So, today I am happy to answer some law of attraction questions dealing with jealousy and scarcity…two energies that can\u00a0put a kink in our manifesting.<\/p>\n
I have the question for you to discuss, and hopefully, you can write or podcast about it someday. I am working on my energy right now and integrating the whole concept in my life. I am experiencing many good kinds of stuff happened in my life, as I also experience synchronicity quite often, so I think it is working for me like I’m on the right track. The thing that bothers me it’s how I get easily get jealous and envy every time I have the situation that I see somebody else achieve something that I really want but not yet get it. I get green with envy, and I hate myself for having those kinds of insecure feelings. I understand that it is a scarcity mentality that I still have, and I know that I should have just happy for them, but I’m still struggling with it. Have you ever have a similar experience, and how you deal with it?<\/em><\/p>\n Our tendency to compare ourselves to other people is as old as the hills. But in the day of Facebook and Instagram, we can do it at a much more rapid pace, easily assessing the lives of a dozen people in mere minutes. And this online documentation also gives us a lot more information about the lives of others that we can then use to compare ourselves and feel badly about.<\/p>\n And those of you working to deliberately create your life experience can become especially fixated on what you don’t yet have, and develop an even keener interest in what others do, wondering how they got it, perhaps thinking it is even unfair since they don’t even know about any of this law of attraction stuff and aren’t doing the ‘work’ you are.<\/p>\n But it’s really important to keep something in mind:<\/p>\n First, you have no idea<\/em> what other people’s manifestations mean to them. Someone may appear to have something you want, but it represents something completely different to her that may not be necessarily ‘positive.’<\/p>\n Let’s take a relationship for an example:<\/p>\n Just because someone managed to snag a boyfriend or a husband does in no way mean she must have been able to achieve some great vibration that made her a match to a relationship, that she was able to do something with ease that you seem to be struggling with so much.<\/p>\n Relationships, like any other thing that comes into our reality, can be mirroring back countless things to us that are very personal and often can not be deciphered by someone on the outside<\/em>.<\/p>\n Let’s take someone who has a belief that you always have to compromise, and you can never get what you want in its full form, because that’s just how life is.<\/p>\n She may have that belief mirrored back to her in the form of relationships with people whom she just likes ‘okay’ ,but always have one glaring thing wrong with them that really bothers her, but she thinks she has to accept,because that’s the best you can ask for.<\/p>\n Not exactly a great love story is it?<\/p>\n You may see someone who has a lot of money, but this money is not coming to them from a place of ease and joy, doing something they love, knowing the Universe always has their back.<\/p>\n They might be operating from a belief that you have to work really, really hard for money, and as such, all their money only comes to them after working really, really hard. They may have landed a job that seems all fancy and prestigious, but it is going to require them to work 80 hours a week, busting their ass for picky clients, and sacrificing their personal life.<\/p>\n That doesn’t seem to be a very envious position, nor do they seem to have a more manifesting-friendly belief system regarding the acquisition of money. Sure they have a lot of money but at what cost? Who cares if you aren’t enjoying your life?<\/p>\n This little nugget of wisdom is one that is certainly not new but one that we really, really have a hard time remembering, and I am here to give you a nice reminder to help it sink in a bit more deeply. This is a reminder we need often<\/em>.<\/p>\n We only see snippets of people’s lives, and usually the highlight reel.<\/p>\n While there are certainly some who enjoy bemoaning the issues in their life to anyone who will listen, most of us are going to keep that stuff under wraps.<\/p>\n On social media, you’ll only see the cute family moments and vacation pics. No one is going to be posting about ducking calls from creditors all day, her suspicions her husband is cheating , her marriage is a big fat sham or that she sometimes deeply questions her choice to have children.<\/p>\n Sure, the person with the boyfriend may not struggle with loneliness like you do; the person who has a well-paying job may not be worrying about making rent next month like you, who just lost your job.<\/p>\n But unless these people are truly enlightened souls, which chances are, they’re not<\/em>, I would bet my life that there is at least one thing they don’t like in their lives, and that is where they are putting all their attention.<\/p>\n They probably aren’t sitting around basking in gratitude for these things in their life that you feel so miserable without. Like anyone else, they probably take all the good stuff for granted, and are focusing on what they don’t like.