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In a recent podcast, you mentioned the\u00a0only thing we can really do is work inwards and try to figure out what is keeping our energies from attracting what we want deep down. It makes perfect sense but I’m having trouble figuring out how to really do that. All the tools help and I can manifest and affirm all day but I guess when I look inwards and find those blocks, how do I change them to be something that is of positive\/ loving energy? This might be a good blog post if others are feeling similarly! <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n If, according to the law of attraction, our predominant energy is the determining factor in what shows up in our lives, exploring said energy is obviously an important part of the conscious creation equation. We have largely been living on auto-pilot, lacking any true awareness of the content of our inner world, and this is not an option in the world of the deliberate creator. <\/span><\/p>\n Our life may just seem random, with no rhyme or reason behind the things that are happening, or not happening. But when we discover a teaching like the law of attraction, what seems random is anything but. We realize the full extent of our belief system, and how much of it is pretty shitty. <\/span><\/p>\n The resistance that tends to pop up when we think about what we want reveals to us all the feelings, thoughts, beliefs and perspectives that need tweaking. <\/span><\/p>\n We think we can\u2019t have what we want because we are not good enough or because we lack some particular advantage. In order for one thing to manifest, we believe something else must happen first, and if that thing doesn\u2019t seem possible, well, I guess we\u2019re shit out of luck. <\/span><\/p>\n We can\u2019t see \u2018how\u2019 this thing would come, and when that happens, our mind is very good at convincing us it isn\u2019t possible. <\/span><\/p>\n We have all sorts of really messed up beliefs about money, relationships, happiness, and all the other stuff we want, and this makes allowing these elements into our reality infinitely harder than it has to be. <\/span><\/p>\n And as painful as these beliefs may be, there is so much \u2018evidence\u2019 behind them; and as much as we want to release them, there is a part of us that actually doesn\u2019t want to. Imagine that? <\/span><\/p>\n As you do this work, you are going to discover \u2018stuff.\u2019 That is a certainty. There is no reason not to have money, relationships, good health and all the other great stuff we crave. So if you don\u2019t have them, something is blocking that. <\/span><\/p>\n The good news is, overcoming those blocks is not as hard as we have made it out to be. This is something we have overcomplicated to the point of feeling like it will be impossible to change our tune energetically, and naturally that feels really badly. <\/span><\/p>\n The primary culprit is your mind trying to apply its typical logic-and-action-oriented approach to a process that operates on a very different wavelength. It is trying to control something that can\u2019t be controlled. <\/span><\/p>\n In the normal course of events, we are very used to having some sort of goal in mind, some sort of result we want to achieve. We then figure out what steps we can take, what processes, what tools we can use.<\/span><\/p>\n We get to work, and eventually something happens. We reach the goal. We get the result. It might take awhile. It might not be easy. But eventually something will happen. Some sort of movement or progress.<\/span><\/p>\n Creating from a space of energy doesn\u2019t work this way however, but that can take awhile to really sink in. And we carry over this paradigm of \u2018doing\u2019 into our manifesting \u2018work.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n We think if we \u2018do\u2019 the right thing, or if we use tools \u2018enough\u2019 eventually we will experience a change in our reality, eventually we will shift the beliefs and feelings that aren\u2019t serving us.<\/span><\/p>\n If we are having trouble doing this, we must not have \u2018figured\u2019 something out yet. We must not be \u2018doing\u2019 something right. We haven\u2019t found the perfect combination of techniques that if employed properly, will ensure the changes we seek, both internally and externally. <\/span><\/p>\n And this is when we go on the desperate hunt for information; this is when we start jumping from program to program, hoping the next one will be the \u2018one\u2019 that finally helps us overcome our \u2018blocks\u2019; this is when we start worrying we have some massive hidden form of resistance we will never, ever uncover and we\u2019re screwed; this is when we start obsessing over getting \u2018rid\u2019 of it. <\/span><\/p>\n Now this isn\u2019t to say that using different tools and techniques, doing certain exercises, and the like can\u2019t be helpful. They can be extremely so, and often play an important role for many of us, especially in the beginning when we need some sort of framework, something to sink our teeth into, if you will. <\/span><\/p>\n I give coaching clients all sorts of stuff to do that I believe will help them explore their own energy more deeply, and specifically \u2018target\u2019 their unique issues.<\/span><\/p>\n But none of these things can change your energy, or help you transform a block, independent of the most important ingredient, which is…<\/span><\/p>\n The biggest problem we have with releasing our \u2018blocks\u2019 is simply an unwillingness to release them if we are very, very honest with ourselves. Intellectually we may understand certain beliefs really don\u2019t hold water. It feels good to stop buying into them, and not letting them rule our life any longer. But the process of truly releasing on them can be a bit messy. <\/span><\/p>\n We really want to release them, but not so much because we want to be happier, but because we think we \u2018must\u2019 do so to get our stuff. But that is a bit off topic.