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When you start studying the law of attraction, you will start hearing certain concepts mentioned quite often–detachment and alignment being two of the biggies. And with good reason. <\/span><\/p>\n Energetically, they are very important. Detachment is basically not obsessing over what you want. Alignment is getting into an energetic space where your predominant thoughts, feelings and beliefs are one that would support your ability to receive this thing. <\/span><\/p>\n When you really think about it, this is basically the recipe for manifesting–seems easy enough, no? .But like I always like to say–the theory of manifesting and the \u2018reality\u2019 of manifesting can be worlds apart. I would say there are very few people who have been instilled with the thought system that acknowledges the true nature of ourselves and the Universe, thus allowing manifesting to be as easy as it is supposed to be. <\/span><\/p>\n We have things like limiting beliefs, fears, a messed-up self-image, and a mind that can\u2019t come close to understanding what is really going on and what we truly want. <\/span><\/p>\n This post is courtesy of the below question, and when thinking about how I would answer it, I realized there are like a million different things you could discuss when it comes to such broad issues.<\/span><\/p>\n Not because it is inherently hard to do these things but because we have so much \u2018stuff\u2019 that complicates the process. But I think there are a few core things to keep in mind for detaching and aligning that can move things along nicely in the energy department, and lead us to torture ourselves a little less throughout this process.<\/span><\/p>\n I\u2019ve a question about your job interview strategy (this is referring to something I mentioned in my last post answering a question about how you manifest \u2018good\u2019 things while being \u2018negative.\u2019 . You said you\u2019ve always been confident and that that\u2019s helped you vibe high enough to breeze through the interviews and even get offers without any worries. I\u2019m looking for opportunities now and wanted to know how to get truly detached from landing a job. I seem to touch on the border of detachment, but it\u2019s like chasing a dream once you\u2019ve woken up. I interview well, I\u2019m enthusiastic about the job itself (dream job, really gets me happy just thinking about it), I \u201cdo\u201d what I need to action-wise (follow-up, network), and I work on staying in a positive place more (your 51-49 tidbit).<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n I also worked on writing up my trust wins to make my own \u201ctrust fund\u201d a la Ryan\u2019s post. How do I stay positively aligned and detached? Does a moment of weakness when I want the job undo any good from sporadic detachment? When people ask about my current employable status, and tell me to settle because I\u2019m being too picky (when I know that their suggested jobs are terrible fits, and I\u2019ve no guarantee of landing those with my current resume\/qualifications), how do I protect my alignment\/detachment?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n Jan<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n Jan\u2019s concern about her moments of \u2018weakness\u2019 perfectly illustrate one of the core issues we have with conscious creation. Upon learning it is our energy and state of mind that creates our reality, we become particularly conscious of the moments when we may not be feeling so great–we\u2019re feeling \u2018negative,\u2019 we\u2019re scared we won\u2019t get what we want, we feel doubtful, we get really sucked into the current appearances,etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n And because we have been led to believe we must be relentlessly positive in every moment, we get kind of freaked out every time we are not feeling fully detached and aligned. And the moments of \u2018weakness\u2019 aren\u2019t so much the problem as our reaction to them, and the fear that gets activated we aren\u2019t doing manifesting \u2018right\u2019 and nothing is going to change. <\/span><\/p>\n In my experience, that energy is much more powerful than the energy behind the particular thoughts and feelings we may be experiencing in the moment. <\/span><\/p>\n Sure, we need to pay more attention to our inner world now that we have decided we will be more conscious in shaping our experience, rather than doing it more by default. But that doesn\u2019t mean trying to craft this version of ourselves where nary a \u2018negative\u2019 thought crosses our mind. <\/span><\/p>\n Given our typical conditioning, it is highly likely you will have moments of worrying you won\u2019t find a new job, get married, improve your finances or whatever else you have set your sights on. To expect otherwise will set the stage for a whole lot of suffering and you will be adding more \u2018muck\u2019 to your energy unnecessarily. <\/span><\/p>\n When you can acknowledge a thought or feeling without getting emotionally invested in it, you can let it go more easily. There is less energy being activated behind it. <\/span><\/p>\n It\u2019s not like every time you think some \u2018negative\u2019 thought you lose any \u2018positive\u2019 energy you have banked and you are back to square one. <\/span><\/p>\n That whatever it is you are consciously desiring isn\u2019t what you actually want can be a game-changer if there ever was one, but unfortunately, this is a perspective your mind has a very hard time buying into. <\/span><\/p>\n It makes a very excellent case as to why it is specifically the money, the relationship, the new job,etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n But what is actually happening is your current situation feels a certain way to you that is unpleasant and you have decided certain manifestations will fix that. <\/span><\/p>\n Someone may vehemently insist it is money he wants–after all, bills to pay and what not. But it isn\u2019t–it\u2019s a feeling. If someone was having issues paying his bills on time but it didn\u2019t bother him, he wouldn\u2019t care so much about finding ways to get more money. <\/span><\/p>\n He is not experiencing all the lovely things we experience when we are struggling financially that make us so attached to manifesting money and make it so hard to get aligned with it energetically. <\/span><\/p>\n Someone may vehemently insist it is a husband and children–after all, she is really lonely and wants a family so clearly that is exactly what she wants. But if being single and not having children did not create any sort of negative feelings, she probably wouldn\u2019t have any major attachment to these particular things happening for her. <\/span><\/p>\n One of the reasons we struggle so much with aligning and detaching is we are almost always first drawn to working with a teaching like the law of attraction with the aim of \u2018fixing\u2019 something in our lives that seems broken. We are lacking certain things, we feel badly about that and this concept gives us hope we can change the situation. And it is really hard to detach from things we feel we must have to be happy, that are clearly the only answer to making the ick go away. <\/span><\/p>\n Our mind is operating from a space of simply minimizing the pain rather than maximizing our well-being and allowing in all sorts of awesomeness on a regular basis. If it can just get X, Y or Z, you\u2019ll feel better and will no longer have to contend with these feelings, and that is pretty much the extent of its goals.