<\/p>\n So, does this mean you should assume everyone is secretly miserable, so you can feel less badly about your own unhappiness? No, that’s not the approach I would recommend.<\/p>\n I am just simply suggesting that you don’t focus so much on other people, assuming they are better off than you somehow simply because they already have something you have decided you want too. Just focus on yourself.<\/p>\n Everyone has their shit.<\/em><\/p>\n I got the sense the person who asked the question felt badly about her jealousy, that it was bad for her vibration. And we have a tendency to freak out anytime we feel like we are acting in a way that isn’t ‘manifesting-friendly,’ anytime we are not being all ‘positive.’<\/p>\n We all feel jealousy now and again, it’s totally normal. So don’t beat yourself us too much when you experience it.<\/p>\n We’re only human after all. Not having the things we want makes us feel really crappy sometimes, and seeing someone who has them just serves to remind us we still don’t.<\/p>\n There is still a part of us, sometimes a big part, that still isn’t sure we can have what we want, and seeing someone else get to have it, stings, especially if we may believe they are not ‘deserving’ of it for one reason or another.<\/p>\n We are all deserving of whatever we want though, even the douchiest among us, because our sheer existence on this planet is what determines that, not what we do or what type of person we are. But I digress.<\/p>\n Feeling happy for other people can also seem like a tall order, again, especially if we want these same things and we don’t have them.<\/p>\n And this isn’t so much that we are evil assholes who want everyone else to be miserable. Like I said before, seeing others get good things when we seem to be struggling to get these same things, brings up a lot of stuff, and can often shine a brighter light on what we are lacking.<\/p>\n So you aren’t a bad person if you don’t feel genuine happiness for your friend who just had a baby when you and your spouse are currently bankrupting yourselves on fertility treatments.<\/p>\n You’re not a bad person if the news of your friend’s engagement to her ‘soul mate’ doesn’t have you jumping for joy because it just deepens the pain of your recent divorce.<\/p>\n Now, if you find yourself having extreme emotional reactions to the good fortune of others, that is something you want to work on. But for the run- of- the -mill twinges and lamenting, I wouldn’t stress about it too much.<\/p>\n There are other aspects of vibration management that take priority, such as strengthening beliefs that serve you, taking your focus off ‘what is’ and fostering trust you are being supported by the good old U.<\/p>\n These issues also tend to be a thorn in our side because we may fear there is not enough to go around, and for every dollar earned, or man taken off the market, there is just that much less available for the rest of us, which brings me to my next point…<\/p>\n Yes, the idea there is not enough for everyone is an illusion, one of the most persistent illusions within the grand illusion in which we are living.<\/p>\n As a whole, us humans have a whole host of beliefs that make us think there isn’t enough, and it gets mirrored back to us in countless ways.<\/p>\n We have been brought up to always be in competition with another, and that naturally leads to a mentality of there not being enough, and us having to claim our stake before someone else does.<\/p>\n We tend to get very attached to specific manifestations, and we can only see limited options for how what we want can come to us, and that will naturally lead to us thinking there are only limited options and opportunities, and each time things don’t go our way, the chances of getting what we want shrink permanently.<\/p>\n This idea of scarcity leads us to think very competitively rather than creatively. The latter is an energy of knowing we can get what we want, knowing our succeeding in allowing in a certain manifestation has absolutely nothing to do with whatever anyone else is doing or whatever anyone else is wanting.<\/p>\n There is enough money for everyone; there are enough clients for everyone; there is enough everything for everyone, no matter how much it may seem otherwise in the ‘illusion.’<\/p>\n You don’t have to worry about claiming your piece of the pie…you get to make your own pie.<\/p>\n What did you think of the post? Do you struggle with scarcity mindset or jealousy? Anything you would add here? Looking forward to your comments as always.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So, today I am happy to answer some law of attraction questions dealing with jealousy and scarcity…two energies that can\u00a0put a kink in our manifesting. I have the question for you to discuss, and hopefully, you can write or podcast about it someday. 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You Have No Idea How Other People Feel About Their Life<\/h4>\n
Don’t Beat Yourself Up About Feeling Jealous and Not Being ‘Happy’ For Others<\/h4>\n
Scarcity is An Illusion<\/h4>\n
Your Turn…<\/h4>\n