Today I’ll be addressing some law of attraction questions I received from one of my awesome readers. Getting a lot of good stuff lately that makes for really good blog post topics, so thanks for that.<\/p>\n
I have a question regarding law of attraction. I have witnessed some positive outcomes by practicing LOA. But because of the realization of the power of the mind and its ability to attract and create I’m a bit afraid of my own mind. <\/em><\/p>\n I have been afraid that I will lose all the people I love, or people I care about will die. This is very horrible but can’t help it. These scary thoughts popping in my head constantly. Knowing that I will attract what I fear by constantly feeling and thinking those fearful thoughts makes me even more scared. I’m sorry if i sound stupid–you don’t<\/strong>— but please help me understand Kelli. Will I attract all these fearful things\/situations to my life.?I’m having a great amount of anxiety because of this.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Discovering who we really are, and that we are imbued with the same creative force that created everything in the Universe is pretty freaking awesome. But it can also be really freaking scary, am I right?<\/p>\n We are so used to feeling powerless. We are used to not getting what we want. We are used to relegating our deepest desires to the realm of fantasy.<\/p>\n We are used to contending with all the pain, regret, frustration, resentment, hopelessness and other ick that comes with not living an authentic life and doing what we think we ‘should’ do, because we figure that is just how life is.<\/p>\n We are so used to pointing to\/blaming things outside of ourselves for out lot,and why we can’t have the life we want, such as our government, crappy childhood, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, spouses, financial situation, the country in which we were born…the list could go on and on.<\/p>\n It feels really badly to think we don’t have much of a say in how our life turns out, but it is a line of thinking to which we have become quite accustomed.<\/p>\n We think that is just how it is, and sometimes maybe we’ll get some scraps of the good stuff here and there. We look at people who have all the stuff we want, and we come up with all sorts of reasons they are able to have these things, from having rich parents to just being ‘lucky,’ and why it just isn’t possible for us.<\/p>\n We live small, and feel generally okay about it because we figure we probably couldn’t get what we want anyway; we get to stay in our comfort zones no matter how unpleasant,and avoid all the ‘stuff’ that would inevitably arise if we allowed ourselves to make the changes we want to make deep down.<\/p>\n We look at the variety of shitty stuff happening in various areas of the world, and conclude all this ‘living to your greatest potential’ shit is just indulgent,and an opportunity only available to a select few, and it lets us off the hook.<\/p>\n This is just your mind playing games in an attempt to keep things just as they are. Not letting our light shine its brightest is in no way serving anyone, or any positive purpose. You’re not doing anyone any favors by taking a stand against living your best life because you believe this is not an option available to everyone. It’s not like passing up that opportunity is somehow going to transfer it to someone else more ‘in need’ of it.<\/p>\n When you start to realize you actually do have this power to shape your experience, all of this crap comes tumbling down, and as welcome as that turn of events may be on some level, it can also be kind of terrifying.<\/p>\n Because this isn’t just about developing some new beliefs, this is about completely adopting a whole new way of moving through the world. The whole foundation on which you built your life has to be completely revamped. You are forging a whole new identity.<\/p>\n All bets are off as far as this limited way of thinking and living are concerned, and you actually get to have a say in your happiness, and how your life turns out. No more excuses; no more blaming;no more playing small; no more settling;no more doing shit you don’t want to do because you think there is no other choice; no more playing it safe<\/p>\n Totally awesome but totally unfamiliar; and anything unfamiliar is always scary, no matter how ‘good’ it may seem, no matter how much we want it.<\/p>\n This really wasn’t the type of fear the question was addressing, but it is definitely related, and it is really important to address, so I did.<\/p>\n Now in order to quell his fears, it is important to understand…<\/p>\n One of the reasons people struggle so much with manifesting is because there can be a bit of misunderstanding as far as the nature of this reality-creating power. Our mind takes this to mean that we can exert total control over our outer reality, and create things just to our liking.<\/p>\n Our mind likes that, because our mind likes to control; it gets very attached to specific manifestations, and insists that they are exactly what must show up in order to make us happy.<\/p>\n But here’s the thing…your power does not lie in shaping your outer reality, it lies in managing your vibration, and in doing that, you can ensure you manifest things that reflect that energy back to you, in a variety of forms.<\/p>\n Will you sometimes manifest exact things you visualized or sense would happen? Absolutely.<\/p>\n And that is because that thing happened to be the perfect representation of your desire. Your intuition was cluing you into something that was in the process of manifesting, and then it actually happened in your physical reality.<\/p>\n If you’re emanating love, you’ll attract all sorts of things that make you feel loved; if you’re emanating abundance, you’ll attract all sorts of things that make you feel abundant, like money.<\/p>\n But,you can’t make a specific person be the one who gives you that love; you can’t make your boss pick you for the promotion that will get you that abundance.<\/p>\n The reader mentioned a worry about making people die…you can’t manifest in someone else’s reality. And that holds true even in instances where someone else had a hand in a person’s death\u2014that person was making his transition and it happened to manifest in that way for reasons that an ‘outsider’ can’t really discern; but that’s getting into ‘shit we’ll never fully understand with our minds’ territory, and off topic.<\/p>\n If you are lusting after someone who already has a boyfriend, the Universe isn’t going to come in and off him so you can get the girl.<\/p>\n If you are wishing someone would die\u2014which I imagine isn’t something anyone interested in any sort of personal growth topic is doing\u2014again, no dice.