{"id":5865,"date":"2017-03-01T23:04:50","date_gmt":"2017-03-02T04:04:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/blog\/?p=5865"},"modified":"2021-07-31T06:06:47","modified_gmt":"2021-07-31T06:06:47","slug":"law-of-attraction-type-vibration","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.livelifemadetoorder.com\/blog\/law-of-attraction-type-vibration\/","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction: What Type of Vibration ‘Should’ We Have?"},"content":{"rendered":"

One thing you mentioned that I have been thinking about a lot is the idea of our minds not really being ready to \u201cdream big,\u201d and only wanting to escape our current shit. In my energy \u201cwork\u201d, I notice I am sometimes able to feel what it\u2019s like to have a much higher vibration than I usually have in day to day life. This is a really trusting and pleasant feeling, even if it\u2019s only temporary. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

The thing is, I feel like I become aware of how high my vibration *could* be, and how the feeling my mind has it\u2019s sights set on most of the time is not even the best feeling out there. A related thought pattern is not knowing whether I should orient myself towards a high vibration that is more physically energized, child-like, and exciting, versus a high vibration that is more peaceful and indifferent. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

If simple pain-minimization is not the vibration we should be aiming for, how do we \u00a0know what kind of vibration we should be going for? Hope this was clear. I have a feeling my mind played too big of a role in asking this question, but I\u2019ll let you be the judge of that<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

All the Best.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Matt<\/em><\/p>\n

So when thinking about how to answer this question, I realized there were some things I wanted to address in addition that might not seem relevant but totally are so bear with me. Often times I can see \u2018beneath\u2019 the question to what is driving it, and discussing that is what will really answer said question. <\/span><\/p>\n

This question can\u2019t be answered in the way our mind wants it answered because the mind just can\u2019t seem to understand how this whole manifesting thing really works, that you can\u2019t do it \u2018right\u2019 or \u2018wrong.\u2019 That there is no \u2018right\u2019 vibration we \u2018should\u2019 be in.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our mind is so used to strategies, blueprints, concrete steps and the like, and it carries this over into our manifesting ‘work.’ It thinks there must be some sort of rhyme and reason to this process that can be applied to every manifestation, and if it can just ‘figure’ it out, it is guaranteed to get what it wants.<\/p>\n

But creating from energy is a very different ballgame, and doesn’t have the type of ‘rules’ to which we are accustomed.<\/p>\n

So let\u2019s dive in…<\/span><\/p>\n

The Highest of Vibrations Already Exist Within You<\/span><\/h4>\n

\u2018Raising\u2019 our energy isn\u2019t so much about building some \u2018better\u2019 vibration from scratch but more about peeling away all the shit that stands in the way of the high energy that already exists within us. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is a part of you that knows the \u2018truth,\u2019 that doesn\u2019t judge experiences, that doesn\u2019t attach, that doesn\u2019t expect, that is down for anything us humans can experience without getting all bent out of shape about it, because it knows no matter what we want, we can find a way to it (understanding what we TRULY want though can take some time), that any \u2018loss\u2019 can be compensated for in some way. <\/span><\/p>\n

All the \u2018stuff\u2019 we picked up here gets piled on top of that, and this energy can seem really far away, or even completely non-existent. No matter what is happening now, we can access that vibration, as Matt has experienced. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because again, it is already there. Something allowed us to cut through the crap, whether it was a powerful insight, a particular manifestation, an inspiring book or conversation, or something that we can\u2019t consciously pinpoint. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, as for staying in that energy ALL the time, let\u2019s not forget…<\/span><\/p>\n

Accepting Our Humanness and Belief In The Illusion<\/span><\/h4>\n

This is something that will fuck us up big time<\/em> if we don\u2019t constantly<\/em> remind ourselves of it. Because deep down, or maybe not so deep down, you are hoping all your personal development \u2018work\u2019 will leave you in some state completely devoid of emotion your mind has deemed unacceptable. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll breeze through your days in a state of total peace, completely unfazed by anything happening in your own life,immediate vicinity or the world at large. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cancer diagnosis? No problem…heal that right up with my mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

Betrayed by your best friend? No worries…my manifestation, taking total responsibility for my own feelings, all the while remembering no one can truly every hurt me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Boyfriend walked out on you after finding out you\u2019re pregnant? It\u2019s all good…I know for sure I\u2019ll find someone better, the money will come somehow and this challenge will help make me the best parent I can be. <\/span><\/p>\n

While all those reactions are totally possible, most of us would probably have to work our way up to them after some initial fear, panic, anger, freaking out,etc\u2026Most of us probably wouldn\u2019t be able to maintain our happiness, child-like wonder and excitement in the face of the variety of challenges us humans may face. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be happy all the time, every moment, without any interruptions. You\u2019ll \u2018use\u2019 the LOA to create your \u2018perfect\u2019 world where nary an inconvenience touches you. <\/span><\/p>\n

