{"id":5977,"date":"2017-04-18T23:14:14","date_gmt":"2017-04-19T03:14:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=5977"},"modified":"2021-08-02T06:25:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-02T06:25:18","slug":"law-attraction-im-worried-im-manifesting-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-attraction-im-worried-im-manifesting-wrong\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: I\u2019m Worried I\u2019m Doing Manifesting \u2018Wrong\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"

When applying the law of attraction, sometimes I feel that I don’t know how to react to situations so that my desires come true. I feel confused and a bit nervous if the decision that I am taking is correct. I feel emotionless and blank.<\/em><\/p>\n

So this is a great question, and I am going to take it a bit farther than what is being asked because I think it will address lots of underlying \u2018stuff\u2019 that leads to this particular sort of anxiety. Enjoy! <\/span><\/p>\n

Manifesting Isn\u2019t an Action <\/span><\/h4>\n

The word \u2018manifesting\u2019 is a verb and this can be a bit misleading. It makes it sound like something we \u2018do.\u2019 This perspective creates great anxiety. It leads us to overthink things way, way too much, and make things way, way harder than they need to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

We do a whole bunch of stuff that really isn\u2019t necessary. We worry about a whole lot of stuff about which we don\u2019t need to worry. <\/span><\/p>\n

I guess technically we are \u2018doing\u2019 something but not really. What we are \u2018doing\u2019 is putting out a certain type of energy, and that happens on the level of \u2018being.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

We have all sorts of thoughts ,feelings, beliefs and perspectives. Whichever ones are dominant will determine what shows up in our life. These energies are driving our choices, behaviors and habits. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is all happening \u2018inside\u2019 and it is important to remember all the \u2018action\u2019 we take in the form of affirming, visualizing and all the other \u2018stuff\u2019 is not doing anything in and of itself. <\/span><\/p>\n

These are merely tools that help us facilitate inner shifts. These tools help us consciously engage our energy and focus in ways that serve us, and that is their value. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because manifesting is not action-oriented, there is no exact blueprint or set of concrete steps that will guarantee a specific result. I know how much we would love that, but it just isn\u2019t the way it works. <\/span><\/p>\n

It means there isn\u2019t a \u2018right\u2019 way you must learn or you\u2019re screwed. It means there isn\u2019t a \u2018wrong\u2019 way to do it. <\/span><\/p>\n

The law of attraction isn\u2019t a \u2018tool.\u2019 It is a Universal law. It isn\u2019t something you weren\u2019t \u2018using\u2019 previously and now you can, and you best figure out how to \u2018use\u2019 it properly, or game over. <\/span><\/p>\n

It isn\u2019t something you can \u2018use\u2019 to control your life and make things happen just as your mind wants them to, when it wants them to. Yes, there is a very good chance the things you feel inspired to want means you will attract things along those lines–no reason not to. <\/span><\/p>\n

But we have to do our best to be open to how these things show up; we have to be willing to admit our mind can\u2019t<\/em> possibly<\/em> know a specific manifestation is THE best representation of what we truly want because it cannot be aware of every<\/em> possible representation–every<\/em> experience, every<\/em> job, every<\/em> person,etc… But I digress.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have always been creating\u2019 the law of attraction is always in action. You just weren\u2019t conscious. You weren\u2019t doing it deliberately. You weren\u2019t aware of the programming that was running your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now you are, and that will make all the difference in the world. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t \u2018do\u2019 it wrong…you got this. You are not tasked with \u2018figuring\u2019 anything out, just being conscious of your inner world. That really is all. <\/span><\/p>\n