<\/p>\n If you happen to have bad feelings towards someone you are not putting her in danger. The Universe won’t arrange for her demise in order to make you feel better, and remove a potential block to your happiness.<\/p>\n If you are in competition with someone else for a job or whatever else, your wanting whatever you want isn’t going to make something ‘bad’ happen to someone else so it is ensured you get it, and he doesn’t.<\/p>\n If you have a great fear of being abandoned, you are not setting\u00a0up the\u00a0people you love to meet their demise, as a way of that fear being mirrored back to you.<\/p>\n So the bottom line is, don’t worry about your ‘power’ negatively impacting people. Other people aren’t going to have to ‘lose’ for you to ‘gain.’ That belief comes from the old world thinking that is rooted in beliefs such as scarcity, life is ‘unfair’, and all that jazz.<\/p>\n Realizing the\u00a0power or our mind, it is typical for those of us studying a concept like the law of attraction to start becoming hyper aware of all our thoughts. We obsess and worry that every negative thought will now come to fruition somehow.<\/p>\n That we attract what we think about isn’t a wholly accurate way to describe how the law of attraction works. Our thoughts are certainly indicative of our energy, beliefs we hold,etc…but as for all the thoughts we have manifesting exactly as they are, that really isn’t true.<\/p>\n So, if you worry about\u00a0your boyfriend cheating on you all the time, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are going to manifest cheating.<\/p>\n There is a more ‘general’ energy\/belief that is being translated into this\u00a0particular fearful situation; this more general fear could be being betrayed by someone or that you can’t trust\u00a0people, and if there is a lot of energy there, it could manifest in a different way, such as finding out your business\u00a0partner was stealing from you, or a close friend breaking a confidence.<\/p>\n So no, worrying about something that doesn’t mean that exact thing is going to happen to you; but our\u00a0predominant<\/em> vibration will affect what shows up for us, and if that vibration is one that is full of thoughts, feelings and beliefs that contain fear, anxiety, feeling unsafe, being mistrustful of others, things always going wrong,etc…you’re going to attract a bunch of stuff that will trigger all those feelings, and obviously we’re\u00a0probably not going to like it very much.<\/p>\n Don’t obsess about your negative thoughts–this just gives them more\u00a0power. There is a good chance you have all sorts of beliefs and energies that support the ‘good’ stuff that you aren’t even consciously aware of, and that helps balance out the ‘bad’ vibrations. As you work on your energy consciously, you build more momentum behind that\u00a0positive energy, and there is a lot of\u00a0power there.<\/p>\n A random negative thought doesn’t indicate you actually believe this thing could happen to you–for example, you may worry about getting into a car accident in bad weather, which is an understandable thought; but your general experience with driving has been good, and you feel safe, and that one thought isn’t going to set you\u00a0up for an accident.<\/p>\n But if you do have excessive fears about bad things manifesting for you, it is crucial you examine those fears and beliefs more closely, and do what you can to shift them.<\/p>\n Does following the call to become a deliberate creator of your life experience mean that you will lose all the people you love? That you will ‘evolve’ past the people in your life? That other people won’t be able to keep up with you and they will get left behind? That relationships you have had all your life will transform significantly or end completely as you no longer have much in common or you realize certain people are not the type of people you want in your ‘new life?<\/p>\n I can’t give a definitive answer to that because it really depends on you and the type of people in your life. There is always that possibility, but don’t freak out about it. Just take these situations as they come, if they come at all, which they may not.<\/p>\n But it is something that may happen…can’t lie.<\/p>\n There is a good chance as you shift your energy, you may fall ‘out of touch’ with certain people vibrationally, at least temporarily.<\/p>\n This doesn’t always mean some big dramatic fall out, but often a gradual losing touch, or just not seeing each other as frequently\u2014you’ll both seem to get ‘busier,’ plans to get together always seem to have some sort of kink and don’t work out,etc…<\/p>\n There is a chance that as you make your energy a priority, set some boundaries and what not, others may no longer get what they are used to getting from you, and that can stir shit up.<\/p>\n People don’t like when that happens, and there may be some conflict and\/ or accusations of selfishness\u2014I have always found that particularly amusing since they are mad that you doing what you want means they aren’t getting what they want.<\/p>\n As your vibration raises, you will attract other people who match it, who may also have a keener interest in personal growth or share your outlook on life, your particular hobbies and what not, and you will gravitate more towards them.<\/p>\n This doesn’t mean that anyone not on a similar path or with a different belief system will automatically fall out of your reality. I maintain relationships with all sorts of people who have no interest in this sort of thing, and it is just fine. Do some of these people think I am a bit weird? Most likely, but not my problem.<\/p>\n It isn’t like the law of attraction, and other matters of personal development, are the only things you’ll want to talk about every waking moment; you’re probably not going to devote every moment of free time to your personal growth, edging out every other interest and topic of conversation.<\/p>\n Again, a variety of issues with other people in your life, from them not understanding what you are trying to manifest for yourself to losing touch as you morph into someone who is very different from the person you were when the relationships started, are likely to pop up, but not always.<\/p>\n Don’t let this fear hold you back; don’t be afraid to be who you really are, or attempt to keep playing small, in order to ‘fit in,’ avoid upsetting people, make them not feel badly about their own choices, or to keep being able to ‘relate’ to them.<\/p>\n So, that’s that…hope you enjoyed it.<\/p>\n What did you think of the\u00a0post? Any of these issues something you are grappling with? Anything resonate in\u00a0particular? Any advice or thoughts you would add? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\nWe Are Really Powerful and That Can Scare the Crap Out of Us<\/h4>\n
The True Nature of Your Power<\/h4>\n
Will I Attract All The Things About Which I Feel Fearful?<\/h4>\n
Fear of Losing People<\/h4>\n
Your Turn<\/h4>\n