We have created quite a world for ourselves courtesy of a belief system that is oozing with all sorts of fears and limiting beliefs. Us humans can be arrogant little fucks, and we think we \u2018know\u2019 a lot more than we do, when the truth is we don’t know jack. <\/span><\/p>\n

When large groups of people are throwing energy behind all that crap, from a belief in scarcity \u00a0to believing certain problems are unsolvable, to intolerance of others, we can manifest some nasty stuff. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to forget beliefs are creating our human experience as a whole and not just our individual realities. And because we forget this, a lot of shitty-feeling, disempowering beliefs and perspectives seem very, very, add a million more very\u2019s, true. We take appearances as indisputable fact.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You will almost certainly never fully disengage from that. You\u2019ll hear all sorts of doom and gloom, from fears of financial collapse on a world-wide scale, to environmental disasters to terrorism and you’ll worry. You\u2019ll worry about getting sick. You may feel unsafe. <\/span><\/p>\n

You may truly believe some aspect of yourself, whether it be your race, sexual orientation or the environment in which you were raised, puts you at some sort of insurmountable disadvantage. You\u2019ll think things are unfair. You\u2019ll think certain people or other external entities have some sort of power over you, and you can\u2019t do anything about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, no, you may not always be able to access the \u2018best\u2019 vibration available and stay there as much as you would ideally want to. <\/span><\/p>\n

You Can Only Start Where You Are<\/span><\/h4>\n

There is a good chance you were drawn to a teaching like the law of attraction because you wanted something you currently don\u2019t have, whether it be money, a relationship, a healthy body, a job you like, etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

There is a good chance you were feeling badly about this to some degree or you wouldn\u2019t feel compelled to manifest it. You tend not to care about getting stuff you don\u2019t feel you want or need in the first place. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is a good chance your current \u2018energy\u2019 is in need of some work as you have likely picked up all sorts of limiting beliefs that don\u2019t serve you. It is likely you have a skewed view of yourself, from thinking you are not attractive enough to have a relationship to being undeserving of having lots of money. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, if this is the case, you almost can\u2019t help<\/em> but start this \u2018work\u2019 from a space of pain minimization. Your current state may be anywhere from feeling kind of blah and uninspired to downright miserable. <\/span><\/p>\n

You want certain things because you think you will feel better if you have them. The truth of the matter can take a while to sink in on deeper levels. This truth being the absence of these things isn\u2019t the true cause of your current discontent, it\u2019s all the meaning assigned to their absence. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your mind will fight you to the death on that one, but that doesn\u2019t make it not true. <\/span><\/p>\n

So right now, you may be very convinced you need something to happen in order for you to feel better; it\u2019s understandable. Our mind makes quite the strong case for this line of reasoning. <\/span><\/p>\n

Discovering a teaching like the law of attraction and all the advice about visualizing about what you want, etc…may have you thinking about this thing quite a bit, and its absence may seem to loom larger than it did before you got yourself into this whole conscious creation thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

You get more attached to it happening because you think you need it to happen, and the pain you were looking to minimize just gets bigger. And this makes you want to \u2018succeed\u2019 even more. It makes you more determined to make sure you are doing manifesting \u2018right.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

The pain of thinking something may never happen can pale in comparison to the pain of letting yourself want something, believing it might actually be possible, and then think you are \u2018failing\u2019 at manifesting it, or the Universe doesn\u2019t want to \u2018give\u2019 it to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can choose to stop manifesting from a space of pain minimization at any time…you really can. To decide we won\u2019t be happy unless certain things come, to insist a particular manifestation is the answer to our unhappiness in the present moment, is a CHOICE, even if it doesn\u2019t seem like it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to of course. It may be where you are right now, and totally detaching from what you want, and deciding to be happy now may not seem like something you can do, and that\u2019s okay. You\u2019ll get there. <\/span><\/p>\n

For some of you, it may not even be that you feel like you can\u2019t, but rather you are openly copping to the fact you simply WON\u2019T. And that\u2019s okay too. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can still manifest from this space, but it will be a harder road, with a lot more suffering than necessary; and sometimes this is the sort of stuff we need to go through first to really see it\u2019s not the way. Only after seeing the futility can we release this mode of operating more willingly. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to start from where you are, and work your way \u2018up the ladder.\u2019 These shifts are usually gradual but that doesn\u2019t mean it has to take a prolonged amount of time. If you are expecting to go from where you may be starting from now, to existing in a space of total trust, openness and what have you, in one shot, you may be setting yourself up for some bitter disappointment and major frustration. <\/span><\/p>\n