<\/span><\/p>\n Anyway, so we work on not believing these things anymore. But what tends to happen is, our reality is not changing as fast as we would like it to, or not in the exact way our mind wants it to. <\/span><\/p>\n We get attached to certain outcomes that don\u2019t pan out and we\u2019re disappointed. We get very attached to certain representations of the manifestation–stubbornly declaring this person is THE one, etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n And this attachment to specifics cuts us off from the natural flow of the manifesting process, and again, we don\u2019t see much movement externally, and the wind continues to get taken out of our energetic sails we are \u2018trying\u2019 so hard to maintain. <\/span><\/p>\n So our mind continues to buy into appearances; you get all upset the Universe isn\u2019t giving you what you want. <\/span><\/p>\n The journey doesn\u2019t look like your mind thinks it will; you constantly misjudge manifestations. And this leads you to conclude the law of attraction doesn\u2019t \u2018work\u2019 or because your mind isn\u2019t getting exactly what it wants when it wants it, something must be going \u2018wrong.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n And all of this leads you to conclude all the limiting beliefs you have are very, very true–look at all this proof. You didn\u2019t believe you could have what you wanted, and you are \u2018right.\u2019 And as painful as these beliefs are, you stubbornly fight for them. <\/span><\/p>\n You aren\u2019t really willing to release the beliefs until you get some very powerful evidence to the contrary, until you are given a really good reason to. <\/span><\/p>\n But knowing what we now know about how reality is created, we realize the \u2018I\u2019ll believe it when I see it\u2019 mentality is very, very problematic. <\/span><\/p>\n This inability to look beyond our current circumstances, and what may have happened in the past, is really our number one issue when you really think about it. <\/span><\/p>\n Again, no tool or technique can do anything \u2018for\u2019 you independent of your energy and intentions. That you are still struggling with a block does not mean you are doing something \u2018wrong\u2019 or you haven\u2019t found the ultimate technique yet, and until you do, you will continue to struggle.<\/span><\/p>\n All it means is you are choosing to still believe this belief, this view of yourself, this perspective. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe you are not good enough because your abusive father told you so. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe you can\u2019t make a lot of money because you have been poor all your life.<\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe life has to be hard, and you must suffer and strain to get what you want because that is what makes you deserving of it. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe it is hard to manifest money.<\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe you should keep the secure job you have rather than striking out on your own and starting the business of which you have always dreamed. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe since you have always struggled with your business that you will continue to in the future. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe that you must live your life a certain way because the religion in which you were raised ,or your parents, dictated this is so, even if you don\u2019t necessarily agree. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to believe everyone else\u2019s happiness and needs matter more than your own.<\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice to not do what you want to do because you can\u2019t get over the hurdle of caring too much what others think of you. <\/span><\/p>\n It is a choice not to do certain things because you have given into someone\u2019s guilt trip<\/span><\/p>\n The thing we have to remember though about this choice is that it isn\u2019t a one and done deal. It is a choice we will usually have to consciously make over and over again as the \u2018illusion\u2019 in which we find ourselves will never lack for compelling evidence that calls this choice into question. <\/span><\/p>\n And each time you make that choice, you give power to the energy that will serve you, that will support you, that will open to door to all the great stuff life has to offer. <\/span><\/p>\n Each time you make that choice, you make space for manifestations that \u2018prove\u2019 there is something to the beliefs that will serve you better. <\/span><\/p>\n As a fellow human, I get it can be hard to believe things for which we don\u2019t have a lot of evidence for in our own personal experience. <\/span><\/p>\n We can read inspirational stories all day long about people who went from being homeless to a millionaire, who walked away from the job they hated and built their dream business, who turned their struggling businesses around seemingly overnight, who managed to find their soulmate after years and years of failed relationships or a divorce that emotionally shredded them. <\/span><\/p>\n And there might be that spark of hope these things are possible for us too, but our mind is always very good at detailing why we would be the exception, why it isn\u2019t possible for us. All it focuses on is the struggle, the failure, the lack. <\/span><\/p>\n All it knows is what has already happened; it has drawn firm conclusions about how the world works and what is possible for you, and it won\u2019t budge. <\/span><\/p>\n This work definitely takes a good deal of faith (that we have the ability to believe in what can\u2019t be seen or \u2018proven\u2019 is not an accident), and like I mentioned before, a very strong willingness to look beyond what is right in front of your face, which is simply the result of past energies playing out.<\/span><\/p>\n This is where your feelings come in. Your feelings are a powerful guide that can steer you towards truth, and away from untruth. <\/span><\/p>\n There is a reason it feels really good to think you do have a say in your reality, that you are loved and supported, that infinite possibility is a real thing, not just something that sounds nice. <\/span><\/p>\n These things are TRUE. <\/span><\/p>\n There is a reason all the thoughts opposite these feel badly. They are FALSE. <\/span><\/p>\n If we are willing to run with this idea, what begins to happen is you start weighing all your \u2018crap\u2019 against these better-feeling perspectives, and you realize these things simply aren\u2019t true.