You Can\u2019t Make the \u2018Wrong\u2019 Decision<\/span><\/h4>\n

You don\u2019t have finite \u2018chances\u2019 to manifest the things you want. The Universe doesn\u2019t have any sort of \u2018three strikes and you\u2019re out\u2019 policy. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you are faced with a decision of some kind, whatever choice you make will be \u2018right\u2019 in that whatever showed up is a manifestation of energy, and it is your energy that is driving the decision; whatever results is again, a manifestation of your energy, and it can show you what is happening vibrationally. It will show you something that will be helpful to see, and that is always<\/em> a good thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is a good place to remind you of \u2018infinite possibility,\u2019 especially if you think you happened to \u00a0\u2018mess\u2019 something up somehow. You turned down that job and you think you should have taken it. You broke up with that guy three years ago and now you are questioning it. You didn\u2019t take that freelancing client but are now thinking it was a mistake to turn down the work. <\/span><\/p>\n

There are plenty more jobs, guys and clients. It\u2019s like if you miss the bus, you can just get on the next one. Our mind can\u2019t really understand this though. It gets in theory there is infinite possibility.<\/span><\/p>\n

But what is actually<\/em> happening is our mind gets so attached to any thing or person that would seem to be a good representation of our manifestation, primarily because it fears something better may not come along.<\/span><\/p>\n

We spent so much of our life in a space of lack and lamenting the absence of the things we want. But then we start working consciously with our energy, and things start changing. And as soon as anything remotely \u2018good\u2019 shows up, we desperately latch onto it, again because we are afraid it might not get better than this. <\/span><\/p>\n

This causes us a great deal of anxiety, and we agonize over decisions that actually aren\u2019t that hard to make. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you know that you have no choice but to attract a great relationship so long as you work on your energy in the form of self-love, feeling whole and complete as you are now, and realizing how awesome you are–flaws and all–walking away from that person who you know deep down is not the best match for you is not so difficult. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you know the Universe is your true source of abundance in all forms, and not your primary business or any individual client, it is easy to walk away from your current business that you no longer enjoy and start a new one; it is easy to turn down clients with whom you know you wouldn\u2019t enjoy working. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you know your feelings are your ultimate guidance system and will never steer you wrong, it is easy to walk away from that opportunity that just doesn’t feel right, no matter how good it looks on paper, and no matter how much it makes sense to pursue it from a logical perspective. <\/span><\/p>\n

No matter what action you take, or decision you make in a given moment, it can\u2019t ever be \u2018wrong.\u2019 We have to make peace with the fact we have some tweaks to make in our energy, and that fear and limiting beliefs may sometimes drive our decisions and behavior. And yes, technically this could \u2018slow\u2019 things down on the manifesting front, but it just is what it is. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just relax and know you can\u2019t ever truly get off the path. <\/span><\/p>\n

Keep the Bigger Picture in Mind<\/span><\/h4>\n

If you are constantly analyzing every manifestation, agonizing over every decision and thinking how any given course of action will factor into getting what you want, you are in for a very<\/em> painful, frustrating, anxiety-inducing ride my loves. <\/span><\/p>\n

And this is exactly what we tend to do once we get our hands on the law of attraction. We pour all our energy into getting what we want, and worry whether we are doing it \u2018right.\u2019 We do our best to make sure we are \u2018doing\u2019 everything we can to ensure we get our stuff. <\/span><\/p>\n

Essentially, we are still operating from that same space of trying to control everything, all the time, to ensure everything turns out just as we want it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you kind of need to pay attention to what shows up in your life to get a sense of where your energy is at. But this doesn\u2019t mean analyzing every manifestation to death. <\/span><\/p>\n

When faced with decisions, it could be helpful to see how you feel about the options, and what may be driving those feelings and perspectives. It doesn\u2019t mean spending hours and hours pondering it from every angle to figure out whether it is \u2018good\u2019 or \u2018bad\u2019 in relation to your manifestation. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you have a strong reaction to something, that is an indicator to maybe explore a bit more what is happening inside. If you keep having similar manifestations, again, may be a good idea to take a look, especially if they keep happening in a particular area of your life where you really seem to be struggling to make a change, like your finances. <\/span><\/p>\n

But on the whole,<\/em>the best strategy is to just shake it off, and MOVE ON. <\/span><\/p>\n

