{"id":5923,"date":"2017-03-28T07:17:39","date_gmt":"2017-03-28T11:17:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=5923"},"modified":"2021-07-31T06:02:28","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T06:02:28","slug":"law-of-attraction-act-as-if","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-act-as-if\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: What It Really Means to Act ‘As If’"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’ve been studying the law of attraction for a while and the biggest drawback I have, which I’m sure many people do is the “Act as if” part of it, in a brain that’s been conditioned to I’ll believe it when I see this act as if concept is the hardest to implement, sure I know they say visualise it and act as if what you want is already here but putting it into practice especially if visualising is not ones strongest points, so maybe you can give your view on it?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

John<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Great question here, and when thinking about how to answer it, I realized that over time, I began to think very differently about what acting \u2018as if\u2019 means. <\/span><\/p>\n

I think this is one concept that can really pose challenges for people, and understandably so. <\/span><\/p>\n

I have found many of the misconceptions, and teachings \u00a0about the law of attraction, can lead us down a road that will make this process of being more conscious in shaping your reality much more difficult than it has to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

One of the biggest issues is the tendency to obsessively focus on the specific things we want, and feel pressure to feel all the feelings we think we need to feel to \u2018get\u2019 them. <\/span><\/p>\n

We make happiness a means to an end, rather than the goal itself, doing everything we can with an eye towards manifesting what our mind wants. <\/span><\/p>\n

So in this post, I want to talk about my view on acting \u2018as if\u2019 and some issues that contribute to our difficulty in feeling better now, regardless of our circumstances; and hopefully it will give you some insight into \u2018how\u2019 to shift your energy in a beneficial way. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not going to be a list of suggestions on how to feel rich if you are poor ,feel like you have a relationship if you are single, or feel skinny if you\u2019re not. <\/span><\/p>\n

I imagine you have encountered plenty of that stuff, and while helpful to some degree most likely, didn\u2019t quite help you overcome this hurdle. <\/span><\/p>\n

Looking Beyond What Is, Not Denying It<\/span><\/h4>\n

When people are told to act \u2018as if\u2019 it can seem like you are being encouraged to deny your current reality, and just engage in a big old game of pretend. And as many people have found, this tends not to work too well. <\/span><\/p>\n

You might have some moments here and there where you feel like you truly are living a new reality, but they tend to be short-lived, and not much momentum is able to be established. <\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling \u2018abundant\u2019 when you are flat broke can be a bit of a stretch. <\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling like you are already in a loving relationship when a crushing sense of loneliness seems to be a constant companion can seem near impossible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling like you are already inhabiting your dream body when you can barely stand to look in a mirror…um okay. <\/span><\/p>\n

Feeling like you are in perfect health when your illness seems to impact every facet of your day-to-day life can seem like a tall order. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because the fact is, your current reality is not reflecting these things back to you, and your mind is very insistent on not letting you forget that for even one second. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you have to have a shift in perspective on what is happening now. You have to be willing to concede something better is possible, even if you don\u2019t have much evidence thus far and you can\u2019t figure out \u2018how\u2019 these changes would come about. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to begin cultivating the energies and feelings that lie beneath the specific manifestations you desire because the energies come first and then the manifestations. <\/span><\/p>\n

The key to being able to do this is a willingness to look BEYOND your current reality, knowing it can change. There has to be that willingness to concede that all the shitty things you believe now, all the damaging conclusions your mind has drawn about yourself and the way the world works, are maybe, just maybe, not true. <\/span><\/p>\n

I have found in my own life, making this my primary strategy helped me tackle one of the biggest manifesting \u2018cockblockers,<\/a>\u2019 which is having a huge amount of resistance to what is happening right now and trying to manifest from a space of resisting and hating it all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Releasing resistance to my current circumstances, in my opinion anyway, seemed to be the real linchpin in improving my ability to receive, not trying to be super \u2018high-vibing\u2019 all the time, and pouring all my energy into trying to act \u2018as if,\u2019 thinking about what I wanted all the time,etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

