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A teaching like the law of attraction can certainly spark hope for a better life. You realize that maybe, just maybe, it is possible for things to change, that you are not doomed to your current existence which you hate in various ways. You are exposed to a new paradigm for how the world works, you are presented with a different estimation of who you are and that which you are capable of achieving. <\/span><\/p>\n Emotionally, there is some stuff brewing; intuitively you feel there is something to this idea. Knowing your life experience up until now has no bearing on what is possible moving forward brings a great sense of relief. <\/span><\/p>\n But naturally, there is that part of you that still isn\u2019t sure. You just can\u2019t possibly see how you\u2019ll get from A to B. Your life experience has done quite a bang up job of supporting your current beliefs, and your mind isn\u2019t so keen to just let go in favor of new ones. <\/span><\/p>\n So here are some thoughts on keeping the faith, and committing to this work on your energy even in the face of doubt and uncertainty.<\/span><\/p>\n In most cases, a manifestation will not drop into your lap in its full form out of nowhere though it certainly sometimes can so don\u2019t rule it out. The main thing I\u2019m getting at is: don\u2019t look at the law of attraction as some sort of \u2018magic.\u2019 Anyway…<\/p>\n Your business may not become a success literally overnight; you might not book yourself solid with clients within the first three days of offering your consulting or coaching services. <\/span><\/p>\n You might not meet your future husband the day after you envision who he is. You might not get crystal clear clarity on exactly what you want out of life or what your \u2018purpose\u2019 is in the span of a weekend. <\/span><\/p>\n You might not land your dream job within a week of deciding you hate your current one. You may not fall ass backwards into a pile of money after saying a few affirmations. <\/span><\/p>\n Things usually unfold over time and one thing leads to another. Manifestations appear that serve as \u2018breadcrumbs.\u2019 They contribute to the various pieces of the puzzle in some way. They provide a sense of contrast, helping you hone in more specifically on what you want and like. <\/span><\/p>\n The combinations of circumstances that can lead you to where you want to be are literally infinite and your mind simply isn\u2019t capable of calculating them. The Universe can mobilize resources in ways we can\u2019t begin to fathom. <\/span><\/p>\n That you can\u2019t see how something would unfold is in no way, shape or form, an indicator it isn\u2019t possible. <\/span><\/p>\n So, be okay with not knowing exactly how it will all play out. I know that makes us uncomfortable because that means ceding control and trying to do it all ourselves. But the Universe can handle it much better than we can–it just needs us to hold up our end of the bargain energetically. <\/span><\/p>\n Right now, as hard as it may be, don\u2019t put so much focus on that end result, waiting for that specific thing to happen. Keep an eye towards that next step. Follow your intuition. Do whatever feels good, even if it doesn\u2019t seem to be related to the specific manifestation as you never know the role it may play. <\/span><\/p>\n For example, you get an urge to take that yoga class you have always been meaning to take, and in your state of relaxed bliss, you have a major epiphany about your life that provides crystal clear clarity on your next step; or you meet someone who works in your field and sets you up for an awesome interview at your dream job. <\/span><\/p>\n And when taking that next step, do your best to be open to what it is showing you–there is always something to be learned from any decision we make, any path we take so nothing is ever wasted, nor can you make a mistake. Don\u2019t get attached to any specific result or outcome from whatever it is you are doing. <\/span><\/p>\n Ah, your mind just loves this perspective doesn\u2019t it? But it\u2019s really true. Whatever it is you want really isn\u2019t what you want anyway, so no need to get so attached to making it happen or worrying it won\u2019t happen. Problem solved…beautiful. Only if it were that easy! <\/span><\/p>\n Your mind has translated energies into a specific desire–it needs something on which to focus. The desire for love and connection translates as wanting a boyfriend. The desire for security and freedom translates to wanting more money. The desire to lead others translates to wanting that promotion. <\/span><\/p>\n This isn\u2019t to say you shouldn\u2019t want specific things–I think us humans have a core group of wants that are certainly okay to desire and realizing these manifestations can certainly enhance our lives. Things like relationships, money and meaningful work. <\/span><\/p>\n I sense the Universe knows this and is gung ho to deliver all these things, provided we cultivate an energy that lends itself to their arrival. <\/span><\/p>\n So don\u2019t worry, not telling you to give up on these things; if you stop focusing on them with a laser-like intensity, that doesn\u2019t mean they won\u2019t come. What you want is written all over your vibration. <\/span><\/p>\n But when you can remember that these things are merely a representation of a deeper want, it is easy to relax a bit as you work on manifesting them. You realize they are not the end-all-be-all to your happiness. That sense of need–which often precedes anything we want–can dissipate somewhat. <\/span><\/p>\n When you realize you are after something deeper, like particular feelings, you can get to work on seeing how you can cultivate those feelings now, even if a specific manifestation has not made its way in.