00a0from a space of inner knowing and self-awareness, which allows us to maximize our well-being and happiness. Our happiness and well-being is top priority, and that leads the way, guides our choices, actions and behaviors.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n But again, no matter what the thing is, you still want a feeling. All of the things we consciously want can be boiled down to some sort of \u2018essence,\u2019 a core energy. <\/span><\/p>\n You want money because you want to feel more secure. <\/span><\/p>\n You want better health because you think it would give you greater freedom.<\/span><\/p>\n You want new friends because you crave a sense of connection. <\/span><\/p>\n You want a relationship because you like the idea of someone supporting you.<\/p>\n You want to travel because you crave excitement and stimulation. <\/span><\/p>\n You want that particular promotion because you think the new job will make you feel challenged. <\/span><\/p>\n So if the thing we want isn\u2019t actually the<\/em> thing, manifesting something your mind wanted, and then not liking it for whatever reason, is not so uncommon. I am sure it has happened to everyone at least once in their lives. <\/span><\/p>\n Sometimes getting exactly what we want is the only way to truly know it isn\u2019t what we want. This is a particularly useful learning experience for the conscious creator. It can be a powerful reminder for us anytime we find ourselves getting very attached to something specific.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The space from which we are usually trying to manifest is kind of screwy. It is filled with energies like lack, desperation, obsession, anxiety and all that other good stuff. \u00a0And this brings me perfectly to my next point…<\/span><\/p>\n Just like what you want isn\u2019t what you really want, this can be another mind fuck you may be reluctant to embrace. No matter how much we feel like manifesting something in particular is the answer to our current emotional woes, it really isn\u2019t<\/em>. Truly. <\/span><\/p>\n The true reason we feel badly now has nothing to do with<\/em> the current state of our life. The true reason is the story we have attached to the circumstances, the meaning, how it makes us feel about ourselves. That<\/em> is what feels badly.<\/span><\/p>\n Just like we want the things we want because they will give us a certain type of feeling we crave, we don’t like the things we don’t like because they make us feel things we don’t want to feel.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t feel badly because you don\u2019t have money, you feel badly because you think the sorry state of your finances says something about your worth as a person.<\/span><\/p>\n You don\u2019t feel badly because you are struggling in your business, you feel badly because you think your lack of clients means you aren\u2019t good at what you do or you are a failure.<\/span><\/p>\n You don\u2019t feel badly because you don\u2019t have a boyfriend, you feel badly because you believe your single status is indicative of something being fundamentally wrong or unlovable about you. <\/span><\/p>\n So if the reason we feel badly isn\u2019t the lack of the \u2018stuff\u2019 we want, it follows the manifestation isn\u2019t the answer to improving our emotional state. <\/span><\/p>\n Sure, if you manifest certain things in your life, there can definitely be a boost in your happiness. You manifested what you wanted, and that\u2019s pretty cool. But it tends not to last, and you go right back to feeling how you felt before. Maybe not as bad, but at the very least, there is a sense of disappointment, a sense of being unsettled. <\/span><\/p>\n For some, it can cause great distress because if they got what they wanted and still aren\u2019t happy, then they worry they may never be happy. The \u2018hunt\u2019 is still on, and that doesn\u2019t feel very good. <\/span><\/p>\n You get the boyfriend, but to your dismay you still feel the low-self esteem and that you aren\u2019t good enough. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Your ex comes back, but that hole you believed could only be filled by her return is still there, big as ever. <\/span><\/p>\n You start making money, but the fear and insecurity is still there, maybe even bigger now since there is more to lose. <\/span><\/p>\n You are starting to get more clients and your business is taking off, but you still lack confidence, and doubt you are good at what you do. <\/span><\/p>\n This is why I stress that inner healing and examination of the feelings triggered by the lack in your life, the story, the meaning. It\u2019s not because I am trying to discourage you from wanting specific things, or I think you should just try to be happy with what you have now.<\/span><\/p>\n If I truly felt that way, I wouldn\u2019t focus on this particular subject matter. <\/span><\/p>\n I do this because I have seen first hand, this is what will give you what you are truly after, this will allow you to feel better in the immediate moment, no matter what<\/em> has or hasn\u2019t manifested yet. <\/span><\/p>\n How great is it to be able to do that? How great is it you don\u2019t need to wait around for something to show up first before giving yourself permission to feel better? I think it\u2019s pretty great.