This willingness to look beyond what was happening now freed up a lot of energy and I was able to reach a better-feeling state more naturally, without engaging in any specific tool or technique to do so or \u2018trying\u2019 really hard.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course I still did stuff that resonated, like meditation, but it wasn\u2019t something that took a lot of \u2018effort.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

One of the reasons we have such difficulty getting into a high energy state, and acting \u2018as if\u2019 is because we are fighting against \u2018lower\u2019 energies, namely all the resistance we have to our current reality. <\/span><\/p>\n

You are Never Lacking, No Matter the Circumstance<\/span><\/h4>\n

Understandably, most people are drawn to a teaching like the law of attraction specifically because there is something you don\u2019t have now that you are hoping you can \u2018attract\u2019 into your experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s money, a boyfriend, a flatter stomach, better health or a new job. No matter what it is, totally fine to want it, and no reason not to have it. <\/span><\/p>\n

The problem is however, our mind sees this lack in our circumstances as some sort of lack in ourselves. We have some deficiency that hasn\u2019t allowed these things into our reality. We must not be smart enough or good enough to have it. Not having this thing says something about us that is very painful. We assign all sorts of meaning to the lack of this thing and it feels really shitty. <\/span><\/p>\n

And this is why we get so fixated on manifesting this thing, and \u2018try\u2019 so hard to get it. We see it as some sort of answer to healing whatever we are dealing with now. <\/span><\/p>\n

By getting it, whatever terrible thing I think about myself now is not true. If I get this thing, it means I\u2019m not stupid, I\u2019m not a failure, I\u2019m not a joke, I\u2019m not a loser, I\u2019m not unworthy, I\u2019m not unlovable, I\u2019m not ugly, I\u2019m not incapable.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever shitty thing you think about yourself now isn\u2019t true, plain and simple, no two ways about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You are perfect, whole and complete as you are now. No matter how lacking your current circumstances seem to be, you are not lacking in any way; and they say nothing about who you are as a person, your worthiness or what you are truly capable of. <\/span><\/p>\n

Through the eyes of God, the Universe, Source, Infinite Mind or whatever your preferred term, you are wonderful as you are; you are deserving of the best life has to offer. You are not deficient in any way; there is nothing \u2018wrong\u2019 with you<\/span><\/p>\n

When we can shift gears from manifesting from a space of feeling lack, not good enough and that we need certain things to be happy, to doing it basically for shits and giggles, and thinking we want this stuff to enhance our experience and it would be fun to have it, a whole new energy opens up, and with that, a whole new world must follow suit. <\/span><\/p>\n

You might not get into that space every waking moment, but it can become more dominant than you probably think. <\/span><\/p>\n

You Already Are Everything You Want<\/span><\/h4>\n

This kind of ties into my previous point about your circumstances, and their apparent lack, being no reflection on you as a person. It in no way means YOU are lacking in any way. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is a lot of talk about changing energy, \u2018raising\u2019 our vibration and what have you, and the terminology can create the impression there is some sort of energy that is absent that you must cultivate, that you must build \u2018from scratch.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

And this really isn\u2019t accurate. There is a part of you that is vibrating at the highest of energies, that knows the truth of reality, that knows all the crappy things you think about yourself aren\u2019t true, that all the crappy beliefs you believe aren\u2019t true, that knows you are loved and supported, that knows no matter what has happened in the past, it has no bearing on what is possible moving forward. . <\/span><\/p>\n

Our \u2018mission\u2019 therefore is to peel away at all the shit obscuring it-all the \u2018stuff\u2019 we picked up over our lifetime, courtesy of our mind\u2019s false interpretations of our experience, our religion, the media, our parents, our culture…the list could go on and on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Love, abundance and all the energies you crave are already there, just waiting to be tapped into more consistently. And yes, I\u2019ll say it again for the millionth time: this is what you truly want–the feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

