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According to a teaching like the law of attraction, all our experiences are a mirror of something going on in our inner world. Nothing happens randomly; there is something in our energy field that makes us a match to it.<\/p>\n
What that something is isn\u2019t always obvious much to our frustration, but that\u2019s a story for another day.<\/p>\n
Today I am answering a question that allows me to go into some detail about tuning inward to get a better idea of why certain things may be happening to us. It’s actually not as complicated or as much of a mystery as we may think.<\/p>\n
I’d like your insight as to why something keeps happening to me – the universe brings me something I ask for, then immediately starts giving me problems with it.<\/em><\/p>\n For instance, the universe provided me with the gently used car I asked for but immediately it started having a bunch of stupid little problems that caused me a lot of stress. The universe gave me the foster dog I asked for, but it had some major issues that immediately caused me stress. <\/em><\/p>\n It seems like whenever I do get something I asked for, I get kicked in the pants for it and can’t enjoy it as I’d like to! I realize nothing is perfect, but I would expect to at least be able to enjoy these things for awhile before something going wrong. Thoughts?<\/em><\/p>\n Pam<\/em><\/p>\n Based on the question, it seems like this conscious creator is having this sort of outcome happen quite frequently. Now we get in theory the inner world creates the outer world, but it can often take awhile before we make a habit of turning inward and seeing what\u2019s going on in the department of our thoughts, beliefs and feelings.<\/p>\n It is likely that Pam has some sort of belief that things can\u2019t ever go smoothly, that there will always be some sort of problem, and things along those lines. Only she can know and will have to give this some thought.<\/p>\n This sort of belief is very common and can have far-reaching consequences, affecting things in our life both big and small.<\/p>\n Manifestations are always very personal and trigger exactly what would be helpful for us to see. These situations brought this issue to light and now she is getting a better idea of what is happening in her inner world.<\/p>\n The manifestations made her feel a certain way and are revealing to her an energy that has some good momentum behind it.<\/p>\n She is creating the situation–and remember, owning our role isn\u2019t about blaming ourselves.<\/p>\n The Universe isn\u2019t just fucking with her, giving her stuff she wants but then making it \u2018defective\u2019 in some way so it causes all sorts of grief. It isn\u2019t punishing her or trying to teach her some sort of \u2018lesson.\u2019<\/p>\n It is just a neutral force delivering experiences based on what we have been throwing out there. When we change what we\u2019re putting out there, our experiences have to change along with it.<\/p>\n Oy, this is where we really start over-complicating the process of manifesting. We are always on the lookout for what we can \u2018do\u2019 to change our limiting beliefs.<\/p>\n We make it way harder than it has to be, struggle mightily and then despair we\u2019ll never make the shifts necessary to effect any real change in our experience.<\/p>\n But it\u2019s actually not that hard to change beliefs. The most powerful thing you can do is simply decide you won\u2019t believe it anymore.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t underestimate the amount of energy this can activate in favor of the beliefs that will serve you and weaken the energy of the current belief.<\/p>\n In this case, one of the best things she can do is look to examples in her life when she received something and it was fine–nothing went wrong, nothing bad happened.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t matter how small the incident. Nothing is insignificant and each example serves as \u2018proof\u2019 that the belief that things always go wrong or always have a problem isn\u2019t actually true.<\/p>\n The things about beliefs is they tend to be absolute–always, never. On an intellectual level we may realize to some degree that this isn\u2019t true, but emotionally, we are dealing in absolutes.<\/p>\n And even just one piece of evidence to the contrary starts breaking down this belief.<\/p>\n And as this belief breaks down, she can start putting some energy behind the expectation that things will go well, go off without a hitch, she will receive something and there will be no problems with it.<\/p>\n How to build that energy comes down to resonance. She might come up with an affirmation. She might write out how she wants various scenarios to play out. She might engage in a visualization.<\/p>\n The tool itself doesn\u2019t matter as it doesn\u2019t have any power in and of itself. It is useful insofar as it helps shift her focus and create positive expectation.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying this is what Pam was doing–these manifestations were significant for her because again, they were showing her something she really needed to see and giving her an opportunity to work on an energy that likely has a lot of power of behind it.<\/p>\n But this issue did bring this little wisdom nugget to mind and I wanted to mention it.<\/p>\n Now, the situations Pam mentioned aren\u2019t exactly big, huge issues and there are countless perspectives one could adopt for any given manifestation, countless reactions.<\/p>\n .But they triggered certain feelings in her and had significance because they were revealing a problematic belief that like I said before, can have far-reaching consequences and manifest in all sorts of unpleasant ways.<\/p>\n Shifting a belief like this can make a huge impact on our lives. It is good she is catching this now rather than letting the energy keep building; when we do that, the manifestations tend to get bigger and nastier, until we can\u2019t ignore them anymore.<\/p>\n It is important to pay attention to how the things we manifest make us feel. When we have strong reactions to something, when we keep manifesting situations that produce similar unpleasant feelings,etc…it\u2019s important to take a look.<\/p>\n But just be careful not to fall into the trap of trying to \u2018use\u2019 the law of attraction to create some \u2018perfect\u2019 existence where nary an inconvenience touches you.<\/p>\n We can\u2019t \u2018use\u2019 the law of attraction to demand that every situation turn out the way our mind wants it to. We can control our experience through managing our energy, but not by controlling everything that happens in our outer reality.<\/p>\n Shit happens sometimes and it\u2019s better to just shake it off rather than go into over-analysis mode. Sometimes you might have a rude waitress, sometimes you might have car trouble, sometimes you\u2019ll lose stuff, sometimes your dog will get sick.<\/p>\n I imagine in my own life for example, there are things that happen that might not happen as much if I did a bit of ‘work’ but I have bigger fish to fry energetically. I just work on choosing to respond differently so it doesn’t bother me as much.<\/p>\n As I work to cultivate certain energies and beliefs, things just tend to go more smoothly overall.<\/p>\n Again,strong reactions, lots of manifestations that all have a similar shitty feeling–that stuff you want to look at.<\/p>\n When it comes to things in your life that are important, like finding a relationship, changing your financial situation, making your dream business a success, you\u2019\u2019ll want to be more diligent with working on your energy.<\/p>\n Those bigger issues tend to have a lot of energetic \u2018shit\u2019 around them and we\u2019ll have to pay more attention to what is happening so we can do the proper \u2018work\u2019 on our energy.<\/p>\n So, that\u2019s my thoughts on that. Hope you found it helpful.<\/p>\n What did you think? Anything resonate in particular? Have you experienced a similar situation of always seeming to manifest the same thing over and over?<\/p>\nThere Seems to Be an Expectation of a Certain Outcome<\/h4>\n
Changing the Belief<\/h4>\n
Be Careful of Using the Law of Attraction to Micromanage Your Life<\/h4>\n
Your Turn<\/h4>\n