<\/span><\/p>\n And when you ‘clean up’ your energy in this manner, the space from which you are now attracting allows for things to show up much more quickly and easily. This is when the really amazing stuff can make its way in. You are now in the territory of maximizing awesomeness rather than minimizing pain. <\/span><\/p>\n There is a great freedom in not needing anything to be happy. You will still attract awesome stuff–you can\u2019t help it from this sort of energy. <\/span><\/p>\n But instead of getting these things to heal some sort of pain, they are wonderful amplifications of delicious energies that already exist in abundance, and you can enjoy your manifestations much more. <\/span><\/p>\n So the next time you find yourself lamenting the lack in your life, feeling like you need this or that to show up, that you couldn\u2019t possibly feel better until it does, remember to call bullshit on this train of thought.<\/span><\/p>\n So, you got what you wanted, and it wasn\u2019t all you thought it would be. All the icky feelings you thought would get washed away once this manifestation moved from existing energetically in the ethers, to materializing in the physical, didn\u2019t \u00a0seem to go anywhere. <\/span><\/p>\n You were so sure this would make you happy. You wanted it so much. Your mind presented a stellar argument as to why this was the<\/em> thing, why there was absolutely no acceptable substitute. You pined for this thing, you wallowed in misery and craving. You spent hours visualizing with delight. <\/span><\/p>\n Talk about a let-down. <\/span><\/p>\n Naturally, something must have gone terribly wrong. This wasn\u2019t supposed to happen. You must have messed something up along the way. Maybe the Universe is punishing you for some reason. <\/span><\/p>\n But nothing went wrong. Nothing ever goes wrong. All manifestations have something to show us, something to teach us. They help us gain clarity and fine tune our desires. What happens to us is merely vibrational feedback and nothing more. <\/span><\/p>\n Whatever, or whomever, showed up because it was a match to something in our energy. The meaning of the manifestation may not always match up with what our mind wants it to mean<\/em>, but again, nothing went wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n You manifested a date with someone you had your eye on for awhile, someone you were convinced was perfect for you. But he was anything but. <\/span><\/p>\n Maybe you manifested him because he actually had characteristics that were problematic, and you gained more clarity about your ideal match. Maybe he treated you badly, and you got a wake-up call you still need to work on your self-esteem. <\/span><\/p>\n As a human, I get it. We want certain things, and we hope they show up sooner than later. We want everything to always go perfectly without having to deal with situations our mind has labeled as \u2018bad.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n We just want our stuff already so we can finally be happy.<\/span><\/p>\n You get to have your reactions. You get to feel frustrated or disappointed. It\u2019s fine. You just don\u2019t want to wallow there too long. <\/span><\/p>\n But you must realize you have a choice on how to view these sorts of manifestations–or any manifestation for that matter–that you judge as bad, and make you want to go into a negative frame of mind, that make you want to throw a temper tantrum like a toddler whose mother won\u2019t get him the toy he wants. <\/span><\/p>\n We can huff and puff, and claim the Universe hates us or that life is unfair. We can go into victim mode. We can moan and groan we never get what we want, or things never go our way. <\/span><\/p>\n That option is certainly available. But there really isn\u2019t any reason to respond that way once we get a better understanding of energy, and why we manifest what we do. <\/span><\/p>\n If manifestations are just vibrational feedback, and we somehow manage to manifest the experiences that will perfectly show us what is most vital to see, so we can move forward with greater \u2018success,\u2019 there is no need to get bent out of shape about something that our mind initially reacts to as \u2018bad,\u2019 that didn\u2019t go our way or meet our expectations. <\/span><\/p>\n We examine how the manifestation makes us feel, what it is mirroring back to us, and we are now armed with very helpful insights. <\/span><\/p>\n Why did you feel disappointed? What feelings are still lingering that you thought would go away if this thing showed up? What fears did you think would be allayed but seem to be as strong as ever? What aspects of the manifestation do you not like? What aspects do you like? <\/span><\/p>\n This \u2018post-mortem\u2019 will give you a better picture of your inner world, it will \u00a0give you greater clarity on what you want, it will help you see where you still need some \u2018tweaks.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n These are all very good things. <\/span><\/p>\n What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? Do you have an experience to share about this situation and what you learned from it? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\nThe Thing is Never the Actual Thing<\/span><\/h4>\n
The Manifestation is Never the Answer<\/span><\/h4>\n
Nothing Went Wrong<\/span><\/h4>\n
Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n