<\/span><\/p>\n And in doing this, you get to start feeling better now. That is all you really want at the end of the day…burn this idea into your brain. <\/span><\/p>\n And another aspect of this idea is the fact that what our mind wants may not be the best representation of what we really want. We may have some screwy energies driving our desires now. The things we may want to manifest really aren\u2019t serving our highest good and happiness; they are serving our ego, and we know the good old ego can be kind of fucked up in a variety of ways. <\/span><\/p>\n When our mind dictates our wants and vision for our life, we are usually selling ourselves really short; we are usually going to be way off the mark when it comes to cultivating our best life and versions of ourselves. It is important to realize that your mind is trying to manifest from a space of minimizing pain, rather than maximizing happiness and well-being. <\/span><\/p>\n For example, you may be really attached to gaining a management position at your job because you feel really inferior and being able to boss people around will make you feel better, or you feel like this is where you \u2018should\u2019 be by now at this point in your career, a career you may not even like very much. <\/span><\/p>\n Anytime we try to manifest from a space of some sort of lack, inferiority, not feeling good enough,etc…we\u2019re probably not going to feel better even if we happen to manifest this thing because the \u2018thing\u2019 was never the answer to feeling better. It was working through our shit. <\/span><\/p>\n You probably won\u2019t be able to help focusing on certain things–that\u2019s fine. It can be good to have something on which to focus your energy, something to help you uncover any forms of resistance or your true agendas. <\/span><\/p>\n But do your best to be open to what your manifestations have to look like. Be willing to concede, even just a little bit, that your mind doesn\u2019t know best what would make you happiest, and that its particular wants may not be the ticket. <\/span><\/p>\n When you focus more on cultivating the energies you are really after, they become more dominant in your vibration, and things will start to show up that mirror them back to you. This is when the really cool stuff begins to happen. You manifest things that are super-awesome that you never even knew you wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n You manifest a version of what you want that is so much grander and better than what your mind wanted. You may realize that certain things you want aren\u2019t what you even want at all, and you now have a clearer idea of what you are really looking to create.<\/span><\/p>\n This advice really applies to anyone but it is particularly relevant in this case. <\/span><\/p>\n Manifesting often takes on a very action-oriented approach–we are obsessed with the tools, techniques and what we can \u2018do.\u2019 We anxiously await the inspired action because we are still in \u2018doing\u2019 mode, control mode. <\/span><\/p>\n And all of this factors into the process for sure. The tools and techniques give us something to sink our teeth into; they are excellent for shifting energies and helping us focus in a way that serves us. Inspired action certainly plays a role in the realization of many a manifestation. <\/span><\/p>\n That conscious, consistent engagement with our energy is a non-negotiable. I would recommend spending at least a few minutes each day doing something, whether it is meditating, affirming, making a gratitude list…whatever floats your boat. <\/span><\/p>\n There are shifts that need to be made there and they probably aren\u2019t just going to happen by merely telling ourselves we are going to think and feel differently–though that alone can get things moving in the right direction without a doubt. <\/span><\/p>\n But all this \u2018work\u2019 can work against us, and this is particularly true when your current reality seems to be really far from your desired one. The absence of what you want begins to loom large, and you may feel even worse about your circumstances and prospects than you did when you didn\u2019t think you had a chance in hell of making any of these things happen. <\/span><\/p>\n You start feeling a lot of pressure to take control of your vibration and force \u2018positivity\u2019 into a space where there isn\u2019t quite enough room for it to take hold yet. <\/span><\/p>\n We certainly have control over our reality but that control lies in managing our energy, not being able to force outside circumstances to mold in any particular way on our exact timetable. <\/span><\/p>\n Prioritize your well-being and make time to do anything that brings any sort of relief, anything that makes you feel better. These sorts of activities are just as integral to the manifestation process as are \u2018official\u2019 tools like affirmations, vision boards and the like. <\/span><\/p>\n In fact, they can be even more effective in my opinion because they are helping you accomplish the goal that underlies all your goals–to feel better. The better you feel, the ‘cleaner’ your energy, and the easier it is for a variety of beneficial manifestations to work their way in.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n The bottom line to remember is, no matter where you are now, you are not destined to stay there. You get to have what you want, but just remember that what that ultimately is may look a bit, or a lot, different than what you may be envisioning now. The path to getting there may look really different than the one your mind is trying its hardest to map out.<\/p>\n Ultimately you want to be happier, and that is never off the table, no matter what. 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What You Want Isn’t What You Really Want Anyway<\/h4>\n
Throw Some Energy Behind Your Desires but Don’t Go Overboard<\/h4>\n
Your Turn…<\/h4>\n