Things can start changing for you in any moment; any shift in energy can open up new possibilities. When it starts to sink in more deeply that the manifestations aren\u2019t really the answer to feeling better, it is easier to accept this process for what it is–a process. <\/span><\/p>\n

Gone are the days of trying to \u2018force\u2019 some super-high energy that is nowhere near where you are now, obsessing over every manifestation and its \u2018meaning, getting attached to potential channels, PEOPLE or opportunities, or suppressing your true feelings for fear of being \u2018negative.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

Seeing Our Feelings for What They Are<\/span><\/h4>\n

This can be a hard one to wrap our heads around, but one feeling is not better than another. Of course to us, it can certainly seem that way. We think it is \u2018better\u2019 to be happy than \u2018sad.\u2019 We think it is \u2018better\u2019 to be calm than angry.<\/span><\/p>\n

Since being happier and a \u2018better\u2019 person is the goal of our personal growth work, the \u2018good\u2019 feelings should be dominant. We \u2018shouldn\u2019t\u2019 feel the other ones as much, or at all. When they arise, we should squash them and be \u2018positive.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

The preference for certain feelings over another is understandable. I like feeling relaxed instead of anxious; I prefer being happy to being sad. So I get it. <\/span><\/p>\n

One of the things that will help us on this journey in a major way is working on suspending judgment of our feelings; of remembering what purpose they serve, and how ALL of them are okay. None need to be eliminated; none are \u2018wrong\u2019 or \u2018bad.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

Our feelings are simply messengers showing us how we are focusing. They alert us to beliefs and perspectives that are probably helpful to see, that we NEED to see in order to make the shifts required of us to allow something different to show up in our experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

The \u2018bad\u2019 ones aren\u2019t the end of the world. We can make great headway in allowing our feelings without getting sucked into them as much, and this makes them feel less intense and\/or shorten the duration.<\/span><\/p>\n

We really need to release this childish insistence on wanting to be happy all the damn time. And that is not meant as some sort of pessimistic \u2018life is tough\u2019 worldview. <\/span><\/p>\n

I simply mean we must develop a new relationship with the emotions to which we have so much aversion. We must realize we can have a great life and be a happy person while still feeling these sorts of feeling sometimes. <\/span><\/p>\n

This Question Illustrates Our #1 Problem<\/span><\/h4>\n

This question speaks to one of the hardest and most important lessons we must learn (one we may never fully learn, especially if you study something like the LOA)–so long as we work on becoming happier and feeling better simply to \u2018get\u2019 something we are going to experience all manner of suffering.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I totally get why we are doing this. I totally get why Matt asked this question–a really good question. <\/span><\/p>\n

We want certain things and we are told we need to get \u2018happier\u2019 to get them, that we must \u2018raise\u2019 our vibration. So that is what we try to do. <\/span><\/p>\n

But again, suffering, lots of suffering. That word might seem dramatic, but that is exactly what it is. <\/span><\/p>\n

We will worry what the \u2018proper\u2019 vibration is. We will worry whether we are being happy \u2018enough.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

We will suppress and deny energies that are fucking up our shit now, but we\u2019ll be afraid to deal with them because we don\u2019t want to feel \u2018icky\u2019 feelings, so nothing will change in any meaningful way, because the energies that created the undesirable in our life now, are not going anywhere. <\/span><\/p>\n

We will have moments of being able to access that higher vibration, but it will be short-lived when nothing shows up to give us a reason to maintain it. <\/span><\/p>\n

If our efforts at being happier and having a \u2018higher\u2019 vibration are solely to manifest something, when said something still isn\u2019t showing up, all that good energy tends to go right out the window, since it wasn\u2019t super-genuine in the first place. <\/span><\/p>\n

The improved emotional state wasn\u2019t the goal, it was a means to an end, and when that \u2018means\u2019 doesn\u2019t seem to be working, our mind isn\u2019t so gung-ho on continuing to use it. <\/span><\/p>\n

And this is the point where we swear up and down we are aligned with what we want, we have been feeling SO good, we believe what we want is possible, we have total trust and faith in the Universe and what have we gotten? Bupkis. <\/span><\/p>\n

We don\u2019t give a shit if we\u2019re happy, like truly happy, we just want our stuff. Our ego wants the satisfaction that comes from thinking the mind can \u2018control\u2019 reality and create whatever it wants.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now we may never work on feeling better for the sake of simply feeling better; we may not always have such a pure intent. And that’s fine. Just is what it is, and part of being human. Some sort of change in our emotional state is obviously necessary to allow a different reality to take shape for us.<\/p>\n