Date gone bad? No worries, plenty more fish in the sea. Didn\u2019t get that job interview? No problem, lots of other jobs out there. That potential client went another way? Plenty more where she came from. Turned down a job and are now thinking it might have been the better choice? Who cares…you aren\u2019t bound there for life and you can always get a new one. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to start developing some trust in the process, in the idea that the Universe is really set up to work for you and not against you. If you get things \u2018right\u2019 energetically, you have no choice but to manifest things that mirror that energy back to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to be open to how things unfold–it almost never<\/em> looks like your mind think it will. You have to be willing to suspend judgment on manifestations, and just see them for what they are–a reflection of your predominant energy. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is No \u2018Right\u2019 Way to Respond<\/span><\/h4>\n

There was mention of feeling blank and emotionless, which was driven by the fear of somehow responding \u2018wrongly\u2019 to what is happening. <\/span><\/p>\n

But you can\u2019t respond \u2018wrong.\u2019 Sure, in an ideal world we would be kind of neutral rather than lose our shit anytime something happens our mind has decided is \u2018bad\u2019 but being human, we\u2019ll probably be mad, sad, fearful or whatever else. <\/span><\/p>\n

If we were really on top of our game enlightenment-wise, we would actually welcome this situation as an opportunity for growth and reflection. How great would that be?<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to let yourself feel your feelings–if they are there, they are there. Yes, we do want to work on changing those feelings and perspectives that don\u2019t serve us–we actually have<\/em> to do this– but that doesn\u2019t mean we are tasked with trying to completely eliminate them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Those reactions are usually bubbling up from somewhere beneath your conscious awareness, situations are going to trigger them, and they are just going to show up. <\/span><\/p>\n

But once they do, we can choose how to deal with that, how we are going to experience our experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you try to suppress emotion, or just \u2018be positive\u2019 when you actually aren\u2019t feeling that way, you will have a hell of a time aligning with the things you would like to see in your life, because you won\u2019t know what needs to be shifted. <\/span><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t be able to tackle the energies that have led you to manifest the life you have now, the one you aren\u2019t exactly loving. And they will continue to rule the day. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t do this sort of \u2018work\u2019 without diving more deeply into the waters of your inner world. You can\u2019t be a conscious creator if you aren\u2019t conscious of what is happening in your energy. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know we don\u2019t want to deal with all that. I get it. <\/span><\/p>\n

But we have to make peace with the fact we likely have all sorts of \u2018stuff\u2019 \u00a0we need to sort out, that we may not be in alignment with the great relationship, the improved finances or that better job. It\u2019s okay because we can change that. Lying to yourself about this won\u2019t do you any favors, trust me.<\/span><\/p>\n

But we can\u2019t change that if we are unwilling to engage with our resistance. This isn\u2019t as bad as it seems<\/em>. It doesn\u2019t have to be some torturous process. It doesn\u2019t have to take months or years to make significant shifts, and really start thinking and feeling differently. It doesn\u2019t require devoting several hours a day to your personal development. <\/span><\/p>\n

The resistance isn\u2019t the problem–it is just a mish mash of thoughts, beliefs and feelings that we created. Our perception of it is. Our resistance to it is. It\u2019s not the enemy. <\/span><\/p>\n

If something happens that makes you angry, sad, doubtful, frustrated or anxious, it\u2019s not \u2018wrong\u2019 to respond that way. In the moment, that\u2019s the reaction you had, no big deal. <\/span><\/p>\n

These reactions will only be a \u2018problem\u2019 if we get caught up in them and they linger for a really long time, if we insist we get to feel this way until something specific happens that justifies not feeling this way anymore, if we refuse to adopt a different perspective or look beyond appearances. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, no need to analyze every situation and corresponding energetic \u2018response\u2019 to death. You\u2019ll know when to take a deeper look and when to just let it go and move on. And when the former happens, don\u2019t resist that deeper look. Do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think? Anything resonate in particular?<\/p>\n

If you are in the market for a relationship, be sure to check out my Q and A call taking place April 24th here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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