The more you can feel them, the more quickly your reality will begin to mirror them back to you in a variety of ways–maybe with the specific things your mind has cooked up, or maybe something totally different. <\/span><\/p>\n

But no matter what form it takes, you will enjoy it and be happy. <\/span><\/p>\n

So when you realize all these energies already exist within you, you realize it is just about being more conscious of tapping into them in a more general sense. <\/span><\/p>\n

You realize you don\u2019t have to \u2018try\u2019 and act \u2018as if\u2019 you are rich, skinny, married or whatever else you want to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can certainly want those things, you can certainly manifest them. Taking some time to focus on imagining being in these circumstances can certainly be helpful. <\/span><\/p>\n

But it\u2019s probably a good thing to know that you don\u2019t have to be so specific in your focus and energy. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you are feeling love, and being love and showing that love, \u00a0there is no reason a romantic relationship would be excluded from the ways it gets mirrored back to you in your reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you are feeling loved and supported by the Universe, knowing it can aid you in manifesting all the worldly \u2018needs\u2019 of a human, there is no reason money would be specifically excluded as a resource. <\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s Really Happening Right Now<\/span><\/h4>\n

When we start to understand what is really happening in our current reality, and why it is the way it is, it gets much easier to shift our energy in any circumstance. <\/span><\/p>\n

What is happening now is in no way any indicator of what will happen moving forward. It means nothing as far as what you may want now. It says nothing about whether this thing is possible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your current reality is merely a reflection of past dominant energies playing out. That\u2019s really it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once you start changing the energy, your experience must follow. That is how it works. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know it can take some time for this idea to move from the realm of intellectual understanding and \u2018sounds nice\u2019 to a true \u2018knowing.\u2019 And even a slight willingness can get things moving in the right direction quite nicely. <\/span><\/p>\n

When we really, truly remind ourselves of this, we can detach more easily from our current experience. We may still not be thrilled with it; we may still be harboring strong attachment to certain desired outcomes, but by and large, the emotional investment in all this \u2018stuff\u2019 dies down. We don\u2019t get sucked in as strongly as we may have in the past. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remembering our present moment is just a reflection of past energies can also help us tackle one of our most challenging obstacles, which is…<\/span><\/p>\n

Breaking the Habit of Living Outside In<\/span><\/h4>\n

If I had to name the number one barrier to shifting energy, and creating a meaningful space for better stuff to start showing up, it would probably be this. <\/span><\/p>\n

To say that letting our outside circumstances dictate how we feel does not mix well with conscious creation is an understatement if there ever was one. <\/span><\/p>\n

And this is a pretty deeply ingrained habit. Most of us aren\u2019t so stable in our energy, and so confident in all these wonderful, empowering beliefs, that our energy is impervious to anything external.<\/span><\/p>\n

For some reason our mind thinks cursing, and lamenting our current circumstances, will somehow aid in changing them, and it is very reluctant to stop doing this. <\/span><\/p>\n

So you don\u2019t need to be perfect at this. But it is a habit you must be willing to transform. It is something of which you must be cognizant. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you insist you are entitled to throw temper tantrums because you don\u2019t like how your life is now, and use this as \u2018evidence\u2019 to keep your shitty belief system in tact, that is your prerogative.<\/span><\/p>\n

But you may want to work on getting what you want in another way, because doing things the \u2018easy\u2019 way (aligning energetically) isn\u2019t going to work for you. <\/span><\/p>\n

This tendency is one of the conscious creator\u2019s biggest saboteur. <\/span><\/p>\n

I am sure this scenario sounds familiar:<\/span><\/p>\n

We work on our energy; we feel a bit better. We feel \u2018aligned.\u2019 We are feeling \u2018good\u2019. We are excitedly awaiting the arrival of our \u2018stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n

But then nothing seems to be \u2018happening.\u2019 Or something happens our mind judges as \u2018bad\u2019 and we think it means we won\u2019t get what we want. <\/span><\/p>\n