But what we can certainly make a sincere effort to do is work on feeling better now, not to get something, but because we will realize more clearly we don’t need to worry about all the things we worry about now, we are not alone in this, we are worthy and deserving for our sheer existence.<\/p>\n

As this energy change takes place, we have no choice but to manifest wonderful things. You can’t not attract, you can’t not create, as long as you are here living. Manifesting happens on the level of ‘being.’<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to want what you want, and there is no reason not to have it. But don\u2019t forget what you are really after at the end of the day–to feel better. That should be the end, not a means to some other end. <\/span><\/p>\n

So Which is \u2018Better?\u2019 <\/span><\/h4>\n

This is an interesting question and there really isn\u2019t some sort of definitive answer. I can only give my own perspective based on my own experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

The word \u2018happy\u2019 is used a lot to describe what we are after. <\/span><\/p>\n

And I imagine most of us view \u2018happiness\u2019 as some super \u2018high\u2019 energy where we are always brimming with enthusiasm and excitement; a sort of rush of energy always coursing through us–like Matt said, it feels very physically energized. We have the wonder of a child always; gratitude gushing from our being. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is a wonderful state to be in, but I don\u2019t think we can exist in this sort of state all the time. I guess technically it is possible, but given our conditioning to live outside in, sometimes being tasked with mundane, unexciting things like doing laundry, getting stuck in traffic, harboring expectations and attachments, and what not, lots of things can taint this sort of energy. As long as you want to live a worldly life, totally ridding yourself of the perspectives, beliefs and reactions that make you \u2018unhappy\u2019 will probably not happen. <\/span><\/p>\n

I actually got a lot \u2018happier\u2019 when I gave up this definition of happiness and the need to be in this sort of energy all the time. I felt I was trying to achieve something that wasn\u2019t possible, and I was beating myself up way too much for \u2018failing\u2019 at being \u2018happy.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

This state was so fleeting and being it in consistently felt so elusive. Constantly chasing something you feel like you can never catch feels really shitty.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I realized I could be happy without meeting this common definition of \u2018happiness\u2019 every waking moment. <\/span><\/p>\n

These high-energy states are great when I am in them, and I do my best to soak them up, but I also do my best not to get too attached to them and lament their absence. <\/span><\/p>\n

I work on trying to cultivate a sense of joy , and I think this can remain with me even in moments that are challenging because joy comes from seeing the \u2018truth\u2019 of reality, knowing you are loved and supported, knowing that no matter what is happening on the outside, it can and will be transformed so long as I believe this is so.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018Happiness\u2019 as we define it tends not to last in such moments since it is usually triggered by external circumstances our mind deems \u2018good\u2019 and worthy of happiness; and our mind is probably not going to feel that way about financial lack, a nasty divorce, feeling lonely or struggling with a health problem. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will not be able to stay in a \u2018happy\u2019 state for very long, if you think getting something in particular is necessary for your happiness, if acquiring this thing is your primary motivation for being \u2018happy.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n

Unless you can TOTALLY release on the tendency to live outside in, and TOTALLY embrace the idea nothing outside of you can truly make you happy, \u00a0staying that way all the time will be impossible<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll take \u2018peace\u2019 over \u2018happiness\u2019 any day. Matt used the word \u2018indifference\u2019 and that can have a negative connotation and I don\u2019t know if I would use it particularly, though it is sort of accurate. I prefer \u2018detachment.\u2019 \u2018<\/span><\/p>\n

Attachment is painful; trying hard to be \u2018happy\u2019 and not being able to get there all the time is painful. Trying to force higher emotional states so you don\u2019t have to deal with the \u2018lower\u2019 ones you may be feeling now is painful. Trying to get \u2018happy\u2019 just to get your \u2018stuff\u2019 is painful. <\/span><\/p>\n

By cultivating a greater sense of \u2018peace\u2019 about life, you will find you can maintain that no matter what is happening, and that\u2019s priceless because the real cause of our suffering is not what is happening, but how it is making us feel. <\/span><\/p>\n

By feeling at \u2018peace\u2019 knowing the Universe has your back–provided you hold up your end of the bargain energetically<\/em>–all the \u2018stuff\u2019 you think you need to \u2018do\u2019 to manifest is not necessary. You won\u2019t worry about the \u2018right\u2019 or \u2018best\u2019 vibration. <\/span><\/p>\n

The lack of resistance is the real key to manifesting, not \u2018happiness\u2019 as we define it. So the thing you must be paying attention to is not how ‘happy’ you are and how ‘high’ your vibration is, but how much you have honestly transformed the beliefs and perspectives that don’t support allowing this better-feeling state to take place naturally and with minimal effort.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Your Turn<\/span><\/p>\n

What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? What are your most desired feelings?<\/p>\n

Have a question you think would make a good blog post? Submit it here<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

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