<\/span><\/p>\n Yes, the \u2018crap\u2019 may SEEM very true, and your mind will happily pull up a catalog of experiences to validate any individual belief; but if we remember the energy came first, and then the manifestation, we can more easily dismiss this \u2018proof.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n Again, this is a process. This dismissal is something you will have to do over and over again. <\/span><\/p>\n And like I said earlier, even just a willingness to not believe these things anymore opens up enough energy to allow in manifestations that will help validate the more \u2018positive\u2019 beliefs, and you move from buying in on theory to buying in because you have proof in your own personal experience, and these perspectives no longer seem like such a stretch. <\/span><\/p>\n This was the real clincher for me. Yes, I did programs and got great insights. I found tools and techniques with which I resonated, and they helped facilitate these shifts. But like you may have experienced, I still felt I wasn\u2019t making as much progress as I wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n I felt I still had these \u2018blocks.\u2019 And I finally realized the true key to changing them was this choice to not believe them anymore, this best effort at not believing them. I realized I really wasn\u2019t making this choice as fiercely and consistently as was required of me. <\/span><\/p>\n I realized I was still buying into outside appearances and using them as an excuse to keep believing the things that didn\u2019t feel good, to not take actions and make decisions that might have been beneficial.<\/span><\/p>\n When I decided to trust my intuitive pull towards this view of the world that felt really good, and consciously choose to reject all that didn\u2019t gel with that, this \u2018work\u2019 became so much easier. Manifesting no longer seemed like this complicated thing we are tasked with \u2018figuring out\u2019 in order to see changes. <\/span><\/p>\n It really started to click that manifesting was truly about what I was \u2018being.\u2019 It wasn\u2019t a result of what I was \u2018doing.\u2019 It wasn\u2019t a result of \u2018asking\u2019 for something and then hoping the Universe would \u2018give\u2019 it to me. It wasn\u2019t a result of actively \u2018wanting\u2019 something and focusing all my attention on it, trying to \u2018will\u2019 it into existence. <\/span><\/p>\n I know our process-and-action-oriented mind thinks it all boiling down to choice seems too simple. But it really is that simple. It might not always be \u2018easy\u2019 but inherently, it isn\u2019t supposed to be hard. <\/span><\/p>\n It likes the idea of being able to control things, of taking certain steps, knowing it will lead to some desired result. But it just doesn\u2019t work that way. This is a good thing, even if it doesn\u2019t seem like it to your mind. This way is a lot easier, if we are willing to believe it can be easy. <\/span><\/p>\n Our resistance really isn\u2019t the biggest problem once we begin the journey of conscious creation. Yeah, sure, we have beliefs that don\u2019t serve us, views of ourselves that don\u2019t serve us, and we need to transform them.<\/span><\/p>\n But the real problem is, upon discovering this is the true root of our issues–not luck, not our family upbringing,etc\u2026–is we develop a great deal of resistance to our resistance, knowing this is what is \u2018messing\u2019 everything up for us.<\/span><\/p>\n We want our stuff, and we are told we need to get rid of these \u2018blocks\u2019 to get it, and we want to accomplish this as quickly as possible so we can get what we want, what we believe to be the key to our happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n And when that doesn\u2019t seem to be happening, we start really pushing against these energies. We desperately \u2018try\u2019 to get rid of them, to force them out, to cement their opposites more strongly so that energy can become dominant. <\/span><\/p>\n But it can\u2019t become dominant because we are trying to \u2018force\u2019 this energy. We are not cultivating it simply for the sake of feeling better, but to get something else. And when we are doing it from that space, it really can\u2019t take root because it\u2019s not genuine. <\/span><\/p>\n You have blocks. Of course you do. The way our mind operates, we can\u2019t help but formulate all sorts of limiting beliefs about ourselves and how the world works. Our mind is working with a very limited set of data that it uses to draw very powerful, damaging conclusions that won\u2019t disappear overnight. <\/span><\/p>\n If you can make peace with them, realize they are going to be floating through your mind at least every now and again, that you probably won\u2019t be able to just break them apart in the span of a weekend, you will be heading off the truly problematic energy–the energy that builds up as we resist these thoughts, as we try to suppress and deny them, as as we try to pile some \u2018positive\u2019 stuff on top of them, hoping that will be sufficient to manifest something different, as we desperately \u2018try\u2019 to change them, as we obsess over what we can \u2018do\u2019 to get rid of them.<\/span><\/p>\n They will transform so long as you make the choice to transform them. Even a little bit of movement in the \u2018right\u2019 direction changes your point of attraction, so this means you don\u2019t have to create a whole new belief system from scratch before you start to see changes. <\/span><\/p>\n Perfection is not required, thank God, or we would all be in big trouble. <\/span><\/p>\n What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? What has helped you transform your blocks? <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" In a recent podcast, you mentioned the\u00a0only thing we can really do is work inwards and try to figure out what is keeping our energies from attracting what we want deep down. It makes perfect sense but I’m having trouble figuring out how to really do that. 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Choice<\/span><\/h4>\n
The Foundation for Making These Choices<\/span><\/h4>\n
Make Peace with the Blocks<\/span><\/h4>\n
Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n