Or we set our sights on a very specific manifestation, and when it doesn\u2019t pan out, our seeming inability to control every aspect our reality is a real let-down ,and may leave us very disillusioned with this sort of teaching. <\/span><\/p>\n

And we go right back to feeling badly. Our \u2018efforts\u2019 at being happier didn\u2019t seem to have their intended effect, so why bother keeping it up? <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, most of us aren\u2019t so good that we will feel \u2018happy\u2019 no matter what. I get it. I am a person too, instilled with the same bad habits. I get we are drawn to this \u2018work\u2019 because we want certain things. <\/span><\/p>\n

But again, we must have at least that willingness to not let our outside circumstances dictate our feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

When we are willing to release this mode of operating, we don\u2019t feel so much pressure to act \u2018as if\u2019 we already have what we want, because by and large we are doing just fine without it. <\/span><\/p>\n

We are not feeling pressure to manifest it. We know it will happen. We know there is no reason for it NOT to happen. So we can relax a bit. And again, we achieve a naturally better feeling state without having to put so much effort into it. <\/span><\/p>\n

And this shift in our emotional state will lend itself to all sorts of wonderful things manifesting without us putting so much focus on specific things.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now of course, \u00a0if it truly feels good to focus on specifics, go for it. But I suspect for most people, it doesn\u2019t, so I imagine a perspective that suggests it might not be necessary would be quite welcome. <\/span><\/p>\n

How Can You Feel The Feelings Now?<\/span><\/h4>\n

Again, at the end of the day, all you want is a feeling. You want to feel peaceful, happy, fulfilled, abundant, loved. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I know your mind makes very compelling arguments as to why your current reality is not conducive to these energies, and you MUST manifest specific things before you could even entertain the possibility of feeling better.<\/span><\/p>\n

But that is bullshit. It\u2019s okay to want what you want for sure, but don\u2019t let your mind trick you into thinking these specific things are the only way to get the feelings you crave, or that it is what you truly want. It isn\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Again, it\u2019s the feelings. And there are lots of ways you can cultivate those feelings NOW. \u00a0You may not feel them ALL the time, and that\u2019s fine. <\/span><\/p>\n

But that energy being evoked to any degree will lend itself to attracting more things that mirror that energy back to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you want to feel more abundant, maybe let yourself have more fun with your money. You may not be able to buy a beach house, or that designer wardrobe you crave, but there are options. <\/span><\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t recommend blowing the last of your savings account on a really fancy dinner, maxing out your credit cards buying a bunch of shit you don\u2019t need,or any other tactic that will leave you panicking five minutes later.<\/span><\/p>\n

But maybe you can treat yourself to a weekend away or a nice outfit for that work event you have coming up. You might also consider investing in yourself–pay for that class, program or coaching session that has been strongly resonating with you. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you want to start a coaching business because you want to help people improve their lives, but right now it doesn\u2019t seem to be getting off the ground, maybe you can volunteer as a mentor, or spend more time on personal development-oriented sites, answering forum questions or responding to blog post comments. <\/span><\/p>\n

You also want to just go more \u2018general\u2019 with your efforts at boosting your energy. The activities don\u2019t always have to be related to the manifestations and specific feelings associated with them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just feeling better overall will open the doors to improvements in all areas of your life. And you will start achieving NOW what you have always wanted all along, which is to feel better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t is nice to know you can have what you ultimately want right in this immediate moment, and you don\u2019t have to wait for it, or hope you can figure out how to \u2018do\u2019 manifesting \u2018right\u2019 so you can get some specific thing you believe is necessary for your happiness?<\/span><\/p>\n

I think that\u2019s pretty great. <\/span><\/p>\n

There was mention of visualizing, and I recommend checking out this post<\/a>, as it will address the concerns noted in the question.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n

What did you think of the post? What are your tips for getting into a higher vibe?<\/p>\n

If money is of particular interest to you when it comes to the law of attraction, don’t forget to sign up for the Manifesting Money Q and A <\/a>call, taking place April 3rd.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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