<\/span><\/p>\n When you think about it, it is such a waste of our creative capabilities. It is a waste of the Universe\u2019s awesome ability to deliver us the things we truly want, that would be the best representations of the energies we crave in our lives. <\/span><\/p>\n This doesn\u2019t mean giving up on the things you want–there is no reason not to have a new job, a relationship or more money. But if you are willing to buy into the idea this isn\u2019t actually what you truly want, even a little bit, it gets a whole lot easier to detach. And the more detached we are, the more easily we align energetically with all sorts of great things. <\/span><\/p>\n When I talk about this, I want to make it super-clear I am not talking about spending hours on end each day examining and \u2018working\u2019 on your vibration. I am not saying you must be constantly monitoring your emotional state and the thoughts running through your head. <\/span><\/p>\n But if you are serious about being a conscious creator, this is a non-negotiable. Again, the reason we have so much trouble detaching and aligning is because we feel badly now in some way and our mind thinks these manifestations are the ticket to making it go away. <\/span><\/p>\n And we can get really fixated on engaging in all the tools and techniques to try and manifest what we want. This tends to just make us focus even more on the fact we don\u2019t have something. <\/span><\/p>\n And we tend to miss out on the most important part of the manifesting equation–our overall energy, just feeling good for the sake of it. This higher vibration lends itself to all sorts of great things making their way in. <\/span><\/p>\n Again, the lack of whatever it is you want isn\u2019t the reason you feel badly–when that really starts to sink in, we give ourselves permission to actually start feeling better now. <\/span><\/p>\n And feeling better overall is key to alignment–remember it is our energy that creates. It really isn\u2019t the specific \u2018work\u2019 we do in terms of tools and the like. It isn\u2019t thinking about what we want. <\/span><\/p>\n So you do want to develop some consistency here. If there are particular tools you really like, do them on a regular basis. <\/span><\/p>\n You might experiment with a few and see what sticks. You may find you really enjoy affirmations or writing out the way you want your life to be in the \u00a0present tense as if it\u2019s already happened. <\/span><\/p>\n Make your self-care a priority–do you need to make any tweaks there? Maybe it is making more time for exercise. Maybe you need to scale back on some commitments. Maybe you need to make more time for your hobbies. <\/span><\/p>\n A lot of people take \u2018detach\u2019 to mean never thinking about what you want and not caring whether you get it. Actually, this approach could work quite well, but let\u2019s be real. This is highly unlikely, especially since we are often approaching manifesting from that space of feeling lack and need, often quite strongly.<\/span><\/p>\n So no, you don\u2019t have to somehow force yourself to never think about what you want; you can want what you want and it\u2019s okay you want certain things.<\/span><\/p>\n Detachment is more about releasing the worry, the need to control and manipulate, trying to force things through action. It\u2019s about trusting the \u2018order\u2019 has been placed and being open to how things unfold. <\/span><\/p>\n It is about knowing the Universe always has your back and is set up to work for us and not against us–provided we hold up our end of the bargain energetically by believing this is so of course. <\/span><\/p>\n It is about knowing our true control lies in managing our energy, not trying to manipulate reality so we can manifest exactly what our mind wants–it is often way off the mark, thinking way too small and again, is just trying to minimize pain rather than maximize your well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n This is the part of the process we would rather do without. If we can just nail this whole manifesting thing, we can get all the stuff we think will make us feel better and we don’t have to worry about any of that ‘inner work’ bullshit. Would be nice, but again, what you want isn’t really the true answer to your emotional woes, from feeling not good enough to feeling a lack of security.<\/p>\n To truly align more consistently with the energies that will serve you, you’re gonna have to deal with the ones that aren’t. This really isn’t as scary and unpleasant as we worry it will be. It may not feel great, but it’s gotta be done or all the crap getting in the way of your better life isn’t going to go anywhere and will continue to be dominant.<\/p>\n No amount of affirmations or staring at a vision board will override these deeply ingrained feelings, beliefs and perspectives.<\/p>\n So, when you think about something you want and it feels badly, that is what you have to look at. What is specifically floating around in that wonderful brain of yours that is making you feel this way? Don’t be afraid to look at these things–if it’s there it’s there so you have to deal with it. That is really what it comes down to.<\/p>\n What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? Any suggestions on detaching and aligning that work well for you? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When you start studying the law of attraction, you will start hearing certain concepts mentioned quite often–detachment and alignment being two of the biggies. And with good reason. Energetically, they are very important. Detachment is basically not obsessing over what you want. 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Understand What You Actually Want<\/span><\/h4>\n
Your Energy Must Be a Priority<\/span><\/h4>\n
What It Really Means to Detach<\/span><\/h4>\n
Gotta Deal with Your Shit<\/span><\/h4>\n
Your Turn<\/span><\/h4>\n